ADVICE TO ALL EMPLOYEES :

1. Build a home earlier. Be it rural home or urban home. Building a house at 50 is not an achievement. Don't get used to government houses. This comfort is so dangerous. Let all your family have good time in your house.

 

2. Go home. Don't stick at work all the year.  You are not the pillar of your department.  If you drop dead today, you will be replaced immediately and operations will continue.  Make your family a priority.

3. Don't chase promotions.  Master your skills and be excellent at what you do. If they want to promote you, that's fine if they don't,  stay positive to your personal.

development.

4. Avoid office or work gossip. Avoid things that tarnish your name or reputation. Don't join the bandwagon that backbites  your bosses and colleagues. Stay away from negative gatherings that have only people as their agenda.

5. Don't ever compete with your bosses.  You will burn your fingers.  Don't compete with your colleagues, you will fry your brain.

6. Ensure you have a side business.  Your salary will not sustain your needs in the long run.

7. Save some money. Let it be deducted automatically from your payslip. 

8. Borrow a loan to invest in a business or to change a situation not to buy luxury. Buy luxury from your profit.

9. Keep your life,marriage and family private. Let them stay away from your work. This is very important.  

10. Be loyal to yourself  and believe in your work. Hanging around your boss will alienate you from your colleagues and  your boss may finally dump you when he leaves. 

11. Retire early.  The best way to plan for your exit was when you received the employment letter. The other best time is today.  By 40 to 50 be out. 

12. Join work welfare and be an active member always. It will help you a lot when  any eventuality occurs.

13.Take leave days utilize them by developing yr future home or projects..usually what you do during yr leave days is a reflection of how you'll live after retirement..If it means you spend it all holding a remote control watching series on Zee world, expect nothing different after retirement.

14. Start a project whilst still serving or working. Let your project run whilst at work and if it doesn't do well, start another one till it's running viably. When your project is viably running then retire to manage your business. Most people or pensioners fail in life because they retire to start a project instead of retiring to run a project. 

15. Pension money is not for starting a project or buy a stand or build a house but it's money for your upkeep or to maintain yourself in good health. Pension money is not for paying school fees or marrying a young wife but to look after yourself.

16. Always remember, when you retire never be a case study for living a miserable life after retirement but be a role model for colleagues to think of retiring too. 

17. Don't retire just because you are finished or you are now a burden to the company and just wait for your day to die. Retire young or whilst energetic to enjoy waking up for a cup of coffee, enjoy the sun, receive money from your business, visit nice place that you missed and spend good time with family. Those who retire late, spend about 95% of their time at work than with their family and that's why they see it difficult to spend time with their family when they retire but end looking for another job till they die. If they don't get another job, they die early.

18. Retire at your house than at government accommodation so that when you retire you can easily fit into the society that raised you. It's not easy to adjust to live in a location after spending more years at company house or at government house.

19. Never let your employment benefits make you forget about your retirement. Employment benefits are just meant to make you relax, get finished whilst time is moving. Remember when you retire no one will call you boss if you don't have a viable business.

20. Don't hate to retire because one day you will retire either voluntarily or involuntarily. 

Hope this will help you look at life positively

John Liney

JDPC ISSELE-UKU on the move

 

One of our deliverables in the area of our preferential option for the poor and vulnerable is our livelihood support for low income women in rural communities. One of the strategies is the microcredit scheme known as PROMIC which carry out in partnership with the Foundation Open Hands, SWISSHAND. In this program, the woman are provided with soft loans which they are expected to pay back within a space of 6 months.

Here, our Program Officer, Mrs. Adaobi Ibeh Mene is here interacting with the women in one of the disbursement meetings held yesterday.

Swisshand

Church and Society Department

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Patience visited

 Patience visited me
And it reminded me 
That good things take time to come to fruition
And grow slowly with stability 
Peace visited me 
And it reminded me 
That I may remain calm through the storms of life 
Regardless of the chaos surrounding me 
Hope visited me 
And it reminded me 
That better times lay ahead 
And it would always be there to guide and uplift me
Humility visited me 
And it reminded me 
That I may achieve it 
Not by trying to shrink myself and make myself less
But by focusing on serving the world and uplifting those around me
Kindness visited me
And it reminded me 
To be more gentle, forgiving and compassionate toward myself 
And those surrounding me
Confidence visited me
And it reminded me
To not conceal or suppress my gifts and talents 
In order to make others feel more comfortable 
But to embrace what makes me me 
Focus visited me
And it reminded me
That other people’s insecurities and judgements about me
Are not my problem 
And I should redirect my attention 
From others back to me 
Freedom visited me 
And it reminded me 
That no one has control over my mindset, thoughts and wellbeing 
But me
And love visited me 
And it reminded me 
That I need not search for it in others
As it lies within me.
Words by Tahlia Hunter

Harvest of the Heart: Embracing Life's Bittersweet Symphony"

1. **Life's Inevitable Challenges:** The opening statement acknowledges the inevitability of facing challenges in life. It suggests that no one can escape the hardships and difficulties that life may bring.

2. **The Role of Love and Connection:** The quote emphasizes the importance of love and connection in facing life's challenges. It suggests that living in solitude won't shield you from difficulties, and instead, it might bring its own form of hardship through the yearning for connection.

3. **The Purpose of Existence:** According to the quote, the reason for being on Earth is to love, to feel, and to take risks with one's heart. This suggests a deeper purpose for human existence beyond merely existing.

4. **Facing Vulnerability:** The quote encourages embracing vulnerability, even in the face of potential heartbreak, betrayal, or loss. It suggests that being open to love and connection is part of the human experience, despite the risks involved.

5. **Appreciating Life's Sweetness:** The concluding imagery of sitting by an apple tree and listening to the apples falling around you conveys a sense of appreciating life's sweetness even in the midst of challenges. It encourages a mindful and appreciative attitude, savoring the experiences and moments, regardless of their transient nature.

Step by step to conquer

 know there’s days when you wake up and the whole world seems to be crashing down on your shoulders.

Close your eyes and take a deep breath.

You don’t have to have it all figured out or even know where the day will take you.

There’s always going to be those days that you can’t seem to get anything right and everything just piles up.

You don’t have to conquer it all at once.

Stop focusing on the whole weight of your world and take it one step at a time..

Baby steps, if you have to.

Every one of us is a mess sometimes, we all have moments where we just want to cry..

And if you need to, just let it out.

Tackle each thing, job and task one at a time and keep moving forward.

Some days, you’ll feel as though you can do anything and other days, you’ll put your keys in the refrigerator.

That’s just life- some good days, some bad days and the days that make you want to quit.

You’ll never be perfect, but the great thing is..you don’t have to be.

Don’t put unrealistic expectations on yourself and then let the worry of how you’ll get it all done stress you out.

Most importantly, stop being in a hurry all the time to do all the things and get everywhere super fast..

You’ll miss some of life’s greatest little moments if you’re zooming through trying to conquer life without stopping.

Never get too busy doing and forget to live along the way.

Do the things, get the jobs done, be efficient..

But more than that, notice the small things- the smell of a fresh morning dew, the beauty of the world around us, the laughter of small children playing.

That’s the stuff of memories that you’ll miss if you’re in a tizzy worrying about all the tasks and things to do.

Don’t neglect them- they’re important- but don’t neglect yourself, either.

Take the time to fill your heart and soul with the joy that replenish you with the good stuff.

So, yes, you’re going to be a mess some days, and sometimes, you’ll be figuring it out as you go..

Just keep moving forward and do what you can, how you can, when you can.

Most of all, don’t stop living and enjoying your life.

After all, what good is it to conquer the world if you don’t take the time to enjoy it along the way?

Each day is a new opportunity to start a new chapter.

Keep going..you’ll get where you need to be when you need to be there.

It just takes a little time, effort and patience sometimes.

You got this.

|ravenwolf

Love is the main purpose of life

Underneath all that you do, the main purpose of your life is to love: to both give love and receive it, by carrying and transmitting an energy of love and healing into every single interaction you have. For example, a cleaner is not just a cleaner; they are transforming the energy of a space. A builder is not just a builder; they are creating a foundation for dreams. And a teacher is not just a teacher; they are shaping the minds of the future.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

It is not naive to envision a better future,

It is not naive to envision a better future,
For time and time again throughout history,
Light has triumphed over darkness.
Good has succeeded over evil,
And love has conquered fear.
And the chronicles of history
Do not simply contain tales of tragedy 
But also ones of perseverance, bravery, kindness and love.
Words by Tahlia Hunter

Peace to my soul

 Give me the courage to face the challenges of my day, no matter how large or small.
May I never lose sight of the sunlight on the other side of the storms..
For that will always give me the strength, courage and perseverance to see things through.
Give me the passion to fill my spirit and move me to greater heights and more awareness.
May the things I pursue bring joy to my heart and peace to my soul, so that I will always have that fire burning inside me.
Give me the serenity to understand that my journey is as it is meant to be and nothing happens by chance.
People and things come into my life for a reason, for it’s up to me to figure out why..
To step back and understand the reasons, learn the lessons and appreciate the growth...
even though sometimes, things don’t go as I want them to.
But I’ll always what I need and where I’m meant to be.
This journey is mine and mine alone, though I’m blessed to have so many wonderful people walking this path beside me..
My people that love me just as I am and accept me for all my quirks, flaws and uniqueness.
That’s the love I tuck into my heart to carry me through the hard times- when I don’t think I can keep going but feel the love and find a way.
Maybe I’ll take some wrong turns, but they’re not really wrong..they’re just places I needed to go and people I had to meet to teach me who I was and what I’m capable of.
I know there will always be long nights and tears to cry, that’s just part of finding myself.
Every person, every broken heart, every situation has something to show me if I’m willing to open my eyes.
But every day is a blessing that I’m thankful to have and an opportunity to find the beauty in the moments, help someone in need, be kind to another soul.
There will never an obstacle I can’t overcome or a problem I can’t solve.
Most of all, what I know is this:
There’s always hope to inspire me, love to lift me up and strength to carry me through.
Every end is just a new beginning and with passion in my spirit and eyes lifted, I’ll find my way.
Maybe it’s not perfect, easy or ideal, but it’s my journey..
And taking one step after another, I can realize my dreams and follow the stars.
I can do anything, be anyone and become anything.
It all starts now, with me, and a little sprinkle of hope, dash of courage and a touch of belief.
That’s how I make today great.
|ravenwolf
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We should celebrate women everyday!

 A man and his wife quarrelled. After the fight, the wife went into the bedroom. A few minutes later, the husband also trooped into the bedroom only to find the wife busy packing her suitcase! He asked "You are packing! Where are you going?"
She answered "To my mother"....The man paused for a while and also got his big brown pure leather suitcase & started packing his clothes.
The angry wife stared at him and said "You are packing! Where are you going?" He replied "Oh yeah! I"m going to my mother!"
The wife replied, "To your mother???!! And what about the 6 children?! Who is going to look after them?"
The man replied, "You are going to your mother! I'm going to my mother. The 6 children should also go to their mother!!*
Equation balanced. 😄 
Both of them quickly sat down and settled their marital issues. 
You are smiling..... 😊 😊 
You also put a smile on someone face by sharing this on your wall.,.
Thanks
😴 We should celebrate women everyday! Thanks to women who make the world rock !

15 Best Quotes that Can Change Your Life

1. “Some people die at 25 and are not buried until 75.” – Benjamin Franklin

2. “If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it.” – John D. Rockefeller Sr.

3. “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” – Ernest Hemingway

4. “Better to jump and make a mistake than sit there too frightened to make a move.” – Richard Templar

5. “If you are comfortable dancing in public without alcohol or drugs, you are at peace with who you are.” – Ankur Warikoo

6. “People do not decide their futures; they decide their habits, and their habits decide their futures.” – F.M. Alexander

7. “Never put too much trust in friends; learn how to use enemies.” – Robert Greene

8. “Only staying active will make you want to live a hundred years.” – Japanese Proverb

9.“You are what you eat and read.” – Maya Corrigan

10.  “Fall in love with taking care of yourself. Fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself but with patience, with compassion and respect to your journey.” – S. Mcnutt

11. “The first step toward getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” – J.P. Morgan

12. “The single most powerful asset we all have is our mind. If it is trained well, it can create enormous wealth.” – Robert T. Kiyosaki

13. “Learn to choose your mental health over old attachments.” – Hana Shebar

14. “If it is not a clear yes, then it is a clear no.” – Greg McKeown

15. “Procrastination will delay your dreams.” – Vex King

Good Samaritan

 

YOU ARE JUST BEING USED FOR SEX:

Most humans beings vibrate at the the root chakra’s frequency consciousness of lust and survival 

This is why majority of people are “Lust babies” created from two people who were simply lusting after each other and confusing it as Love 

If you took sex completely out of your relationship/connection it would collapse within one month

You are simply a distraction they use to avoid doing the inner work they must do to vibrate higher 

Whenever you withdraw Sex you will get to see how they really feel about you because you’ll see how they really feel about themselves 

Sex is the only thing keeping them calm and treating you nice because it releases the stress and traumas into you temporarily 

They don’t know how to transmute their sexual energy up the spine into higher frequencies so it just builds in the root chakra 

When too much energy builds in the root chakra, it turns into rage/aggression and now it is directed at you until you let them release it into you via Sex 

And because you’ve allowed them to use your body as a trauma/aggression dumping ground , they treat you better temporarily until the aggression builds again 

Most humans identify this type of connection as “Love” when in actuality it’s simply “Lust” 

If you were to remove your body as a “Lust Relieving Container” you would quickly see that illusion of “Love” disappear 

The reality is most people have never experienced a true connection higher than lust/attraction so they don’t know how to truly connect with another beyond the physical 

For them Sex is Love and it has been the only way they know how to experience the temporary illusion of it and to take away sex is to make them feel unloved 

Those who have abstained and practiced sexual alchemy are the only beings truly capable of loving you beyond the physical dimensions 

They have awakened and accessed higher expressions of self-love by allowing their sexual energy to fully fill up all of their chakras 

Most people’s sexual energy has never risen past the root chakra of lust because as soon as a little bit of energy builds , they release via sex or porn 

They haven’t been taught the true power of sexual energy and the connection it has to spiritual ascension 

You came in the matrix simulation through an orgasm portal, you were brought from the spiritual realm to the physical realm and the only way back to the spiritual realm is via opening these portals within yourself while maintaining a higher frequency 

Then you’ll be able to have a true spiritual connection with your lover with or without sex yet when you do have Sex it’ll be crown chakra sex that awakens your DNA with Divine Cosmic Orgasms instead of root chakra sex which keeps you trapped in the matrix

YOU DESERVE TO HAVE A TRUE SPIRITUAL CONNECTION!!!

YOU DESERVE TO MASTER YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY!!!

YOU DESERVE TO BE UTILIZED FOR MORE THAN JUST SEX!!!

WHEN DATING A WOMAN WHO IS AN ASSET, YOU GET TEXTS SUCH AS THESE

WHEN DATING A WOMAN WHO IS AN ASSET, YOU GET TEXTS SUCH AS THESE👇

1. Morning Dear, hope you had a wonderful night. How are you today? Wake up and get ready for work. Don't forget to send your application for the job I told you about yesterday.

2. Yes Darling, I miss you so much, I hope you are enjoying your day, I am heading out for lunch. Talk later. Take care of yourself. Love you !

3.Yes dear I am at the shop doing grocery for the house, next time I am coming with you.

4. Don't put yourself under pressure my love, I know you will achieve your goal. You have my full support.

5. Don't forget to say your prayers by 9am, 12noon and 3pm. Remember our strength is in God. Call me when you are ready for the prayers so we pray together online.

.

6. Hello dear, are you back from work. How was your day. .. Hope it was not stressful?

.

7. Good evening dear, i just wanted to call to find out how your weekend is going.

.

WHEN DATING A WOMAN WHO IS A LIABILITY/ SLAY QUEEN.

1. Morning babe, send me some airtime,

please bae.

2. Hello sweet, I am coming over for some

pizza over lunch? And someone is selling nice perfumes can I take one please. Love you xoxoxo much.

3. Hey handsome, buy me data please. Also wanted to tell you my neighbor is selling skinny jeans, nice shoes from USA and Brazilian hair. You will let me know when you are ready to get me these. Loving you lots.

4. My friends are doing their birthdays this weekend at Garden Court on Friday, Natasha at Mukuba Mall on Saturday and Yvonne on Sunday at the famous East Park Mall. We must attend all. Cancel all your appointments.

5. Baby, I don't feel like talking. Can we chat please....

A reasonable man will marry a lady who is an asset to him and not a liability. 

Men are not stupid.

NOTE:

So, if you are wondering why men are dumping you, please check yourself. You might be the reasons for your own misfortune.

🙏👏

Class dismissed 🥂

DO NOT DO THIS DURING SEX...✍🏾

1. Looking at time when you are having sex gives the other an impression that you are wasting their time!

2. Acting annoyed when the other partner takes long to get an orgasm. Instead help them to reach there if you already have.

3. Having an orgasm first, then not bothering if your partner should have an orgasm or not. That is pure selfishness do something to make them reach there too!

4. Sneezing or coughing on partners face. If you must, look aside no need to splash someone with your saliva!

5. Making reference to a technique an ex used to do great to you, that is unhealthy comparison and will ruin that moment. IF you feel someone is not giving you well as you wish, address them not making references.

6. Faking that you are enjoying sex, making all dramatic movements, dramatic moans etc. until someone can just tell you are faking.

7. Being too silent until someone feels like he is a mortician. At least make some sound when it feels good.

8. Being a passive participant and expecting your partner to do everything to you. Makes someone feel like a doctor operating a half dead patient!

9. Making disapproval faces when not satisfied. You better say it since your partner is not a psychic.

10. Not telling your partner you wish to try something new, then going on to try something so strange in bed. Nothing irritates someone than feeling like an experiment. Seek approval beforehand.

11. Calling out the wrong name when the pleasure is at the peak. That is a total deal breaker.

12. Not kissing. Kissing is so intimate to be ignored.

13. Pushing someone’s head towards your sexual organs in order to request for oral sex. Oral sex is a sensitive matter and if someone is not feeling like it, do not force them.

14. Rushing through foreplay, this is totally wrong. Heat up the moment to enjoy more.

15. Farting during sex and appearing like all is normal and usual. It is not!

16. Feeling offended when your partner communicates during sex. Communication will help both of you perfect it, so take it positively whatever feedback you get during sex

HOW TO ASK FOR SEX FROM YOUR SPOUSE...✍️

1. Touch him/her on the stimulating areas to get him/her in the mood. Nipples, neck, back

2. Kiss him/her. Kisses almost always make us think of making love

3. Take showers or baths together. Invite your spouse to the shower, make it a habit. Get playful there, sex will happen

4. Send your spouse naughty messages during the day saying what you will do to him/her. By the time you get home, you both will be in the mood

5. Massage your spouse's body, touch and care arouses your spouse

6. Dress for sex. There are lingerie that you wear that tell your spouse "I want sex. I am feeling sexy"

7. Sleep naked together. The greater and easier the access, the more the sex

8. Treat your spouse well. We get horny when we are near the spouse who treats us well

9. Touch your spouse between the legs. Don't beat around the bush. Lady, take your fingers inside his boxer and stroke his gun to hardness; man, take your fingers inside her panty and rub till she swells. Men love a wife who is sexually aggressive; women love a husband that is hungry for her and unpredictable

10. Whisper naughty things into your spouse's ear. There is something sexy about hearing and feeling your spouse breathing in a horny way

11. Invite your spouse for a sensual, intimate dance. Salsa, slow dance, bump and grind. There is no way you two will be close to each other, body to body and not want to make love. This is why married people need to go out on dates more, go out and find intimacy. Find intimacy in dancing in the house too

12. Strip, tease and seduce your spouse. Whine, kata kiuno, slowly reveal your body

13. Be playful. Lady, take your husband's hands and place them on your butt, blindfold him with your bra. Man, grab her butt as she works, unhook her bra when she least expects it

14. Pose in a seductive way. Lay in bed in a sexual way, lady deliberately bend infront of him in a manner to suggest an invite for doggy style

15. Master a seductive look. Man, your wife gets turned on when you give her a piercing look that says "I want you now. She gets wet when you undress her with your eyes". Lady, pull your husband to you with "Come inside me" eyes

16. Ask for sex unapologetically. Tell your spouse without wasting time, "Sex me"... "I am horny". Stop suffering alone in sexual fire. Sometimes all you have to do is to open your mouth and say, "Sweetheart, let's make love NOW!"

WOMEN'S WORLD

 WOMEN'S WORLD

• When a man has a good car it attracts more ladies to him. When a lady has a good car it repels guys away from her. This is the world we live in.

• A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend. The girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education. This is the world we live in.

• A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend. A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady. This is the world we live in.

• The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him. The older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her. This is the world we live in.

• A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady. A 36 year old lady is tagged too old to get married. This is the world we live in.

• A man looses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he did the right thing, he's being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living.

• A woman looses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, "aaah! so early? Are u sure she wasn't sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband. This is the world we live in.

• A married man is caught in bed with another woman, his wife is asked to forgive him and move on. A married woman is caught in bed with another man, the husband asks her to leave his house. This is the world we live in.

• If a man rises to be the CEO of the company, he got there by hard work and determination. If a woman rises to be the CEO of the company, even if the staff are all women, she is suspected to get there by sleeping with the board members. This is the world we live in.

. Some people will read this post and will neither like nor comment on it and won't even add me for more just because am not yet a CELEBRITY forgetting that they can make me one..

This is the world and the group we live in.

Welcome October!

 

🖊 All those things that hurt you in the past...thoughts you have of what happened, the ones that haunt you like a ghost;  pick just one of those today, but think of a few positive things that came from that event in your life instead of all the negative. Now re-write your story; but this time, make it  magical! ~Amy~ 

Reflection of Love

 Remember that the love that people have for your children, your partner, your friends and your family doesn't take away from you, it is a reflection of the love they have for you.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

"Always assume that what people are saying to you is coming from a place of love,

 "Always assume that what people are saying to you is coming from a place of love,

even when they themselves do not realise it,

for by seeing people as what they could be,

you empower them to become all that they are."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

It’s the illusion of perfection that we fall in love with

 When we are young, it’s the illusion of perfection that we fall in love with. As we age, it’s the humanness that we fall in love with- the poignant stories of overcoming, the depthful vulnerability of aging, the struggles that grew us in karmic stature, the way a soul shaped itself to accommodate its circumstances. With less energy to hold up our armor, we are revealed and, in the revealing, we call out to each other’s hearts. Where before wounds turned us off, they are now revealed as proof that God exists. Where we once saw imperfect scars, we now see evidence of a life fully lived. ~Jeff Brown

When I am feeling low

 “when I am feeling

low

all I have to do is

watch my cats

and my

courage

returns”

There is an island that exists

 There is an island that exists,

Filled with all the gifts we didn't recognize,

All the beauty we didn't see,

All the kindness we didn't feel,

All the love we didn't embrace,

All the wonders we didn't behold,

All the moments we didn't cherish,

All the joys we didn't savour,

And all the blessings we didn't acknowledge.

Fortunate are those who travel there;

For upon one's arrival, it dissolves

and ceases to exist,

For one realizes

that they were there all along.

The path there

Is through gratitude.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Value of private space

 The older I get the more I realize the value of my private space, maintaining a qualitative circle and letting only certain people that deserves to be in there, people that radiate positivity and optimism.

I rather have a small circle of friends that are supportive and well rounded where I can be genuine and honest than a bigger circle that always criticize you and slowly pulling your growth.

Privacy is power. In this world full of people that shows and flex everything I prefer reaching my goals and improving myself into the extent that I can be the best version of myself silently.

I am a decisive element

 I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming. ~Haim G. Ginott

You cannot knock out a woman off a pedestral she built herself

 All the guys come around thinking that they have to put me on a pedestal..

Wine and dine me, impress me with fancy dinners and show me the grandest of times.

They don’t get it at all.

They can’t put me on a pedestal and they can’t buy me the world…

I don’t need it and I don’t want it.

I’ve already done all that myself.

I’ve seen all the games and done the fancy adventure with all the gusto, glitz and glamor one could ever want..

But that’s not what fills my soul and sparks my heart.

Love isn’t about what you can buy me, show me or impress me with..

Those things have never mattered to me.

Show me your heart.

Impress me with your depth.

Buy me a one way ticket to forever.

You can’t put me on a pedestal because I built my own..

So if you’re going to say that I’m a stuck up snob and that I’m high maintenance…

Guess again.

Yes, I have standards.

Yes, I don’t settle for less than I deserve.

And I’ll damned sure never tolerate disrespect, dishonesty or disingenuous behavior.

So you wanna win my heart?

Stop worrying about all the things that all the others made you think were important..

And just be real, passionate and deep.

Talk to me, not at me.

Stop trying to dazzle me or buy my affection and just show me who you really are.

Cry, laugh and walk with me.

Show me the depths of your soul and the fire in your heart.

Cause I promise you one thing:

I’ve worked too hard to get where I am and built this pedestal just how I want it..

And I’m not coming down for just anyone.

Earn it.

You’ll be glad you did.

Some days I'm getting better

And some days I'm just not

Every day's a colander

Straining everything I've got

The memories just keep coming

And some days I don't care

But some days I feel every one

Like ghosts no longer there

I could write each one down

Make poems that would last

But there's no longer any point

Why put myself through that?

I can feel the tears inside my soul

But I never let them fall

It doesn't matter anymore

And it never did, at all

So perhaps I'm getting better

Maybe I'm even healed

Or am I the champ of hide and seek

From everything I feel?

"When I say goodbye,

 "When I say goodbye,

it is never for forever,

it simply means that I farewell you with love

until in another time and space

I meet you once again.

For those we love

We can never truly lose

Only temporarily depart from,

And in the meantime,

you may hold me in your heart

Knowing that in every thought loving thought you think of me

and every loving action you take in memory of me

you remain fully connected to me,

for true love transcends all space and time."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Feeling completely alone

 "If you ever find yourself feeling completely alone in the world and afraid, my child, look up at the stars. Know that throughout history, many human beings once gazed up at the same night sky, stood where you now stand, thought what you now think, and felt what you now feel, wrestling with the same fears, doubts, and insecurities, but just as they made it through and kept on going, so too will you. Let the many stars in the night sky serve as a reminder of the millions of souls that found their way through the darkness and now may illuminate the path forward for you."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

How did you know that you were on the right path?"

 "How did you know that you were on the right path?"

"When my dreams were greater than my doubts,

My joys were greater than my sorrows,

My aspirations were greater than my fears,

My determination was greater than my obstacles,

My hope was greater than my despair,

My trust was greater than my doubt,

My purpose was greater than my uncertainty,

And my faith was greater than my challenges."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

How can we remain optimistic when circumstances are unfavourable to us?

 

It can be challenging to remain positive when we face adversities in life. Still, once we learn to change our perspective, we are not only able to overcome such situations easily but also develop a positive attitude towards life.

When life does not work in our favour, our mind becomes filled with negativity. We start thinking about the worst outcomes, losses and failures. The more negatively we think, the more incompetent we feel and the less likely we are to work on making things favourable.

To stay positive, look at what's working in your favour. This will give you courage. Look at the slightest chance, even the smallest possibility that you see. This will provide you with hope. With courage and hope, believe that you will get through this, and you will find it will all end with positive outcomes.

Love that makes you a softer person

 I hope you find the kind of love that makes you a softer person. The kind of love that makes you want to be a better man or woman, the kind of love that believes in you and supports you, that stands by your side. I hope you find someone who quickly becomes your favourite thing someone who makes the fall less fearful, someone you can't help but choose every single day. Hope you find someone who shows you just how deeply you can feel, just how deeply you can love. I hope you find something real, because nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who loves you back. Nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who builds you a home in their heart.

Yes, I’m different

 Yes, I’m different …

I choose to love without having an agenda.

I choose to forgive when my ego cries out for revenge.

I choose to listen to my heart when it calls my name

I choose to trust even though others have let me down.

I choose to believe that everything happens for our good.

I choose to accept instead of judging others differences.

I choose to communicate instead of shutting down.

I choose to care instead of being comfortably numb.

I choose to laugh rather than take myself too seriously.

I choose to rise up under pressure instead of giving up.

I choose to be different.

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Own It ..

"Own the fact that you are different

Own that you are a deep feeler and thinker

Own that you're tuned into a different frequency

Own the fact that you sense things others don't

Own the fact that you want to talk about angels,

energy, miracles and spirituality

Own that you're done having meaningless conversations

Own that you're done holding yourself back

Own that you crave freedom to feel the now

It's ok if your family don't get you.

It's ok if your friends don't join you

It's ok if the world judges you

It's ok that you want to dance barefoot upon the earth

and endlessly gaze at the stars

It's ok that you cry over sunsets and chase moonbeams

It's wonderful in fact. It's beautiful

You have come a long way to be who you are

So own it. Own all of it. Love all of you

The world needs you to be exactly as you are

You hold the balance in this crazy world.

Mike Harrigan

LORD, TEACH US TO PRAY

 Wednesday of the Twenty-Seventh Week of Ordinary Time 1 (11 October 2023)

📖Jonah 4:1-11; Ps 86:3-4, 5-6, 9-10 (R.v.15); Luke 11:1-4

🎤LORD, TEACH US TO PRAY (Luke 11:1)

Prayer is the raising up of the mind and heart to God. We pray to adore God, praise and thank him, and for more blessings and graces from him. Prayer also disposes of us to accept the will of God.

In Luke 11:1, Jesus was found by his disciples praying, and they asked him to teach them how to pray. This does not mean that they were not used to praying before. As Jews, they have a system and times for prayer, but Jesus pattern appears different, and they want to learn.

Sometimes, we assume that we pray very well in our own way when we have not learnt to pray at all. Not praying well may push us to move against the will of God. Jonah, for instance, obviously did not understand the will of God for Nineveh, and that is why he was angry that God did not destroy them (cf. Jon 3:1-10).

Are you not going to join the disciples of Jesus in asking him to teach you how to pray?

By the way, I asked myself this important question as a priest, "Does my flock find me a man of prayer and want to pray as much as I do? As parents and leaders in different categories, you need to evaluate yourself. But that reminds us that those who are placed under us look upon us for an example. We must lead them to God.

Lord, teach us to pray well always so that we may overcome all temptations that try to push us into hopelessness, and may our prayers also win favour in your presence. Amen.

Have a grace-filled day ahead. Peace be with you.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY OLOMI

Happy birthday, to you my dearer, today is a special day because it’s the day you were born. I can’t wait to celebrate with you, Its time to party like it’s your birthday!

You bring so much joy into my life most especially when I think I am deserted. You are the only person that can handle my mischievous mood swing, I dont really know how you achieve this.  You’re one of the best thing to ever happen to me. Wishing you the best birthday yet! I’m overjoyed to celebrate your special day with you.

Taking this journey  of relationship with you has been a joyride. You’re so special. Every day should be your birthday. 

 

 

I cannot write my success story in 2023 without including you on my first five list. I guess I developed expanded abdomen because of your care on me when it comes to feeding. Meanwhile, this is not hyping but I will testify to your selfless nature, always ready to give out. May God bless you for me. Moreover, as I wish you well and also write the goods about you, I would also like to encourage you to increase your social life. I didn’t say that you don’t have it but it needs update! Hahahahaha. Thumb up dear. Keep celebrating.

For the readers,kindly drop your preferred network on comment section., only the first five will be taken