No one was born to sell Vegetables

No one was born to sell Vegetables at the Market no one was born to wake up every morning to go stand next to the traffic lights and sell newspapers , nobody wished to be a cashier at Shoprite or Spar and nobody wished to be a security guard . . We all have dreams and goals... do you think the guy who makes noise in the taxi park wanted to live that life? Do you think those women who stand with boards looking for females to change their hairstyles in Portharcourt wanted to do that? . The guys you see every morning on your way to school/work at the Taxi park selling snacks... They too never wished to do that. Even the women who voluntarily cooks for kids at schools because they got no better Jobs never wished for that. . But because they don't let Pride come in their way of putting food on the table. They do it with a passion, they appreciate the little they can do for their kids to smile at the end of the day. They don't wake up in the early hours of the morning to steal from anyone. . They understand that not all of us will be Qualified Doctors, Lawyers or Engineers. Men and ladies for as long as you don't do criminal activities to make money... May God bless your hustle.. AMEN

THE PREGNANT DEER

In the forest a pregnant deer went near a flowing river in search of a good place to give birth, it finds the area safe. Suddenly labor pain begin!

At the same moment the dark cloud fall and the lighting strike cause fire in the forest, when the dear turn left it saw a hunter creeping with an arrow pointed towards it, when it turns right the deer saw a hungry lion coming towards it, in front of the deer there where the flowing river was.

What will this deer that is in pain do?

Will she survive?

Will she give birth to the fawn (Young deers)?

Will the fawns survive?

Will the fire consume them?

Will she die from the hunter's arrow?

Or will the hungry lion tear her to pieces?

The fire, the hunter, the lion and the river all surrounded her,

What will she do?

The Deer has nothing to do so it focuses on giving birth to a new life.

This is what happens as the deer give birth to the fawn

_The lightning strike and put darkness in the eyes of the hunter.

_He releases the arrow and it miss the deer and hit the hungry lion dead.

_It starts to rain heavenly and the forest fire went off totally

And the deer give birth to a healthy fawn

In life, there are times we are confronted with so many difficulties that confuses our mind and give us negative thoughts and impossibilities, some of the thoughts are so powerful that it overcome and overwhelm us. Maybe we can learn from the Pregnant deer.

The only thing that was on the mind of the deer at that time was to give birth to a baby. The rest wasn't in her hands, so any action or reaction that would have changed her focus that moment would have resulted in death or disaster.

Ask Yourself, Where is your Focus?

Where's your Faith or Hope?

In the midst of the storm, keep focus on your Creator always, he will never ever forsake or let you down,

NEVER

Remember, your Creator never make mistake(s), neither does he sleeps.

A strong person always keep their focus, even with tears running down their eyes, they always say I am OK with a smile .

I want you to be strong and keep the faith, so share it on your time line that someone can read it too and be strong.

RELATIONSHIP ADVICE TO MARRIAGE PILLS LADIES.

Always Give Him Space.

If he doesn't call you for 2 weeks that shouldn't stop you from not calling him.

Manage to call him even if he doesn't.

Be Loyal.

Always be loyal to him, if he forgets your birthday - buy him a gift on his birthday.

Be Patient.

If you don't learn to be patient, then you have no business been in a relationship with a man, because once he noticed you are not the patient type, he take to his heels.

By the time 10 men run away from you in quick succession, on one would tell you how to adjust.

Don't Ask For Things Your Dad Can't Afford.

This sounds funny.

Please, don't ask for things your dad can't afford- all those ice-cream, ShopRight, Shawama, Re-charge cards, Brazillian Hair, even Teddy Bear, should never be demanded from a man.

The moment you start demanding, be rest assured that he will gassing out from that relationship.

Don't Nag.

The minute you start nagging, he would leave you no matter what.

As far as he doesn't cheat to your face or take her calls in your presence, don't complain, manage it because your next might not be the best.

Be proud of him, even in his present predicaments.

It's well!

Pray for him.

MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE

A successful marriage has little to do with love.

Love is not the qualification for marriage.

Love is a dangerous thing.

Love can make you think you can make it. Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce. So, don't tell me love keeps you together.

Love does not guarantee success in marriage.

Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work. The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.

You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep. Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.

Myles Munroe

Do you agree with him

*VALUE RELATIONSHIP*

*Don't be too quick to shut the door against anyone.*

*Don't be too quick to conclude that someone can not add value to your life again.*

*Don't be too quick to end friendship.*

*Don't be too quick to hold and sustain grudges and more importantly*

*Don't be too quick to draw a battle line with someone for you can never know how battle will end and you might end up fighting your helper.*

*And you know what? The bridge you burn now might be the one you need to climb to your destination.*

*The ladder you break now out of anger might be the one you need to climb to that your desired height just as the friendship that you yanked off from because of small offence can make you stranded for the rest of your life.*

*Even if you need to back out from an organization or friendship, it should be done politely not aggressively as if you will never need the person again.*

*No one knows tomorrow and no one can exist alone except God.*

*We need ourselves so let's tread with caution that we may not be fighting unnecessary battle.*

*LOVE ONE ANOTHER*

*LOVE IS ALL WE NEED*

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DR OKECHI CARES

_What will they do for themselves?_*

A 1963 Harvard graduate said this:

*_"My one big mistake in life has been providing a trust fund for my five' children. I'm very comfortable paying for an education for as long as they want to study in a reputable university. However, providing additional funds so they could have a lifestyle beyond what they have achieved on their own was a mistake."_*

A leadership teacher, John Maxwell says and I quote:

*_"If you do everything for your children, what will they do for themselves?"_*

By the time they finish university education, we have slaved and built houses for them, put car keys in their hands and bankrolled their wedding.

*_What will they do for themselves?_*

In the course of doing these for them, some people develop hypertension and all sorts of illnesses. Some slump and die. Some even steal to achieve these for their children.

*I submit to you all that inheritance goes beyond material things. Give your children the right values, strong character and a revelatory knowledge of the power they carry as a creature of God!*

*_Then they will create water to sell in the dessert and sell sand to the Arabs to build mansions for themselves._*

Do something for your children to make them have a softer take off.

The keyword is *_"take off"._*

Do not *_take over_* their lives because you yourself have your life to live.

*Think about these things critically and adjust your approach religiously. Above all teach them the word of God!!!*

A word to parents and would be parents.

COMMON MISTAKES LADIES MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP 2

I was watching the last movie when I noticed him sit beside me on the floor, with two bottles of coke and a packet of crackers biscuit, which made me smile to myself, as I focused all my attention on the movie which was showing on his television……

“Mary here is cola oo he managed to joke while i smiled, and looked at him in appreciation. We ate the biscuit and drank the coke in silence, as i returned my focus back to the movie once again.

He later held my hand gently, which really made me look at him with surprise, and he appealed to me with his eyes.

“Please accept me into your life, i’m not a bad person, i promise and swear to keep your dignity and respect intact, i truly love you” he begged.

“Really?” i asked, while he held my hand strongly.

“I swear” he answered. I rolled my eyes and said nothing.

“Please answer me” he pleaded desperately.

Seriously seeing him beg me, really gladdened my heart, but i just pretended as if he was disturbing my peace.

“What do you want me to say again?” i asked, while he drew his face closer to mine.

“Please just say yes” he whispered. I looked into his eyes and saw love, desire and honesty in it, but i controlled myself and looked away.

“Just give me time, i will think about it”. I replied

But surprisingly and out of nowhere, he drew closer to me and gave me a tight hug, this i received while i closed my eyes ……

But I soon got myself and gently pushed him away, while he looked at me gratefully, and with shinning eyes.

“I have never felt this way before, thank you” he said, while i looked away and closed my eyes briefly, because i equally felt something strong when we hugged, which i have never felt for any guy before, not even my Ex..

I was unable to concentrate on the remaining part of the movie i was watching after the hug, because all my thoughts were now on him, and even though i was the one who pushed him away, i still wanted him to hug and hold me closer to himself, but then i had to control myself, because i’m nothing but an humble girl who has her pride and dignity to protect, and so i stood up minutes later, while he stared at me with his innocent face which always make me lose focus……..

“Let me go and sleep, i’m so tired” i said to him with a smile, while he equally stood up as well and held my hand.

“Will you come once you are through with your sleep?” he asked with a pleading face, while i looked down.

“I will try” I replied, but instead of letting me go, he drew closer to me, and hugged me again, while my soul melted. I immediately fled his room without looking back….

As i lay on my bed that evening, i battled with my thoughts and emotions, as i prayed for him to be real, because i really do not want to repeat the mistake i made with my Ex, who had equally looked so honest when i first met him, and so in love, i was with him then, that i freely gave him my virginity…….

Tears fell off my eyes as i remembered how he took my most precious asset, and i swallowed hard as i bit my lips. I knew i could never get over that trauma, because i knew the pain i passed through that fateful night. I thought he really loved me, just because he looked decent and said those words i wished to hear, I guess that’s one problem every girl faces, because we never really can tell or know the guy who really loves us. Moreover, they all appear good and decent at first sight, that you won’t really see the wolf in him, if you also do have feelings for him which will then blind you from his faults and before you know what, he’s had his way with you and it’s already too late………

My thoughts really drew much tears from my eyes that evening, and before i knew what was happening, i was already crying deeply, as my mind played back on how i lost my pride to Emmanuel……..

It’s really something that touched my soul, spirit and body, but i didn’t know it was just a game to him. Only God will judge us all and here is the story of how i lost my treasure……

SINGLE SISTERS IN THE HOUSE

My Single Sisters, I come in peace.

Relationship Lesson

1. Don’t compromise your values for a partner

2. There is more than one way to say I love you

3. Be yourselves

Don’t pretend to be someone you are not.

4. A heartbreak isn’t a life break, be quick to get yourself together and move on.

5. Never allow anyone prophesy you into marriage. Seek God for yourself.

6. Be intentional about building valuable relationships.

7. Be accountable and do not say yes to a man who isn’t accountable to anyone.

8. Don’t allow anyone put you under pressure and don’t put yourself under pressure through comparison.

9. Be intentional about your growth

10. Stop rushing home after service, it’s a bad habit . Do you gerrit? If you don’t gerrit, forget about it.

11. If you don’t like him, don’t like His money. Shey you hear ?

12. Don’t keep the young man in the waiting room for too long, when or if you are sure he isn’t the one loose him and let him go.

13. Enough of being a fashionista with empty brain, develop yourself.

14. Stop making excuses for your weakness, seek help and grow.

Finally, Matthew 6:33

Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness.

Peace I leave with you

Never allow friends break your home.

So funny!

A man married his heartthrob. After almost 10 years in the marriage the wife became an Oil tycoon. She runs a thriving business that takes her to almost every part of the world. The husband, still scraping by.

The woman loved her hubby. He drives her everywhere and she seeks out his opinion on almost all matters. Jolly fellows. The husband has 5 out of the 9 cars on the fleet. With the least being a 2012 Prado jeep. Big boy. His wife takes care of him.

Okay, the meat of the story!! The man was with his friends at a regular hangout and the conversation that ensued is both hilarious and a huge lesson:

Friend: "You! I am sorry for you. Your wife has used your destiny. She's so rich whilst you're merely scraping by. Doing fake big boy. We all know your wife is the source of all your bigboyism. You better think twice. Snatch your destiny away from her before she will finish you !

Husband: "Thanks for the advice. You see, let me tell you something you don't know o. I am 45 years old now and my marriage is just 10years old and for 35 years as a bachelor, I didn't know how to use my destiny. I was suffering, no clothes, no car, couldn't afford a good accommodation. Even to eat na wahala! Now I got married 10 years ago to my wife and she knows how to use my destiny. Now I drive the latest cars and travel with her to any part of the world that even you my friends whose destinies are not been used haven't been to before.

If her usage of my destiny has given me joy, rest/ peace of mind and great comfort like this, then I am going home right now to inform my wife to continue using my destiny o. Infact! She must make sure she finish the destiny. It must not remain o....

*QUESTIONS THAT CAN TRANSFORM YOUR MARRIAGE IF ANSWERED SINCERELY*

1. Will your children wish their marriage to be like yours?

2. Is your marriage preaching the right message to the people around you?

3. Will your spouse be willing to marry you again if given opportunity to remarry?

4. Is God happy and glorified about your marriage? Or you keep hiding under grace and repentance all the time?

5. Is your marriage a blessing to your spouse or a source of bitterness?

6. Since you are married to your spouse, is his/her life better than you met him/her?

7. When last did you deliberately appreciate your spouse for the sacrifices he/she had made in this marriage? Or you feel, he/she made none?

8. Are you always seeing your spouse as the problem of your union and seeing yourself as the saint?

9. How much sacrifice have you put in this marriage in order to make it work?

10. If you die today, do you think your spouse will really miss you or your death will be like a relief to him/her?

11. Are you always thinking and threatening your spouse with divorce and separation?

12. Are you seeing and thinking about someone else as a better spouse if you had been married to him/her?

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13. How do you leave home for work; with a "Good bye, Hug or wave?" Or you silently leave?

14. Do you know his /her favourite dish? When last did you surprise him/her with it?

15. Is he/she your defence when under siege with family negative comments?

16.What do you think of him/ her when absent?

17. How often do. you pray for and with your spouse?

18. Do you feel relieved or miss your spouse whenever he/she travels?

19. How will you rate the level of truthfulness, secrecy and passion in the union on a scale of 1 to 10?

20. How do you deal with bitterness, rancour, betrayal, anger, selfishness and discord to restore sweetness?

The answers to these questions will X-ray how healthy your marriage is.

If I asked you to submit the answers to me you may lie but you can't lie to your conscience.

SO SWEETBITTERED

*Where to get great SEX* !!! So sweet An experience!!! Copy "Send me a photo of your nipples" the other man sent her a message on WhatsApp. She walked to the bathroom. Locked the door then strapped down her night dress. Took a photo of her breasts then sent to the other man. "Tomorrow you will get to touch these" she texted the other man. She got out of the bathroom smiling then got inside the bed where her husband was. Tomorrow she will be going to finally meet the man she's been flirting with. This man has promised her great sex, sex out of this world. She complained to the other man about how her husband is weak in sex, a one minute man. This other man promised to sex her real good. She was excited. She really wants sex. Good sex. This other man sent her a picture of his penis. She held her phone close, saw the penis picture. "Who is that?" Asked her husband. "It's Karo. She is confirming that we are going for a kesha at her church tomorrow night" she told her husband. It was a lie. She is not going for a kesha with Karo tomorrow, she is going to meet up with the other man in a hotel to have mind blowing sex that no one has to know. "Let me text her to tell her I will meet her at six in the evening" she lied to her husband. "Say hello to her" her innocent husband said. "OK" she said. "That is the biggest penis I have ever seen. I can't wait for it to slide and cum inside me. You are making me hot. Keep him warm for me" she texted the other man. She placed her fingers between her legs. She had shaved. Ready for tomorrow's sex. Her husband started touching her, leaning towards her to kiss her and make love to her, his wife. She pulled away. Denied her husband her body. "I am not in the mood" she said. "I love you" her husband said and turned the other way and slept. She felt a sting in her heart. What is she doing? She has turned into a liar. Her marriage is falling apart by her lusting after another man. How is she to work on her marriage if she is focusing on the penis of another man? She stared at the wall. She couldn't sleep. So tomorrow after she has mind blowing sex, what next? This man wants to sex her even if it means cheating on her husband. He just wants sex, nothing more. How many other women is he sexing and sending pictures of his penis to? If she gets pregnant, he will not want to be a father. This other man doesn't even care about her dreams, her fears, her children, her future, her relationship with God. All he wants is her vagina, butt and nipples. He doesn't bother knowing her heart. Her husband on the other hand is the sweetest man in the world. He married her. Is a great father. He is loving. He supports her. Strives to make her happy. Thoughtful. Good looking. His sex may not last long but he makes her feel loved. She has a good husband. She cried. Asked God for forgiveness. She picked up her phone. Deleted the penis picture on her phone. "I can't do this any more. What we have been doing is wrong. I love my husband. I will not cheat on him. Do not contact me any more. I want nothing to do with you" she texted the other man and blocked his number so that he can't call or text her. She switched her phone off. Removed her night dress. Took her fingers to her husband's nipples and started rubbing them. Her husband woke up. She took her fingers down his penis. Removed his penis from his boxer shorts. He started getting hard. "I want you" she whispered to his ear. He got really hard as she stroke his penis. She sat on him and made love to him. When she sensed he was about to orgasm, she stood up and showed to him her breasts. She then gently came down on her bed, laid on her back. "Make love to me" she requested. He got up and went on top of her. They made sweet love. She made him relax and he lasted longer. She helped him hold his hardness for longer. Sweet orgasm, they both had. That was the sweetest pleasure they have ever had as husband and wife. She has never felt that good before. They had learned each other's body better than before. "I love you" she told her husband. "I love you too" said her husband. "I really love you. Thankyou for being such an amazing husband" she added. "You are in a good mood" her husband said smiling. "I am a blessed wife, that's why. I have decided to stay at home tomorrow night. I will stay at home and pray with you and our marriage. Let's have a kesha as husband and wife" she said. "I love the sound of that my love" her husband said. They kissed and slept peaceful and happy. The greatest sex is not outside your marriage, it is at home, with your spouse. The kind of sex that comes with love, joy, peace, fulfilment no regrets, and no guilt. My husband My pride. May God visit every cheating husband or wife to concentrate on his/her marriag

ADVICE TO BROTHERS

Let me give you this piece of advice for free.. 1) It takes Patience to LIVE with a Woman 2) It takes Patience to LOVE a Woman MARRIAGE will test your Patience as a Man. Start building it now.. A Woman can make you go late for events back to back because she'll take 3 hours to get ready. Remember you only need 3 minutes. If you aren't patient, you'll talk to her in a manner or do something you'll later regret, A Woman can burst into tears just because you forgot to tell her I LOVE YOU before you dozed off to sleep A Woman loves to talk, if you are not patient as a Man, you'll snap one day and tell her "Woman, you talk too much, don't you ever keep quiet" and those words can damage a Woman almost irreversibly. A Woman craves attention and petting, this can sometimes get on your nerves as a Man and only patience will help you. A Woman can get angry, and you'll use full 45 minutes to be apologizing. If you aren't patient, you no go fit. She'll say she's not hungry, then after you buy only one sharwama, she'll be dragging it with you. You'll both have a plate of rice before you, but she'll leave her plate of rice and be eating yours. When she's on her period, you'll see drama. PATIENCE! When she's Pregnant, drama pro max. PATIENCE!! You'll run errands in Marriage oh. "Honey scratch my back". "Honey hold me" "Baby, tell me you love me.." and you just said it 3 minutes ago. Relationship and Marriage will test your Patience as a Man. I've told you ahead, carry patience and enter marriage. E get why. #SHARE to educate others.Cheers

I WILL MARRY YOU

Sister i will marry you is not marriage, give me your mummy's number is not marriage. I just spoke with everyone in your family even your ancestor is not marriage. I sent some stuff to your parents is still not marriage. Haven't you seen my people? Is still not marriage. My mum is fond of you, is not marriage, i love the way you cook, you will make a good wife, is still not marriage. My parent and siblings can't stop talking about you, my dear that is still not marriage. I have engaged you, so you have nothing to worry about, that is not marriage. Until he come and pay your bride price, perfect the wedding plans and take you home, that is when you are assured to be his wife. Till then, you leave your heart opened, be wise in all you do and remember not to engrossed in wifey shit for who is not worth it. Don't place your mind on anybody who is not yet married to you and stop bragging that he's yours yet. Also having keys to his apartment is not marriage. Sister you are the daughter of a respected man and a future wife to another. Don't let young boys fool you into their temporary lust. You know your worth. Ladies be wise...

DIFFERENT BETWEEN LAZY MAN AND JOBLESS MAN

Do not marry a LAZYMAN, there are difference between a lazyman and a jobless man. A man that lacked an idea of making a daily income is a LAZYMAN. Lack of job is not an excuse for being lazy. Be a man, put your hands to do something legitimate. Ladies, do not marry a lazyman, rather marry a man of vision. A man of idea, a man that sees opportunities in everything around him. Love is not blind as they say and so, courtship is the time to open both your spiritual and physical eyes to know if God has made your journey properous. It is a time to check if the person you want to marry is interested in your Calling and Vision. Marry a man with potentials and shape him into a husband. There are poor men with potentials. Marry within your means. Make sure you're capable of meeting your needs.