BETTER TO MOVE ON

Many times, it’s always the best to move on than to hold on to that person who doesn’t understand you.

Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work.

You can’t force someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can't force someone to faithful.

You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.

I will be real with you, most times the person you want most is the person you are best without.

You have got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be.

Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.

Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who is not ready to give it to you.

And I know it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with, but you just have to accept that they are not that person anymore.

And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. TRUST ME

It is better to be alone and be happy than to be in a miserable relationship...

Whoever sees you as an option doesn't deserve to be a priority in your life, you call him honey but he treats you like a monkey, He is your everything but you are nothing to him, you are doing everything to make it work, but he keeps thinking you are desperate and turns all your efforts to weakness...

Never keep awake thinking about someone who is deeply sleeping with someone else. Never stay a minute thinking about someone who cant spend a second thinking about you.

Leave that person who takes your love for granted and doesn't love you back the way you do, Love should be balanced not based one side.

Its better to be single than being in an ugly relationship that will make you cry forever.

A word is enough for the wise.

I WANT TO TAKE YOU OUT

Don't marry someone you don't want to be seen with in public, someone you can't identify with, someone whose looks, spoken English or dialect makes you weep!

Some ladies tell me they don't like the guy's looks yet he is God's will.

Some guys said the lady is not their spec, yet she is God's will!

She is either too crude, short, tall, not busty or buttockish enough!

The guy either has tribal marks, looks archaic and speaks horrible English!

God won't give you someone who embarrasses you in public! You either heard the devil or you were sleeping when proposing or accepting proposal from your so called God's will.

Our father Abraham to Isaac to Jacob loved, admired and were proud of their wives!

Marry someone you are proud of or help them become someone to be proud of.

Encourage them to improve on their looks and spoken English.

There is nothing anyone can do about tribal marks, height, breast shape or buttock shape!

You either totally accept or reject them!

Don't marry someone you can't take out on date, show to friends or loved ones. Its a bad omen!

Accept them 100% or reject them 100%.

You can't manage! You are not a manager!

Learn to hear God properly!

Discover ways God speaks!

To think about a guy all day, dream about him all night and conclude you had a vision from God when you have zero knowledge of the Bible and know nothing about how God leads is to walk in gross darkness and high level of stupidity!

Most people who claim they heard God were hallucinating!

Get to know God.

Know the word of God.

Have fellowship with him daily.

Learn how he speaks DAILY not when you are desperate to wear a wedding ring and start having sex!

Bottom line, be proud of your spouse.

Get it?

May the Lord grant you understanding.

Be blessed!!!

By Seun Oladele

MARRIAGE BEFORE DEVELOPMENT

Do not get married before you've developed yourself to a level that you can survive on your own or with your kids without the support of whoever you're marrying.

This may sound obvious but people keep putting all their eggs in one basket and later they come out crying and acting surprised when they suddenly find themselves alone with the kids yet they never took the time to equip themselves for any job.

People change and abscond or betray you, death or disease happens and the provider now needs to be provided for, or they lose their job or income. Anything. If this happens when you had a diploma or degree or competence in welding or tailoring, the inconvenience will be shorter because you'll jump to action right away and take up the role.

But if you have to scrape and seek any odd jobs or start training from scratch, that's a hell of an experience. Think ahead and prepare.

Marriage is not a rite of passage that you need to do by a certain age or because some people expect you to do it. What you need to do by a certain point in your life, in fact, is individuation.

As soon as you're out of your parent's care you must start building your capacity for becoming a parent yourself. If you don't pay attention to this and give it priority you'll mix personal development with premature marriage and the duties and demands of marriage life will carry you away. Before you know it, time is gone and you've never trained or specialised in any skill you can work in and sustain yourself.

Never depend on the one who's marrying you to give you basic development. You're mixing issues and losing your objectivity and clarity. You might end up marrying the one who is willing to educate you rather than the one with whom you can build the life you envision. Of course when people get married they continue developing each other through further education or building a business, but the basic training that makes you capable of working should be done prior to entering marriage. Paradoxically, this level of self development will attract more respect from your partner and increase the chances of the marriage lasting a lifetime, as opposed to them knowing you're helpless without them and taking you for granted.

THREE MARITAL STAGES

Marriage has three stages. The first stage is called honeymoon and lasts about two years. This stage is very sweet, nice, and romantic. This is where you find names like honey, sweetheart, baby, and so on.

In this stage, everything is perfect. This is a stage where a man returns home and dumps his socks and shoes anywhere but in the morning, he will wake up and find them placed where they're supposed to be. This is where madam doesn't go to bed until you return home. She sits in the living room and receives all the mosquito bites waiting for you till you return, takes a shower, and enjoys supper. Even if you return at midnight, you find her waiting for you.

This first stage is beautiful with a lot of tolerance. This is a stage where at night while in bed, you release very toxic gas and your spouse instead apologizes. Remember, you have gassed but again he tells you, "Sorry darling, it's okay." This is unbelievable. Madam has gassed but to you, it's okay. Oh my God, this is sweet. Everything is just merry-making during this stage. In conclusion, enjoy this stage as much as we can.

The second stage lasts for ten years! This is where the honeymoon is over. This stage is red hot. During this stage, perhaps financial challenges have come in. You have given birth and the children are also disturbing you. Sometimes you are yet to give birth but really want to and the pressure on you is mounting from all corners. Landlords have become Landlords. There is a loss of employment. Things are just tight.

Life is hard in this second stage. The man who used to return home early now returns very late. Sometimes he doesn't even return home. There are suspicions of infidelity and cheating. You don't trust each other. You feel your spouse is cheating, and in fact, he or she is cheating. When you return home and leave your shoes outside, in the morning, you find them where you left them. Things are hot here.

This is a stage where at night, you release toxic gas and your partner asks what you ate during supper time yet you ate the same meals. He can even leave the bed and spend the night in the sitting room simply because you gassed. Imagine only gassing.

The second stage is hot. There are fights; spiritual, physical, and in all aspects. This is the stage where you reach the point of considering separating. Each spouse shows his or her true colors in this stage. A night dancer switches on the reggae mixes the music, and punches the baseline. Your relatives taste the greedy side of your wife.

Those who persevere and overcome this stage end up keeping their marriage till death does them part. However, very many hang up the towel in this stage. They quit. In conclusion, Those who are in this stage should fight a little longer, not hang up the towel. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Just a little longer and you are done with this heat.

Finally, there's the last stage. This comes after the ten red hot years. This last stage is lukewarm. It's neither cold nor hot. You gas at large and no one applauds you or complains. You have seen enough of each other. You have known each other's true colors.

In this stage, whatever your partner does no longer surprises you. If she quarrels, you just say that is the nature of this woman. If he is still late out in the night, you don't even bother to call since you know he will return. If she doesn't serve you food and you feel hungry, you just go and serve food otherwise, hunger hits you for nothing

This stage is not for disturbing one another. There is a lot of calmness and commands are few. This is where if you are watching TV with her in the sitting room and you feel thirsty, you don't send her to bring you drinking water but only wait when she's moving in the direction where there is water and you tell her if she is coming back, she can come along with some water. If she asks you to repeat what you just said, you have to pretend like you didn't say anything. All of a sudden, she shocks you and returns with drinking water. There is mutual respect in this stage. In conclusion, Those in this stage should just work for eternity.

Congratulation to those who are in this stage for, they have come from far.

Amen and amen

Have a wonderful reflection on this post.

This can be related to new couple-to-be, less than ten years marriage & finally btw 20 - 80 years of marriage

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ADVICE FOR ALL SINGLE MEN

Before a good woman say yes to you, she want to know.

* Are you family oriented, no sane woman will marry a man who is not family oriented, a woman wants a man who has family insight.

* No sane woman will marry a man who lacks ambition, you must have the ambition over a vision, dream,purpose.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not goal oriented or focus, queen cara will not even try it talking of other women.

* No good woman will want to marry a man who doesn't believe in being a helper,provider ,supporter , every woman want a man who they can depend on.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not spiritual , listen marriage is a union filled with two spirit filled spouse, a good woman want a gate keeper as a husband.

* No good woman will marry a man who is not prepared both spiritually, physically, emotionally ,mentally, she want a man who is steady and prepared in all ramifications.

* She want a protector, not an abuser, she want a man with clarity not a confuse man, she want a guardian.

* She want a father not just a husband, a father loves his daughter irrespective of every circumstances, that is the love she want, a man whom will love her forever.

A man whom will defend her

A man whom will teach her

She want a director

She want a learning mate

She want a teacher

She want a comforter

She want a confident

I pray for every young sweet lady looking for a man to marry may you never marry a man who is not the will of God for you.

Jesus Christ is the key to the type of love you are looking for he loved you first and gave his life for you despite your imperfections, flaws, shortcomings he still loves you.

I walk you into the love and you are looking for , surrender all to Jesus Christ and he is the gate and door step to the love you are craving for.

I pray that you recieve the divine love, divine wisdom tht Jesus has for you, i pray that you walk into his love and purpose for you in Jesus name .

QUALITIES OF A GODLY MARRIED MAN

A godly husband respects his wife. Respect is one of the most important factors in any relationship, especially in the eyes of God. What so many marriages are missing today is God as the foundation. Too often, couples overlook the importance of God in their relationship decision-making.

Basically, here are the qualities of a godly married man you will definitely find.

A real man fears God because a man who doesn’t fear God will not have regard for human feelings and will not know how to truly love.

A real man is faithful. He will not cheat on you. He has no alternative so he focuses on you alone! Love doesn’t double date!

He will not flirt with your girlfriends! He is reliable and trustworthy.

He is faithful to you no matter the pressure from other ladies

He is not proud to say *“I’m Sorry"* if that is what will save the relationship because he loves you! Love is not proud!

A real man wait for sex until your wedding night and never deprive you of his body after the wedding!

A real man is a man of prayer. He prays for and with you.

He Will feel terrible when he forgets your birthday or anniversary and will always make it up to you.

A real man is a giver. He Surprises you with gifts, even when the occasion is not special. He’s not stingy.

He Tells you regularly that he loves and cherishes you.

He understands you even if nobody does and always makes you feel you are the best

A real man is a good leader. He never Threatens to leave you or divorce you no matter what happens. A Real Man Is A Forgiver!

He Feels your pain when you go through hard times and stands by you until you overcome.

He Loves to see you happy and rejoices with you.

Despite his busy schedule, he always creates quality time to spend with you.

He Will never physically or emotionally abuse you because Love is Kind

He Will marry you without waiting too long.

He forgives and forgets when you apologize for hurting his feelings.

He will not use your weaknesses or secrets against you.

He will not air your dirty laundry.

He Is patient and willing to work on your relationship problems.

He Knows that it is important for you to spend some time with your friends and family members.

A man who loves you celebrate you in the public and he is not ashamed to tell the world how much he loves you!

He will not go out of his way to make you jealous.

He Will always respect you in the presence of his friends and family members.

He helps you with chores around the house.

He enjoys the company of your family and friends.

He Supports your dreams and ambitions.

He Never puts you down when talking to you.

He Cares a great deal about your thoughts, feelings and opinions.

He Is always available to help when you need him.

He Knows that his way is not the only way.

He cares. He always calls you to find out how your day is going

A real man is never lazy. He knows how to make money, save money and invest money wisely

A real man loves his children and he is ready to bring out the best in them

A real man is committed to the WORD OF GOD and challenges you to get closer to God!

And A Real Woman Never Takes His Love For Granted Because Such Man Is Rare To Find!

Man, May God Make u Such Man

Single Lady, May Such Man Find you

Married Woman, May God Make Your Husband A Real Man In Jesus name. Amen

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A STORY YOU WILL ENJOY WRITTEN BY SOMEONE

My wife and I had an issue one very morning before we left for work. It was a small misunderstanding between me and her. We were both angry with each other. From my facial expression, my wife knew I was very prepared to keep malice with her that morning. She was also angry and didn't mind playing along.

I stepped out of the house and she locked the doors and followed me behind. Since we didn't have a car, we always boarded the same bus to work every morning and ensured we sat together- side by side on the bus. I was to drop at Terminus and she was to drop at the Old Airport in Jos.

But that day, I didn't want to sit close to her. So I sat at the back seat and she sat in front, just beside a soldier man.

The man glanced at my wife. I saw the way he looked at her hair and face with so much admiration. Then he told her she looked beautiful. My wife smiled and told him thank you.

He asked my wife where she was going and she told him she was heading to work.

All this while, I was sitting behind the soldier man and listening to their conversation.

"My name is Femi. I am a soldier man. I was just posted to Jos a month ago. Right now I am heading to my place of assignment."

My wife nodded her head. When the conductor requested for my wife to pay her transport fare, the soldier offered to pay. He pulled out money and paid on her behalf.

My wife thanked him and smiled.

Then the soldier man continued.

"So I will be dropping soon. I rented a house somewhere in town. I don't know if you can drop by someday to say hello to me. Can I have your number?"

I didn't waste any more time. I tapped my wife on her shoulders immediately.

She turned.

And then I asked her.

"Hope you remembered to put spoon inside Chukwudubem lunch box? You know you always forget."

My wife was puzzled. She was probably wondering who Chukwudubem is, and why I had chosen to talk to her. Before she could ask any further questions I added.

"Try to pick him up from school early today. I will be coming back home late. You can cook Eba for me for dinner so that when I return I will eat something before bed."

My wife was confused.

Then she glanced at the soldier man and returned her gaze to me. She understood what I was trying to do.

"Yes, honey." She nodded.

The soldier man turned and saw me. He greeted me. Then he asked my wife.

"Is that your husband?"

My wife nodded. The soldier man glanced at me again and again. Then he glanced for the last time and smiled at me.

I didn't smile back.

When I got to the next junction, I dropped from the bus and dragged my wife along with me.

My wife couldn't stop laughing. While we were about to board another bus, she asked me.

"Praises, who is Chukwudubem?"

"Chukwudubem is our future son. Enter bus let us go before I knack you katako."

My wife laughed.

We boarded another bus to work that day and this time, we sat together. Side by side in the bus.

When you give your partner distance, both emotionally and physically, you let the devil occupy that space. He takes your position without your permission and builds a home for himself in your place. Don't let the devil have a place in your home. Cover all grounds.

Make your presence known.

DANGERS OF SEXUAL SINS

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I AM WRITING THIS LETTER TO THOSE WHO ARE GENUINELY BORN AGAIN, BUT THEY ARE STRUGGLING WITH SOME SECRET SINS... BECAUSE, I WAS ONCE THERE!

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There is something glorious about your future God will show you, you will not need your pastor to keep preaching holiness message to you daily...

When you see a girl singing in the choir, yet, from the choir, she keeps sexual appointments, check that girl, she has not seen anything yet about her future...

When you see a young boy who dresses to church, to seduce those small girls to bed and his mates will be clapping for him, check that boy, he has a spiritual eye problem...

He hasn't seen anything about his future yet...

If you do it again and again and again, God will forgive you again and again and again...

But, while He is busy forgiving you, angels are busy searching for some one else heaven will use to replace you ...

What separates men before God is not how long they can pray or how much scriptures they know...

The value God places on people is not determined by the position they occupy in the church...

But how much they can bear for His Name sake...

Some times, He allows your salary to be delayed, to know if you will start stealing in your office...

Sometimes, He allows some lose ladies to start suggesting sex with you, to know if you have grown...

But unfortunately, you still fall again ....

Yes, He will forgive....

But, you will still remain in the same class in the school of glory...

Decision separates men...

There is an OIL that comes with separation...

The weight of a man is buried in the decisions he makes when no one is watching him ...

Many times, God allows you to be lonely so that you can be holy...

Forget this public revival messages all of us are preaching...

Many are still behind in the school of glory...

Not because they chose to, but because they still don't want to pay the price of separation...

If it takes a man to be married to be responsible, we will not have many married irresponsible men scattered all over the place who are renting houses for their girlfriends, while their wives are still at home....

When a man is due for marriage, he should get married...

But don't tell me to get married because you want me to escape fornication...

Marriage is not an escape route into a responsible life...

What you cannot control when you are single has the power to control you even when you are married ...

No matter how beautiful your wife will be, you will still see other beautiful ladies....

Teach me how to die to flesh sir...

Teach me that I can live alone in a house alone and yet, I will not think rubbish thoughts...

Joseph was not married before he ran away naked from Portiphar's wife bedroom ...

It was not a marital ring on his finger that made him refuse that gesture....

But because he knew the future God has planned for Him will be messed up by a single decision....

God wants to raise a generation of young boys and girls that will love God where no one is seeing them ...

God wants to raise a breed that doesn't appear holy only when they see their parents or their pastors...

This holiness by dressing is sending people from choir seats to hell fire...

They are dying in secret sins, yet, they have none to cry to, because, once they confess, they will be stigmatized...

Consequently, we are raising a generation that is speaking in tongues on their way to hell...

Sister, singing in choir doesn't confer value on men before God, but decision...

Stop attaching your spiritual growth on night vigils where you go and flog enemies ...

God is waiting for you when no one is there...

If you can succeed there, you will be a commander of the supernatural...

The greatest tool against the end time church is the adulteration of the message of grace...

They teach you that God will forgive...

But they will not teach you that God will not promote you to another class...

No matter how you love your child, you will not give him your car key to use when you know he has not perfected his driving...

As long as that child is finding it hard to drive perfectly, he will keep trekking to school...

There is someone reading this posts now, heaven is saying that you are due for manifestation, but you have not made a decision yet...

You are still afraid of hunger....

You don't want to starve....

You are ashamed of what people will say when you stop sleeping with men for money to pay bills...

They have even told you that there is no young person like you that doesn't have sexual partners...

That human beings were wired by God to fall and rise again...

Several times, you have made moves to delete all those phone numbers that connect you to your vomits...

But you have been afraid of the days of loneliness...

You don't want to miss those cuddles...

You don't know if you can ever look into his eyes and tell him: "No more sex"...

Even if he accepts, you are afraid that you might never cope...

Sister, don't let weekend orgasms rob you of eternal value...

Your enemy is no more that witch in the village....

But any man that is making you comfortable in a place of rebellion with God ...

Don't be in church singing in the choir and God will go to the nearest hotel and catch a prostitute, wash her, clean her and fill her with His power...

I know you have been trying to make amends ...

You have answered altar calls several times, yet, you still fall back, even more deeper ...

Some of us were there not too long ago...

Singing in choir, leading in powerful prayer sections, yet, battling with addictions...

Worse of all we were afraid to tell anyone...

Because, people around would never have understood how much we were trying to be better ...

We bought different anointing oil, from different men of God, yet, we were not free...

We even afflicted ourselves with fastings...

Yet, nothing changed ...

Until we encountered the Word of God.....

When Jesus said that " We are made clean by the Words that I speak unto you..."

We began to read and study the Bible...

Like Job, we began to esteem God's Word above our necessary food...

Gradually, addictions began to lose its grip...

God began to change our appetites...

Until today, the darkness is past, the true Light now shineth ...

Brother, I want to recommend you to the Word of God....

The Word of God will settle that lust issue...

Don't go and rush into marriage if you are not ready, because you want to avoid temptation...

The spirit of lust does not respect wedding ring...

Especially now that our sisters who are still in Babylon even prefer having it with married men ...

There are still single guys who are serving God in spirit and in truth...

5 chapters of the bible every day and 1 hour prayers or more...

You will see that your mind will stop going to those thoughts ...

Jesus did not say it is easy...

But He said that with God all things are possible ...

Your heart is beating faster now as you are reading this...

You are wondering if you will ever get free from the things you are struggling with...

Friend, that God that did it for us, He will show up on your case...

Receive grace to feast on the Word from now....

In Jesus Name...please teach the young ones in your church and God bless you.

There is no obligation to share. No whips or curses if you don't share. But we both know that when you share this, it goes a long way to help someone.

So I'm asking you to help someone .

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Thank you for reading

God bless you

FOR ALL MARRIED MEN

1. If you value your health and you want to live long and have a happy home, let your wife always win an argument. Trust me, it's the shortcut I know to peace of mind! Where there is no wood (fuel), the fire goes out!

2. Stop trying to figure out your wife or understand why she does what she does. It's a waste of precious time. Remember that you (Adam) were put to sleep while she (Eve) was being produced? How can you try to understand an equipment that wasn't assembled in your presence?

3. Marriage is about ACCEPTANCE, not tolerance. Make your marriage relationship-driven, not performance-dri

ven. She was NOT created in your image. Stop projecting YOU into her. Show her the need for change through leadership, not coercion.

4. While a man is rational, the woman is emotional. One (the man) processes via his head, the other processes things through her heart (emotions). One thinks things through, the other feels her way through things. Facts drive you. Intuition drives her. What she can't FEEL, she doesn't SEE!

5. When sex becomes a weapon, a duty or an entitlement, it loses its very essence, LOVE-MAKING. It simply becomes another chore like dish-washing which nobody looks forward to doing! Play with her. Flirt with her. Serenade her. Hug. Cuddle. Hold hands. Surprise her. Blow gently into her ears while she is cooking or while you are watching a movie together. Be spontaneous. Being a king-kong overlord in "ze oza room" and puffing and panting like a worn-out locomotive while she wonders what just happened can only lead to frustration. Remember, it is never about the size of the weapon but the fury of the attack! (Decode that!)

6. Go out often. Make regular, unscheduled date nights. Take a bath together. Make room for movie nights together either at home or at the cinema.

7. Remember that ONLY THE TWO OF YOU started the journey together and when the children have jumped the nest, only the two of you will remain. So, keep the bond ALL THE WAY and never drop the ball

8. Impregnate her with VISION. Allow her to dream too. Every woman loves a man working towards a future in which she can feature. Remember, woman simply means "womb man". She always wants something to incubate and nourish. You give her a seed, she incubates it and turns it to a baby for you

9. She is your wife, a companion and confidant, not a washing machine, cook or slave. You can't wear her out with chores all day and expect to 'ride' a functional "bicycle" all night! Impossicant! Partners help partners by giving a helping hand where needed, even without being told.

10. Love is not 50/50. It is 100%. God didn't say to love your wife when she is submissive. It simply says love her as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.

11. Be PRESENT. Don't be at home married to your computer or football game. Listen when she wants to talk. Even when you don't know what to contribute to the discourse, you will soon discover that all she wanted was for you to listen. Your opinion may not even count!

12. If both of you are born again children of God, you are actually SIBLINGS!!! You have the same Father and the same father-in-law, GOD!!! Ever thought of that? Treat your wife with the dignity you would accord your blood sister. If you are fond of disgracing your wife in public and calling her all sorts of unprintable names, remember, it wasn't God who named EVE. He created a woman, Adam gave her a name. Whatever you call your wife, that is what she will reflect to you. If you call your wife a Jezebel, we need to check if your middle name isn't Ahab! Call her your Queen and she will make you her crown! It takes one to find one! When you see the glory of your Father in her, you will be a great son-in-law too! A wife you don't honour cannot bring honour to you too.

Trust me, u will enjoy your marriage till death do you part.

May your home reflect the mind of God!!!

Breaking Off An Engagement Is Permitted.

*It is not divorce,*

Many feel guilty after this act and they feel as though they've committed a grievous offence by calling off an engagement before the actual wedding as many see it as divorce.

This is why we have two rings-

Engagement ring and wedding ring.

Engagement ring is not a wedding ring.

They are two different things.

So, it is advisable to call off a relationship heading for trouble before marriage.

This is wisdom!

Many tolerate themselves during their engagement period and eventually get married and thereafter enter crisis.

YOUR HAPPINESS IS MOST PARAMOUNT.

GENERAL COUNSELLING FOR THE SINGLE MOTHER OR GRANDMOTHER

Any single mother abi grandma that is over fifty years old and decides to remarry or settle down should not attempt to hook up with a man that doesn’t know how to make use of his phone.

At this age in your life sis mi, all you need is companionship, not a man that can leave you three, four days without calling you nor sending SMS to check on you, and, at the end he will come up with epileptic excuses. No, don’t allow any man to add more to your stress. Orisha boo le gbe mi, se mi bo se ba mi.

Some of them will not even pick their phone when you call claiming unnecessary right, given you unreasonable excuses. Ma binu, am not used to phone, ko mora ni, I left my phone in the car etc, that nonsense must stop henceforth. Don’t allow any baba corridor kan to give you hypertension.

Good morning aya mi, bawo ni night e, that alone goes a long way.

Arike, nibo lo wa, awon omo nko, it adds more to our strength.

AbeniAdeyyyyy, check account e, mo ti send owo ounje e aya mi, that gives Abeni joy through out the whole day. And the headache will disappear lesekese.

Ajike mi, bawo ni day e, so ti jeun, it calms our nerves and reminds us that we belong to someone.

NO CALL, NO SHOW IS DISRESPECTFUL, DO NOT TAKE YOUR WOMEN FOR GRANTED, DO NOT TURN THEM TO YOUR CONVENIENCE STORE.

Again aunty wa, don’t allow any man to hide you from his family, he will not pick his phone whenever he’s with them, asiri…

If he’s not ready to make you happy at this age, let him continue either with his single life or go back to his former apartment…..AYE WA DA ??? NO TIME TO CHECK TIME LORI IRO. You need to be with someone that knows your worth not daddy ojo(day) ti ile ba da, means when there’s no one at home. E gbo abeegba sister wa. Your life, your choice. Choose it wisely. Ma je ki awon baba yen so e di tanwole o, blood pressure medication is on the high side, aanidaamu……

Is better to stay alone ko gbaf’Olorun, gbe agbelebu e than to think you’re in a relationship with a man that will only appreciate you whenever he’s free to do so. …..at his own time, ko ye ko ri be.

YOU NEED TO BHAPPY AND ENJOY YOUR MIDDLE AGE…..

NOTES FOR THE SINGLES AND MARRIED

SINGLE AND MARRIED LADIES IN THE HOUSE....

KNOW THIS

1. A first class degree won't make you a first

class wife rather your submission and respect

will.

2. The woman who respects her husband is the

best wife anyone would ever have.

3. Your character and attitude will go a long way

in determining if your husband will wish he never

Regret getting married to you..

4. To be a great wife, you need more anger

management skills than nagging skills.

5. Be a leader at work, or anywhere else but be a

companion at home.. It's wisdom!

6. Don't compete with your husband; compliment

him.

7. Your strength is in humility and submission,

not in strife and contention.

8. Be tender, every man respects a tender

woman but firm.

9. Never try to punish your husband by starving

him of food or Sex, he maybe forced to get it

outside.

10. There is nothing wrong in accepting that you

are wrong when you are wrong.

11. Prepare to forgive your husband if he wrongs

you.. For a forgiving wife is better than a

vengeful one.

12. Make a decision to be a good wife, you will

need it in the long run..

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Never give anyone else the responsibility to control your happiness.

What every wife needs to read, understand and live in her marriage if she wants to build her home.

During a class at Fresno Pacific University, a speaker asked one of the spouses in the audience:

"Does your husband make you happy?"

At this moment, the husband stood up straighter, showing complete confidence. He knew his wife would say yes, because she had never complained about anything during their marriage.

However, his wife answered the question with a resounding "No."

"No, my husband does not make me happy."

The husband was baffled, but his wife continued:

"My husband never made me happy and does not make me happy. I am happy."

"Whether I am happy or not is not dependent on him, but on me. I am the only person on whom my happiness depends.

I choose to be happy in every situation and every moment of my life, for if my happiness depended on another person, thing or circumstance on the face of the Earth, I would be in serious trouble.

Everything that exists in this life constantly changes: the human being, the riches, my body, the climate, my boss, the pleasures, the friends, and my physical and mental health. I could quote an endless list.

I need to decide to be happy regardless of anything else that happens. Whether I own a lot or a little, I am happy! Whether I'm going out or staying home alone, ​​I'm happy! Whether I am rich or poor, I am happy!

I am married but I was already happy when I was single.

I'm happy for myself.

Other things, people, moments or situations are experiences that might cause joy or sadness. When someone I love dies, I am a happy person in an inevitable moment of sadness.

I learn from past experiences and I live those that are eternal like loving, forgiving, helping, understanding, accepting and consoling.

There are people who say: Today I cannot be happy because I am sick, because I have no money, because it is very hot, because it is very cold, because someone insulted me, because someone stopped loving me, because I don't know how to love myself, because my husband changed, because my children do not make me happy, because my friends do not make me happy, because my job is mediocre and so on.

I love my life not because my life is easier than anyone else's, but because I have decided to be happy as an individual. I am responsible for my happiness.

When I take this obligation from my husband and anyone else, I free them from the burden of carrying me on their shoulders. It makes everyone's life much lighter.

And that's how I've had a successful marriage for so many years."

Never give anyone else the responsibility to control your happiness. Be happy, even if it's hot, even if you're sick, even if you do not have money, even if someone has hurt you, even if someone does not love you and even if you do not value yourself.

THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO AS A PASTOR'S WIFE

MANY SEEKING TO BE A PASTOR'S WIFE

- Being a pastor's wife is not easy, you don't just marry pastor because you want to be addressed as mummy, first lady, or spiritual mother. Marrying a pastor is a calling with brutal responsibilities. All eyes are on you, people want you to fail, some want to take your place, even when you are right they will condemn you. You are always afraid of losing your husband to the church especially NOWADAYS that ladies are fighting to be pastor's favorites. To avoid all these, mummy follow my advice below!

1. DON'T BORROW MONEY FROM YOUR CHURCH MEMBERS

2. DON'T GOSSIP YOUR MEMBERS OR WITH YOUR MEMBERS

3. DON'T DISCUSS YOUR HUSBAND'S SECRETS WITH MEMBERS

4. DON'T BE EXTRAVAGANT IN SPENDING

5. DON'T BE JEALOUS WHEN LADIES COMES AROUND YOUR HUSBAND

6. DON'T BE A DIRTY MOTHER IN THE LORD

7. DON'T COMMAND RESPECT, BECAUSE IT'S EARNED

8. DON'T ATTACK OR RAISE YOUR VOICE AT YOUR HUSBAND PUBLICLY

9. DON'T SPEND CHURCH MONEY WITHOUT ASKING QUESTIONS

10. DON'T QUARREL OR FIGHT WITH CHURCH MEMBERS

11. DON'T HAVE FAVORITES IN YOUR CHURCH, EVEN IF YOU DO, PLEASE DON'T SHOW IT

12. DON'T ALLOW TRIBALISM AROUND YOU, BECAUSE IT WILL KILL YOUR HUSBAND'S MINISTRY

13. DON'T LET LADIES DO YOUR DOMESTIC JOB, EXCEPT YOU ARE TIRED OF MARRIAGE

14. DON'T BE TOO CLOSE TO BROTHERS IN YOUR CHURCH, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN MUMMY.

15. YOUR HUSBAND'S FRIENDS SHOULD NOT BE YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS, BECAUSE THEY MAY USE YOU AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND

16. PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND MORE THAN YOU GOSSIP HIM

17. LOOK FOR SOMETHING TO DO MUMMY, BECAUSE TITHE AND OFFERING IS NOT FOR SHAWARMA AND ICE CREAM

18. DEFEND YOUR HUSBAND NO MATTER THE SCANDAL, MISTAKES AND WEAKNESS BUT REBUKE HIM AT HOME

19. PACKAGE YOUR HUSBAND, OR DO YOU LIKE THE WAY YOUR HUSBAND DRESSES LIKE AREA BOYS? HELP HIM TO LOOK LIKE A SPIRITUAL LEADER AND NOT A YAHOO BOY

20. DEVELOP YOURSELF, A PASTOR'S WIFE MUST LEARN HOW TO LEAD PRAYER, PREACH/TEACH, SEE SMALL VISIONS, LEAD SERVICE, BLESS THE OFFERING AND TITHES, BECAUSE MEMBERS ARE WATCHING YOU MUMMY.

These are few tips for pastor's wives, Please accept it as my contribution to the body of christ and not a criticism, because to be a pastor's wife is not easy.

GOD BLESS ALL PASTOR'S WIVES IN JESUS NAME.

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MARRIAGE, NOT YOUR FINAL DESTINATION.

I saw you when you were crying to God to give you what He gave to Kathryn Kulman or He should kill you...

I was there when you used to shout "GIVE ME FIRE OR I DIE"

I was there when you used to fast for days without food and water...

You were so serious with Prayer meetings...

The money you were supposed to use and buy clothes and make your hair, like your mates, you used it to buy books on how to grow in Christ and manifest God to your generation...

BUT THE MOMENT YOU said "I DO", the story CHANGED...

Right now, all we can see is your beautiful pictures with your husband...

All we can hear from you are testimonies of holidays in Paris and Dubai...

Your GENERATION said I should ask you if this is all we are going to see from you?...

The people awaiting your manifestation said I should ask you, IF THIS IS THE BEST YOU CAN BE?

Does it mean we will never again see that Kathryn Kulman the Holyghost was incubating inside you for our generation?

We cannot believe that small handcuff called wedding ring will become your FINAL Destination?...

Sister, Are you saying that all you were praying and fasting for, was for you to get married?

We have seen your beautiful children...

We have seen your family pictures...

We have seen your wedding anniversaries...

We have heard church members calling you our church maama..

But IS THAT ALL YOU ARE MADE FOR?

But when are we going to see you with the Holyghost again?

Does it mean that you will no more do that which you prayed and fasted for?

Chaiiii.....It was not so from the beginning

I am praying for those ladies who have been crying day and night for God to give them the little portion of what He gave to Kathryn Kulman...

May you not get that anointing and marriage will take it away from you...

May we not look for you when we need that prophetic, healing and Revival grace God gave you and we will see you on Facebook celebrating only birthdays, new houses,new shoes, and wedding anniversaries...

May we not look for you in your choir seat and you are no more because of marriage..

Marriage will not be your last destination...

This generation must eat out of all that God has deposited in you...OK

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MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

One sure sign your relationship is sick is having nothing to talk about whenever you are with your partner. If you must always have sex to feel close to your partner, you need to end the relationship fast and get your bearing!

Marriage is more than sex! A successful marriage is about friendship. You are not going to spend the rest of your life rolling in sheets unless you have very serious spiritual problems.

Successful people have more to think about than concocting sexual images and looking for who to dump their passion on! You marry to fulfil destiny and your partner is to help you attain your highest dream. Most people are pathetic failures because they have nothing else in their head except grope, masturbate and roll in the dark!

Marry your best friend! Someone who believes in you and is ready to do all in their capacity to help you be all you wanna be. Marry someone who believes in you. Marry someone you enjoy talking to. Marry someone you can freely be yourself around. Marry someone who needs you, values you, respects you and adores you. Marry someone who sees beyond sex anytime you are together.

Marry someone you can reveal your fears, weaknesses, flaws and pains to without feeling awkward or ashamed -marry your best friend. If you cannot feel close unless you have sex, you have prepared yourself for divorce! You sooner or later discover in marriage that your sex life has gone stale and you need real intimacy -the communication, the acceptance, the sharing of your deepest feelings, dreams and goals to really feel loved and cherished. Premarital sex kills your chance of having a great marriage.

I’m married to the greatest husband in the world. My husband is the deepest, most intimate friend I have. We talk about everything under heaven and understand each other so much. Someone once asked him whether his wife goes out he said NO. Goes out as in visit friends and all the likes, he shook his head. Whenever I’m through with the day’s business, I spend my time in the company of my best friend, my husband. She further queried out of surprise, “doesn’t she get bored?” He smiled heartily and still said NO. When he related the conversation with me, I laughed.

Bored? 24 hours is not enough! We talk so much we pray for more hours to fill the day! Life with hubby is so exciting! Waking up and seeing him makes me come alive, full of confidence, happiness, peace and the readiness to tackle the day’s challenge!

When people find it difficult communicating their deepest feelings to their spouse, it sounds abnormal to me. I’m not used to that. I don’t know how to hide anything from my husband and same for him. We are always, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, physically and financially naked and not ashamed.

Prepare for a life time of bliss with your spouse. Marry your best friend, it makes marriage so exciting, blissful, peaceful, rapturous and sweet. You will not miss it in marriage in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers!

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ANGER MANAGEMENT IN MARRIAGE

When you or your spouse are angry, learn to keep quiet or walk away. Refrain from talking lest you say something hard to take back.

*Even as you walk away, keep the communication open. Don't turn off your phone or run away with no way to reach you.

*Never hurt your spouse because you feel hurt by your spouse. Revenge leads to more mess, hurt and deterioration. Be the bigger and wiser person.

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Never run faster than your husband, he's your head.

*Husband:* Honey I will buy a new mattress on my way home. The one we are using is no longer comfortable.

*Wife:* That's my Love ! But wait o, where will you get the money?

*Husband:* I heard that Mr. B will pay our arrears today.

*Wife:* I always know that man will perform. Please Darling, don't forget the wristwatch you promised me o.

*Husband:* With all pleasure My Love.

5 hours later, the man arrived home in his car. Pin... Pin... Pin he blared his horn. The woman ran out to meet her husband.

*Wife:* Honey welcome (collecting her husband's briefcase, leading him into their sitting room).

*Husband:* You are always wonderful.

*Wife:* Where is the mattress and my wristwatch?

*Husband:* Which mattress? Abeg gimme my food. I never see alert o, the thing na rumour o.

The woman broke down weeping profusely.

*Wife:* Honey please forgive me......huuu huuu .

*Husband:* (loosing his patience) Dear what's all these now, what happened?

*Wife:* Honey please forgive me oooooo..... I I I I...

*Husband:* (perceiving some odour, and looking out of the window). What's smelling like this, where is this smoke coming from?

*Wife:* (still weeping) Huuu, I have burnt our mattress, I thought you would buy a new one truly, you know it is no longer good.

*Husband:* (furious, with a changed countenance). What ! You did what? You must be joking.. You will go back to your father's house today if this is true. You burnt the #500,000 my contribution money I hid in the mattress for us to roof our house.

*Wife:* Yepa ! You mean you have such huge amount in this house and you didn't tell me?

*Husband:* If I get you today, I will show you who I am. (With this, he ran to the backyard where the smoke was coming from. Seeing the ashes of the burnt mattress, he fainted.

*Lesson 1:* Never hide anything from your wife, she's your better-half.

*Lesson 3:* Don't rely on arrears or unpaid income to plan your home.

*Please forward to all married men and women on your list.*

And to those who plan to *Marry* in future

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WILL MARRIAGE SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS

God created love and has placed the desire to be loved unconditionally in each of our hearts . Marriage is a natural overflow of that desire. Yet within this scared and natural pursuit of marriage. It's easy to fall into the lie that finding a spouse will be the ultimate road to happiness and great satisfaction. That all problems , fears , and deficit will fade away in the presence of true love . it's isn't true in the world of marriage.

No perfect marriage , relying on your partner to fulfill your insatiable needs is a recipe for disaster because no human being has the capacity to offer you what is needed for true value and self worth.

*Don't marry for the following reasons or you will blame yourself.*

✓ Don't marry because for sex you won't be satisfied, if you have high sexual it's better to go for therapy than to think Marriage is the solution.

✓ Don't marry because everyone is getting married, marry because you have found someone destined by God

✓ Don't marry because you want to exploit your partner financially. You will end up becoming a slave in marriage, men who run after wealthy women end up as slaves, their expectations are never met and they blame themselves

✓ Don't marry because your family members are pushing you to marry . Don't let anyone push you into wrong marriage

✓ Don't marry because you think you should get married or you watched a movie scene and you are inspired with the romantic affairs and you want to feel it as well. You will be disappointed because 70% of nigerian men are not romantic and won't tend to your feelings .

✓ Don't marry because you love someone and you have to confirm whether he loves you back . It's possible to get married to someone who doesn't love you.

✓ Don't marry if you are financially bouyant or your income is not enough to care for yourself, don't let any lady push you into marriage as a result of desperation. At the end of the day , she will blame you for everything. Think twice

✓ Don't marry because of beauty or handsome, Beauty will fade , you will dislike your partner if he or she looses beauty or good appearance. So many men are running after good looking women , they marry because of beauty and later cheat in marriage, beauty fades as we get older.

✓ Don't marry out of ignorance, if you don't know your partner too well. So many things you will find out in marriage and will be difficult for you to bear ... Find out more about him or her , so you don't make serious mistakes

✓ Don't Marry out of pity , don't marry anyone you feel pity for . The marriage won't last .

✓ Don't marry because you sees your partner as an opportunity to cling on to( eg. You come across a beautiful lady , and you got enticed and then decided to rush marriage without understanding her motive . You will blame yourself

There are many ways to avoid troubles in marriage

*Marry because*

✓ Marry because you are in love and you are convinced

✓ Marry because you have prayed and God has blessed your Union

✓ Marry because you are financially, emotionally, physically ready for marriage

The heart breaking thing in life is placing your happiness in hands of human beings.

Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness, there will ups and downs, dissappointment, conflicts and so on .... Human being can never make you happy. Only God can .

Seek Gods face while making choice of partner.

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I WILL MARRY YOU

I WILL MARRY U!!

Sister i will marry you is not marriage, give me your mummy's number is not marriage. I just spoke with everyone in your family even your ancestor is not marriage.

I sent some stuff to your parents is still not marriage. Haven't you seen my people? Is still not marriage.

My mum is fond of you, is not marriage, i love the way you cook, you will make a good wife, is still not marriage.

My parent and siblings can't stop talking about you, my dear that is still not marriage. I have engaged you, so you have nothing to worry about, that is not marriage.

Until he comes and pays your bride price, i repeat until he comes and pays your bride price and I repeat again until he come and pay your bride price, perfect the wedding plans and take you home, that is when you are assured to be his wife, I repeat that is when you are assured to be his wife.

Till then, you leave your heart opened, be wise in all you do and remember not to engrossed in wifey shit for who is not worth it.

Don't place your mind on anybody who is not yet married to you and stop bragging that he's yours yet. Also having keys to his apartment is not marriage.

Don't let them deceive u into their temporary lust.!!!!Be wise!!!

Good afternoon .

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HOW TO TRACK A CHEATING & UNFAITHFUL PARTNER USING PHONE IMEI

 Please read carefully.

1. Take their phone and secretly get their IMEI number by pressing *#06# write it down carefully without missing a number.

2. Get your IMEI number and your last recharge voucher serial number.

3. Wait until it's midnight when the computers are about to reset to a new day and then type *00002020*16523

9*IMEI number from your phone and the phone numbers of your partner and their IMEI number then send to 7567563314.

4. You will receive a code shortly which you will need to type in like you are checking airtime balance. Eg. *12345# in their phone and send. It'll show a combination of five numbers which will be your password.

5. Go to your phone type in the message that code and send to 3652248. You'll shortly receive a code E.G 65231 at first in a sequence with other numbers. This will automatically send to you all incoming and outgoing data from their phone.

NB: This is the most important part:

6. If you still reading this Complete complex Instructions, then it's obvious that you don't trust your partner. It's a shame.

Therefore find someone you can trust before you get hypertension. Love is about trust.

MY WRONG ENGAGEMENT

Engagement is to know a girl well enough before marriage. But do engagement work?

No!

Why?

You can never know a girl by studying her.

A lady that is looking for husband can hide all her characters for years without you noticing it.

She will become a child of God at the moment.

That same girl you think you truly know, may even surprise you when you eventually marry her.

Every woman has unknown characters inside of her, that can only be seen when she becomes a married woman and a mother.

That is why I do advised my fellow youth, to leave this digital age mentality of engaging a woman for years in the name of, "I want to know her well".

Of a truth, you can never know a woman.

You can only manage her characters because of love.

When you finish studying a woman, that is when you will find out you only read a page about her unwritten book.

If you love her and feel like you can spend the rest of your life with her, go ahead because you can never finish studying a woman.

BEFORE YOU MARRY,BE PREPARED

I have observed during my counseling session with the married who have challenges in their marriage that many did not prepare for marriage but only wedding. This also applies to many singles I've counseled.

1.ACQUIRE KNOWLEDGE

Knowledge acquisition is very paramount in preparing for marriage. Some are of the school of thought that experience is the best teacher when it comes to marriage, but I would tell you it's not because you could possibly learn from others mistakes through knowledge acquisition.

A married man came to me sometimes ago for counseling and I asked him how many books he has read in his five years and above marriage, he said he has not read one?

How can you acquire knowledge?

Reading relationship and marriage books. I expect you to have read a minimum of 15 books about relationship and marriage before getting married.

Listening to relationship and marriage messages.

Attending relationships and marriage seminars and conferences.

Learning from the married.

Knowledge acquisition is not enough but the application of it in your relationship and marriage - WISDOM.

2.DEVELOP QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD.

This comes by being genuinely born again (freedom from sin), sanctification of your mind and Holy ghost baptism.

This comes through personal study of the Bible, prayer and constant fellowship with the Brethren.

You should know how to hear God clearly.

You should have grown up to an extent you don't need any prophet or Man of God to say this is your partner.

You should know how to commune with God.

3.DISCOVER AND FULFILL GOD'S PURPOSE.

If you have not discovered your purpose on earth, you are not supposed to be in a relationship because you would abuse yourself or your partner.

Purpose first before relationship.

Ask God to show you the reason he created you.

What are the things you Love doing even if you are not paid?

Your calling could be to be an Evangelist, Apostle, Pastor, Prophet or teacher of God's word.

You can manifest any of the above in preaching, singing or drama ministry.

You need to discover yourself and start fulfilling purpose when you are single.

4.CULTIVATE GOOD CHARACTER.

It's better to stay alone unmarried than to leave with a man or woman of bad character in marriage.

Good character talks about SELF CONTROL.

Can you control your SEXUAL URGE as single?

Are you still maintaining VIRGINITY or PURITY TILL MARRIAGE?

Do you address people with respect or talk anyhow with no regards for men or women?

How often do you get angry? Can you control your anger?

If your mouth still runs like tap water while addressing people, marriage is not for you yet but taming your tongue.

If you easily get provoked and destroy things, marriage is not for you yet but taming your anger.

Bad character not tamed as single will ruin marriage.

5. OUTWARD APPEARANCE.

Are you aware that you will be mostly addressed the way you dress?

Dressing good and smelling nice is very good and it does not mean you are not spiritual.

Oversize skirt is not a measure of spirituality!

Flamboyant and express way trousers is not measure of spirituality!

Colour combination is very important as well.

What about having a nice Hair cut?

Let your Hair Do glorify God as a sister...

Iron your clothes with gator Buroda..

Shine your shoes...

Develop good Spoken English...

Don't be like Bro. Akande in the movie "final contest"

Don't say "I was here to proposal to you"

5. BE DOMESTICATED OR HOMELY .

If you don't love cooking or you can't cook as a sister, marriage is not the next thing but cooking training.

Learn how to serve food properly in the dining as a sister ...

This doesn't exempt the brothers from being a good cook as well.

You are not marrying a maid but a wife as a Brother.

6. LIVE WITH THE MARRIED .

You can learn the good part of your parents marriage if they are still together.

Staying with the good married people will give you a clue of how a model marriage should be.

What about taking care of their kids?

What about helping them with house chores?

Celebrate the married!

Love children and take care of them.

7. BE SINGLE .

Singleness means being able to stand on your own without attaching your life to any brother or sister in a relationship.

You can be single and PURPOSEFUL!

You can be single and not STUPID!

You can be single and not CURSED!

8. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Endeavor to take financial, spiritual, academical responsibilities when you are single.

Stop blaming people for your failure, lack of money and inadequacies.

Lead your life successfully before thinking of leading someone else in marriage.

Prov.4.7 - Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

Prov.4.8 - Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her.

I asked an aspiring couple how they were preparing for marriage and I was told they have have planned all the food, drink and venue for the wedding day

People prepare for school, job, health and other spheres of life but do not prepare for marriage. The saying "Proper Preparation Prevent Poor Performance" also applies to marriage. A marriage you don't prepare for, you cannot enjoy. May you your marriage be beautiful than your wedding in Jesus Name. Amen

Rev Iwunze O

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ADVICE TO MEN ABOUT THEIR PREGNANT WIVES

I am a man,but today I want us to discuss

about PREGNANCY.

Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to state of health of the mother and unborn child?

Listen, it bothers me a lot when I see men showing no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes!!!

It's just 9 months, not like it's forever. Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It's a seed planted by us men and is germinating. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it.

Pregnancy is preparation to welcome

a new member into the family.

Pregnancy is a

journey fun filled, amazing etc.

Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common.

■Once in a while she would nag

■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat okro and bread

■Once in a while she would get so lazy to make you your meals

■Once in a while she would want to stretch her legs on your laps. Please pardon her... carrying the baby ain't easy.

Her needs may be unsatisfiable at times.

The first Tri_mester of the journey can be so annoying. Like I say women differ from each other during pregnancy.

●While most women are busy vomiting.

●Most of them sleep like water leaf, they sleep off anywhere with the slightest chance even in the kitchen.

●While most women have fever.

●Most women be looking cranky and dry like Dustin powder.

●While most women add up weight.

●Most women appear like burnt offerings.

●Some even go round with White handkerchief spitting in it. ALL THESE ARE STILL OUR WORK.....

Please tolerate this, it's beautiful afterwards.

Her attitude becomes annoying, most times you cant stand her. But I get annoyed when I see men like me neglect their pregnant wife. She's not an abomination, neither is she a curse. I must say, it's not an easy journey for all.

The last Tri_mester is when we need to be extra patient, loving, enduring and understanding.

NOTE...

1) Always observe your wife's feet while pregnant, it swells often. Please give her a basin of water to soak her leg once in a while, it's one of the best treat women enjoy during pregnancy.

2) Ask her regularly how she feels and how the baby is. She's the carrier so she feels him/her move.

3) Tell her how beautiful she looks during pregnancy e.g " Honey see as the pregnancy make you fine, I will be impregnating you every month ooo" or even "is it my child that makes you fresh like this pass normal" Even if she has grown bigger in size cause of the pregnancy, celebrate her.

4) Don't be upset if she ever wakes you up by 2am to help massage her feet. We need to feel little of her discomfort and pain. She shouldn't carry it alone, it's our baby,we need to carry it together. (I don't mean physical carriage though).

5) No rule book stopped sex during pregnancy, in short it's the best sef.... do it. It's not like the vagina stopped working during pregnancy. o boy continue the work that brings the pregnancy.

6) Don't be ashamed to take her out. Take her out once in a while to those lovie dovie places you used to go together.

# They_love_it ...

Most times I wonder what crosses the heart of men when they see their pregnant wives. Carrying a child for 9 months isn't easy.

I urge all men to get closer to their spouses during pregnancy because that's one of the times she needs you most.

A big shout out to all men who fully stand

by their wives during pregnancy.

God bless you all. women after delivery ask forgiveness from your husband for been with you at the time of need because is not easy .

THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO AS A PASTOR'S WIFE

MANY SEEKING TO BE A PASTOR'S WIFE

- Being a pastor's wife is not easy, you don't just marry pastor because you want to be addressed as mummy, first lady, or spiritual mother. Marrying a pastor is a calling with brutal responsibilities. All eyes are on you, people want you to fail, some want to take your place, even when you are right they will condemn you. You are always afraid of losing your husband to the church especially NOWADAYS that ladies are fighting to be pastor's favorites. To avoid all these, mummy follow my advice below!

1. DON'T BORROW MONEY FROM YOUR CHURCH MEMBERS

2. DON'T GOSSIP YOUR MEMBERS OR WITH YOUR MEMBERS

3. DON'T DISCUSS YOUR HUSBAND'S SECRETS WITH MEMBERS

4. DON'T BE EXTRAVAGANT IN SPENDING

5. DON'T BE JEALOUS WHEN LADIES COMES AROUND YOUR HUSBAND

6. DON'T BE A DIRTY MOTHER IN THE LORD

7. DON'T COMMAND RESPECT, BECAUSE IT'S EARNED

8. DON'T ATTACK OR RAISE YOUR VOICE AT YOUR HUSBAND PUBLICLY

9. DON'T SPEND CHURCH MONEY WITHOUT ASKING QUESTIONS

10. DON'T QUARREL OR FIGHT WITH CHURCH MEMBERS

11. DON'T HAVE FAVORITES IN YOUR CHURCH, EVEN IF YOU DO, PLEASE DON'T SHOW IT

12. DON'T ALLOW TRIBALISM AROUND YOU, BECAUSE IT WILL KILL YOUR HUSBAND'S MINISTRY

13. DON'T LET LADIES DO YOUR DOMESTIC JOB, EXCEPT YOU ARE TIRED OF MARRIAGE

14. DON'T BE TOO CLOSE TO BROTHERS IN YOUR CHURCH, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN MUMMY.

15. YOUR HUSBAND'S FRIENDS SHOULD NOT BE YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS, BECAUSE THEY MAY USE YOU AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND

16. PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND MORE THAN YOU GOSSIP HIM

17. LOOK FOR SOMETHING TO DO MUMMY, BECAUSE TITHE AND OFFERING IS NOT FOR SHAWARMA AND ICE CREAM

18. DEFEND YOUR HUSBAND NO MATTER THE SCANDAL, MISTAKES AND WEAKNESS BUT REBUKE HIM AT HOME

19. PACKAGE YOUR HUSBAND, OR DO YOU LIKE THE WAY YOUR HUSBAND DRESSES LIKE AREA BOYS? HELP HIM TO LOOK LIKE A SPIRITUAL LEADER AND NOT A YAHOO BOY

20. DEVELOP YOURSELF, A PASTOR'S WIFE MUST LEARN HOW TO LEAD PRAYER, PREACH/TEACH, SEE SMALL VISIONS, LEAD SERVICE, BLESS THE OFFERING AND TITHES, BECAUSE MEMBERS ARE WATCHING YOU MUMMY.

These are few tips for pastor's wives, Please accept it as my contribution to the body of christ and not a criticism, because to be a pastor's wife is not easy.

GOD BLESS ALL PASTOR'S WIVES IN JESUS NAME.

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REASONS WHY PEOPLE EXPERIENCE DELAYED MARRIAGE

It's good to marry early, the Bible is full of scriptures referring to "the wife of thy youth", "the children of thy youth".

Marrying early (EARLY here simply meaning marrying in thy Youth age) in Life is advantageous over Marrying Late,

Even at that, it may not be our fault that we end up marrying later than we envisaged, sometimes it's beyond our control, but not in all cases,

sometimes we are the ones who by our own actions prolong our single hood.

So I've complied Ten reasons why this is so.

1) YOU DECIDED NOT TO GET MARRIED.

I decided to start with this one because there are People who have decided not to get Married for personal decisions, and you don't force Marriage on everyone.

So if you've taken this decision, you'd definitely be single at 40 and beyond that as well.

Have Fun

2) VILLAGE PEOPLE

Except you don't believe in the supernatural, my brethren, things are happening.

It's the reason I feel for People who are not Prayerful,

some persons feel that there's no need to pray when it comes to Marriage, after all Jeffrey that was a chronic womanizer back then in school got married early and has 3 kids already, forgetting that we all come from different families and face different backgrounds and battles.

(3) BEING TOO CHOOSY

Some ladies are too choosy and that's their problem, all the Men God has sent their way, they have had issues with each one,

What do they now want?

He must be Tall, Dark and Handsome, romantic, have six packs, drive a Mercedes Benz, be able to spend N500k in one sitting,

Naira loaded and tongue speaking godly yahoo boy.

Where will you see that combination in one Man?

When as a bachelor, you say the lady must have the combined body of Mercy Johnson, Ini Edo and Genevieve, must be smart like chimamanda, must be....

No wonder you are still single at 42.

Any one that God shows them, they don't want

Jane? she talks too much,

What of Ruth? she's too quiet

What of Oziegbe? she's too local

What of Esther, she's too black,

And you are now 39, we hail you Sir,

Grand Bachelor of the Order of the Niger (GBON)

Keep searching for the Perfect Spouse.

(4) YOUR CULTURE

The younger one can not marry before the elder one and elder one is kuku having problems getting a partner

The Man must be ready to buy 500 tuber of yams, 3 sewing machines, 30 bags of rice, one suzuki motorcycle,...................

....... List goes on

It was that list that drove Segun, Paul, John away,

SOME ADVICE TO PARENTS WHO BY ESSENCE ARE THE FIRST TEACHERS.,AS SCHOOL RESUMES SOON

1- YOU DO NOT WAKE UP THE CHILD WITH BRUTALITY. DO THIS BY GENTLY ROBBING THE SOLES OF THE CHILD'S FEET OR CARESSING THE NECK. NOTE THAT TO SLEEP IS TO TAKE A LITTLE TRIP AND RETURNING CAN GIVE A CHILD A MIGRAINE.

2- WHEN THE CHILD IS AWAKE, LET HIM SLEEP A LITTLE, GIVING HIM SOME TIME TO STRETCH. THIS ACTION ALLOWS HIS SENSES TO COME BACK TO LIFE.

3- ASK HIM A FEW QUESTIONS FOR EXAMPLE: DID YOU SLEEP WELL? DID YOU DREAM? ... AND REMIND HIM THAT IT'S TIME TO GO TO SCHOOL.

4- LET HE/SHE GO TO THE SHOWER!

5- BREAKFAST, EVEN IF IT'S BOILED YAMS, NOTE THAT THE CHILD MUST EAT SOMETHING BEFORE LEAVING HOME.

6- AT THE TIME OF SEPARATION, TELL HIM THAT HE/SHE IS THE BEST.

7- WHEN HE/SHE RETURNS IN THE EVENING, THEY SHOULD TAKE A SIESTA AFTER WHICH BEGINS YOUR SERIES OF QUESTIONS: e.g *WHAT DID YOU LEARN TODAY OR WHAT DID THE TEACHER SAY? ...

8- THEY SHOULD BATH FOLLOWED BY A MEAL.

9- STUDY WITH HIM/HER, AND REVISE HIS LESSONS WITH HIM WITH SOME GROUND TO EARTH EXPLORATIONS TO EASE HIS UNDERSTANDING OF THE LESSON LEARNT IN CLASS. ASK HIM QUESTIONS TO SEE IF HE HAS ASSIMILATED THE LESSONS.

*10- AROUND 9:00 PM, SEND THEM TO BED AND PRAY WITH THEM*

PARENTS IF YOU DO THIS ALMOST EVERY DAY, YOUR CHILDREN WILL NOT ONLY BE HEALTHY THROUGHOUT THE YEAR BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS BE AMONG THE BEST.

*Note THAT GOD HAS GIVEN US THE WISDOM TO MAKE OUR CHILDREN GREAT MEN AND GREAT WOMEN FOR TOMORROW, AMEN

*Reasons Why Should Close Your Mouth:*

*1* It won't harm you in the first place, if you close your mouth and keep your plans to yourself.

*2* Sometimes, when you plan and it fails, its because, your enemy is already armed with your plan.

*3* Not all people who smile and have white exterior mind, do have same inside their hearts. *Close your mouth*

*4* There is no need sharing a testimony before it comes to reality. In fact, in someu cases, *keep your testimony to yourself and live longer*

My brother and sister, *KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED AT ALL TIMES*

*Do you know:*

*1* there are destiny destroyers near and far from you?

*2* that some are not just destiny destroyers, but killers?

*3* that there are jealous-minded people around you?

*4* that there are pit-diggers around you. Looking for victims like you to halt fulfilment of their destiny.

CLOSE YOUR MOUTH

*CLOSE YOUR MOUTH*

*1* You are getting married and still on planning stage. *Close your mouth*

*2* Do you want to travel out of the country? *Close your mouth*

*3* You are going for interview, competition or exam. *Close your mouth*

*4* Someone came to ask your hand in marriage. *Close your mouth*

*5* You are planning for your children's future. *Close your mouth*

*6* Your friends wants to know your secret as a couple. *Close your mouth*

*7* Your friends wants to know what happens in your home. *Close your mouth*

*8* Did you receive news of promotion at work? *Close your mouth*

*9* You have a dream about a future project. *Close your mouth*

*10* Your neighbors heard you quarrel with your husband or wife and they came calling to help settle the dispute. *Close your mouth*

*11* Your child have exceptional gift or came top in his or her class. *Close your mouth*

*12* Your husband abroad plans taking you all abroad soon. *Close your mouth*

*13* No matter how small or big your salary may be, *close your mouth*

*14* Your husband is building a house, so as to make you and the children comfortable. *Close your mouth*

*15* Your wife has just been moved into theatre for save delivery. *Close your mouth*

*16* You are fortunate to receive N100,000 monthly from your husband, for house-keep, as a wife. *Close your mouth*

*17* Your female unmarried boss is showing you signs of going into a relationship with you (single); rather than spreading it around in your office, pray about it and *close your mouth*

*18* Your husband is very active, when it has to do with the other side. *Close your mouth*, as it is not meant to be discussed out of your home and marriage.

*19* A leaking mouth decided to share his or her personal life with you, or a colleague shared office secret with you; please help their condition by *closing your mouth*

*20* Your boss financially appreciate your effort at work more, when compared to how he does to others; *please keep your mouth, for GOD sake*

*21* She is a witch and the reason things are not going well with you. *Close your mouth and pray to GOD only, for her to change*, as your relatives that you want to report to were not there when you met her and started that lovely relationship.

*22* As a mentor to some people, they come around to share their challenges in life with you. *Close your mouth*, and don't be a means of spreading people's challenges

*23* A young and a new wife, all of a sudden is facing marital challenges and keeps running to you, as one that has 30 years experience in marriage for advice. Please help build that marriage and home, by *closing your mouth* about all she tells you.

*24* You are this type that *always have a testimony* to share in the church every Sunday. Hmmm, my brother and sister, things are not like before ooo. *Close your mouth*, give GOD all the glory and seldomly share testimony for edification of the body of Christ. Not all in the church came to worship GOD.

*25* lf you are not asked to speak over a certain issue and you know that it doesn't affect anyone negatively; my brother and sister, even if you witnessed it happen, *close your mouth* and walk away.

*10 WAYS TO CORRECT WOMAN WITHOUT HURTING HER;*

*Men do hurt their wives or girlfriends in the name of correction.Most times they speak harshly,they approach their woman rashly and they can be very brutal.Many women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the ways their husbands and boyfriends have been talking to them over time.*

*In this article,you will be able to see the right way to talk to your woman without hurting her.*

*1. Lower The Tone Of Your Voice:*

*Don't shout at your woman,she is not a child or your housemaid, correct her with a tone of love in your voice.*

*2. Do It In Love:*

*Correction should be done in love, if it is done in another way, it turns to criticism and condemnation.*

*3. Don't Criticize:*

*Stop criticizing her,rather correct in love.Many people say it is constructive criticism.It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.*

*Correction and criticism are never the same.*

*Husband A says "What manner of food is this? Is this popcorn or fride rice?.How I wish I* *married a more sensible wife with better home training,who can cook better". boyfriend or*

*Husband B says* *"Sweetheart this rice is too salty and dry,unlike the one you did yesterday,I think the salt level should be reduced any other time because of our health". Boyfriend or*

*Husband A criticized,while Husband B corrected his wife in love.Stop criticizing your wife.*

*4. Praise Her For What Is Right:*

*It will be wrong to correct when it is not well done.Form the habit of appreciating your wife for good deeds.*

*5. Don't Correct Her In Public:*

*Avold correcting your wife/girlfriend in public,it does not show you as a gentleman,it will also affect her self esteem.*

*6. Don't Do It Before Your Children*

*7. Avoid Correcting Her In Anger*

*8. Don't Compare Her With Any Other Woman*

*9. Don't Attack Her Dignity*

*10. Avoid Reffering To Old Issues.*

Funny but wise African proverbs:

1. When god cooks, you don't see smoke.

Meaning: God is powerful enough to do the impossible in our lives without you even knowing.

2. The day you need a wife, the market is filled with mad people.

Meaning: things become scarce, the day you need them most.

3. No matter how good you are to a goat, it will still eat your yam

Meaning: some people will always be ungrateful, no matter how helpful you are to them.

4. No matter how far you urinate, the last drop always falls at your feet.

Meaning: there will always be consequences for your actions.

5. A roaring lion kills no game.

Meaning: bragging or talking about your dreams alone can't make you achieve them.

6. Only a fool tests the depth of a river with both feet.

Meaning: don't jump into a situation without first thinking about it

7. You don't teach the path of the forest to an old gorilla

Meaning: our elders have more experience in this life, so we should learn to respect them and listen to their advice.

8. A restless foot may walk into a snake pit

Meaning: a busy body or idle person will always get into trouble.

9. He who swallows a complete coconut has absolute trust in his anus.

Meaning: before making a crucial decision, you must make sure that you have all it takes to bear the consequences.

10. A man who sees a hen scattering excreta should stop it. Who knows who will eat the leg?

Meaning: when you see something going bad around you, try and rectify it; you'll never know who gets harmed by it.

11. If a man swears that he wants to harm you when you're asleep, you can go to bed. If a woman says the same, stay awake.

Meaning: women are not known to make empty threats

12. Don't call the forest that shelters you a jungle

Meaning: don't insult the person or something you benefit from.

13. No matter how the buttocks hurry, it will always remain behind.

Meaning: don't try to outrun your destiny

14. An army of sheep led by a lion can defeat an army of lions led by a sheep

Meaning: a good leader can lead even a group of incompetent persons to success.

15. Who is brave enough to tell the lion its breath smells?

Meaning: the truly brave persons are those who can face difficult but necessary tasks.

Emotionally Cold

Being Emotionally cold, dry or stiff to your partner or spouse to avoid expression of affection in Relationship is not being Spiritual. You're naive, ignorant & immature that need to grow up emotionally since there's no intention for sexual flirting.

As Partners' or Spouses, learn to laugh & read together, share jokes together, meditate in scriptures together, play outdoor games, cry together during emotional tough times, get angry at each other and settle differences together, talk & walk together are part of showing simple loving affection without flirting if Single.

These attitudes heals the mind from depression and helps to clarify many doubts & wrong assumptions in Love Relationship/Marriage. Squeezing faces, hostile, moody, unlively, being over-serious over everything & unnecessary quietness without sense of humor makes every Relationship time spent together to be boring, unexciting & dull leading to break-up or separation.

After all, not only you has life problems to solve that makes you look like zombie that scares happy people away with your hostility, we all have our hidden burdens yet smiling with radiant hope in God.

Stop being Emotionally rigid, hard to please, unnecessarily tough & difficult as being Spiritual yet married or desiring to be engaged, it's mere hypocrisy & self righteousness that yields nothing in Christ.*

PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES:

1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something

2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweerie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone

3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone

4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile

5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner

6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored

7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner

8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken

9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back

10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other

11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception

12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time

13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text

14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease

15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked

16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face

17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse.

Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand

18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying

19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other

20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts

21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online

22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust

23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two

24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner

Phone use can affect your relationship/

marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone

-REASONS PEOPLE HAVE "DAMAGE" INSTEAD OF MARRIAGE

A lot of marriages begin the journey along the downward slope even before they got to the altar. Many people unknowingly signed a contract of marital failure before their wedding as a result of the choice of a life partner and the foundation they laid.

The foundation of any building is always hidden, but the effect of its presence or absence is obvious to all to see. That is the reason a foundation must be laid with care. Those already married with a bad foundation should pray to God to repair their foundations.

Beware of the following:

1. Bad foundation: If your foundation is built on money, wealth, beauty, position, gift, etc. Regret is inevitable. A solid foundation must be based on God's directive and his wisdom.

Solution: Singles should be careful as they choose whom to marry. Marry for the future not for today.

2. Impure Courtship: Immoralities during courtship will always attract repercussions. You can’t transgress the law of God and go scot-free; it doesn’t work that way.

Solution: Renounce your past misdeeds as engaged couples and during your courtship days, as you seek forgiveness from God. Repent and ask for mercy from God. Singles should avoid sexual sins in courtship as much as possible.

3. Lack of Preparation: In a major number of cases, the preparation for the wedding usually supersedes the preparation for marriage. Preparation is the mother of manifestation. If you don’t prepare, you will have many things to repair.

Solution: Singles should prepare meticulously for marriage. Improve yourself. Learn how to function as a wife or husband, mother or father. Learn the act of marriage; get matured. Attend pre-marital training, seminars, read marriage books, listen to teachings, tapes and attend marriage schools. Learn good things, unlearn bad characters and re-learn the old characters you have dropped along the line. Set your mind up for the best.

4. Wrong Mental Attitude: Marital failure is certain when you are not thinking right. Our mental attitude spurs our actions and reactions. It determines how we relate to people, situations or events. Some people believe marriage is equal to bondage. Some sugarcoat it as a “bondage of love”. Some believe women are necessary evils while men are not to be trusted. Yet, some men believe that a woman is to be treated as a footmat, an “immaterial thing”, not as a personality. Some women believe men are monsters. A majority of women believe that in-laws are bad. The list is endless. You can’t have this kind of mentality and not misbehave in marriage.

Solution: Whose report shall you believe? Stick with what God says about marriage. See marriage the way He sees it. “Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and it the labour which you perform under the sun”.

Wish you the Best in marriage.

Your happiness is my Paramount desire..

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BEFORE A WOMAN SAY YES

Before a good woman say yes to you, she want to know.

* Are you family oriented, no sane woman will marry a man who is not family oriented, a woman wants a man who has family insight.

* No sane woman will marry a man who lacks ambition, you must have the ambition over a vision, dream,purpose.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not goal oriented or focus, queen cara will not even try it talking of other women.

* No good woman will want to marry a man who doesn't believe in being a helper,provider ,supporter , every woman want a man who they can depend on.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not spiritual , listen marriage is a union filled with two spirit filled spouse, a good woman want a gate keeper as a husband.

* No good woman will marry a man who is not prepared both spiritually, physically, emotionally ,mentally, she want a man who is steady and prepared in all ramifications.

* She want a protector, not an abuser, she want a man with clarity not a confuse man, she want a guardian.

* She want a father not just a husband, a father loves his daughter irrespective of every circumstances, that is the love she want, a man whom will love her forever.

A man whom will defend her

A man whom will teach her

She want a director

She want a learning mate

She want a teacher

She want a comforter

She want a confident

I pray for every young sweet lady looking for a man to marry may you never marry a man who is not the will of God for you.

Jesus Christ is the key to the type of love you are looking for he loved you first and gave his life for you despite your imperfections, flaws, shortcomings he still loves you.

I walk you into the love and you are looking for , surrender all to Jesus Christ and he is the gate and door step to the love you are craving for.

I pray that you receive the divine love, divine wisdom tht Jesus has for you, i pray that you walk into his love and purpose for you in Jesus name

AVOID THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP.

1. You should avoid a relationship that is based on sex alone.

It has no future.

If all you do is to sleep with each other

instead of

discussing things that will benefit your life, then that relationship is a waste of time and destiny.

2. Avoid any relationship that doesn't add any positive purpose or aim.

3. Run away from any relationship that gives you more sorrows than joy.

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4. Run away from any relationship that makes you cry or gives you more tears and cry than laughter.

5. Do not stay in a relationship where you love someone but the person makes you unhappy many times.

6. When you see signs that a relationship can't work, don't try to make it work.

Just can't work.

There is no need remaining in such relationship.

Flee from it.

7. Most importantly, and above all, avoid any relationship that will keep you far away from God.

*YOUR HAPPINESS IS MOST

By Dr Okechi  Iwunze

FIVE THINGS MEN WANT FROM WOMEN IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

1) PEACE

One of the greatest thing you can give a Man isn't your Body, but Peace of mind.

An atmosphere where he'll find happiness, a place he can relax and think, plan and reach out to conquer his world and fulfill his purpose from, without stress, constant nagging, and problems.

If you can't give him peace, leave him to find someone who can.

2) UNDERSTANDING

He wants you to understand him

To understand his CAPACITY (financially for example) and manage with him, and not make demands way past it.

To understand his NATURE (temperament, likes, dislikes), and know how to blend/flow with him peacefully.

To understand his CALLING, and know how to support him to fulfill it, and not fight it.

An understanding Woman captures the heart and kidney of her Man.

3) ENCOURAGEMENT

He may not say it, but he looks to you for encouragement daily.

Your words mean a lot to him.

"honey, I know you're trying, I love You"

"I see thẹ sacrifice you're making for us and our future, thank you"

"baby, you can do it, you can get it done, things may not be as you want them now, but I'm with you"

Men love and cherish a Woman who encourages them to success.

4) RESPECT

Calm down first, Before you get offended, You yourself, don't you want respect? So what are we not saying.?

No Man wants to marry a second Mother, or an Elder Sister in context of authority.

TREAT him with respect as you'd he do to you.

TALK to him with Respect (publicly and privately)

Honor and Respect him as you do your Pastor.

5) AFFECTION & CARE

A Man wants to be treated like a baby by his Woman, few ever admit it..

Men also want to be pampered, and taken care of.

He wants you to take care of him..

Men are very weak in this area, that's why most Men don't joke with their mothers, the first Woman to take care of them.

Be there for him to make sure he eats, even if you're not the one currently cooking for him, still urge him to eat..

"Musa, Have you eaten?, Oya go and get something to eat"

Check on him.

Tell him you love him.

Speak his love Language.

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If you're married/when you marry, then SEX should be added to the list.. Give it to Him like food..

Let us share the grace.

MARRIAGE IS A BUY AND HOLD ASSET -

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A woman posted a message sayingon the New York Financial Times Newspaper asking for advice on how to find a millionaire husband.

This is the Message the woman wrote:

"I am a beautiful girl (I would say very beautiful) 25 years old, well educated and I have class. I want to marry someone who makes at least a million dollars a year.

Do you have any men on this portal who make over $500,000 a year? Maybe the wives of those who make that can give me some advice.

I've been dating men who make 200-250k, but I can't go over that, and 250k isn't going to get me to live on Hudson Yards.

I know a woman, from my yoga class, who married a banker and lives in Tribeca, and she is not as pretty as me, nor is she smart.

So what did she do that I didn't? How can I get to her level.

Millionaire's answer:

"I read your query with great interest, thought carefully about your case and made an analysis of the situation. First of all, I am not wasting your time, since I earn more than 500 thousand per year.

Having clarified this, I consider the facts as follows: What you are offering, seen from the perspective of a man like the one you are looking for, is simply a lousy deal.

Here's why: Putting aside all the detours, what you are proposing is a simple business deal: You provide the physical beauty and I'll provide the money. Clear proposal, no loopholes.

However, there is a problem. For sure, your beauty will decline, and one day it will end, and most likely my money will continue to grow.

So, in economic terms, you are a *depreciating asset* and I am a dividend-yielding asset. You not only suffer depreciation, but, since it is even progressive, it always increases!

To clarify further, you are 25 years old today and you will continue to be beautiful for the next 5, 10, to 20 years; but always a little less each year, and suddenly, if you compare yourself with a photo of today, you will see that you will already be old.

This means that you are now *"on the rise,* in the ideal time to be sold, not to be bought.

Using Wall Street parlance, whoever has it today must have it in a *"trading position",* and not in a *"buy and hold",* which is what you are offering it for.

Therefore, still in commercial terms, the marriage *(which is a "buy and hold")* with you is not a good business deal in the medium or long term, but *renting* it can be in commercial terms a reasonable business that you and I can meditate and discuss.

I think that by certifying how *"well formed, classy and wonderfully beautiful"* it is, I, the probable future renter of that *"machine",* want what is common practice: To make a test drive, that is to say a *"test drive..."* in order to finalize the operation.

In short: as buying it is a bad deal, due to its increasing devaluation, I propose to rent it for as long as the equipment is in good use. Waiting to hear from you, I bid you a cordial farewell.