DO NOT DO THIS DURING SEX...✍🏾

1. Looking at time when you are having sex gives the other an impression that you are wasting their time!

2. Acting annoyed when the other partner takes long to get an orgasm. Instead help them to reach there if you already have.

3. Having an orgasm first, then not bothering if your partner should have an orgasm or not. That is pure selfishness do something to make them reach there too!

4. Sneezing or coughing on partners face. If you must, look aside no need to splash someone with your saliva!

5. Making reference to a technique an ex used to do great to you, that is unhealthy comparison and will ruin that moment. IF you feel someone is not giving you well as you wish, address them not making references.

6. Faking that you are enjoying sex, making all dramatic movements, dramatic moans etc. until someone can just tell you are faking.

7. Being too silent until someone feels like he is a mortician. At least make some sound when it feels good.

8. Being a passive participant and expecting your partner to do everything to you. Makes someone feel like a doctor operating a half dead patient!

9. Making disapproval faces when not satisfied. You better say it since your partner is not a psychic.

10. Not telling your partner you wish to try something new, then going on to try something so strange in bed. Nothing irritates someone than feeling like an experiment. Seek approval beforehand.

11. Calling out the wrong name when the pleasure is at the peak. That is a total deal breaker.

12. Not kissing. Kissing is so intimate to be ignored.

13. Pushing someone’s head towards your sexual organs in order to request for oral sex. Oral sex is a sensitive matter and if someone is not feeling like it, do not force them.

14. Rushing through foreplay, this is totally wrong. Heat up the moment to enjoy more.

15. Farting during sex and appearing like all is normal and usual. It is not!

16. Feeling offended when your partner communicates during sex. Communication will help both of you perfect it, so take it positively whatever feedback you get during sex

HOW TO ASK FOR SEX FROM YOUR SPOUSE...✍️

1. Touch him/her on the stimulating areas to get him/her in the mood. Nipples, neck, back

2. Kiss him/her. Kisses almost always make us think of making love

3. Take showers or baths together. Invite your spouse to the shower, make it a habit. Get playful there, sex will happen

4. Send your spouse naughty messages during the day saying what you will do to him/her. By the time you get home, you both will be in the mood

5. Massage your spouse's body, touch and care arouses your spouse

6. Dress for sex. There are lingerie that you wear that tell your spouse "I want sex. I am feeling sexy"

7. Sleep naked together. The greater and easier the access, the more the sex

8. Treat your spouse well. We get horny when we are near the spouse who treats us well

9. Touch your spouse between the legs. Don't beat around the bush. Lady, take your fingers inside his boxer and stroke his gun to hardness; man, take your fingers inside her panty and rub till she swells. Men love a wife who is sexually aggressive; women love a husband that is hungry for her and unpredictable

10. Whisper naughty things into your spouse's ear. There is something sexy about hearing and feeling your spouse breathing in a horny way

11. Invite your spouse for a sensual, intimate dance. Salsa, slow dance, bump and grind. There is no way you two will be close to each other, body to body and not want to make love. This is why married people need to go out on dates more, go out and find intimacy. Find intimacy in dancing in the house too

12. Strip, tease and seduce your spouse. Whine, kata kiuno, slowly reveal your body

13. Be playful. Lady, take your husband's hands and place them on your butt, blindfold him with your bra. Man, grab her butt as she works, unhook her bra when she least expects it

14. Pose in a seductive way. Lay in bed in a sexual way, lady deliberately bend infront of him in a manner to suggest an invite for doggy style

15. Master a seductive look. Man, your wife gets turned on when you give her a piercing look that says "I want you now. She gets wet when you undress her with your eyes". Lady, pull your husband to you with "Come inside me" eyes

16. Ask for sex unapologetically. Tell your spouse without wasting time, "Sex me"... "I am horny". Stop suffering alone in sexual fire. Sometimes all you have to do is to open your mouth and say, "Sweetheart, let's make love NOW!"

WOMEN'S WORLD

 WOMEN'S WORLD

• When a man has a good car it attracts more ladies to him. When a lady has a good car it repels guys away from her. This is the world we live in.

• A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend. The girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education. This is the world we live in.

• A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend. A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady. This is the world we live in.

• The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him. The older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her. This is the world we live in.

• A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady. A 36 year old lady is tagged too old to get married. This is the world we live in.

• A man looses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he did the right thing, he's being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living.

• A woman looses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, "aaah! so early? Are u sure she wasn't sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband. This is the world we live in.

• A married man is caught in bed with another woman, his wife is asked to forgive him and move on. A married woman is caught in bed with another man, the husband asks her to leave his house. This is the world we live in.

• If a man rises to be the CEO of the company, he got there by hard work and determination. If a woman rises to be the CEO of the company, even if the staff are all women, she is suspected to get there by sleeping with the board members. This is the world we live in.

. Some people will read this post and will neither like nor comment on it and won't even add me for more just because am not yet a CELEBRITY forgetting that they can make me one..

This is the world and the group we live in.

Welcome October!

 

🖊 All those things that hurt you in the past...thoughts you have of what happened, the ones that haunt you like a ghost;  pick just one of those today, but think of a few positive things that came from that event in your life instead of all the negative. Now re-write your story; but this time, make it  magical! ~Amy~ 

Reflection of Love

 Remember that the love that people have for your children, your partner, your friends and your family doesn't take away from you, it is a reflection of the love they have for you.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

"Always assume that what people are saying to you is coming from a place of love,

 "Always assume that what people are saying to you is coming from a place of love,

even when they themselves do not realise it,

for by seeing people as what they could be,

you empower them to become all that they are."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

It’s the illusion of perfection that we fall in love with

 When we are young, it’s the illusion of perfection that we fall in love with. As we age, it’s the humanness that we fall in love with- the poignant stories of overcoming, the depthful vulnerability of aging, the struggles that grew us in karmic stature, the way a soul shaped itself to accommodate its circumstances. With less energy to hold up our armor, we are revealed and, in the revealing, we call out to each other’s hearts. Where before wounds turned us off, they are now revealed as proof that God exists. Where we once saw imperfect scars, we now see evidence of a life fully lived. ~Jeff Brown

When I am feeling low

 “when I am feeling

low

all I have to do is

watch my cats

and my

courage

returns”

There is an island that exists

 There is an island that exists,

Filled with all the gifts we didn't recognize,

All the beauty we didn't see,

All the kindness we didn't feel,

All the love we didn't embrace,

All the wonders we didn't behold,

All the moments we didn't cherish,

All the joys we didn't savour,

And all the blessings we didn't acknowledge.

Fortunate are those who travel there;

For upon one's arrival, it dissolves

and ceases to exist,

For one realizes

that they were there all along.

The path there

Is through gratitude.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Value of private space

 The older I get the more I realize the value of my private space, maintaining a qualitative circle and letting only certain people that deserves to be in there, people that radiate positivity and optimism.

I rather have a small circle of friends that are supportive and well rounded where I can be genuine and honest than a bigger circle that always criticize you and slowly pulling your growth.

Privacy is power. In this world full of people that shows and flex everything I prefer reaching my goals and improving myself into the extent that I can be the best version of myself silently.

I am a decisive element

 I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming. ~Haim G. Ginott

You cannot knock out a woman off a pedestral she built herself

 All the guys come around thinking that they have to put me on a pedestal..

Wine and dine me, impress me with fancy dinners and show me the grandest of times.

They don’t get it at all.

They can’t put me on a pedestal and they can’t buy me the world…

I don’t need it and I don’t want it.

I’ve already done all that myself.

I’ve seen all the games and done the fancy adventure with all the gusto, glitz and glamor one could ever want..

But that’s not what fills my soul and sparks my heart.

Love isn’t about what you can buy me, show me or impress me with..

Those things have never mattered to me.

Show me your heart.

Impress me with your depth.

Buy me a one way ticket to forever.

You can’t put me on a pedestal because I built my own..

So if you’re going to say that I’m a stuck up snob and that I’m high maintenance…

Guess again.

Yes, I have standards.

Yes, I don’t settle for less than I deserve.

And I’ll damned sure never tolerate disrespect, dishonesty or disingenuous behavior.

So you wanna win my heart?

Stop worrying about all the things that all the others made you think were important..

And just be real, passionate and deep.

Talk to me, not at me.

Stop trying to dazzle me or buy my affection and just show me who you really are.

Cry, laugh and walk with me.

Show me the depths of your soul and the fire in your heart.

Cause I promise you one thing:

I’ve worked too hard to get where I am and built this pedestal just how I want it..

And I’m not coming down for just anyone.

Earn it.

You’ll be glad you did.

Some days I'm getting better

And some days I'm just not

Every day's a colander

Straining everything I've got

The memories just keep coming

And some days I don't care

But some days I feel every one

Like ghosts no longer there

I could write each one down

Make poems that would last

But there's no longer any point

Why put myself through that?

I can feel the tears inside my soul

But I never let them fall

It doesn't matter anymore

And it never did, at all

So perhaps I'm getting better

Maybe I'm even healed

Or am I the champ of hide and seek

From everything I feel?

"When I say goodbye,

 "When I say goodbye,

it is never for forever,

it simply means that I farewell you with love

until in another time and space

I meet you once again.

For those we love

We can never truly lose

Only temporarily depart from,

And in the meantime,

you may hold me in your heart

Knowing that in every thought loving thought you think of me

and every loving action you take in memory of me

you remain fully connected to me,

for true love transcends all space and time."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Feeling completely alone

 "If you ever find yourself feeling completely alone in the world and afraid, my child, look up at the stars. Know that throughout history, many human beings once gazed up at the same night sky, stood where you now stand, thought what you now think, and felt what you now feel, wrestling with the same fears, doubts, and insecurities, but just as they made it through and kept on going, so too will you. Let the many stars in the night sky serve as a reminder of the millions of souls that found their way through the darkness and now may illuminate the path forward for you."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

How did you know that you were on the right path?"

 "How did you know that you were on the right path?"

"When my dreams were greater than my doubts,

My joys were greater than my sorrows,

My aspirations were greater than my fears,

My determination was greater than my obstacles,

My hope was greater than my despair,

My trust was greater than my doubt,

My purpose was greater than my uncertainty,

And my faith was greater than my challenges."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

How can we remain optimistic when circumstances are unfavourable to us?

 

It can be challenging to remain positive when we face adversities in life. Still, once we learn to change our perspective, we are not only able to overcome such situations easily but also develop a positive attitude towards life.

When life does not work in our favour, our mind becomes filled with negativity. We start thinking about the worst outcomes, losses and failures. The more negatively we think, the more incompetent we feel and the less likely we are to work on making things favourable.

To stay positive, look at what's working in your favour. This will give you courage. Look at the slightest chance, even the smallest possibility that you see. This will provide you with hope. With courage and hope, believe that you will get through this, and you will find it will all end with positive outcomes.

Love that makes you a softer person

 I hope you find the kind of love that makes you a softer person. The kind of love that makes you want to be a better man or woman, the kind of love that believes in you and supports you, that stands by your side. I hope you find someone who quickly becomes your favourite thing someone who makes the fall less fearful, someone you can't help but choose every single day. Hope you find someone who shows you just how deeply you can feel, just how deeply you can love. I hope you find something real, because nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who loves you back. Nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who builds you a home in their heart.

Yes, I’m different

 Yes, I’m different …

I choose to love without having an agenda.

I choose to forgive when my ego cries out for revenge.

I choose to listen to my heart when it calls my name

I choose to trust even though others have let me down.

I choose to believe that everything happens for our good.

I choose to accept instead of judging others differences.

I choose to communicate instead of shutting down.

I choose to care instead of being comfortably numb.

I choose to laugh rather than take myself too seriously.

I choose to rise up under pressure instead of giving up.

I choose to be different.

༺꧁꧂༻

Own It ..

"Own the fact that you are different

Own that you are a deep feeler and thinker

Own that you're tuned into a different frequency

Own the fact that you sense things others don't

Own the fact that you want to talk about angels,

energy, miracles and spirituality

Own that you're done having meaningless conversations

Own that you're done holding yourself back

Own that you crave freedom to feel the now

It's ok if your family don't get you.

It's ok if your friends don't join you

It's ok if the world judges you

It's ok that you want to dance barefoot upon the earth

and endlessly gaze at the stars

It's ok that you cry over sunsets and chase moonbeams

It's wonderful in fact. It's beautiful

You have come a long way to be who you are

So own it. Own all of it. Love all of you

The world needs you to be exactly as you are

You hold the balance in this crazy world.

Mike Harrigan

LORD, TEACH US TO PRAY

 Wednesday of the Twenty-Seventh Week of Ordinary Time 1 (11 October 2023)

📖Jonah 4:1-11; Ps 86:3-4, 5-6, 9-10 (R.v.15); Luke 11:1-4

🎤LORD, TEACH US TO PRAY (Luke 11:1)

Prayer is the raising up of the mind and heart to God. We pray to adore God, praise and thank him, and for more blessings and graces from him. Prayer also disposes of us to accept the will of God.

In Luke 11:1, Jesus was found by his disciples praying, and they asked him to teach them how to pray. This does not mean that they were not used to praying before. As Jews, they have a system and times for prayer, but Jesus pattern appears different, and they want to learn.

Sometimes, we assume that we pray very well in our own way when we have not learnt to pray at all. Not praying well may push us to move against the will of God. Jonah, for instance, obviously did not understand the will of God for Nineveh, and that is why he was angry that God did not destroy them (cf. Jon 3:1-10).

Are you not going to join the disciples of Jesus in asking him to teach you how to pray?

By the way, I asked myself this important question as a priest, "Does my flock find me a man of prayer and want to pray as much as I do? As parents and leaders in different categories, you need to evaluate yourself. But that reminds us that those who are placed under us look upon us for an example. We must lead them to God.

Lord, teach us to pray well always so that we may overcome all temptations that try to push us into hopelessness, and may our prayers also win favour in your presence. Amen.

Have a grace-filled day ahead. Peace be with you.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY OLOMI

Happy birthday, to you my dearer, today is a special day because it’s the day you were born. I can’t wait to celebrate with you, Its time to party like it’s your birthday!

You bring so much joy into my life most especially when I think I am deserted. You are the only person that can handle my mischievous mood swing, I dont really know how you achieve this.  You’re one of the best thing to ever happen to me. Wishing you the best birthday yet! I’m overjoyed to celebrate your special day with you.

Taking this journey  of relationship with you has been a joyride. You’re so special. Every day should be your birthday. 

 

 

I cannot write my success story in 2023 without including you on my first five list. I guess I developed expanded abdomen because of your care on me when it comes to feeding. Meanwhile, this is not hyping but I will testify to your selfless nature, always ready to give out. May God bless you for me. Moreover, as I wish you well and also write the goods about you, I would also like to encourage you to increase your social life. I didn’t say that you don’t have it but it needs update! Hahahahaha. Thumb up dear. Keep celebrating.

For the readers,kindly drop your preferred network on comment section., only the first five will be taken