*3 CATEGORIES OF LADIES WHO BEG TO BE LOVED*

1️⃣ LIABILITIES 

These ones know they have NOTHING tangible to offer or contribute to a Man, they know anybody being with them is actually doing them a favor, so they turn love beggars when they see someone that gives them a second look... The only thing they can offer you in a relationship is different 888s£x positions and perform wifey duties for you because according to them, it worked for their friend or someone they know & the person got a husband. They are the "do what works for you" geng. Another name i call them is "Anywhere belle face." 😀

2️⃣ LADIES WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM 

The ones suffering from low Self Esteem Deficiency Syndrome (SEDS)

They are beautiful, have much to offer, they are a blessing, they carry favor, BUT they think and feel otherwise.. They don't know what they truly want or deserve. They think less of themselves,  settle for less or just anything that doesn't even portray love. They will settle for a community pen!s, a woman beater, a manipulator, a liar, etc

They lack understanding of WHO they are, and how lucky a Man actually is to have them.

Most Ladies in this category think this way because of their looks, background, past experiences or financial handicaps. They lack understanding. 

3️⃣ DESPERATE ONES 

This is the oga patapata of them all. 

Desperation messes with a Woman's mind. 

+When desperate, a lady will keep silent in the face of physical/emotional abuse, endure insults and assaûlts from a Man even when she is dying, because she wants to be in a relationship/ get married. She is scared of starting all over again.

A desperate lady will not only BEG, she will also COMPROMISE.

If desperation hits a Christian lady for instance, she will drop all her godly convictions and do ANYTHING at the request of a Man (even Men who don't deserve her).

A desperate Lady will ignore obvious red flags. 

A desperate Lady will not consider her personal dignity and pride..

Then we have the REAL WOMAN:

 ❤ A Real Woman knows her true Worth, irrespective of her height, body, size, shape, occupation, past experiences, background or current financial situation. 

A Real Woman has made herself an0 asset, she knows what she can bring to the table and, she's not scared to leave when disrespect is being served.

A Real Woman wants a Man to love her, but she will not beg a Man to love her. She will never compromise her standard. She knows what she deserve & will not go below that standard. You can't entice her with money and material things.  She will never cohabit with a man that's not yet her husband.

A Real woman doesn't use her body to keep a Man.

A Real Woman attracts a Real Man.

Dear Sisters, Be a Real Woman.

Avoid "Please say Yes" situation.

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Girls at the age of 18-24 years always attract serious men who are fully ready to marry them, but at this age most of our girls/sisters never wish to hear anything about marriage.

1. I'm too young for that.

2. Who cares about marriage.

3. I'm focused on my books.

4. I want to gather some money first.

5. Marriage is full of problems.

These are some of few statements ladies talk of at their youth age.

But these girls will be having serious & series of sex relationship with small boys of their age, because at that age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them, but they will prefer to choose those boys rather than the real men who want to marry them. They are still young to marry right, but they are not young to have sex with boys.

No problem, God is watching you.

At age of 25-27, parents will start asking them the following questions;

1. How far?

2. Don't you have any one yet ?

3. Are you not planning to get married ?

4. Are you seeing that all your mates are getting married ?

5. Don't you know you are getting old?

But mind you, parents only see the outside of their daughters, not knowing there is nothing left inside.

With all these questions by her own parents, she will now be thinking and asking herself things like: My mates are marrying,

1. Does it mean am old enough to marry?

2. Hmmm, how should I go about it?

3. My boyfriends are not serious about asking my hand in marriage.

4. They are not even ready to marry yet.

5. Well, God knows the best. I believe in God.

See oooh...!, she has started putting her blame on God. "God's time is the best" OK, I agree for argument sake.

At age 27-30 they now start looking for men to marry not boys to have sex and play with again.

They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage, but unfortunately, at this age of 27-30 not all men will be asking their hand in marriage.

You will see them forcing themselves to marry a man who don't want to marry them. Please we beg you, leave us alone.

No single man at age 27-30 will like to marry a lady of 30-35. Now you hear the sisters say age does not matter.

My sister, it matters a lot.

Imagine buying a rotten tomato for $10 and your friend buys a fresh one for $7. Yes, that's how it feels like in marriage too.

Remember you rejected men because you think you were too young. What makes you think your old age does not matter to us?

That's why some men go back to their villages to find young girl to marry when the city ones are not serious about marriage and those that are serious happen to be old for them.

At age 30-35, her friends will ask her:

1. Why are you not married yet by this age of yours?

2. Is it not getting too late for you ?

You will hear her asking you some silly questions like...

1. Are you God?

2. Or do you want to marry me?

3. Is it a crime to be single at 30 or 35?

4. Did I see a man willing to marry me but I refused?

5. God knows the best for everyone please.

At age 30-35 they will start praying like never before, moving from one church to another. If she's a Muslim, she will start praying night prayers, fasting and dressing modestly.

If you ask her for dating, she would burst out to say:

1. My brother, I'm not like them.

2. Am looking for a serious man, a husband not dating.

3. If you truly love me go and see my parents for marriage.

4. I can't do anything with you without my parents concern.

Dear parents, they have started knowing your worth. When she was 18-24, she was doing everything without considering you as parents.

You don't expect a young man of 27-30 to marry you of 30-35 as his house wife when there are younger pretty girls out there.

Even if he chooses to ignore your age and marry you, his family and friends will discriminate you.

Men that will be interested to marry you will be of 45 yrs and above and mind you, those men are married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife.

Everything in life has its own season and time.

There's no lady at age 30-35 seeking for marriage who haven't been approached during 18-24. But by then, they were busily jumping from clubs/parties to hotel rooms looking for FUN not MARRIAGE.

Not everything is about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you. But when you change the plan or miss the road, please don't disturb the peace of God. Because, He will be busy planning for your younger sister.

Think about this when you have time.

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11 WAYS TO PROPOSE TO THE LADY YOU LOVE BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!!!

When Oral Roberts proposed to Evelyn in 1958, these were his words:

"My huge, happy, hilarious heart is throbbing, tumultuously, tremendously, triumphantly with a lingering, lasting, long lived loved for you. As i gave into your bewildering, beauterous, beaming eye, I am literally, lonesomely lost in a dazzling, daring, delightful dream in which your fair, felicitous, fanciful face is ever present like a colossal, comprehensive, constellation. Will you be my sweet, smiling, soulful, satisfied spouse?"

To which Evelyn replied: "Listen Oral, If you are trying to propose to me, do it in English Language"!!!

Many guys have lost the opportunity of getting married to the ladies they love because they dont know how to go about it

These tips will help you if you follow them!!!

1. Don't speak grammar like Oral Roberts so that the girl will not need to go home and check her dictionary to know what you really mean!!! Just be yoursef and present your proposal in a very simple way!!! You dont need grammar even if you are a professor of English!!!

2. Never make a proposal to anyone that you are not friendly with at all. At least establish a rapport and some level of friendship before breaking the news!

3. Don't use religious terminologies such as "The Lord said you are my wife" or Without me in your life, you can not fulfill destiny" or "I had a dream....." etc.

The lady does not just want to know "God said", she wants to be sure you love her and not that God is just forcing you to marry her. By all means try to avoid "God said"......when you are proposing.

Make it plain and in simple language.......just tell her you love her and leave her to discover whether it was the Lord or not! 

4. Don't pressurize a lady if she tells you that she needs time to give you an answer. Give her a breathing space. She may not be playing "hard to get", In most cases its a genuine and sincere request. That is not the time to be visiting her everyday or escorting her after fellowship disturbing her peace all the time trying to force her to give you an answer. You may end up irritating her and causing her to hate you. She has a choice in this matter, even in the Lord. The scripture admonishes "She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord". 1 Cor 7:39.

5. If she belongs to a group or company, dont try to isolate her by only talking or relating to her, get along with the other ladies in her group or company. Be friendly to all her friends!

6. Don't be cunning. Don't come under the guise of a pastor, mentor or father in the Lord in order to win her consent. Ladies prefer guys with genuine and clear intentions not hidden under any cloak. So, even if you are her pastor, propose to her as a brother. Remember that she won't be getting married to annointing. 

7. Don't be too busy going around, trying to find out from people about her. You may never get along with her if she finds out. Remember that when you come together eventually in a relationship, you can know so much about yourselves. 

8. Don't try to impress a lady with material things so as to influence her decision. You may not like the outcome. A virtuous lady wants to marry a man, not things.

9. Having established a good rapport or friendship, do the proposal as you are led and be sincere. Sincerity is the rule of the game. Don't try to be poetic; she might know the poem or song already. Be sincere!

10. Prepare to receive a "yes" or "no" with gladness. You may be persuaded of God, she is your wife but if she says "no" respect it and dont break your friendship. A lady saying "no" to you is not the end of the world even if God spoke to you audibly. Move on! 

It is immaturity to be embittered or harbor hatred towards a lady you once professed to love, simply because of a "no". To most of the men of God or role models of our time, someone, somewhere had sometime said "no" but most of them are happily married today. 

11. Seek the face of God before making any move. Be sincere with God and with yourself and stop saying things like, "I must hook a fair complexioned, thin lady with a long hair" or "........a well rounded bla, bla, bla "..Such things change. Do not walk up to a lady to propose marriage on the basis of sexual attraction because she has a dazzinling beauty! For we walk by faith, not by sight (2 Cor 5:7) the one that is thin today may be fat tomorrow. Just make sure that you are led by the Spirit and be sincere all long.

What are you still waiting for? Be bold!!! Confront your fear and the death of fear is certain!!! Begin to take that step!!! 

Happy "Yes" to your proposal!!!

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💞COMMUNICATION TIPS FOR MARRIED COUPLES.💞

A lot of times, couples get pissed off with each other by the way they respond to each other. We can do better if we learn responses in the affirmative and not in the combative. 

Let's  read the following:

1. Statement: Are you okay; is anything the matter?

Wrong response: Can't you see yourself; what kind of question is that?

Right response: I'm not feeling fine; I think I need some attention.

2. Statement: I got wounded in kitchen.

Wrong response: I've told you to always be careful with knife.

Right response: Oh sorry, let me have a look. Please be more careful with knife.

3. Statement: I'll like to eat corn flakes.

Wrong response: No way! It's for the children; and that's for one month! Take garri if you are hungry.

Right response: Okay, you can eat a little. I trust you'll give us money to buy another.

4. Statement: I'm really hungry.

Wrong response: Even I myself have not eaten since morning.

Right response: Oh sorry, let's see if there's something you can manage for now.

 5. Statement: Why don't you do it this way?

Wrong response: Why is it that you always find fault with what I do?

Right response: Well, I've tried this before and I think it will work. If not, I'll try that.

6. Statement: I want more food.

Wrong response: Ha-ha, it has finished. You want to finish all the food in the house?

Right response: Sorry, please manage that for now. We are down on food stuff.

7. Statement: Handle that thing carefully please.

Wrong response: Am I that daft? You will just be talking to me as if I don't have any sense.

Right response: Yes dear, I will.

8. Statement: Haven't you finished what you are doing?

Wrong response: You are seated there doing nothing and you are asking if I've not finished!

Right response: It will still take a while; can you please lend me a hand?

9. Statement: I bought this on my way; I thought it will be useful.

Wrong response: How much did you buy it? What! That's too expensive - wọ́n ti gbá ẹ!

Right response: Thank you; it will indeed be useful. Thanks for the surprise.

10. Statement : I'm feeling horny today, I will like us to have sex.

Wrong Response : Ha ha, is it food. I'm tired ooo.

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Right Response: Whaooo. Dear, for it to be mutual enjoyment, can you please wait till early in the morning. I'm so tired right now.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Please send to your spouse and other couples, not for the purpose of condemnation, but for continuous improvement of your or their love relationship.

MAY YOU HAVE A PEACEFUL HOME AMEN.

THE ROLES OF UMUNNA IN UBULU TRADITION:

In Ubulu, UMUNNA translates literally as 'KINDRED' group of people that descended from the lineage of same father, but not of same mother. When you hear someone says 'my father's side' the person is referring to his Umunna.

Umunna's have bond, they do so many things together as kindred.

Umunna helps in various ways such as marriage, organization of funeral rites and settlement of disputes.

In marriage, Umunna support their male bachelors with gifts.

During burial, Umunna equally facilitate the burial of male members of the clan. It is the duty of Umunna to dig the grave if they lose anyone to death.

Discipline: Umunna ensures strict adherence to law and order.

In situation where someone violates any laid down rules and regulations, Umunna usually visits the person with fines and other forms of punishment. Also, if there's any land dispute between members of a family, it's the Umunna who settles it by intervening, demarcating the boundaries to avoid further encroachment from the parties involved in the dispute ... So, in Ubulu tradition, if anything happens, Umunna should be your first point of call before going outside.

The Catholic Priesthood

This is a long post (but I am sure you will learn something) 

The teaching of the Catholic Church on the priesthood is something I would like every Catholic, as well as non-Catholics, to understand.

You may have heard of this Latin phrase "IN PERSONA CHRISTI CAPITALIS"... that is exactly the summary of the church's teaching on the priesthood.

In Persona Christi Capitalis simply means 'in the person of Christ the Head."

To break it down, every ordained priest, as he celebrates the sacraments, is not acting or celebrating them on his own, but he is standing in the place of Christ. 

What it implies is that the priest is never the one celebrating any of the sacraments even though he is the one that is physically present, but rather it is Christ himself who celebrates them. 

When the priest hears confessions, it is not his hand that offers absolution, but Christ's. At Mass, when the priest says “This is my Body,” it is not the priest that should be understood as talking, for the priest has no power to give us his body, rather it is Christ who speaks the words through him. 

If you read the book of Hebrews, you will understand the depth of this teaching. We all know that the Eucharist is Christ offering himself for us. In that sacrifice, Christ is both the High Priest and the Victim—both the one offering a sacrifice (the role of a priest) for sins as well as the one sacrifice being offered (since He offered up Himself). 

Below is a little background to the teaching. . .

During the fourth century, a group led by Bishop Donatus Magnus started teaching that only men who are without sin can administer the sacrament validly.

To them, if an immoral priest baptizes you, your baptism is no good. Likewise, if a less-than-perfect bishop was the one that ordained your parish priest, all the Masses he celebrates are just a waste of time. This heresy is known as Donatism.

St Augustine tackled this heresy. He argued that the real celebrant of each Sacrament is Christ Himself, so the priest’s moral state cannot affect the validity of the Sacrament. 

As the Catechism rightly puts it, "The sacrament is not wrought by the righteousness of either the celebrant or the recipient, but by the power of God.” ~CCC 1128

The moment a sacrament is celebrated in accordance with the intention of the Church (ex opere operato), the power of Christ and his Spirit acts in and through it, independently of the personal holiness of the minister. Nevertheless, the fruits of the sacraments also depend on the disposition of the one who receives them.

It is this teaching that makes all the priests equal. Truth is, every priest is unique and gifted differently, but you see, at the altar and in the confessional every priest is the same. It is Christ that uses the priest and not the other way round. The priests' words and actions are prescribed. He is a vessel for Christ, not a platform for his own grand ideas. 

Recently, there have been arguments on how some priests are not called and how it was their mum who takes them to the seminary simply because she wants to bear the name "Mama Fada." 

I think there is a disconnection here. In the Catholic Church, for one to say a priest is not called is to question the seminary training, the discernment process, the Holy Spirit, and even the validity of the person's ordination. You can express dissatisfaction with the priest's conduct, or you may hate the fact that he is on social media, but once he is validly ordained, he is called. God uses him, and the sacraments he celebrates are no less valid because it is Christ who celebrates them through him.

And talking about mothers taking their boys to the seminary, it is not a bad thing. It was Hannah who took her son Samuel to the priest Eli. Samuel did not become less of a prophet because it was his mum who took him there. The seminary process is such a rigorous process that if you do not want to be there on your own even if your mum took you there, you can't survive a day. Canonically, no priest is ordained below the age of 25. Anyone ordained was ordained because he chose to cooperate with God, not because the mum wants to be called "Mama Fada."

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