DARLING BE KIND TO ME

1. Don't be kind to friends and outsiders but mean to me, I am the one doing life with you

2. Don't be kind to me only when we have visitors, don't pretend

3. Don't be kind to me only when I do what you expect, be kind to me also when I miss the mark. Don't let your kindness be transactional 

4. Be kind to me even when you are having a bad day, cover me from external issues 

5. Be kind to me even when others abandon me, at least I have you

6. Be kind to me, not only when you want something from me. Let your love be consistent

7. Be kind to me in words and in deeds

8. Be kind to me even when we have an argument. I am not your enemy 

9. Be kind to me when I confess unpleasant things. Who else do you want me to talk to?

10. Be kind to me because I more than your spouse, I am your friend 

©️ Dayan Masinde

How I was accused of being a rapist

 My neighbor is fond of leaving her child with me whenever she knows I'm around in the afternoon so she can rest while the little girl turns my house upside down

She made it a habit so much that once the little girl of 4 knows I'm around, she'll come over by herself

I was almost getting irritated until I discovered that her parents are fond of fighting all the time. I decided to be a safe spot and a good uncle at least to protect her from the toxic environment once in a while.

One afternoon, I closed very early from work and decided to work on a client's CV and statement of purpose when I heard a knock

Immediately, I knew it was my little friend, Rashidat.

I wanted to ignore because the client had paid in full for the CV and wanted to start applying but Rashidat kept knocking and I knew she will knock till eternity. I paused my work and invited her in, gave her ice-cream and snacks, and put cartoon for her

Later, we started hearing her parents voice, they were fighting as usual. Few hours later the mom came to carry her.

I could see shame and gratitude on her face even though she avoided my eyes.

Few minutes later, I heard a loud bang on my door.

Could it be that the little girl is back?

The banging continued and I went to open the door and met a mob outside

I didn't see the slap until it landed and I literally saw stars

Rashidat's father dragged me out by the neck after slapping me, thank God I was putting on my new white singlet and boxers

What's happening, am I dreaming? I was confused 

"R@pi$t!" They kept shouting as they landed blows and kicks all over my body

My neighbors, people I know and play with on the street, guys and ladies I hang around with were suddenly acting like I was a criminal

I started crying and begging them

"Mummy Rashidat, please what's happening, who did I r@pe?" I pleaded with my neighbor 

Whooosss!!! She slapped me with a scapula and I felt blood in my mouth

"Don't ever mention my daughter's name from that your evil mouth. How can you do this to me, how can you r@pe my baby, my four years old baby, how?"

"Jesus, me!!!" When!!!"

I screamed

"Make we burn am?" The vulcanizer that always fix my tyres asked

"And na handsome guy o" the lady I usually buy pap from said

"Fine man like this wey fit fu*k any woman he want, na small pikin he like!" My next door neighbor said

"Na yahoo boy, na ritual. He go confess before we kill am." One popular yahoo guy in the neighborhood said

Then I heard the police siren and I was grateful for the Nigerian police for the first time in my life.

I was arrested, handcuffed and bundled into their vehicle. Thank God the mob didn't remove my boxers and strip me naked. I couldn't even imagine dying exposed with my pe#is dangling out for the world to see.

At the police station, the DPO called Rashidat, and sitting beside her with a friendly smile on his face, he asked her

"Is this the uncle that touched you?"

I looked at the baby I always gave icecream, cake, and snacks to and tears dropped from my eyes.

"Don't be afraid dear, you are safe here. He can't do anything." He assured her.

"Talk Rashidat, your daddy and mummy is here nothing will happen." The mother patted her head

"Tell us what you told your daddy and mummy." The DPO asked

"I and uncle made love for mummy and daddy."

"Ahhh... Abomination!" The officers shouted in the station 

"How many times have uncle done it with you? The policeman asked

"One time." Rashidat said shyly and quietly I almost didn't hear her.

"Was today the first time, my little one?" He asked again

"Yes." Rashidat said looking down and moving her feet

"Very brave girl. Now, tell me and your mummy and daddy how he did it?" 

"It's very easy, I'll show you." She said smiling and went to her school bag, opened it and brought out a piece of paper and crayon

Then she drew a heart and colored it. Then she wrote, 'I love mummy and daddy' under the heart.

"See!" she said, smiling proudly and showing everyone the picture. "Uncle taught me how to make love for mummy and daddy today because they are always fighting."

The DPO took the paper with the drawing of a heart that I taught Rashidat today to draw and give her parents just to make them happy and stop fighting.

The police station became quiet

The End

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10 AWESOME RELATIONSHIP NUGGETS

1. Never date your ex,(s)he became your ex for a reason. Your ex belongs to your past, move on.

2. Never hope on marrying someone when almost 70% of their family members don’t like you. The probability of the marriage not lasting is very high and you're probably not going to enjoy the relationship.

3. There is a distinct difference between dating for love and dating for sex. Always understand the main reason why you’re venturing into a relationship.

4. Never fall in love when you are lonely, the consequences are going to be a harsh one.

5. As long as it is still a relationship, never reveal your full potential or secrets to whoever you are dating.

6. Your personal development should come first before relationships. People who you are in relationships with can still leave you but you can never leave yourself, meaning never compromise your adventures and dreams for anyone.

7. Avoid relationships that seems to be too good to be true at the beginning. When the other person is rushing things too fast, don’t get carried away with romance and sex. Slow down and be careful because this is how people get hooked on to narcissistic partners.

8. Never date someone that gives commands and doesn’t respect you. The probability of emotional abuse is very high.

9. Never date anybody that doesn’t know how to give but knows only how to take.

10. Never date anyone with the mindset of changing their character, attitude, and behaviours. Remember, you can never raise an adult!

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Anglican Vs Catholic (3)

~What does it look like when an Anglican priest or bishop decides to join the Catholic Church today?

This answer was given by Doug Girardot. And since it is apt, I will just share. This is the point I have been trying to arrive at by opening you up to the story behind everything.

Read below...

In order for Anglicans—lay or clergy—to be received into the Catholic Church by means of the Ordinariate, they must signal their desire to do so in writing. However, there is no need for these people to be re-baptized: The Catholic Church already recognizes Anglican baptisms as valid, as it does for any Christian denomination that uses water, invokes the Trinity and performs the sacrament for the same reasons as the Catholic Church during baptism.

In order to be fully initiated, those Anglicans who wish to join the church are required to study the church’s teaching and receive the sacrament of Confirmation. Some may choose to take the same R.C.I.A. course as other people who may be converting from an entirely different religion, but because so much of Anglican doctrine overlaps with Catholic teaching, they can opt to take a shorter course.

When Anglican clergy become Catholics, they are not automatically eligible for the priesthood (or the bishopric, for that matter). The Catholic Church does not recognize Anglican ordinations as valid. In the Catholic view, an Anglican wishing to become a Catholic priest must be ordained under Catholic auspices.

If they wish to serve as clergy in the Catholic Church, former Anglican priests must first undergo background checks (as does anyone who seeks to do ministry in an official capacity in the Catholic Church). Afterwards, if a candidate receives approval from the head of their Ordinariate and from the Vatican, they must undertake an academic and pastoral formation program—usually by attending a seminary part-time over the course of two years. Once they go through this initial process, they are finally ordained by a bishop

What about Anglican priests who are married??

This may come as a surprise to many Catholics. Already-married Anglican priests who join the Catholic Church can be ordained as Catholic priests using the process described above. However, the Catholic Church has taken great pains to stress that this is an exception, not the rule: Ex-Anglican priests who are married must be approved for ordination on a case-by-case basis by the Vatican, and a priest’s wife must agree to go along with the process. If a priest is not already married by the time he becomes a Catholic, he is not permitted to wed afterwards—just like any other Catholic priest.

Also, ex-Anglican bishops do not automatically become bishops in the Catholic Church. Just as with any other Catholic priest, to become a bishop requires that one be approved by the pope and consecrated by at least one other Catholic bishop. And just like the Western Rite tradition, bishops are selected from those who are not married.

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There are men who always bring more than just sexual relationships.

There are men who always bring more than just sexual relationships. 

They come into the lady’s life to heal the wounds, fix the broken heart, boost the confidence, restore the faith, render the support, bring out the sunshine, and enhance the self-being of the woman. 

They are not thoughtless guys thinking with a certain part of their body, but these men care about the emotional, mental, and sometimes even spiritual state of their woman. 

They help her, motivate, and encourage throughout the thorns and roses of the life path, making her become the best version of herself. 

Instead of selfish satisfaction and pleasure, they build the relationships with the means of respect, trust, and partnership.