BETTER TO MOVE ON

Many times, it’s always the best to move on than to hold on to that person who doesn’t understand you.

Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work.

You can’t force someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can't force someone to faithful.

You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.

I will be real with you, most times the person you want most is the person you are best without.

You have got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be.

Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.

Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who is not ready to give it to you.

And I know it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with, but you just have to accept that they are not that person anymore.

And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. TRUST ME

It is better to be alone and be happy than to be in a miserable relationship...

Whoever sees you as an option doesn't deserve to be a priority in your life, you call him honey but he treats you like a monkey, He is your everything but you are nothing to him, you are doing everything to make it work, but he keeps thinking you are desperate and turns all your efforts to weakness...

Never keep awake thinking about someone who is deeply sleeping with someone else. Never stay a minute thinking about someone who cant spend a second thinking about you.

Leave that person who takes your love for granted and doesn't love you back the way you do, Love should be balanced not based one side.

Its better to be single than being in an ugly relationship that will make you cry forever.

A word is enough for the wise.

I WANT TO TAKE YOU OUT

Don't marry someone you don't want to be seen with in public, someone you can't identify with, someone whose looks, spoken English or dialect makes you weep!

Some ladies tell me they don't like the guy's looks yet he is God's will.

Some guys said the lady is not their spec, yet she is God's will!

She is either too crude, short, tall, not busty or buttockish enough!

The guy either has tribal marks, looks archaic and speaks horrible English!

God won't give you someone who embarrasses you in public! You either heard the devil or you were sleeping when proposing or accepting proposal from your so called God's will.

Our father Abraham to Isaac to Jacob loved, admired and were proud of their wives!

Marry someone you are proud of or help them become someone to be proud of.

Encourage them to improve on their looks and spoken English.

There is nothing anyone can do about tribal marks, height, breast shape or buttock shape!

You either totally accept or reject them!

Don't marry someone you can't take out on date, show to friends or loved ones. Its a bad omen!

Accept them 100% or reject them 100%.

You can't manage! You are not a manager!

Learn to hear God properly!

Discover ways God speaks!

To think about a guy all day, dream about him all night and conclude you had a vision from God when you have zero knowledge of the Bible and know nothing about how God leads is to walk in gross darkness and high level of stupidity!

Most people who claim they heard God were hallucinating!

Get to know God.

Know the word of God.

Have fellowship with him daily.

Learn how he speaks DAILY not when you are desperate to wear a wedding ring and start having sex!

Bottom line, be proud of your spouse.

Get it?

May the Lord grant you understanding.

Be blessed!!!

By Seun Oladele

MARRIAGE BEFORE DEVELOPMENT

Do not get married before you've developed yourself to a level that you can survive on your own or with your kids without the support of whoever you're marrying.

This may sound obvious but people keep putting all their eggs in one basket and later they come out crying and acting surprised when they suddenly find themselves alone with the kids yet they never took the time to equip themselves for any job.

People change and abscond or betray you, death or disease happens and the provider now needs to be provided for, or they lose their job or income. Anything. If this happens when you had a diploma or degree or competence in welding or tailoring, the inconvenience will be shorter because you'll jump to action right away and take up the role.

But if you have to scrape and seek any odd jobs or start training from scratch, that's a hell of an experience. Think ahead and prepare.

Marriage is not a rite of passage that you need to do by a certain age or because some people expect you to do it. What you need to do by a certain point in your life, in fact, is individuation.

As soon as you're out of your parent's care you must start building your capacity for becoming a parent yourself. If you don't pay attention to this and give it priority you'll mix personal development with premature marriage and the duties and demands of marriage life will carry you away. Before you know it, time is gone and you've never trained or specialised in any skill you can work in and sustain yourself.

Never depend on the one who's marrying you to give you basic development. You're mixing issues and losing your objectivity and clarity. You might end up marrying the one who is willing to educate you rather than the one with whom you can build the life you envision. Of course when people get married they continue developing each other through further education or building a business, but the basic training that makes you capable of working should be done prior to entering marriage. Paradoxically, this level of self development will attract more respect from your partner and increase the chances of the marriage lasting a lifetime, as opposed to them knowing you're helpless without them and taking you for granted.

THREE MARITAL STAGES

Marriage has three stages. The first stage is called honeymoon and lasts about two years. This stage is very sweet, nice, and romantic. This is where you find names like honey, sweetheart, baby, and so on.

In this stage, everything is perfect. This is a stage where a man returns home and dumps his socks and shoes anywhere but in the morning, he will wake up and find them placed where they're supposed to be. This is where madam doesn't go to bed until you return home. She sits in the living room and receives all the mosquito bites waiting for you till you return, takes a shower, and enjoys supper. Even if you return at midnight, you find her waiting for you.

This first stage is beautiful with a lot of tolerance. This is a stage where at night while in bed, you release very toxic gas and your spouse instead apologizes. Remember, you have gassed but again he tells you, "Sorry darling, it's okay." This is unbelievable. Madam has gassed but to you, it's okay. Oh my God, this is sweet. Everything is just merry-making during this stage. In conclusion, enjoy this stage as much as we can.

The second stage lasts for ten years! This is where the honeymoon is over. This stage is red hot. During this stage, perhaps financial challenges have come in. You have given birth and the children are also disturbing you. Sometimes you are yet to give birth but really want to and the pressure on you is mounting from all corners. Landlords have become Landlords. There is a loss of employment. Things are just tight.

Life is hard in this second stage. The man who used to return home early now returns very late. Sometimes he doesn't even return home. There are suspicions of infidelity and cheating. You don't trust each other. You feel your spouse is cheating, and in fact, he or she is cheating. When you return home and leave your shoes outside, in the morning, you find them where you left them. Things are hot here.

This is a stage where at night, you release toxic gas and your partner asks what you ate during supper time yet you ate the same meals. He can even leave the bed and spend the night in the sitting room simply because you gassed. Imagine only gassing.

The second stage is hot. There are fights; spiritual, physical, and in all aspects. This is the stage where you reach the point of considering separating. Each spouse shows his or her true colors in this stage. A night dancer switches on the reggae mixes the music, and punches the baseline. Your relatives taste the greedy side of your wife.

Those who persevere and overcome this stage end up keeping their marriage till death does them part. However, very many hang up the towel in this stage. They quit. In conclusion, Those who are in this stage should fight a little longer, not hang up the towel. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Just a little longer and you are done with this heat.

Finally, there's the last stage. This comes after the ten red hot years. This last stage is lukewarm. It's neither cold nor hot. You gas at large and no one applauds you or complains. You have seen enough of each other. You have known each other's true colors.

In this stage, whatever your partner does no longer surprises you. If she quarrels, you just say that is the nature of this woman. If he is still late out in the night, you don't even bother to call since you know he will return. If she doesn't serve you food and you feel hungry, you just go and serve food otherwise, hunger hits you for nothing

This stage is not for disturbing one another. There is a lot of calmness and commands are few. This is where if you are watching TV with her in the sitting room and you feel thirsty, you don't send her to bring you drinking water but only wait when she's moving in the direction where there is water and you tell her if she is coming back, she can come along with some water. If she asks you to repeat what you just said, you have to pretend like you didn't say anything. All of a sudden, she shocks you and returns with drinking water. There is mutual respect in this stage. In conclusion, Those in this stage should just work for eternity.

Congratulation to those who are in this stage for, they have come from far.

Amen and amen

Have a wonderful reflection on this post.

This can be related to new couple-to-be, less than ten years marriage & finally btw 20 - 80 years of marriage

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ADVICE FOR ALL SINGLE MEN

Before a good woman say yes to you, she want to know.

* Are you family oriented, no sane woman will marry a man who is not family oriented, a woman wants a man who has family insight.

* No sane woman will marry a man who lacks ambition, you must have the ambition over a vision, dream,purpose.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not goal oriented or focus, queen cara will not even try it talking of other women.

* No good woman will want to marry a man who doesn't believe in being a helper,provider ,supporter , every woman want a man who they can depend on.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not spiritual , listen marriage is a union filled with two spirit filled spouse, a good woman want a gate keeper as a husband.

* No good woman will marry a man who is not prepared both spiritually, physically, emotionally ,mentally, she want a man who is steady and prepared in all ramifications.

* She want a protector, not an abuser, she want a man with clarity not a confuse man, she want a guardian.

* She want a father not just a husband, a father loves his daughter irrespective of every circumstances, that is the love she want, a man whom will love her forever.

A man whom will defend her

A man whom will teach her

She want a director

She want a learning mate

She want a teacher

She want a comforter

She want a confident

I pray for every young sweet lady looking for a man to marry may you never marry a man who is not the will of God for you.

Jesus Christ is the key to the type of love you are looking for he loved you first and gave his life for you despite your imperfections, flaws, shortcomings he still loves you.

I walk you into the love and you are looking for , surrender all to Jesus Christ and he is the gate and door step to the love you are craving for.

I pray that you recieve the divine love, divine wisdom tht Jesus has for you, i pray that you walk into his love and purpose for you in Jesus name .

QUALITIES OF A GODLY MARRIED MAN

A godly husband respects his wife. Respect is one of the most important factors in any relationship, especially in the eyes of God. What so many marriages are missing today is God as the foundation. Too often, couples overlook the importance of God in their relationship decision-making.

Basically, here are the qualities of a godly married man you will definitely find.

A real man fears God because a man who doesn’t fear God will not have regard for human feelings and will not know how to truly love.

A real man is faithful. He will not cheat on you. He has no alternative so he focuses on you alone! Love doesn’t double date!

He will not flirt with your girlfriends! He is reliable and trustworthy.

He is faithful to you no matter the pressure from other ladies

He is not proud to say *“I’m Sorry"* if that is what will save the relationship because he loves you! Love is not proud!

A real man wait for sex until your wedding night and never deprive you of his body after the wedding!

A real man is a man of prayer. He prays for and with you.

He Will feel terrible when he forgets your birthday or anniversary and will always make it up to you.

A real man is a giver. He Surprises you with gifts, even when the occasion is not special. He’s not stingy.

He Tells you regularly that he loves and cherishes you.

He understands you even if nobody does and always makes you feel you are the best

A real man is a good leader. He never Threatens to leave you or divorce you no matter what happens. A Real Man Is A Forgiver!

He Feels your pain when you go through hard times and stands by you until you overcome.

He Loves to see you happy and rejoices with you.

Despite his busy schedule, he always creates quality time to spend with you.

He Will never physically or emotionally abuse you because Love is Kind

He Will marry you without waiting too long.

He forgives and forgets when you apologize for hurting his feelings.

He will not use your weaknesses or secrets against you.

He will not air your dirty laundry.

He Is patient and willing to work on your relationship problems.

He Knows that it is important for you to spend some time with your friends and family members.

A man who loves you celebrate you in the public and he is not ashamed to tell the world how much he loves you!

He will not go out of his way to make you jealous.

He Will always respect you in the presence of his friends and family members.

He helps you with chores around the house.

He enjoys the company of your family and friends.

He Supports your dreams and ambitions.

He Never puts you down when talking to you.

He Cares a great deal about your thoughts, feelings and opinions.

He Is always available to help when you need him.

He Knows that his way is not the only way.

He cares. He always calls you to find out how your day is going

A real man is never lazy. He knows how to make money, save money and invest money wisely

A real man loves his children and he is ready to bring out the best in them

A real man is committed to the WORD OF GOD and challenges you to get closer to God!

And A Real Woman Never Takes His Love For Granted Because Such Man Is Rare To Find!

Man, May God Make u Such Man

Single Lady, May Such Man Find you

Married Woman, May God Make Your Husband A Real Man In Jesus name. Amen

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