ST. ANTHONY'S 13 MIRACLES

ST. ANTHONY'S 13 MIRACLES

1) SERMON TO THE FISH

The story goes that one day Anthony went to Rimini where there were a lot of heretics. He started to preach, but they did not want to listen to him, and they even mocked him. In a dramatic gesture, Anthony went to the seashore, saying, “Because you show yourself unworthy of God's word, behold, I turn to the fish so that your unbelief may be shown up more clearly”. As he spoke of God's care for those creatures that live in the waters, a shoal of fish swam near to the bank, partly thrusting themselves out of the water and appearing to listen carefully. At the end of his sermon, the Saint blessed them and they swam away. In the meantime, so deep was the impression made upon the onlookers that many hurried back to the city imploring their friends to come and see the miracle, while others burst into tears asking forgiveness. Soon after a great multitude gathered around the Saint, who exhorted them to turn back to God. So through this sermon, the city of Rimini was purged of heresy.

2) ALEARDINO'S GLASS

During the Renaissance, artists drew inspiration from the remains of Greco-Roman antiquity, and this is why all the characters of the scene are dressed as ancient Romans. One day a knight called Aleardino da Salvaterra arrived in Padua. This knight had always despised Catholics, believing them to be ignorant and gullible. One day, while dining, his tablemates started telling him with great enthusiasm of the many miracles performed by St Anthony. As a reaction, Aleardino emptied his glass and said, “If he whom you consider to be a saint will prevent this glass from breaking when it hits the ground I will believe everything you are telling me about him.” He then threw the glass to the floor with all his strength, and quite unbelievably, the glass did not break. It is even said that the hard tiles on which it fell broke instead of the glass. Faced by this inexplicable phenomenon, Aleardino believed and was converted.

3) THE HERETIC'S MULE

The city of Toulouse was a centre of the Cather heresy, which denied the goodness of the material world and also the Real Presence of Christ in the Eucharist. Anthony engaged in several public debates with them but, although they could not out-argue him, they were not yet ready to give in. One day one of them demanded a miraculous proof, “If you can make my mule bow down before what you call the Body of Christ, I will believe”. Anthony didn't want to put God to the test, but naturally there was no way he could avoid this challenge, and so he agreed, leaving the outcome to God. For three days the heretic kept his mule penned up without food. On the third day, a great crowd gathered in the city square. Anthony celebrated Mass in a little chapel and at the end he came out carrying the Blessed Sacrament. Meanwhile, the hungry mule had also been brought along, and a suitable fodder was placed in front of the starved animal. Anthony called out, “Mule! Come here and show reverence to your Creator!” At once the animal came towards Anthony and bowed its head and knees before the Sacrament. The owner of the mule and many heretics were reconciled to the Church.

4) THE RE-ATTACHED FOOT

A young man of Padua, called Leonardo, went to St Anthony to make his confession. Among his other sins, he confessed that he had once kicked his mother so hard that she had suffered a nasty fall. Anthony muttered under his breath, “The foot that strikes father or mother deserved to be cut off.” Of course he did not intend his words to be taken literally. The young man, not understanding the meaning of his words, returned home, took a hatchet and chopped off his foot. The news soon reached the ears of the poor Anthony. He followed the youth's grieving parents to their house and made his way to the young man's bedroom. He prayed, holding the severed foot close to the leg, made the sign of the cross, and instantly the foot became attached to the leg. The young man jumped up, giving praise to the Lord and thanksgiving to Anthony, who had healed his leg in this truly miraculous way.

5) THE DROWNED CHILD

We are in Lisbon, Portugal. A boy called Parrisio decides to go on a boat trip with other boys, but without telling his parents. Suddenly, a violent storm breaks out and the boat capsizes. While the other boys, who were older and knew how to swim, managed to save themselves, Parrisio drowned. Upon hearing this tragedy, the boy's mother ran to the beach and pleaded with the sailors to recuperate the body. They lowered their nets and soon were able to draw out Parrisio's lifeless body, which they gave to the desperate mother. On the next day the family wanted to take the body to church for the funeral and subsequent burial, but the mother did not allow this. She continued to pray to St. Anthony, promising that if her child were brought back to life she would consecrate him to the Franciscan Order. On the third day, in front of his parents and relatives, the boy suddenly awoke as though from a deep sleep; the mother's prayers to the Lord, through the intercession of St. Anthony, had been answered. When he became older Parrisio entered the Franciscan Order, and always joyfully told his fellow friars of the wonder God had performed for him through the intercession of St. Anthony.

6) TOMMY & ST. ANTHONY'S BREAD

Tommy was a 20-month- old boy who lived with his parents near the Basilica. His mother had left him playing in the kitchen, where there was a large pot on the fire with boiling water in it. The little boy took a stool and started to peep into pot. He saw his own reflection and wanted to touch it, but in doing so he fell into the boiling water. Immediately afterward, the mother was back, and when she saw Tommy's feet sticking up out of the pot, she run to pull him out, but the boy was already dead.

The poor mother's screams roused the whole neighbourhood, and soon a crowd had gathered at the house, including some friars from the Basilica. Seeing the friars, the woman was reminded of the wonderful miracles done by St. Anthony, and began to pray loudly for his help, promising to donate her child's weight in bread to the poor if he were restored to life. While the mother was still praying, Tommy arose as if from a deep sleep.

7) EURILIA COMES BACK TO LIFE

A young girl in Padua called Eurilia had followed her mother in one of her visits to an old lady. Eurilia however, stayed outside to gather sticks and twigs for the fire. After a while, at the end of her visit, the mother came out and found her daughter floating on a muddy pond, face up. Somehow Eurilia had slipped into the water and drowned. The poor woman waded in and dragged the body up on to the road, but the young girl seemed lifeless. The poor mother started to cry and a small crowd gathered around her. One of the men present saw that the girl was cold and rigid, and said that she was dead. At this point in her anguish the mother begged the Saint to pray to Christ to save her daughter, “Oh please, St. Anthony, give me back my daughter.” Shortly after this simple prayer everyone could see that Eurilia's lips began to twitch, and then she started to throw out the water she had swallowed. And so, after a short while, through the merits of St. Anthony, Eurilia grew warm again and came back to life.

8) A DEAD MAN SPEAKS

In Lisbon, the city where St. Anthony was born, there were two people who hated each other to death. One evening the son of one of them met the son from the rival family, which was living close to St. Anthony's parents. Filled with hatred, and seeing that no one else was around, he stabbed the other young man to death.

He then buried the corpse in the garden of Anthony's father. Martin, Anthony's father, tried to prove his innocence, but the grisly evidence found in the family garden was enough to convict the poor man of the murder.

Just when things were at their worst, God revealed to Anthony, who was in Padua, the plight of his father. Immediately, the Saint obtained permission to go away for a night. The distance from Padua to Lisbon is approximately 1,200 miles, but Anthony was there in a couple of hours through divine intervention. In the court room the Saint asked that the body of the murdered man be produced immediately. Anthony approached the corpse and, in a firm voice, asked the man to tell who had killed him. To the amazement of all, the corpse sat up and clearly said the name of the murderer and attested the innocence of Anthony's father, who was freed at once. The revived man then turned to Anthony and asked absolution from his sins, then he died again. Miraculously, the next day the Saint was back in Padua. After all, he had asked permission to be away only over night.

9) THE MISER'S HEART

According to the story, the funeral of a rich man was being celebrated with great pomp in a city in Tuscany. Anthony was present, and is said to have commented that the dead man did not deserve such honour since he had exploited and oppressed the poor. “His heart is in his money-box”, said the Saint, echoing our Lord's words that “where your treasure is, there your heart will be too”.

So far, so good; but the story goes on to say that, following Anthony's words, a surgeon was called in, who cut open the dead body and found no heart! A little later, when the family opened the dead man's treasure chest, there was the heart! As a result, the dead man was not buried in the splendid mausoleum that he had prepared for himself, but in a cave by the river. In the center of the fresco you can see the surgeon opening the body of the miser, and on the left a relative of the rich man who has just found his heart in the money-box.

10) A VIOLENT HUSBAND

This miracle took place in a city in Tuscany. There was a knight in the area who was outstanding for his nobility and his wealth, but he easily gave way to outbursts of anger. One day, his wife, a virtuous lady, probably replied to him harshly, and he was overcome with rage. He beat her, raining punches and kicks upon her; he dragged her by her hair all throughout the house; eventually he stabbed her, leaving her at the point of death.

Servants and family members picked the woman up and gently laid her down on her bed.

In the meantime, the knight began to regret his beastly behaviour, and ran to St. Anthony, who was living in the city in that period. The man fervently begged St. Anthony to come and help his poor wife. The saint hurried to the house together with the husband; he knelt down, asking God to give the dying woman life and health. When Anthony prayed over her, she rose up completely well again.

11) THE SPEAKING INFANT

A nobleman was very jealous of his wife. He had no reason to doubt of her love and fidelity, but he was easy prey to slander, and so, when his wife had their first child, he refused to recognize the baby as his own. He was more than sure that the child was the fruit of his wife's infidelity.

No matter how much the woman tried to assure him that she had not been with another man, he continued to reject his infant son.

In her desperation the wife and mother came to St. Anthony for help. The Saint talked to the nobleman for hours, and finally succeeded in making him see the absurdity behind his jealousy. Just then a nurse brought in the infant. Instantly, his old state of mind returned. At this point Anthony turned to the child and said, "In the name of Jesus Christ, speak and tell who your father is!" The infant pointed to the nobleman and, in a voice of a child years older, he said, "There is my father!" With that the father broke down in tears and took the child in his arms. This is how Anthony saved a family and a marriage from the pitfalls of gossip and slander.

12) THE LIBERATION OF PADUA

A few years after St. Anthony's death, Ezzelino extended his dominion by brute force to all of the main cities in the Veneto Region: Verona, Vicenza, Treviso, Feltre, Belluno and Padua.

In 1254, four years after the death of Emperor Frederick II, Ezzelino was excommunicated by Pope Innocent IV, who also launched a crusade against him. Padua was therefore besieged by the Pope's forces, which wanted to free the city of Ezzelino's tyranny. The Blessed Luke asked for St. Anthony's help so that the pope's army may be successful. Naturally, it's not only Blessed Luke who was praying, but with him were praying the citizens of Padua who were still in bondage within the city's walls.

St. Anthony appeared to two Franciscan friars (one of them is probably the Blessed Luke Belludi), and foretold them about the imminent liberation of Padua from Ezzelino's tyranny. And this is what actually occurred in 1256 when Ezzelino's troops were driven out from Padua. The citizens of the city were finally free; their prayers had been answered through the intercession of St. Anthony.

13) THE SAINT OF MIRACLES

As we know Anthony died in 1231 and was buried for the time being in a little church dedicated to the Virgin Mary Mater Domini, Mother of God, while waiting for the Basilica to be at least partially completed so that the body could be kept in a much worthier tomb. His funeral took place on the following Tuesday. Thousands and thousands of people followed his coffin, and they were all crying like babies because they saw him as a father, and not because he was a priest, Father Anthony, but because he was a real father to them. He had generated faith in them, and was constantly defending them. On the day of the funeral, a woman came whose name deserves to be remembered. She was called Cunizza, and had been ill for a year. A great tumor had formed on her shoulder, and she was only able to walk by hobbling along with the aid of crutches. Coming to the tomb, where Anthony had just been buried in, she prostrated herself in prayer. A short while later she realised that the swelling had disappeared, leaving her skin smooth and clear. She threw aside her crutches and stood upright, with tears of joy, and she went home giving thanks to God and her dear friend St. Anthony.

And this was the first miracle that happened here, around St. Anthony's Tomb. The news spread rapidly, and people who were sick in the soul and body started coming to the Tomb in ever greater numbers. 

ABOUT HER SOUTHERN LADY PARTS (Because this conversation needs to be had)

12 THINGS I WISH EVERY LADY KNEW ABOUT HER SOUTHERN LADY PARTS (Because this conversation needs to be had)

This might be the most informative and empowering post you’ll read on this topic.

There is so much silence, shame, and silliness surrounding women’s bodies, especially when it comes to the vagina. For many of us, we were raised to treat it like some ‘secret place’ nobody should mention. And even now as grown women, some of us still carry unnecessary guilt, fear, or confusion about this part of our body. 

It is time we changed that.

So here is a list of 12 things I really wish every lady would know (and believe) about her lady bits:

First things first.

Let us get our names right. What we usually call the vagina is actually the vulva(the clitoris, labia, urethra and all that you can see on the outside). The vagina is the stretchy tunnel inside. It is important you know this because it helps you understand your own body better, and not feel lost in conversations about your own health.

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1. YOUR VAGINA IS NOT DIRTY

Let me start here because society has done a number on us. It is a self-cleaning organ, meaning that it doesn’t need your ‘help’ to be clean. The discharge you sometimes see is proof that it is doing its job. You don’t need to use any fancy soaps, douching products, or herbal concoctions. 

Stop scrubbing your vulva like it is a bathroom tile.🙄 Just rinse with clean water when you bathe, and maybe use mild, unscented soap. Anything more than that is an overkill. And quite honestly, most infections come from all these unnecessary things we’re using to ‘clean’ it. Please, respect its supreme intelligence and just let it be.

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2. VAGINAL DISCHARGE IS NORMAL

You are not ‘abnormal’ because you see discharge in your pants. In fact, it’s a sign that your body is functioning properly. Vaginal discharge helps keep things clean and balanced. It can change throughout your cycle. Sometimes it is stretchy and clear, sometimes thick and white, sometimes more than usual. That is very normal. It only becomes a problem if it starts itching, smelling fishy, burning, or turns greenish, grey, or thick and chunky like cheese. Then it’s time to see a doctor. But discharge in itself is just your body being a genius.😉

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3. YOU DON’T NEED TO SMELL LIKE FLOWERS

There’s a whole industry harvesting women’s bodily insecurity for profit. They try to convince women to spray, perfume, and powder themselves down there. Please, your vagina is not a bottle of air freshener. It has a natural scent, and that scent changes depending on where you are in your cycle, your sweat, your hormones, your activity levels, and even what you eat. 

A healthy vagina will smell like a body part, not a garden. A clean vagina should smell like… a clean vagina, not strawberries or vanilla. A vagina that smells like perfume is probably irritated or imbalanced. As long as it doesn’t smell foul or fishy, you’re fine. Do not let anyone sell you shame wrapped in fragrance.

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4. YOUR VAGINA’S APPEARANCE IS NORMAL

Just like faces, vaginas come in all shapes, sizes, and colours, and every variation is beautiful and normal. Some labia are small and tucked in. Some are big and hang out. Some are dark. Some are pinkish. Some are uneven. Some look like nothing you’ve ever seen on the internet. All of them are normal. There’s no such thing as a 'perfect' vagina. The ones they show in the media have often been edited or surgically altered…or just naturally plain different, not better or more beautiful. Please stop comparing yours. Your vagina is fine just the way it is. No one should make you feel otherwise.

You can even sing for it in Bruno Mars’ voice: ‘You are beautiful, just the way you are’.😂

Moving on.

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5. YOUR COLOUR IS BEAUTIFUL 

The skin around your vagina may be darker than the rest of your body. That’s normal. It is even more common in women of colour like black women. Bleaching can damage your skin and open you up to risks. In fact, if you have a vaginal delivery, stitching you up will be a problem because the skin there will have been thinned out by bleaching. You must not be the same shade all over, my lady. Please don’t chase a beauty standard that was never meant to honour you. It’s not like the men themselves are the same shade all over.😏

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6. PUBIC HAIR IS NOT A PROBLEM 

Pubic hair is not dirty, it is not shameful, and it is not disgusting. That hair is there to protect your vagina from friction and bacteria. Whether you shave, wax, trim, or leave it completely natural is completely up to you. If you want to grow a jungle there or clear the field totally, just keep a good intimate hygiene. Dazzol.

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7. COTTON IS YOUR FRIEND

I know we all love to slay, but please let your vagina breathe. Constant tight jeans, nylon pants, and non-cotton underwear can cause sweating and irritation, which may lead to infections. Breathable, cotton underwear helps to reduce moisture and prevent infections. Choose comfort and health over fashion whenever you can. And do not be afraid to go pantless at night to allow for express ventilation down there. T-for Tenks.😊

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8. YOUR HYMEN IS NOT A CERTIFICATE OF YOUR VIRGINITY

A virgin is someone who has not had sexual relations, not merely someone with a present hymen. Please let this sink in.

The hymen can stretch or tear from many things like sports, use of tampons, or even naturally. It doesn’t mean you are no longer a virgin. Also, some women are born without a hymen. Does it mean they were born ‘unvirgined’?😂

Virginity is a concept, not a body part. Let’s be guided, please.

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9. AGEING IS NORMAL DOWN THERE TOO

Your vagina will change just like your face changes. The skin may not look the same at 40 as it did at 15. The colour may darken, it may sag, it I may fold, and that is perfectly fine. All those changes are proof of life lived. Stop stressing and warring with your own body.

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10. IT IS OKAY TO LOOK AT IT

I’m certain that a good number of you reading this do not even know what you look like down there. A lot of women feel awkward or even ashamed exploring their own body, yet still want to feel confident and in control. Sis, it starts with knowing. Get a mirror. Get familiar. That’s your body. There’s nothing unholy about it.

You don’t yet love and accept your body but you want somebody’s son to love and accept it. No be juju be that?🙄

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11. YOUR UNDERWEAR CAN TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR VAGINAL HEALTH.

If you have ever noticed your panties looking a bit bleached or faded in the crotch area, relax. It’s not your detergent, and nothing is wrong with you.

Vaginal discharge is naturally acidic, with a typical vaginal pH ranging from 3.8 to 4.5. This acidity is mainly due to the presence of lactic acid-producing bacteria which help keep harmful bacteria and infections in check. 

Over time, it can lighten or fade dark-coloured underwear. That’s normal.

Here is what to look out for:

- If the bleaching happens gradually over multiple wears, you’re good.

– If it happens after just one wear, or way too frequently, it might mean your vaginal pH is a bit too acidic. Could be stress, dehydration, or even a bacterial imbalance.

– If your underwear never bleaches at all, it could also mean your pH is off… maybe you have slight less acidic discharge, which can be normal as well.

So yes, your panty can be your low-budget pH tester. Pay attention. If anything feels off, check in with your body (or your doctor).

Generally, the fading is not dirt. It is simple chemistry, and your body doing exactly what it's meant to. 

But if it bothers you, wear pantyliners or rotate your underwear more often. Be careful to not overuse pantyliners because the nylon part that sticks to your panty can prevent ventilation and trap in moisture. This can lead to imbalance of PH, leading to overgrowth of harmful bacteria, and subsequent infections.

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12. YOU NEED REGULAR MEDICAL CHECK-UPS

We have talked about washing, bleaching, pantyliners, all of that, but let us talk about actual health care.

A lot of people think if you’re not sexually active, you don’t need to worry about infections or anything going wrong. That’s not true.

You do not have to be sexually active to get certain infections. Let me say it louder for those at the back: Virgins can get infections too.

Things like bacterial vaginosis (BV) or yeast infections don’t always come from sex. BV just simply means your vagina’s good bacteria got disturbed somehow, and yeast infections happen when fungus decides to throw a party down there without permission.

If you do any of the forbidden practices I mentioned earlier that hurt your vaginal health, these infections are likely to come. In addition, stress and high sugar consumption can contribute, because yeast loves sugar. Taking too much antibiotics can kill even the good bacteria and cause problems. Wearing damp panties or staying in damp clothes too long (like after working out or swimming) too.

Sometimes, what starts as ‘ordinary’ discharge or itching can mess up your cycle, mess with your fertility, or even increase your risk for cervical cancer if left untreated.

Some infections don’t even make noise. They hide and cause long-term issues silently.

What to do:

If you're sexually active:

Start getting Pap smears from age 21. This checks for cervical cancer.

Run STI tests regularly, even if ‘he's faithful’.

Pay attention if sex suddenly hurts, or if there's bleeding, odour, or anything weird.

If you're NOT sexually active:

You might not need Pap smears or invasive pelvic exams yet. But if something is itching, smelling off, or giving you funny signals, please don’t just pray it away. Go and see a doctor.

You can do external ultrasounds or simple, gentle exams that don’t require going inside if needed.

Going for checkups doesn't mean you've done something wrong. Your vagina deserves medical care.

And don’t Google symptoms and declare yourself finished. Google will tell you it’s cancer even if it's yeast infection from your high sugar consumption. Just go see a doctor.

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Bonus for the married: 

SEX SHOULD NOT BE PAINFUL.

If you feel pain consistently during sex, something may be off. It could be dryness, trauma, lack of foreplay, tight pelvic muscles, an infection, or an underlying condition. Pain is your body’s way of talking. Please, listen. Seek help. Don’t endure in silence. You deserve comfort and pleasure too.

A lot of us grew up thinking that if you don’t orgasm during penetrative sex, something is wrong with you. It’s not true. The clitoris is where most women experience pleasure. In fact, there is no other known function of this small but mighty organ. Methinks God put it there solely for women to enjoy.☺️ 

So, no, you are not ‘difficult’ if penetration doesn’t do it for you. Penetration alone does it for a small percentage of women. You’re just human. This marriage thing is for a long time, so explore, get attuned with your body, communicate, and don’t feel shame about your needs.

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I hope I have done something for you today. If you found this information useful, do well to share to inform and empower other women.

Much love,

Chinaza Favour

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P.S: Can I use feminine washes?

Well, you don’t need them, but if you prefer to use one, make sure it is fragrance-free, gynecologist-approved, gentle, and for external use (the vulva) only. If it itches or irritates for any reason and at any point, just remember that your vagina was fine before anyone tried to sell you cucumber-mint freshness.

You’re welcome.❤️

A PSYCHOLOGICAL AND TRAUMATOLOGICAL ANALYSIS OF MRS. CHINASA ODIKA’S INTERVIEW AND PUBLIC RESPONSE

A PSYCHOLOGICAL AND TRAUMATOLOGICAL ANALYSIS OF MRS. CHINASA ODIKA’S INTERVIEW AND PUBLIC RESPONSE

An Exordium

The recent interview granted by Mrs. Chinasa Odika to E-Parrot Umelechi has sparked widespread public reaction. Many critics have condemned her tone, asserting that she showed no remorse, particularly because she boldly stated that "all women are doing it," referring to extramarital affairs. However, such a reaction overlooks the psychological depth of trauma, shame, and defense mechanisms that often manifest in the face of public humiliation and social stigma.

1. Understanding Defense Mechanisms: Freudian Perspective

In Freudian psychology, defense mechanisms are unconscious strategies the ego uses to protect itself from anxiety, guilt, shame, or unacceptable feelings. These are not signs of evil or defiance they are signs of a soul trying to survive inner or outer collapse.

From the interview, Mrs. Odika’s boldness and her generalizing statement about other women "all women are doing it" can be understood through several possible defense mechanisms:

a. Projection

By attributing her own wrong behaviour to others ("all women are doing it"), she may be unconsciously attempting to distribute the guilt so as not to carry the crushing weight of shame alone. Projection helps reduce self-blame, especially when one feels morally isolated.

b. Rationalization

She might be justifying her past actions by normalizing them, framing them within a broader societal context where such behavior is not unusual. This is a psychological survival response to mitigate internal dissonance and public ridicule.

c. Reaction Formation or False Bravado

What appears as boldness may actually be false courage, masking deep emotional pain. In trauma psychology, people often display exaggerated strength or denial to avoid being emotionally overwhelmed. Her boldness could be a shield, not an absence of remorse.

d. Dissociation

In severe public shame, individuals can dissociate from the intensity of the moment, appearing numb or unaffected not because they are heartless, but because the emotional overload is unbearable.

2. Psychological Effects of Public Shaming

Public shaming, especially of a sexual nature, can have devastating psychological consequences. The act of her sex video being recorded years ago according to her interview and only recently leaked indicates intentional harm by others. Research in trauma psychology shows that non-consensual exposure of private life, particularly sexuality, often leads to:

1. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Flashbacks, nightmares, fear of public spaces, paranoia, and a loss of basic safety.

2. Depression and Anxiety Disorders: Helplessness, despair, social withdrawal, and even suicidal ideation.

3. Complex Trauma (C-PTSD): Prolonged exposure to humiliation and verbal abuse, such as the kind she’s facing now, can impair self-esteem, emotional regulation, and identity formation.

Shaming someone in such a way especially a woman in a deeply patriarchal society results in double victimization: first by the sexual act being exposed, and second by the mob justice of the public.

3. Trauma, Gender, and Cultural Violence

In cultures where women are disproportionately shamed for sexual "sins", a woman like Mrs. Odika becomes an archetypal scapegoat. While men involved often escape scrutiny (Ichie Obiora, in this case, has received less public outcry), the woman becomes the symbol of moral failure. This is psychological violence disguised as cultural righteousness.

4. Clinical Perspective on Healing

If society continues to shame her, this woman could spiral into self-hatred, suicidal thoughts, or a complete psychological breakdown. What she needs now is not condemnation but professional support, compassionate pastoral care, and community reintegration.

The task of a compassionate society is not to mock the wounded, but to bandage the bleeding. If we continue to laugh while someone psychologically bleeds, we are no longer moral we are cruel.

Finally, Mrs. Chinasa Odika’s response in the interview is best understood as a complex defense against psychological annihilation. Her boldness is not a lack of remorse, but a desperate form of self-preservation. Public shaming is never a tool of healing it is a weapon of destruction. Her healing, like that of any broken soul, must come through truth, justice, mercy, and love.

As psychologists, pastors, and citizens, we must ask ourselves: What kind of society do we become when we devour the wounded instead of helping them stand again?

Shalom Haverim! 

© Rev. Fr. Peter Uche Onuoha

THE MORE SEX YOU HAVE WITH HER, THE MORE POWER SHE HAS TO DESTROY YOU

THE MORE SEX YOU HAVE WITH HER, THE MORE POWER SHE HAS TO DESTROY YOU.(Sexual access without purpose is emotional suicide for men).Let’s talk like men, Because many of you are confusing orgasm with victory. You think frequent sex means you’re in control?No. You’re the one being played.Every time you sleep with her, something happens in your mind that you can’t control.You bond.You soften.You start to tolerate nonsense.Your masculine edge? Gone.Your emotional balance? Hijacked.Your purpose? Now competing with her body.She doesn’t need witchcraft. Sex is the spell.She gets inside your head without touching your brain.She starts living rent-free in your thoughts.You wake up thinking of her.You sleep craving her.You obey her just to keep the access flowing.You think you’re in a relationship. But really—you’re in a trap.You’re negotiating your self-worth in exchange for physical pleasure.You’re tolerating disrespect because you “don’t want to start over.”You’re holding on to her out of fear, not love.The more sex you have, the more emotionally compromised you become.You ignore the red flags.You excuse her bad behavior.You start asking her for direction instead of leading.And guess what?She notices.And she loses respect.Because no woman respects a man she controls with her body.You’ve turned from her protector to her puppet.From a man with a mission, to a man with a mattress.Some of you are in relationships that only still exist because of sex.You don’t even like her personality.You don’t trust her character.You can’t see a future with her.But the sex?It got you hypnotized.Now you’re stuck in a cycle of emotional suicide.Let me be clear: Sex isn’t bad. But sex without purpose is dangerous.If she’s not your wife or part of your long-term vision,You’re not “winning”—you’re wasting.Wasting time. Wasting energy.Wasting destiny.Discipline is the true flex.Any man can chase women.But it takes a real KING to walk away from good sex for a better future.Control your appetite, or your appetite will control you.Choose purpose. Not pleasure.Choose power. Not puppetry.Choose your mission. Not her mattress.Because the more sex you have with her, the more power she has to destroy you.And by the time you realize it…She’s already walking away with your mind, your energy, and youry potential.Copied from Samuel O. Samuel's wall..

REASONS WHY YOU'RE ALWAYS BROKE EVEN THOUGH YOU WORK HARD

REASONS WHY YOU'RE ALWAYS BROKE EVEN THOUGH YOU WORK HARD

(Hard work alone no be enough. You need sense, strategy, and discipline to win.)

You wake up early every morning, hustle till your body complain, but at the end of the month, your bank balance still looks like an empty pocket thief struck. You ask yourself, “Why  are rich like those guys?”

 I get news for you:your habits and mindset does not sabotage your grind. Village people are not your problem, your own lifestyle is.

1. YOU WORK HARD, BUT YOU DON’T WORK SMART

You hustle physically, you run errands, you do odd jobs, but you never think about how to multiply that hustle. You run like rat with no  cheese.

Meanwhile, other guys are using their brains to invest small small, learn skills, start side hustles, build passive income.

Working hard is good. But working smart is the key to escape a poverty trap.

What to do: Learn skills that pay well. Invest in knowledge, not just sweat.

2. YOUR MONEY HAS NO PLAN, NO TRACKING

When salary enter, you just  spend anyhowly—no budget, no savings, no investment. 

This is why every month, you are broke before payday.

What to do: Budget your money like a CEO. Know where every coin will go.

3. YOU CARRY TOO MANY PEOPLE ON YOUR BACK

Your salary is not just for you — it’s for mama, uncle, cousin, friend, street people... you are playing Minister of Finance for everybody.

But no one does the same for you.

Reality: You can’t build wealth carrying 10 people. You must build yourself first.

What to do: Help when you fit, but put your future first.

4. YOU’RE ADDICTED TO SPENDING, NOT INVESTING

You spend on luxury, new gadgets, slay queen maintenance, designer labels… but when time to invest come, you suddenly “have no money again.”

This lifestyle is a silent killer. You  build others’ businesses, not yours.

What to do: Switch your mindset from consume to invest. Use money to grow assets.

5. YOU LIVE PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK WITH NO EMERGENCY FUND

Every little emergency crashes your finances—no backup, no plan B.

So when things go wrong, you borrow, borrow, borrow until you fall into debt trap.

What to do: Save at least 3 months salary as emergency fund. Build cushion.

6. YOU FAIL TO MULTIPLY YOUR INCOME SOURCES

Relying on one salary? That’s like sitting on one leg and expecting to run marathon.

True wealth comes from multiple income streams—business, investments, side hustles.

What to do: Start small side hustles. Learn to create money streams outside salary.

7. YOU WAIT FOR MIRACLE WHILE DOING NOTHING

You pray and wait for miracle money. But no action follows.

Prayers without hustle and procrastination with spiritual flavour.

What to do: Pray with your legs and hands. Action is the partner of blessing.

FINAL TRUTH:

Hard work is important, but without planning, discipline, and smart decisions, you will remain broke.

Village people are not the cause of your poverty; your habits and choices are.

If you want to escape the poverty cycle:

Hustle smart, not just hard.

Budget and track your money.

Cut unnecessary spending.

Build emergency funds.

Multiply your income sources.

Stop carrying unnecessary financial burdens.

Pair prayer with action.

If this post hit you hard, don’t just scroll. Change your mindset, change your life.

Class dismissed.

SEX IS THE MOST EXPENSIVE FREE THING, IT WILL COST YOU A LOT

(How lust keeps men distracted and broke)

Let’s tell the truth a lot of men won’t admit:

It’s not village people holding you back — it’s vagina.

You’re not broke because of bad luck…

You’re broke because you keep trading focus for pleasure.

Every time you chase sex, you’re pushing success further away.

Let’s break it down like men:

1. Sex Is the Most Expensive Free Thing

You think it’s just “ordinary” sex?

No problem.

But check your life…

Since you started jumping from woman to woman, what has grown?

Your goals?

Or your excuses?

You’re wasting time, money, and mental space trying to impress women…

While your destiny is stuck on pause.

2. Lust Makes Men Lazy

You were meant to build.

You were born to conquer.

But now you’re just horny, hungry, and distracted.

Instead of chasing purpose, you’re chasing panties.

Instead of building skills, you are building body counts.

No great man was ever built in a woman’s DM.

3. Every Round Is a Round Lost

Every round of sex you’re having with women you don’t love, don’t respect, and don’t plan to marry…

You’re losing time, clarity, and ambition.

Your mates are investing in business — you’re investing in waists.

They’re building empires — you’re building libido.

This is why you’re always tired. Foggy. Empty.

You’re draining your greatness in hotel rooms with nothing to show for it.

4. The Most Dangerous Woman Is the One Who Feels Like “Escape”

She’s soft. She’s sweet. She listens. She rubs your back.

You feel like a king in her arms — but you wake up with nothing.

That’s not a woman. That’s a distraction with makeup.

She’s not building you. She’s draining you.

And you’re addicted to the illusion of comfort.

5. Women Are Not the Problem — Your Discipline Is

Sex is not evil. Women are not the enemy.

But lack of control? That’s your downfall.

You can’t blame women when it’s your zipper that won’t stay up.

You can’t blame seduction when it’s you that keeps answering “Come over.”

You don’t need more women. You need more focus.

6. You Can’t Plant in Every Soil and Expect a Harvest

Your energy is like a seed.

And you keep planting it in toxic soil — broken girls, unserious women, emotionally damaged distractions…

And you expect to reap success?

No sir.

You’ll reap confusion. Poverty. Setbacks.

Every orgasm with the wrong woman is a step away from your purpose.

7. Great Men Aren’t Sex-Addicted — They’re Purpose-Addicted

Want to rise in life?

Start saying NO to cheap pleasure.

Start saying YES to late nights building.

Early mornings grinding.

Weekends learning.

Your mates are focused. You’re horny.

That’s why they’re succeeding… and you’re just scrolling, chasing, and struggling.

Final Word:

Sex will always be there. But opportunity waits for no man.

You must decide:

Will you chase the temporary rush of sex — or the long-term reward of success?

Because you can’t serve two masters.

You either build… or you keep begging

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