SEX IS THE MOST EXPENSIVE FREE THING, IT WILL COST YOU A LOT

(How lust keeps men distracted and broke)

Let’s tell the truth a lot of men won’t admit:

It’s not village people holding you back — it’s vagina.

You’re not broke because of bad luck…

You’re broke because you keep trading focus for pleasure.

Every time you chase sex, you’re pushing success further away.

Let’s break it down like men:

1. Sex Is the Most Expensive Free Thing

You think it’s just “ordinary” sex?

No problem.

But check your life…

Since you started jumping from woman to woman, what has grown?

Your goals?

Or your excuses?

You’re wasting time, money, and mental space trying to impress women…

While your destiny is stuck on pause.

2. Lust Makes Men Lazy

You were meant to build.

You were born to conquer.

But now you’re just horny, hungry, and distracted.

Instead of chasing purpose, you’re chasing panties.

Instead of building skills, you are building body counts.

No great man was ever built in a woman’s DM.

3. Every Round Is a Round Lost

Every round of sex you’re having with women you don’t love, don’t respect, and don’t plan to marry…

You’re losing time, clarity, and ambition.

Your mates are investing in business — you’re investing in waists.

They’re building empires — you’re building libido.

This is why you’re always tired. Foggy. Empty.

You’re draining your greatness in hotel rooms with nothing to show for it.

4. The Most Dangerous Woman Is the One Who Feels Like “Escape”

She’s soft. She’s sweet. She listens. She rubs your back.

You feel like a king in her arms — but you wake up with nothing.

That’s not a woman. That’s a distraction with makeup.

She’s not building you. She’s draining you.

And you’re addicted to the illusion of comfort.

5. Women Are Not the Problem — Your Discipline Is

Sex is not evil. Women are not the enemy.

But lack of control? That’s your downfall.

You can’t blame women when it’s your zipper that won’t stay up.

You can’t blame seduction when it’s you that keeps answering “Come over.”

You don’t need more women. You need more focus.

6. You Can’t Plant in Every Soil and Expect a Harvest

Your energy is like a seed.

And you keep planting it in toxic soil — broken girls, unserious women, emotionally damaged distractions…

And you expect to reap success?

No sir.

You’ll reap confusion. Poverty. Setbacks.

Every orgasm with the wrong woman is a step away from your purpose.

7. Great Men Aren’t Sex-Addicted — They’re Purpose-Addicted

Want to rise in life?

Start saying NO to cheap pleasure.

Start saying YES to late nights building.

Early mornings grinding.

Weekends learning.

Your mates are focused. You’re horny.

That’s why they’re succeeding… and you’re just scrolling, chasing, and struggling.

Final Word:

Sex will always be there. But opportunity waits for no man.

You must decide:

Will you chase the temporary rush of sex — or the long-term reward of success?

Because you can’t serve two masters.

You either build… or you keep begging

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Men, Listen up!WHY MOST WOMEN LOSE INTEREST AFTER WEDDING

Most Women Lose Interest After Wedding. It’s not because you changed. It’s because the fantasy expired.

Let’s kill the illusion.

You didn’t fall off.

You didn’t stop being attractive.

You didn’t “switch up.”

She just realized the wedding is over—

and reality doesn’t come with filters.

Because most women weren’t in love with you.

They were in love with how you made them feel while you were chasing them.

Once you got her?

She started asking—“Where’s the thrill?”

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1. Her Love Was Never Rooted in Duty—It Was Rooted in Dopamine

She loved the pursuit.

The attention.

The feeling of being wanted.

But dopamine fades.

And once the likes, the engagement buzz, the proposal ring glow die down—

so does her interest.

She was chasing butterflies.

You were chasing legacy.

That’s where you both missed each other.

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2. She Got What She Wanted—Now She’s Bored

You saw marriage as the beginning.

She saw it as the peak.

You wanted to build.

She wanted to enjoy.

So when the selfies stopped trending,

when the vacations turned into school runs,

when you started focusing on the grind—

she started checking out.

Not because you failed.

But because the fantasy was fulfilled.

Now she’s waiting for the next fairytale chapter.

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3. She Was Trained to Secure—Not Sustain

Modern women are experts at getting a man.

Slay. Smile. Submit on demand.

Strategically soft until the ring lands.

But no one taught her how to keep a man.

How to serve without ego.

How to show up when it’s no longer fun.

How to be consistent when life gets real.

Now every conversation feels like criticism.

Every correction feels like control.

Every leadership move feels like domination.

She’s not “losing interest.”

She’s just out of her depth.

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4. She Still Thinks It’s Day One—You Know It’s Day 3,000

You’ve had two kids.

You’ve got bills, school fees, a job that’s draining your soul.

But she’s still quoting relationship gurus:

“Date her like it’s the first day.”

“Keep courting her forever.”

“Be spontaneous.”

I’m sorry, today is not day one.

It’s Tuesday.

Your rent is due.

Your toddler just spilled pap on your shirt.

And the car battery is dead.

Disney lied to her.

Every romance movie ends with “happily ever after.”

No one shows the chaos after the credits.

You thought marriage meant you could be yourself now.

Drop the bad boy act.

Be mature.

Be present.

But she still wants the man who made her tingle on day one.

Not the man who pays the light bill.

You left the game.

She’s still watching the replay.

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5. There’s No Romance Without Finance

If you haven’t figured out your numbers,

you’re setting yourself up to fail.

Most women won’t suffer with a man.

And the few who try?

They’ve got an internal countdown.

She’ll stay while it’s “cute.”

But when the pressure gets real,

and her lifestyle starts shrinking,

she’s gone—faster than the money disappeared.

Love doesn’t pay rent.

Cuddles don’t fuel generators.

And “we’ll figure it out” doesn’t pay school fees.

If you’re broke—prepare to lose both her and your peace.

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6. Her Friends Are the Whisperers of Greener Grass

Once your wife surrounds herself with single mothers, bitter exes, and run-girls?

Brace yourself.

Because girls’ night is no longer about small chops and gist.

It’s about planting seeds of dissatisfaction.

“You’re still cooking for him?”

“Girl, you deserve soft life!”

“You’re too loyal. He’s not even romantic.”

She starts comparing.

She starts doubting.

She starts wondering what she’s missing.

Bad company corrupts good morals.

But bad company with a weak woman?

That’s a guaranteed relationship death sentence.

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7. You Didn’t Do a Background Check—Now You’re Paying Generational Debt

Her mother cycled through four men before settling for one.

Or none.

Now that same mother is her advisor.

Teaching her how to “never let a man control you.”

How to “always have a backup plan.”

How to “never suffer like she did.”

You thought you married your dream girl.

You actually married her mother’s unfinished trauma.

Without strong, virtuous foundations—

a woman becomes a product of pain, not principles.

No present father to model restraint.

No wise pastor to call her to order.

No structure. No self-discipline.

So when things get hard,

she doesn’t dig deeper.

She downloads divorce papers.

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8. When Love Becomes Labor, Most Women Clock Out

She doesn’t want struggle.

She doesn’t want pressure.

She doesn’t want anything that looks like patience.

And the moment love feels like work—

she files for emotional leave.

That’s why 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

They don’t stay through storms.

They cancel subscriptions at the first inconvenience.

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So What’s the Real Reason She Lost Interest?

Because reality showed up—

and it wasn’t as exciting as the fantasy she created in her head.

You were a project.

She was the architect of a fairytale.

The day you stopped playing the role—

she started deleting the story.

It’s not about “you changed.”

It’s about “her dream died.”

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Final Warning to Men:

Don’t marry a vibe.

Marry values.

Don’t chase butterflies.

Plant roots.

Don’t assume a ring means forever.

It only means “for now” until tested.

Because once the illusion fades,

only the real ones stay.

And if you’re unlucky?

You’ll be the husband…

she uses as a stepping stone to her second phase.

Comments are open.

Let the fantasy lovers defend their script.

My Missing Ribs 

Timothy Obafemi