Spirits that delay marriage in guys

By George Ben

1.FEAR OF COMMITMENT : This is one reason why some guys are scared of getting married. They think this way, "how can I give all my love and affection to just one woman for the rest of my life? "

"I can't be eating only egusi soup for the rest of my life." "Variety is the spice of life."

Some say "I can't imagine myself waking up beside the same woman in bed every morning". Let me enjoy life alone some more.. That's how some guys suddenly became "Manchelors". People are now confused whether you should be in the church men's fellowship or youth fellowship.

2. I'M THE FIRST BORN IN THE FAMILY: The position of being a first born in the family certainly comes with responsibilities, no doubt.

Some guys feel they have to be the Lord and Savior of the family by solving all the problems in their family. My brother, you can't solve all your family problems. As you solve one, another problem is already in the queue waiting for you.

3. FREE SERVICES/MINISTRATIONS: Some guys don't think about getting married because they are already enjoying the benefits of marriage. They say "why should I get married now when I have a girl friend that offers me free sex. She comes to my house to cook for me and she does all my laundry work".

"why should I buy the whole Cow when I get steady supply of cow milk?".

I blame the lady that offers such free ministrations in a bid to prove wife material 1000 yards.. May that milk not purge you as you drink it, my brother.

4. BEING OVERLY SELECTIVE: No Lady is ever good enough for some guys. She is not educated enough. She speaks scattered English. She has tribal marks. She has k-legs.

I want a lady that has pointed nose, flat stomach, long legs, massive waist, and golden eyes like that of a bird.

She has an OND, I'm a masters degree holder, she's not my class. Bro, hope you know you are not some other person's class too?

She must be a working class lady when you are jobless.. "OLE"..you are not working, yet you want a working class lady that will be footing your bills. she will foot you down my brother.

5. MUMMY'S CHOICE: Some guys are not yet married or find it difficult to get married because they want to meet the specifications of their mother.

If his mother doesn't approve of the lady, he calls it a quit with the lady. Such guys have moms that insist they must marry from their village. The girl must be from the same tribe with you.

We were born into Assemblies of God Church, and the lady must come from Assemblies of God, so we remain assembled. Well done, brother. It's your scattered mind you need to assemble, my brother.

6. I MUST BE A MILLONAIRE FIRST: It's not by your power and strength that you become a millionaire, it's by God's favor. If you have waited for the money for long and it's not coming, will you keep waiting? Not everyone is destined to be a millionaire as a bachelor. Some become millionaires after they got married. So choose your choose, my brother.

7. THE LADY'S MAN: You are feeling young and fresh because of your good looks. You feel you are doing any lady that comes your way a favor by dating them. They are the ones chasing you, and your shoulders that have puffed up 50 50 shoulder pads are almost exploding with pride.

All of a sudden, you wake up one morning to realise you are 40 years old and still sagging trousers feeling young. Bro, you need to have a meeting with yourself and by yourself. You will not always be a bobo forever.

8. LORD OF THE RINGS: This spirit tells you to engage ladies with rings here and there, and they hold on to the rings for 10-15 years, yet no marriage. You even know the family of the lady, but you know in your heart of heart that You are not ready, yet you scare away other suitors from her.

You make the ladies feel you have made a commitment through the rings, alas those rings are nothing short of key holders and handcuffs.

You are that spirit husband people are talking about.. 😀😀😀

Stop giving people's daughters handcuffs and key holders in the name of engagement rings.

We loose every chain holding marriages from taking place at the right time in Jesus name.

May you recognize true love when you see her

Things Men Should Never Do to Please a Woman When in Love

Love is indeed a beautiful thing! The feelings when u are truly in love is next to none. People express love in different ways, some people especially men particularly are over expressive.

 Women become overly expressive when they see their man being expressive too. Though most women find men who are expressive to be very annoying because men who are like that are usually emotional and perceived to be weaklings. 

We have been suffering from poor education about love and I think is time we learn to do things the right way!

As much as one could never fully understand the affairs of the heart and the kind of people it chooses to fall for, some

things would be better if they are rationally reviewed. Love is a very beautiful thing we must say, it could also become a point of pain if things do not go as planned in the relationship.

In this part of the world, men are proclaimed to be the head, this also applies in relationships. No one is asking a man to prove his manliness by beating up the women in his life in order to prove to the world that he is in charge. However, certain things are not expected of the man when it comes to relationships which is what we are about to discuss here. 

Some men have failed because of the role they played in their relationships. This is mostly as a result of the overbearing attitude they put up when it comes to women. They go overboard when expressing their feelings and emotions. They trade their positions for the love they have for the women and end up being ridden in the process.

Later we will still have to discuss some of the things women should never do to please men, because it would be unfair not to help the women know their limitations when it comes to pleasing men too. 

Find below some of the things you should never do to please your woman:

Never steal or commit a crime for a woman: Yes you heard me! No matter how bad things are never think of stealing because you want to please a woman, because you will end up in jail and then before you come out another has taken your place, and u will take all the blame. Of course no woman wants to end up with a thief. You will watch her walk away when you are behind the bar. Be guided in your choice of actions and know that there should be limits to every sacrifice in love. 

Never buy a woman car or house when you don't have one: Over the years some men think buying expensive gifts will make a woman stay for you in a relationship lol truth is that they will only dump you after you are done fooling yourself. Why love people more than you love your self? Or were you forbidden to buying expensive stuffs for yourself? The truth of the matter is that you will end up being seen as a fool and a womanizer as well when you do all this. There are better things to do for the one you love and not being a fool. Is not bad to get her a car or a house but make sure you have one!                            

2 :Fighting another man because of her: What will even make you fight your fellow man for any reason not to talk of a woman that might leave you tomorrow if things gets worst. Two things are involved is either the guy beat you up and she laugh at you or you beat the guy up and end in jail and still lose her. To me I don't think any woman is worth fighting a fellow man for. You can handle it with a maturity by talking things out with him and not by fighting him. 

3:Reject your family because of her: So many women wish for this, some pray all your people are even dead before they meet you but no matter how they wish and drag you never you in your wildest dreams think of rejecting your family because of any woman. There a saying that is better to marry a bad wife than have a bad child! Yes your child is your family, your wife is also your family but then don't forget she has a family she can always go back to when things get tougher. You should be able to state and define the love for your woman and the love for your family. 

4: Give up your dreams: Alot has happened, so many dreams have died all because you think you love her. My brother never give up that dream is either she wait while you pursue your dreams or you let her slide. Truth is you will always see someone who will cherish that dream of yours after a while. Is better to give up on her than to give up on your dream! 

5:Never become suicidal because of her: Emotional depression has lead so many into committing suicid, never in you life harbour this thought just because of the pains that you your love left you or because you are passing through some emotional blah blah blah! No matter the depth of your love, do not ever let it take you to a plain where you lose the desire to live. Do not become a martyr for a woman; do not die for love. In the same line, do not kill for a woman.

There are lots of women in the society; if you get rejected by a woman, work on yourself and you would have lots of women bidding for your attention. Never let your emotions control you, always be open to failure, accept it, learn the lessons and move on with your life! It takes only the living the love again! 

Love is beautiful but never be a fool to love. Love yourself first, Never let anyone deceive you with the word "If you love me, you will do this and that" Don't be deceived my brother. Love with your eyes wild open forget that saying that love is blind this is only true when u see less of your partners wrong and appreciate the good thing in them and not when you start fooling yourself around. Walk majestically into any love as a king with your eyes open! 

What are other things that you think is not worth doing for love?

Love for courtship

From :Loskangeles southern California blog

The Importance of Courtship in Building a Relationship

When someone mentions the word courtship, people will often misunderstand, judge or jump to conclusions about what it means so we want to clear things up! Courtship is an essential part of building a successful relationship and maintaining it for years to come. Romance and deep commitment are needed for a relationship to survive and courtship provides the building blocks. Courtship also allows couples to build trust and unconditional love, which are two other must-haves in a healthy relationship. Our Los Angeles matchmakers have put together a simple guide to help you understand courtship and why it’s an important way to build a relationship with the person you love.

What is Courtship?

The first step to understanding why courtship is important to your relationship is to understand first what courtship actually means. Courtship isn’t “no sex until marriage,” cheesy cards, love songs, and daily flower delivery, nor is it awkward activities that neither of you enjoy. Modern courtship can look very different, but at the core, it is the act of seeking to charm, impress and secure the love and affection of a potential long-term partner.

What Does a Successful Relationship Look Like?

Now that you know what courtship is, here’s why it’s so important to apply the methodology to build your relationship. For a successful romantic partnership to take root it must first have:

•    Romance

•    Commitment

•    Trust

•    Unconditional Love

Of course, there are varying other elements as well, such as, common interests, sense of humor and similar backgrounds, but without the first four, there is a high probability of relationship failure. Think about the happy and long lasting relationships around you. Ask them if they share those four elements with their partner.

How Does Courtship Relate to Romance and Commitment?

Through courtship you can communicate romantic love and your commitment to each other. The very purpose of courtship is to understand what romance and commitment looks like with another person. It is continually looking for ways to express affection and gain the affection of another, to give your partner attention and gain their attention in return, to attract another and merit attraction. The romantic part of a relationship gets your heart pounding and releases butterflies in the pit of your stomach. Commitment makes you feel secure and breaks the chains of fear so you can enjoy being romantic within your relationship.

When you start to incorporate the habits of courtship into your relationship, you’ll notice that your bond becomes deeper and more fulfilling. Both of you will become happier and enjoy the benefits of a healthy relationship. Finding the person you will truly enjoy being with can be difficult, but with the help of your personal matchmaker the job becomes a little less stressful and a lot more enjoyable. Take the guesswork out of relationships and enjoy the fun part of building a loving and lasting connection

Foolish spending

I meet a guy on Facebook, we dated and we agreed to see our selves face to face though we agreed to get married to each , this guy is living in Lagos and before I accepted as a friend I told him that I don't like distance relationship and he said that will not be a problem, at time we promise to see each other, he said that he is not financially buoyant that I have to support him financially with 20000k which I did he use the money for expenses including buying drugs for his mother. Now I sponsor him with 24000k and he promised to send me back the money , but ever since he went he has not responded positively rather asking me to send more money to him that he is dying of hunger. Am just confused I physically i can really understand this guy. Please I need an advice!!!

She doesn't like sex

Please I seriously need advice on this. I'm in a stage of confusion now. I pasted a post here some time ago, and some of us here advises me to go ahead and marry the woman that she is going to be the best wife. I took to the advice, but now the woes is happening. Posted here that a girl I wanted to marry doest not like sex and we were in a serious relationship, and when I confronted her about it she told me I should marry her first before sex. Recently we have started the marriage process. I have done the formal introduction which causes some good amount of money. And I also pay in some money in cash as been demanded by the family, and we have finished every arrangement on the payment of the remaining things but I have just relies that my wife does not like sex. To the extent that she told me I should go and get it somewhere else. Her complain now is that I stay too long on sex. We hardly have sex ones in a week, but she always one me to stay around her. I can say is always on a serious pressure that we can have sex two to three times in a month. We can be together in a house for one full week none of us goes out but know touching. She is no longer a girl. We are of the same age. I have not been satisfy in bed with her. Now the issue is how long will it continue and I is it true that I will have two wives? Or I should not not continue with the remaining process which is to pay the remaining things including the Britt price? Are this things are what I'm thinking. Pls I need advice.