Thursday 14 January 2021

MARRIAGE IS NOT A SCAM.

 MARRIAGE IS NOT A SCAM.

Marriage is much more than for the gram, or for prewedding Pictures and social media clout. It is a whole humbling process. You must get the foundation right or regret it. Many young people get swayed by frivolities and end up with the devil. Some see the signs but will still go ahead and marry hoping they will Change. Marriage is not beautiful by default. It is like an empty box. The love, peace, effective communication and maturity comes from the both of you, and that's why the most important factor is not just having the right person, but also being the right person.
I get tired of young unserious people who get into relationship for material/sexual gratification and then come out to shout about how marriage is rubbish. If you marry the wrong person, you have Part of the blame. Yes, You don't have to stay but accept your part. This applies to both gender (male & female). Women will marry a man who is clearly toxic for whatever reason: money, sexual prowess or social class. Men will marry women for even money, Beauty, and two months later you're on social media shouting marriage is a scam, love is a scam, this is a this and that is a that. No, you didn't have sense.
Love or marriage is not a scam. Take the responsibility that you married the wrong person. The pain of marrying the wrong person is worse than your present fear of getting too old before marriage. Some of you jump into marriage without getting to know the person. In dating, you were busy just having sex, going to eateries, taking photos, sleeping over, doing laundries, chatting and asking yourselves 'Have you eaten' 20times a day. It is your fault!

Saturday 12 December 2020

IMPORTANT OF OSE OJI AND OJI

By OLUEBUBE S C@Igbo bu igbo facebook group
In promoting our beautiful culture and tradition, I made a post about ose orji Igbo and orji ugo on how to make prayers with it and for blessings but I now understand that we igbos are very good in promoting others culture than ours.. when I made the post, thou has deleted it cuz of much friend request and questions and am only one person,some asked questions which I sincerely answer the one I could while some were like saying.. I believe in God, Jesus is stronger e.t.c





You believe in God abi? So who do I believe in.. Ekwensu odu ogologo okwaya?
I laugh and decide to keep mute but later change my mind for them not to give cold mind to others with their comments. If you are among those that said what I teach that day is evil that means you are inother way round saying that our culture (ur own) is evil and you are trying to say that God planted evil in our land and give the white good things .. check godiya
You can't pray with ose orji but you can drink one trailer of Goya olive oil given to you to pray chai! Who do us?
You can't use ose orji to pray to God and chase evil away from ur home but you can use sticker , handkerchief,water mix with salt ur Rev. Give to you and you see no evil in it but our own ose orji is evil.. for instance my dad buy me a red shoe and my uncle that lives abroad came back home and bought me a yellow shoe as well, so should I now throw away the one my dad gift me and say is no longer good, no no no
Rather I use both and that's make me has two shoes
Have you seen or heard that someone is been killed with ose orji ? Then what makes you think is evil
Please if you know how you pray with Oliver oil, water and sticker , pray same with ose orji it works .
Everything is now fetish to us ndi Igbo even ogu Igbo(native drugs ) is now fetish to us , we throw away everything in a twinkle of an eye..
Please umunnem let's go back to our root that didn't stop you from been a Christian taht you are .. read ur Bible very well

23 THINGS TO DO TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND UNDER THE CONTROL OF YOUR LOVE


1. Call him by a pet name
2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.
3. DO not challenge him when he is hurt.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his happy moment with apology and explain why you behave that way that annoyed him.
5. Be quick to say "I'm sorry dear" when ever you offend him, insist on his forgiveness, appreciate and kiss him when he does.
6. Speak good of him before his Friends and siblings.
7. Honor his mother
8. Insist that he buys gift for his parents and in so doing be he will do same for your parents
9. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially when he has no money at hand and never delay his food.
10. Do not allow the maid to serve him food when you are at home. Because u may lose him to her.
11. Give him a warm reception with an embrace when he returns, collect his luggage and help undress him.
12. Smile when you look at him and give him occasional pecks when you are out socially.
13. Praise him before your children sometimes.
14. Wash his back while he is in the shower.
15. Put love note in his pocket or briefcase.
16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.
17. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell him I love you.
18. If he is a public figure or a politician, gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him to the point he want no more, give him sex. He will not be entice by any other woman that day.
19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your husband.
20. Give him a hug for no reason, a surprise Hug.
21. Appreciate God for the Adam of your life.
22. Always remember to pray for him.
23. Pray together and also pray together before going to bed in the night.
May God bless your marriages. Singles may you experience true love today and forever. May non-serious people that will waste your time be disconnected in your life In Jesus Name

Tuesday 8 December 2020

 NEVER FIGHT A MAN WHO SAID NOTHING

"What kind of a man is Ezenwankwo?" The people of Zulu had always wondered. Where perches his loyalty, to his people or to the cursed white men?
''He is a man of courage and wisdom, but when the issues concerning the white men are raised, he becomes as cold as the ice that capsized the Titanic ship" Nduka said.
Ezenwankwo's father had staked his life and paid the ultimate sacrifice during the fight with the people of Amesi over a land tussle. That was true patriotism.. Did our people not said that a fruit does not fall far from its tree? Indeed, Ezenwankwo did not take after his father.
People still found it befuddling that the same Ezenwankwo that had always tacitly dissociated himself from launching an agressive assault against the white men was still the same man that chased the white men away with cutlass when they had paid him a visit. He ran after them and hurled pejoratives on them.
It was also heard that he had sworn in the name of the mother earth which he stood upon that none of his household, not even any of his livestock will have anything to do with the white men.
It was 'Eke' market day, when the sun had gone to sleep, a meeting was called to decide on how to ambush the white men so as to stop them from further infesting the land with all manners of abomination of which the ancestors were already angry with.
Ezenwankwo after knowing the reason behind the sound of the 'ekwe', he quietly stood up and left the meeting.
"Leave him! We can do without him. Who does he even think he is?" There was chorus of shouts and anger.
Very early in the morning, the war drum had sounded and the group had set out to execute their mission.
The youths were the vanguards leading the frontal attack, while the elders remained at the rear brandishing strategic words. It was a mission to ambush the white men.
They were surprised to have seen scribblings on the earth. They saw traces of footsteps, but at that moment, it meant nothing to them.
As they approached the parsonage, it was empty. It sounded hollow, a clear indication that no one was there. Those footsteps must be theirs.
No other person! Ezenwankwo had betrayed their plans to the white, so they thought!
'I saw him walking alone along the stream path last night' a man admitted.. with bitterness and anger, they stamped their feet heavily towards his house.
'Where is you traitorous husband?'
His wife and children shivered.
'I swear by the gods, I don't know' his wife cried.
At the other end, the huts were crumbled and the dusts became visible in the air.
"Tell us the truth, where has that bush meat you call your husband hidden?''
''I swear by the land, I don't know'' her voice roared louder in cry.
That was her last statement before the poor children were rendered motherless.. Her blood watered the earth that had not seen rain for five market days..
'Only the chief priest can tell us where to get him now.. he must not leave to see the next day' a man suggested.
They left the poor children to weep for the dead.
The chief priest was in the shrine. He motioned them not to say anything.. he looked up to the sky and moved his head like that of the agama lizard.
' Ezenwankwo had been here more than any of you to enquire what shall happen to the white men.. the gods had always insisted that only a willing human self-sacrifice can save this land'
He paused, with the white chalk in his eyes, he looked at the iroko tree as if he was searching for a lion there..
He continued; 'Ezenwankwo has paid the ultimate sacrifice.. there, is his corpse, he freely offered it for our liberation.'
The cutlasses and the hard sticks dropped one after the other.. the voice of wailings, bitterness and regrets filled the air.
The chief priest finally spoke ' Never fight a man who said nothing.. for what you have done without enquiry, this land shall experience a greater suffering that no eyes has ever seen, and not many eyes will see its end.'' he pierced his wand into the earth and left.
~ Okpala Chukwuemeka.

Sunday 29 November 2020

MY PAINFUL JOURNEY WITH KIDNEY STONE

 MY PAINFUL JOURNEY WITH KIDNEY STONE

FROM A FACEBOOK FRIEND

It all started on the 16th day of November, 2020 when I started noticing blood in my urine, at first I didn't know what to make of it, until the whole urine turned to blood. The night was a very long night, as I kept urinating bloody urine until morning. The pain was out of this world, it was pepperish and hot at the same time.
By morning, I noticed that a Stone-like object has blocked the tip of penis, making it difficult for me to pass urine. Infact, it took me two hours or more, just for some drops of urine to find it's way out.
The burning pain when the urine could not find it's way out, was another round of torture. So I visited the hospital, went for scan and the stone was detected just at the tip of my penis. After administering lots of antibiotics for a week, the stone was still there. Infact, once I feel the urge to urinate, my mind skips because it's a whole lot of different exercise that demands lots of patience.
On one of such days when I was returning home from taking my injections, I saw a man rush to the gutters and within 5 seconds, he was done urinating, I shook my head and in my mind I said “this man doesn't know what God has done for him”. From that moment, I started appreciating the luxury in urinating freely and peacefully, with all the urine fully discharged. Mine took hours and yet the whole urine won't be out, kept dripping, as I padded up to soaked it up.
After about one week of medication, the only noticeable change was the pain that reduced, but passing urine was still difficult, so the doctor referred me to a urologist.
I came back and I was perplexed, one mind said I should go see the urologist, but the other mind said No. Reason being that the doctor said that since the stone refused to dissolve and move out through urine, the next alternative was to be operated upon. Mehn! I wasn't ready for anyone to touch my “Mr happy” with those blades, not when I have not fully utilized it.
Also consulting with my friends, they advised against it, stating that the penile area is very sensitive and any complication will lead to numerous other complications. So I stucked to my guns, then checked the internet for possible herbal medications.
I started drinking lots of water and forcing out urine once I feel the urge to urinate, as well as lime water, pine apple water and watermelon with the seeds well eaten. I noticed some changes with the way I urinate just yesterday, as the urine was becoming frequent, you need to see my happiness with the development.
I intensified my prayer life, telling God to heal me in his time. It was just like magic as I tried urinating last night, I noticed a very strong sharp pain on my “PIM PIM”, I still pushed through the pain and in a twinkle of an eye, the stone fell off, followed by the hot urine.
Dear Facebook friends, 2020 has been a tough one for everybody, if you still do not see a reason to thank God everyday, just thank him because you can urinate freely (like you fit piss anyhow you like, without restrictions). As I type this experience, I can't count how many times I have urinated, the feeling is unbelievably awesome.
It's the last Sunday of November, The First Sunday of Advent, it's my testimony Sunday, you all should please join me in thanking God for delivering and seeing me through this tough experience. Let's all be thankful, we are seeing the end of 2020, next year hopefully will be better.

Saturday 28 November 2020

DEALING WITH OFFENSES IN MARRIAGE

 

I used to get easily offended by my wife especially because I expected her to know better or to consider me or to think like I thought.





Later I discover that expectations are the bedrock of offenses. If I expect that you will greet me and you didn't greet me, I will feel offended.
But if I was not really expecting any greeting from you and you didn't greet me, I won't feel any offense.
But this still pose a question, shouldn't I expect anything from my spouse?
I was locked at this question for a while until I got more clarity.
The day I gave my life to Jesus, I gave everything I am to Jesus. I gave everything I have, I own, I possess to Jesus.
This means that I have given my wife to JesusπŸ™†πŸ½‍♂
Ahhhh
This got me more confused, does that mean that I don't have a wife again🀷🏾‍♂
If I have given my life to Jesus and my life includes my wife because we are now one, how do I obey the law of loving my wife as Christ loved the church?
I was more confused πŸ€”

Then I got a clearer picture which I will explain below.
The first law of Jesus says love God with your all.
So to love my wife I must first love God and through God love my wife.
. God
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Me. Wife
Since I have given my wife to Jesus, my expectations is no longer in my wife.
The Bible says woe unto him that puts his trust in flesh, my wife is part of flesh that can fail me. So I no longer put any expectation to her.
My expectations are now in Christ Jesus.
No matter how much she offends, I can only report her to her new husband, Jesus.
It's no more my expectations she failed to meet, it is Jesus expectation she failed.
It's no more my problem, it is Jesus problem.
I am no longer living to please her, I am not taking care of her because that's what husband do.
I am taking care of the Jesus property in my care.
If Jesus her new owner isn't shouting at her for losing his money, why should I shout.
If Jesus her new owner will forgive her the very second she ask for forgiveness no matter the offense, why should I not forgive and let go.
On the day of judgment, Jesus is going to ask me how I treated his property in my hands.
So back to the question, how do I now treat offenses in marriage?
I have handed my partner to Jesus, all my expectations is now in Jesus.
I am now under a new management 24 hours a day.
My manager "Jesus" does not sleep or slumber, so his control over my actions is active 24 hours a day.
I must report every action my spouse do to my manager 24 hours a day.
I know my manager will tell me to forgive her 70 x 70 times a day.
I know my manager will tell me anger lies in the bosom of fools.
I know a little anger can cut my communications with my manager in the heavenly headquarters.
I know if my communication with the headquarters is broken, that wicked enemy will implement his strategy to kill, to steal and to destroy.
I know Jesus says that on the day he will come like a thief in the night, 2 will be sleeping on the same bed, one will be taken and one left. I don't want to be the one left over an offense that naturally belongs to Jesus.
Oops, OK let me finally answer the question. I don't want to talk very long like bro Lanre and Sis Yinka Adeboye.
Let me be brief...
So the practical way I deal with offenses after all the Lord had taught me is to simply...... Forgive in advance. It's not my problem.
It's the problem of my new manager Jesus.
Why
Because Jesus was so jealous he wasn't satisfied with 50% of me, he wasn't happy with 90% of me.
I even wanted to give him 99%, he refused and said I must give him 100%.
But I can't blame Jesus, Jesus paid 100% too. He gave his whole life.
So if I give him anything less than 100% I have cheated him.
My wife is part of the 100%. Her offense is part of the 100%. My children are part of the 100% my boss is part of the 100%, the government is part of the 100%.
Actually I am now a very empty guy because all my responsibilities are in Jesus. I follow him 24hrs.
Hmmm
Ok let me finish this short essayπŸ€ͺ
I am tired of this world, I just want to be part of those singing with God in heaven. If forgiving my wife in advance is what it takes to make heaven then... Darling you are forgiven in advance ooo.
What if she takes advantage of my forward forgiveness, hmmm. Jesus will deal with her, it's still not my problem
Thank you