Wednesday 11 August 2021

I SHOULD NOT HAVE LIED

 A Man who has always asked me for help called this morning, asking if I was at home.
I said NO (I lied). He asked if he could wait. Again I said No, that he should go, I will call him when am back home.
"I don't have money today abeg" I murmured to myself after dropping the call.
As I stepped out of the house much later, I was shocked to see him asleep on the bench beside my house waiting for me.
I felt sad with a rush of guilt.
I walked towards him, making up my mind to give him 1k out of the 3k cash I had with me.
He was so happy to see me when I tapped him awake.
"Are you just coming, I didn't know when i slept off"? He asked and I said yes. I had to lie again! Before I could bring out the 1k, with so much excitement he brought out the sum of TEN THOUSAND NAIRA (10k) and said to me:
"It is for you. You've been so kind to me during this lockdown. I know it's small for you but just buy anything you want with it. He said confidently.
I was so pleasantly dazed.
God has again transformed another life!.
LESSON
1) Many of those we see/treat as 'beggers' are probably more generous and much kinder than us the self acclaimed Philanthropists (who else will doze off while waiting to dash out Money).
2) It is not everytime people call that they nvvvgtvmmeed your help, they can also call to Bless you when God change their lives.
Be nice to people nobody knows tomorrow

EXCLUSIVE ROLES OF PARENTS IN CHILDREN UPBRINGING


Parents have four major roles to play in the life of their children.
*1-* INSTRUCTIONAL ROLES.
*2-* REBUKE ROLES.
*3-* EXHORTATION ROLES
*4-* EDUCATIVE ROLES.
* INSTRUCTIONAL ROLES.*
We must instruct our children:
*To behave well in public.
*To rise up early each day.
*To pray first thing as they rise.
*To be the first to greet people.
*To clean up themselves properly.
*To clean their environment.
*To be early and timely to every daily tasks.
*To be orderly.
*To be respectful to people.
*To speak in decent language.
*To organise themselves.
*To plan their schedules.
*To have their daily timetable off hand.
*To comport themselves in quietness.
*To be articulate, reasonable and expectant.
*To ask questions when in doubt.
*To listen carefully with understanding.
*To act with decorum, courtesy and humility always.
*To defend the family name and image at all times.
*To obey elders, set rules and regulations.
*To pray before retiring to bed at night.
* REBUKE ROLES*.
We must rebuke our children:
*When they portray laziness.
*When they are prayerless.
*When they appear dirty.
*When they're insolent.
*When they speak foul languages.
*When they speak improperly.
*When they sit carelessly.
*When they participate in unsolicited discussions.
*When they come late to appointments or tasks.
*When they talk back to elders in anger.
*When you notice pride in them.
*When they become spendthrift.
*When they eat irregularly.
*When they cannot control their appetite.
*When you notice ostentatious lifestyle in them.
*When they think about materialism always.
*When they unnecessarily compare themselves with others.
*When they speak abusively of other parents or elders or mates.
*When you notice the spirit of hatred in them.
*When they make hate speeches.
*When they complain always about others.
*When they move with suspicious characters.
*When they are not extolling learning.
*When they're not proud of academic achievements.
*When they abuse their teachers at home.
*When they discredit their school.
*When they plan to revenge or retaliate against actions.
*When they refuse to obey constituted authority.
*When they fail to pray.
* EXHORTATION ROLES.*
Parents must Praise their children :
*When they do well in assignments and exams.
*When they are properly dressed.
*When they speak well in public.
*When they speak well of their institution and teachers.
*When they speak well of others.
*When their carriage is decent.
*When they express Godly values.
*When they always talk about excellence.
*When they spend less time watching TV.
*When they spend more time studying.
*When they spend less time talking.
*When they spend more time listening.
*When they spend right time praying.
*When they spend less time playing.
*When they know what to do.
*When they know what is right.
*When they refuse to do what is wrong.
*When their ambition is to be the best in good endeavours.
*When they speak of becoming Great People.
*When they take action that meets good vision.
* EDUCATIVE ROLES.*
Parents must Teach their children :
*How to live honest life.
*How to live amongst people.
*How to live in comfort with others.
*How to love and appreciate others.
*How to be fair to all concerned.
*How to love their teachers, school and those in authority over them.
*How to obey rules and regulations.
*How to live in dignity and self esteem.
*How to plan their future.
*How to raise Godly homes.
*How proper education answers to most of life's challenges.
*How to escape from bad friendship.
*How to pick a career.
*How to develop their career.
*How to pass through life successfully by depending on God and not man.
*How to pass examinations without malpractice.
*How to be studious and build their brains.
*How to set academic standards for now and their future.
*How to flaunt Excellent Achievements and not Beauty.
*How to be Intellectual Celebrities.
*How to have a vision.
*That Godliness with contentment is great gain.
*How to love GOD and their neighbor.
*How to live in fear of GOD.
_*When we play these roles, our children by the grace of GOD will come out great and the parents will have a good old age and memorial.*_

BE POSITIVE

By Dr Okwechi
As much as it is important to learn from past mistakes, don't dwell on the mistakes.
Say kind and positive uplifting words to your partner.
Constantly pointing out the weaknesses in your partner and keeping records of all that they did wrong in days past can lead to low self esteem and cause strain in the marital relationship. Forgiveness means to cancel punishment of your partner for offending you by erasing the offense from your memory and personally accepting the price of reconciliation.
Therefore erase every memory of offense your partner has committed against you and has been forgiven for the marriage to be healthy.
Feel Free to chat him on any marital issue,
Or relationship guide.
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Bitter Truth that stabilized Marriage


Strongest Love like Christ's love for His Church (Bride) is kind of Love that can hold Marriage from scattering.
This Love is similar to Godly Mother's Love for her children to standup for their Good Success at all cost through Christ.
Likewise, No Love had never conquered marital manipulations than Wife's unconditional submission in love for her Husband that tear down Gates of hell militating against her Home.
Man wasn't born with this inborn ability but usually ignited or stirred in every Godly woman as part of inborn compassionate heart for better marital suitability. Even devil knew this marital truth as reason he's always against True Love and Submission in every Marriage.
Sometimes, good Wife need to give herself only One good reason, if difficult to find more as why her Marriage must be stable as her possible justification, though devil will manipulate such good reasoning unless she is meek enough to submit without fear of unknown.
Dear Wife, you must avoid unnecessary silence, nagging, grumbling, crying, murmuring and complaints as your style to deal with marital issues which normally leads to health complications than solving marital Issues at hand.
Wives must learn to find right time to pray and handover difficult husband's heart to the Lord before humbly communicating ovrr marital issues while she must allows Holy Spirit through long patience to handle the rest in His own ways without intrusion.
All wives need sound and good health found in allowing peace at home, if she must reap good rewards from years of her labour of love in Marriage. I have been married and faced with years of challenges to confirm the clear difference that walking in Marital Truth works tremendously to produce good results though it demands wifely understanding in long patience and daily submission as our uncompromising role whether husband is deserving or not is not an excuse but only our choice as the Wife.
Even, God can't overrule marital choice as a Wife to stay or not in every Marriage since it's her choice of "Yes I do" from marital beginning as the bitter truth that can't be over emphasized.
I pray that every Marriage undergoing hard times shall receive Godly Understanding with strength to obey accordingly as necessary steps to fight good fight of faith for Marital Victory in Jesus mighty name.

*RIGHT RESPONSES TO MARITAL STORM AND WEARINESS FACED BY GODLY SPOUSES.*


Marriage is always a threat to the enemy of our Soul since the time from Garden of Eden because of evil-jealousy of being created as God's image and likeness.
Marital moments that you wonder at your spouse to think _“Am I sure to have made right choice when I married her/him?”_ . There are times when separation or divorce cross your mind as the only option out of present marital challenges. Many instances of Emotional and Financial betrayal/offenses/abuses beyond your tolerance. Please remember Christ do forgive us all when we are yet sinners, thereby Marriage is all about forgiveness as priority.
Marriage is not without times of demand for strong but healthy compromises, misunderstanding and misinterpreting of spouse's intentions because both spouses are humans that can made mistakes.
Marital Emotional hurtful times when you feel that your love and marital understanding is being taken for granted. Remember, You are not alone with this marital burden. The truth is that every marriage has its fair share of pains and trial moments. Every marriage goes through rough times and none is immune to life challenges though differs in perspectives.
Every Spouses in respective of gender experiences some scaring and perplexing moments over Family responsibilities, sickness, joblessness, Child delay, Spiritual attacks and Emotional battles.
Marital understanding in realizing that difficult seasons are temporary moments that will surely pass as it comes leaving the glory of God as our testimony. Straight roads don’t make experienced drivers but rough roads is the determinants.
Always remember it's the rough surfaces that sharpen the best. Rough Marital times are meant to build your marriage, not destroy it, if only spouses learn to respond wisely with the Truth that lasts not with human intelligent that's unstable.
Victory in Marriage is sure as long as Spouses continue to rest in God's promises for their home than what the marital daily circumstances is showing or dictating.
Hold on to your Marital Faith and Trust in Christ because faithful is He that called us all and still able to do it more than our wildest imagination or expectations !
I decree that the peace amd grace of God that's beyond human understanding will continue to uphold our homes to the end in Jesus mighty name.

By Rev  Evang OkweChi
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HOW TO BE A ROMANTIC WIFE


By First lady ossy Iwunze
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1. Remember that romance is not the husband's responsibility alone
2. Compliment your husband when he is well-dressed and smells good
3. Touch your husband's thigh when he is driving or seated next to you when you want to tell him something
4. Flirt with him over the phone
5. Play with his fingers when you two are having pillow talks
6. Cuddle with him and place his head on your bosom when you two are in bed
7. Place your hand on his arm as a Queen who knows her position
8. Dress up for his visual stimulation, especially in the bedroom
9. Dance for him and tease him
10. Tell him all the passionate things you want to do to him
11. Praise his sexual performance and the things he does that give you pleasure. Tell him how how he drives you crazy
12. Take him out on dates, don't always wait for him to plan things
13. Kiss him, not just on the lips but also his cheeks, his forehead, his fingers
14. Offer to serve him with a smile and take care of him
15. Call him special names "My King", "Darling", "Honey"
16. Be confident in being yourself, do great things as an individual. It excites him when he is proud of you
17. Talk highly about him in public, encourage him in private when he is down
18. Find out his favourite sex position and do it to him often
19. Help him to put on and remove his clothes, his tie, his coat
20. Rally the children in appreciating him, make him feel valued at home regardless of his financial status
21. Buy him gifts that he will like
22. Prepare his favourite meal or ask him what he would like to eat
23. Tell him you love him. Men love to be affirmed too. Tell him also what you love about him
24. Ask him how his day has been. Show care
25. Make sexual moves on him, don't just lay there waiting for him to do all the work
26. Pray for him to bless him, not because you think he is the devil or the problem in your marriage. Prayerful women are romantic
27. Attend to his needs without him asking such as making him a cup of tea/coffee when he is working
Just because you have spent years together doesn't mean you stop making him feel special. You were attractive and made him feel valued and that is why he pursued you to get you, stay attractive and valuing him to keep him; as you do so, he will long for your presence and give you his best. The woman who loves her husband, builds her home.
Greetings from mummy