_5 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU HAVE SUITORS

As a lady, when many men begin to seek for your hand in marriage and coming to your father's house to look for flowers to pluck that they didn't plant, you should know that you are in your prime.

When you are in your prime, you're more beautiful, you will experience influx of men seeking to have you, you're body is more developed, attractive and enticing and you look more matured etc. Just like the Bible said that all things are beautiful in its time(Eccl.3:11).

Therefore, it's important you maximize this season of your life because it doesn't last forever. Once you pass your prime, men coming for your hand in marriage will reduce in number. They won't come as they used to hence the need to make good use of your prime.

So, what do you do when you have many men coming for you almost at the same time?

1. Don't Commit Anyone Of Them

Don't tell Mr A that you will marry him and tell Mr B that you will marry him also, the same thing with Mr C. Don't do that. Tell them you will get back to them. Take your time and make the best choice.

Accepting marriage proposals from different men is setting up yourself for disaster. Don't do that. If you're not sure of anyone, tell them you'll get back to them.

2. Get To Know Them

These people that are coming for your hand in marriage, who are they? What do they stand for? What are their values, interests, beliefs, vision and ambition in life? What do they do for a living? Are they children of God? Which of them do you really love and which of them really loves you too? Get to know them individually.

That's why dating is there. It helps you to know the sustainability of a potential life partner. Dating isn't for eating fried rice and chicken, licking ice cream, visiting the beach and the cinema etc., but a time to get to know someone. Until you have accepted a man's proposal, you're free to go out with anyone you dim fit.

3. Don't Be Moved By Sight

We all like better things, no doubt. We all want a comfortable life including this man writing this. Nobody comes to the world to suffer but you know that not all that glitters are gold and money isn't everything.

Don't let the car keys they're dangling in your front to deceive you. He's rich, handsome, connected, tall, thick etc., shouldn't deceive you. Go for good qualities first. Check out the stuff they're made of. That car key maybe not be their own.

4. Don't Accept Gifts.

The Bible said that the gift of a man makes a way for him, so men know how to use gifts to have their way with women. Also gifts have a way of blindfolding one from making a sound decision.

Don't allow the shoes, handbags, clothes, fried rice and chicken, vacations, movie tickets etc., to becloud your season of reasoning. Even if you want to collect gifts, make it clear to the person that the gifts won't influence your decision.

5. Pray About It

The Bible says, ask and you shall be given, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened to you. Also, the Bible says that you shouldn't lean on your own understanding but in all your ways, acknowledge God and He will direct your steps(Matt 7:7; Prov 3:5).

The secret things belongs to God and those things that are revealed belongs to His children. So, go to God in prayers and present the men coming for your hand in marriage and ask Him which one among them is best for you. If you're God's child, He'll direct you.(Deut 29:29)

After your prayers, go ahead and accept whoever you're led to. Don't ever make the choice of a life partner without involving God.

Conclusively, take your time and make the right decision. No competition in marriage. No award for who first marry. No award for best wedding. No award for the internet breaking marriage. No award for having 200 bridesmaids that you don't even know. Take your time.

PRIVATE BEDROOM MATTERS FOR SPOUSES

1. My spouse, you know I love to kiss. So please be brushing your teeth well including your tongue. Bad breath discourages kissing 2. My wife, you know I love licking your clit. So please be having a wash regularly. Wash your vagina so that my tongue enjoys playing around it 3. My husband, you know I love sucking your penis so please keep it clean. Change your underwear daily, shake off the urine after you pee, keep my lollipop clean. Good hygiene=great blowjobs 4. My wife, you know I have eyes for only you. So please help my eyes to enjoy looking at you. Dress sexy for me. In our bedroom, wear lingerie or stay naked with me. Don't hide from me the body I long for 5. My husband, I love cuddling with you. So please don't be repeating your socks, that will make the air stink. Change your socks daily. I hate smelly feet 6. My wife, I know periods are a female thing. So when you are rolling, maintain your hygiene. Change your pads or tampons regularly, take showers, change your underwear. As I cuddle up with you during that time of the month, keep the stench away 7. My husband, I love it when you make love to me with you on top. So please shower, make use of your deodorant and cologne during the day so that when you are pumping inside me I don't smell your sweat 8. My wife, I love holding you close and I know weaves as a hairstyle look good on you. So please be changing your weaves often, make sure you buy quality weaves that are easy to maintain because weaves that stink are a major turn off 9. My husband, I love it when you make me squirt and we make the sheets wet. So since we wet the bed together, I would find it sweet of you if you clean the sheets with me, or put a cover under me when you are about to explode my wetness so that we don't sleep on wet and cold sheets 10. My husband, I love it when you finger me during foreplay. So please keep your finger nails short and clean. Long finger nails can hurt my wet and sensitive honey pot 11. My spouse, my body is all yours, when you're horny I will do you good. So please don't share your body with another, don't bring unfaithfulness or diseases to our bed

Rhesus Factor effects

Rhesus Factor is an antigen that exists on the surface of red blood cells in most people (about 85% of humans). It is also referred to as Rh Factor. People who have the Rh factor have “positive”(+) blood types, such as A+, O+ or B+ while those who do not have the Rh factor have “negative” (-) blood types, such as A–, O– or AB–. The “+” and “-” in front of the blood group is the Rhesus factor. Generally, we have A+, A–, B+, B–, AB+, AB–, O+ and O–. Rhesus factor is genetic in nature. It is inherited from the parents, emphatically the father.

How does Rhesus Factor cause miscarriage? If a Rh– woman is impregnated by a man with Rh–, there wouldn’t be any problem. However, if a Rh– woman is impregnated by a man with Rh+, there would be a problem. We have here what is medically called Rhesus Factor Incompatibility . The baby would obviously be Rh+. During child birth, baby inherits their Rh+ from the father. Once the baby’s Rh+ comes in contact with the woman Rh- during delivery, the antibodies are immediately activated by the woman’s body’s immune system.

The activated antibodies would see the new Rh+ as foreign body or a threat and consequently they would be at alert to attack and get rid of the foreign body. Unfortunately as such, after this particular child birth, the woman would keep having miscarriages because the activated antibodies would see subsequent Rh+ pregnancies as foreign bodies and would keep fighting and taking them off.

Women with Rh activated antibodies are said to be Rh sensitized and once these antibodies are activated , they can never be deactivated until the woman dies. Rh induced antibodies are activated in a Rh- woman by child birth, abortion, miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy. If a Rh– woman commits an abortion for a Rh+ man and the antibodies are activated in her system, the woman might end up childless throughout her life except if she later marries another man with with the same Rh–. The possibility of a Rh– woman finding a Rh– man is slim as about 85% of human beings are Rh+.

This is a warning to our young girls who commits abortions all in the name of boyfriend-girlfriend relationships. If you’re a woman with Rh– and your fiance is Rh+, and you haven’t committed abortion for him and you don’t want to leave him, then, you need to take note of the following: In order to prevent the activation of the antibodies, doctors would give women in this category an injection called Rhogam during and after pregnancy to prevent spontaneous abortion due to Rhesus factor incompatibility.

The injection is normally administered 28 weeks into pregnancy, 72 hours after delivery, after ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage or abortion. If the injection is not administered and the antibodies are activated, they would never be deactivated again! In many African cultures up till today, women who are so unfortunate to find themselves having serial spontaneous abortions due to Rhesus factor incompatibility are considered witches by some of their people.

Some of the women would accuse their in-laws of being behind their predicament. So, if you’re a woman with Rh–, you need to be very careful. It might be difficult for you to get a husband with a Rh– because about 85% of human beings are Rh+. So, in order not to find yourself in the aforementioned problem, put all that have been said at the back of your mind and go for genetic counselling. If you have a daughter or a sister with Rh–, counsel them on Rhesus Factor Incompatibility and the dangers lying therein.

It should also be noted that a Rh– person(man or woman) cannot receive blood donation from a Rh+ person even if they have the same blood group. The consequence of such blood transfusion is fatal. It would lead to death as the blood would clot. This is due to the incompatibility in their Rhesus factor. Know your Rhesus factor today!

SAINT ROCCO OF MONTPELLIER

Patron of the sick

Asked by an angel,

"What do you wish of God?"

St. Roch said,

"Whoever calleth my name, he shall not be hurt with any hurt of illness."

Saint Roch (also known as Rocco or Roque) was the only son of a wealthy nobleman in France, who seems to have been governor of the town of Montpellier. In answer to the persevering prayers of the parents, this child was granted to them. His future career was indicated by a birthmark in the form of a red cross that was deeply marked on his breast.

The parents raised St Roch in a devout manner. Proof was given when, at the age of 20, he lost both parents. He did not use the immense fortune he inherited for his personal benefit, but he sold all the personal property and distributed the proceeds among the poor while he transferred the ownership of the real estate to his uncle. This done, he joined the Third Order of St Francis, put on a pilgrim's garb, and journeyed to Rome to visit the tombs of the Apostles.

When he arrived at Acquapendente in northern Italy about the year 1315, he found that an epidemic had broken out there and was making fearful ravages. Saint Roch did not hasten on, as many another person, fearful for his life, would have done, but according to the example of Christ and the admonition of the beloved disciple (1 John 3:16), he offered his life in the service of his brethren in Christ.

Saint Roch went to the hospital of St John, which was filled with the plague stricken, and offered his services to the brothers there. He also went to individual homes and sought out the sick, serving them without rest by day and by night. God rewarded his heroic charity by causing many to be cured at the mere Sign of the Cross which Saint Roch made over them. When the plague abated, Roch proceeded on his journey to Rome.

In Rome, too, an epidemic had broken out. Besides visiting the holy places, Saint Roch again devoted himself to the care of the sick, many of whom were miraculously cured by him. He performed the same services in many other towns of Italy until he arrived in Piacenza and was himself stricken with the dread disease. In the very hospital where he had cured so many sick, he was now looked upon as an intruder, who as an outsider had no right to claim a place there.

In order not to be a burden to others, he arose, left the house, and with the support of a staff dragged himself wearily to a neighboring woods. There he came upon a dilapidated hut with a bit of straw, where he lay down, thanking God for the quiet lodging.

God Himself provided for his nourishment. As He once took care of Elias, sending him bread by means of a raven, so He now sent bread to Roch by means of a dog from a neighboring country house.

The sick man gradually recovered. When he had regained sufficient strength, he was divinely inspired to return to his native town. There furious warfare was raging. The soldiers whom he encountered thought he was a spy. He was led before the governor of Montpellier, his own uncle, who, however, did not recognize his nephew in the emaciated prisoner, and had the supposed spy cast into prison.

Saint Roch did not say a word in his defense; he wished, like Christ, to accept in silence whatever heaven had ordained for him. Because of the disturbances of the war, he was almost completely forgotten, and languished in prison for 5 years. Then death put an end to his trials on August 16, 1378.

When he felt that his end was drawing near, Saint Roch asked that a priest might come and administer the last sacraments. The priest, on entering the prison, beheld it supernaturally lighted up and the poor captive surrounded with special radiance. As death claimed its victim, a tablet appeared on the wall on which an angelic hand wrote in golden letters the name of Roch, and the prediction that all who would invoke his intercession would be delivered from the plague.

Informed of all that took place, Saint Roch's uncle came to the prison and, shortly after, also the governor's mother, that is, Roch's grandmother. She identified the dead man as her grandson by the birthmark of the red cross on his breast. They gave him a magnificent funeral and had a church built in his honor, in which his body was entombed. His veneration was approved by several popes and soon spread throughout Europe. He was canonized by Pope Urban VIII.

FOUR DOGMAS OF BLESSED VIRGIN MARY

The four dogmas of Mary celebrated in the catholic church are

MARY’S DIVINE MOTHERHOOD- 1ST JANUARY

MARY PERPETUAL VIRGINITY ----8TH SEPTEMBER

MARY IMMACULATE CONCEPTION-----

-------------8TH DECEMBER 1854

ASUMPTION OF MARY-------------------- 15TH AUGUST 1950

PROMULGATION OF THE DOGMA OF THE IMMACULATE CONCEPTION

On December 8, 1854, Pope Pius IX officially declared the Immaculate Conception a dogma of the Church, which means that all Christians are bound to accept it as true. As the Holy Father wrote in the Apostolic Constitution Ineffabilis Deus, "We declare, pronounce, and define that the doctrine which holds that the most Blessed Virgin Mary, in the first instance of her conception, by a singular grace and privilege granted by Almighty God, in view of the merits of Jesus Christ, the Savior of the human race, was preserved free from all stain of original sin, is a doctrine revealed by God and therefore to be believed firmly and constantly by all the faithful."

The four dogmas were officially declared by Pope Pious X11 in 1950 as a dogma of the Church, which means that all Christians are bound to accept it as true.

Mary was preserved from original sin and prepared as a living tabernacle where the savior of the world will incarnate. We notice the pattern in Genesis 3:9-15, 20 and Luke 1:26-38: the drama of the fall of humanity and the drama of the restoration of humanity. Eve was involved in a dialogue which ensued between her and Satan. Mary (the second Eve) was involved in a dialogue between her and the angel Gabriel.

The first dialogue introduced Adam into the drama which led to the fall of humanity while the second dialogue introduced Jesus Christ which led to the restoration or salvation of humanity.

Just has God has planned to save humanity by sending his only begotten son so did he plan to save us by preserving Mary from the stain of original sin.

The woman (Eve) has an active role in the fall of humanity so also the woman in the person of Mary had an active role in the restoration/salvation of the human race.

Also our Blessed virgin mother did what nobody has ever done in history. She corrected the 1st mistake of our earlier mother (EVE)

BVM brought sanity into the world while Eve brought sin into the world (Gen 3:1-15)

BVM was obedient to God when the angels appeared to her (Luke 1: 37- 44) while Eve was disobedient to God by eating the forbidden fruit.

BVM defeated the serpent, darkness, evil and sin (Rev 12) and accepted to be the mother of God while Eve could not defeat the Serpent, darkness sin and death

BVM brought live to the world (Gal 4: 4…..) while Eve brought death into the world (Gen: 19-21)

As the mother of God BVM was assumed body and soul into heaven as the God has stated in the book of psalm her body and legs shall not suffer from sand and death.

The Vatican II document, Lumen gentium, says: "At the message of the Angel, the Virgin Mary received the Word of God in her heart and in her body, and gave Life to the World. Hence she is acknowledged and honoured as being truly the Mother of God and Mother of the Redeemer’ (Lumen Gentium, 52).

Mary the mother of God is venerated in a special way, as "Hyperdulia", the highest of the God's creatures. She is the first lady on earth - personally blessed by God's Arch Angel Gabriel. Elizabeth, the mother of St. John the Baptist acknowledged Mary as the "Mother of God"..

5 LAWS ON ASKING A LADY OUT.

1) Be Sure what You Want from her First.

it's very bad for a lady you are "toasting" to ask you exactly what you want, and you are stuttering, telling her you people should start first, start wetin first? Na generator?

My friend, will you enter a taxi if the driver is not sure of his destination, and he tells you to enter first? Will you enter?

2) Don't start calling her sweet names yet

You are applying for ADMISSION, don't talk like a GRADUATE.

Aim high, but start small, like referring to her by her name first, when the gbedu don enter body, she'll be the one suggesting sweet names for you to call her. Till then, calm down.

She's still processing your application, she said she'll think about it, which one is "My Love, baby, sweetheart, my pumpkin"

America have not given you visa, you are already speaking "in it, in it"..... kontinu Sir...

3) Give her small Space during the waiting period. .

Even Jesus Christ the Son of God, when he knocks at the door of our heart, he WAITS for us to open eet.

Your own, you want to break the door..

10 missed calls in 10 minutes.

6:05am

"BABY, what of that thing I told you about?"

(you've broken 2 laws here already)

6;07am

"Vicky, please don't forget me, I'm waiting"

7;00am

"My Love, give me a chance na, you won't regret It"

... Uncle, she's already regretting giving you her number..

Give her space to breath and evaluate things, you may pressure her to accept you and you end up regretting it.

Don't stalk her, lest you end up giving her the impression that you are a serial killer.

4) Don't Demand An instant Answer.

Don't ask a lady to give you her answer there and then.

Relationship is not instant noodles.

A right thinking Lady will want to be sure you are normal before saying Yes to you. it's nothing out of the ordinary.

If she says she just wants to be friends with you first, don't walk away, you should be happy when a lady says this, it means she's trying to study and get to know you, it means you have a chance to win her heart and be elected into office if you perform in the primaries (friendship) well..

Be Patient

5) If it becomes apparent that she's just using your proposal to keep herself warm like cardigan, or she's just wasting your time and she's not actually interested in you, Jejely walk away.

is proposal you propose, you didn't commit sin.

Thank You.

Except a lady really really likes you, breaking these laws can turn off any Lady who may have otherwise given you a chance and cost you a potential relationship/marriage.