SACRIFICIAL WOMB

After sacrificing my womb for him to be rich, he dumped me and married my friend – Heartbroken lady shares

A 23-year-old Nigerian lady has narrated how she made a huge sacrifice for her fiancé only for him to dump her.

Sharing her story online, the young woman revealed how she unknowingly sacrificed her womb for him to be wealthy but he ended up jilting her and married her friend.

Read her story:

”Life has never been fair to me and love has brought me pain and sorrow. I’m presently a 23-year-old lady from Delta state, born into a polygamous home, where my father didn’t care about my mum, I and my other three siblings.

My mother was the one training us and since her finance was low. I could only finish my secondary school and had to learn a skill.

Immediately I finished secondary school, I met a guy and we started dating. He was the one who took my virginity i love him and he loved me too we dated for two years till he traveled abroad and that was when our communication started reducing till he no longer called me again.

I became single till I met this guy that put me in this worse condition I’m in presently. He was my senior in secondary school and we were kinda friends, I thought he was lovely and with a great personality, didn’t know he was pretending.

So after my boyfriend stopped calling me, he jumped in and was calling me, showing care and sending me money on weekends.

Little by little, we started dating, that’s was when I knew he was into fraud and convinced me to believe that internet fraud is the only way Africans can take back everything the white people stole from them.

As we got along, he was always complaining that he wasn’t making the money he really wanted and i was the one pacifying him to calm down that his time would come.

I was even praying for him because I had fallen deeply in love with him, and he was pretending to love me the same way.

One day, he told me he escorted one of his successful ‘business’ friends to a shrine and after the herbalist finished with him, he pointed to him that his girlfriend which happened to be ‘me’, has the key to unlock his success in his fraud business.

At first, I was astonished and surprised and asked how could i sit on my boyfriend’s success when if he became rich i too would enjoy it.

I told him I had no hand in him not making progress and tried to convince him that I couldn’t do such.

But he was just not convinced and said if i was really sure i wanted his progress which in turn was ours, i should follow him to the shrine.

I was worried and confused, I have never been to a shrine before because my mum trained us in a godly way and i had been lying to her that my boyfriend was a blogger but she usually had a suspicious feeling towards him and warned me to be careful of him but since I was bringing financial support from him, it helped in cooling her down.

I pondered on what my boyfriend said for four days and he was constantly telling me how it would change our future since money would never be our problem.

He also said with enough money my younger siblings could go to school to any level they wanted and i could also go or if I wish to open a big business. Any one I choose.

On the fifth day, I told him in the evening that I was ready, he screamed in excitement and was pouring encomiums on me, telling me if it went successful, we would be getting married in less than 6months.

The following day, we left in a chartered taxi to a village in Delta, we stopped by the waterside and entered a boat to another village.

We got to the village and we passed some bush paths till i saw a place decorated with different traditions objects and he pointed that that was the place.

We entered facing backward and met a shrinking middle aged man with rotten teeth, chewing a bitter cola.

I greeted him and was shocked when he mentioned my name and went on to summarize my family background.

He then had a secret conversation with my boyfriend and then asked me if i was ready for the sacrifice.

I was scared and asked what the sacrifice was, my boyfriend said it was nothing to be scared of, that it wouldn’t hurt me at all, by then the herbalist had already brought a big basin. He put a small calabash filled with herbs and stuffs, in the middle of the basin and pour water then added a yellow powder to the water.

He asked me to strip, I was baffled but my boyfriend begged me to just obey that it wouldn’t take long.

I did and he then told me the stand in the basin full of water and under the calabash while I was blindfolded.

That moment I noticed that sometime left me, like a weight and i slumped but was quickly resuscitated.

We left and went home, we got home and i felt sick for two days, but gradually became well again and he was by my side showing all the fake love for me.

The following week, I was at home when i got an alert of 500k from him I was confused i didn’t know where to start because our house rent was already due and our landlord has told my mum to pay or pack out.

I called him and he told me to use the money to buy recharge card that we are rich now

I quickly sent the required money to my mum to pay the rent and when my mum asked me where i got the rent money from I told her I told my boyfriend about the rent.

I immediately zoomed to see my boyfriend, he hugged me and started appreciating me for what i did for him.

He said one of his maga just paid him 10m and asked that we go enjoy ourselves.

He lodged in a hotel and from there we went for a new accommodation, he got one and started buying household furnitures. I told him why didn’t we invest some of the money before it finished but he shrugged off and said more was coming.

Two weeks later, it was my birthday and he organised a birthday for me and gifted me an iPhone, expensive clothes and shoes and the sum of another 500k. I was baffled, I couldn’t believe if it was a dream.

The next month, he informed me that his ‘maga’ paid him the sum of 75million and told me to come over.

I went there and he asked me what kind of business do i want to do, i told him let’s marry first but he said he wanted to establish me first before marriage, i told him and he opened a supermarket for me that consumed the sum of almost 8million.

On my part, I relocated my family and was training my young one in school and even my deadbeat father was trying to reach out to me but I ignored him.

I started my business and took it seriously and was always there but my boyfriend was busy at home and visited my shop occasionally.

Two months later, I started disturbing him again about getting married but he told me he was planning for it, the disturbance was much, so one day he came to my shop knelt down and engaged me while customers were there and gave me a surprise car keys to a Toyota Camry as gift.

I was elated and was now fully convinced that he was going to marry me.

A month later, a friend of mine inform me that it was like my fiancé is having an affair with another lady i knew, i didn’t believe her because my fiancé was a responsible man at least he was a homely guy and never hid his phone from me.

Soon after, he started behaving strange, he would leave home immediately i left for my shop and returned home when I’m about to come home and he wasn’t visiting me anymore like he used to and he was now giving a lot of excuses.

Till i caught him with said lady in a hotel and was very angry i couldn’t hold myself i fought with the lady for coming to reap where she did not sow.

The next day, my fiancé refused to come home. He switched off his line and when he came back online he told me he wasn’t interested in me anymore, i was mad and asked him after all what I did for you. He replied me that i had also benefitted from the money made.

I tried to find out where he was till a friend of his secretly told me he has traveled to Ghana and with that same lady, i fought with and even told me that he had done marriage introduction for the lady.

I was heartbroken, I tried to reach him on his social handles but he blocked me.

I opened another Facebook account and threatened him if he didn’t rescind on his decision, i would go to the herbalist and reversed his fortune, he said I was free to do what I like.

Out of anger, I went to the herbalist’s shrine after we last visited there 2years ago. After some explanation the herbalist remembered me and I told him everything my fiancé had done and demanded that he reversed the fortune of my fiancé and make him very poor.

He shook his head and said the sacrifice can’t be reversed, as he revealed to me that it was my womb I sacrificed for him to be wealthy and therefore I would remain barren for the rest of my life and he would be using it to get more wealth.

I collapsed and had to be brought back before I was able to go back home.

I was admitted in the hospital for weeks after I recovered a little, I sent him a message of what the herbalist told me, and he said but I benefitted from it and had to apologise that he couldn’t marry me because he knew i wouldn’t be able to bear children.

Now I’m hopeless, I have closed my business for over two months now and life has become tasteless for me.

Two weeks ago, they got married and posted the photos on the internet and it brought me to tears, I couldn’t believe a day like this would come when a lady that knew nothing would be benefiting for the sacrifice of my womb.

I’m at the verge of hopelessness and life is no longer interesting for me.”

BETTER TO MOVE ON

Many times, it’s always the best to move on than to hold on to that person who doesn’t understand you.

Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work.

You can’t force someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can't force someone to faithful.

You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.

I will be real with you, most times the person you want most is the person you are best without.

You have got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be.

Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.

Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who is not ready to give it to you.

And I know it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with, but you just have to accept that they are not that person anymore.

And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. TRUST ME

It is better to be alone and be happy than to be in a miserable relationship...

Whoever sees you as an option doesn't deserve to be a priority in your life, you call him honey but he treats you like a monkey, He is your everything but you are nothing to him, you are doing everything to make it work, but he keeps thinking you are desperate and turns all your efforts to weakness...

Never keep awake thinking about someone who is deeply sleeping with someone else. Never stay a minute thinking about someone who cant spend a second thinking about you.

Leave that person who takes your love for granted and doesn't love you back the way you do, Love should be balanced not based one side.

Its better to be single than being in an ugly relationship that will make you cry forever.

A word is enough for the wise.

I WANT TO TAKE YOU OUT

Don't marry someone you don't want to be seen with in public, someone you can't identify with, someone whose looks, spoken English or dialect makes you weep!

Some ladies tell me they don't like the guy's looks yet he is God's will.

Some guys said the lady is not their spec, yet she is God's will!

She is either too crude, short, tall, not busty or buttockish enough!

The guy either has tribal marks, looks archaic and speaks horrible English!

God won't give you someone who embarrasses you in public! You either heard the devil or you were sleeping when proposing or accepting proposal from your so called God's will.

Our father Abraham to Isaac to Jacob loved, admired and were proud of their wives!

Marry someone you are proud of or help them become someone to be proud of.

Encourage them to improve on their looks and spoken English.

There is nothing anyone can do about tribal marks, height, breast shape or buttock shape!

You either totally accept or reject them!

Don't marry someone you can't take out on date, show to friends or loved ones. Its a bad omen!

Accept them 100% or reject them 100%.

You can't manage! You are not a manager!

Learn to hear God properly!

Discover ways God speaks!

To think about a guy all day, dream about him all night and conclude you had a vision from God when you have zero knowledge of the Bible and know nothing about how God leads is to walk in gross darkness and high level of stupidity!

Most people who claim they heard God were hallucinating!

Get to know God.

Know the word of God.

Have fellowship with him daily.

Learn how he speaks DAILY not when you are desperate to wear a wedding ring and start having sex!

Bottom line, be proud of your spouse.

Get it?

May the Lord grant you understanding.

Be blessed!!!

By Seun Oladele

MARRIAGE BEFORE DEVELOPMENT

Do not get married before you've developed yourself to a level that you can survive on your own or with your kids without the support of whoever you're marrying.

This may sound obvious but people keep putting all their eggs in one basket and later they come out crying and acting surprised when they suddenly find themselves alone with the kids yet they never took the time to equip themselves for any job.

People change and abscond or betray you, death or disease happens and the provider now needs to be provided for, or they lose their job or income. Anything. If this happens when you had a diploma or degree or competence in welding or tailoring, the inconvenience will be shorter because you'll jump to action right away and take up the role.

But if you have to scrape and seek any odd jobs or start training from scratch, that's a hell of an experience. Think ahead and prepare.

Marriage is not a rite of passage that you need to do by a certain age or because some people expect you to do it. What you need to do by a certain point in your life, in fact, is individuation.

As soon as you're out of your parent's care you must start building your capacity for becoming a parent yourself. If you don't pay attention to this and give it priority you'll mix personal development with premature marriage and the duties and demands of marriage life will carry you away. Before you know it, time is gone and you've never trained or specialised in any skill you can work in and sustain yourself.

Never depend on the one who's marrying you to give you basic development. You're mixing issues and losing your objectivity and clarity. You might end up marrying the one who is willing to educate you rather than the one with whom you can build the life you envision. Of course when people get married they continue developing each other through further education or building a business, but the basic training that makes you capable of working should be done prior to entering marriage. Paradoxically, this level of self development will attract more respect from your partner and increase the chances of the marriage lasting a lifetime, as opposed to them knowing you're helpless without them and taking you for granted.

THREE MARITAL STAGES

Marriage has three stages. The first stage is called honeymoon and lasts about two years. This stage is very sweet, nice, and romantic. This is where you find names like honey, sweetheart, baby, and so on.

In this stage, everything is perfect. This is a stage where a man returns home and dumps his socks and shoes anywhere but in the morning, he will wake up and find them placed where they're supposed to be. This is where madam doesn't go to bed until you return home. She sits in the living room and receives all the mosquito bites waiting for you till you return, takes a shower, and enjoys supper. Even if you return at midnight, you find her waiting for you.

This first stage is beautiful with a lot of tolerance. This is a stage where at night while in bed, you release very toxic gas and your spouse instead apologizes. Remember, you have gassed but again he tells you, "Sorry darling, it's okay." This is unbelievable. Madam has gassed but to you, it's okay. Oh my God, this is sweet. Everything is just merry-making during this stage. In conclusion, enjoy this stage as much as we can.

The second stage lasts for ten years! This is where the honeymoon is over. This stage is red hot. During this stage, perhaps financial challenges have come in. You have given birth and the children are also disturbing you. Sometimes you are yet to give birth but really want to and the pressure on you is mounting from all corners. Landlords have become Landlords. There is a loss of employment. Things are just tight.

Life is hard in this second stage. The man who used to return home early now returns very late. Sometimes he doesn't even return home. There are suspicions of infidelity and cheating. You don't trust each other. You feel your spouse is cheating, and in fact, he or she is cheating. When you return home and leave your shoes outside, in the morning, you find them where you left them. Things are hot here.

This is a stage where at night, you release toxic gas and your partner asks what you ate during supper time yet you ate the same meals. He can even leave the bed and spend the night in the sitting room simply because you gassed. Imagine only gassing.

The second stage is hot. There are fights; spiritual, physical, and in all aspects. This is the stage where you reach the point of considering separating. Each spouse shows his or her true colors in this stage. A night dancer switches on the reggae mixes the music, and punches the baseline. Your relatives taste the greedy side of your wife.

Those who persevere and overcome this stage end up keeping their marriage till death does them part. However, very many hang up the towel in this stage. They quit. In conclusion, Those who are in this stage should fight a little longer, not hang up the towel. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Just a little longer and you are done with this heat.

Finally, there's the last stage. This comes after the ten red hot years. This last stage is lukewarm. It's neither cold nor hot. You gas at large and no one applauds you or complains. You have seen enough of each other. You have known each other's true colors.

In this stage, whatever your partner does no longer surprises you. If she quarrels, you just say that is the nature of this woman. If he is still late out in the night, you don't even bother to call since you know he will return. If she doesn't serve you food and you feel hungry, you just go and serve food otherwise, hunger hits you for nothing

This stage is not for disturbing one another. There is a lot of calmness and commands are few. This is where if you are watching TV with her in the sitting room and you feel thirsty, you don't send her to bring you drinking water but only wait when she's moving in the direction where there is water and you tell her if she is coming back, she can come along with some water. If she asks you to repeat what you just said, you have to pretend like you didn't say anything. All of a sudden, she shocks you and returns with drinking water. There is mutual respect in this stage. In conclusion, Those in this stage should just work for eternity.

Congratulation to those who are in this stage for, they have come from far.

Amen and amen

Have a wonderful reflection on this post.

This can be related to new couple-to-be, less than ten years marriage & finally btw 20 - 80 years of marriage

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ADVICE FOR ALL SINGLE MEN

Before a good woman say yes to you, she want to know.

* Are you family oriented, no sane woman will marry a man who is not family oriented, a woman wants a man who has family insight.

* No sane woman will marry a man who lacks ambition, you must have the ambition over a vision, dream,purpose.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not goal oriented or focus, queen cara will not even try it talking of other women.

* No good woman will want to marry a man who doesn't believe in being a helper,provider ,supporter , every woman want a man who they can depend on.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not spiritual , listen marriage is a union filled with two spirit filled spouse, a good woman want a gate keeper as a husband.

* No good woman will marry a man who is not prepared both spiritually, physically, emotionally ,mentally, she want a man who is steady and prepared in all ramifications.

* She want a protector, not an abuser, she want a man with clarity not a confuse man, she want a guardian.

* She want a father not just a husband, a father loves his daughter irrespective of every circumstances, that is the love she want, a man whom will love her forever.

A man whom will defend her

A man whom will teach her

She want a director

She want a learning mate

She want a teacher

She want a comforter

She want a confident

I pray for every young sweet lady looking for a man to marry may you never marry a man who is not the will of God for you.

Jesus Christ is the key to the type of love you are looking for he loved you first and gave his life for you despite your imperfections, flaws, shortcomings he still loves you.

I walk you into the love and you are looking for , surrender all to Jesus Christ and he is the gate and door step to the love you are craving for.

I pray that you recieve the divine love, divine wisdom tht Jesus has for you, i pray that you walk into his love and purpose for you in Jesus name .