CHANGE IN MARRIAGE BEGINS FROM ME

Many marriages are just for sleeping and waking up, raising kids and ageing together till death comes.

* Many couples hardly kiss and they only hug each other when they receive good news.

* The husband only puts food in his wife's mouth only when she is terminally ill and cant feed herself.

* If you see a man opening car door for his wife means the door is faulty.

* The only thing that makes an african man touch his wife's neck is when she complains of fever. He wont touch it again till the next fever.

* The only time he can carry his wife on his arms is when she is in labour.

* if you see them seated outside at night, dont think they are romantic. They are only waiting for the smell of insecticide to vanish.

* Many wives buy gifts for their husbands only when they are hospitalized.

* The only time they race together is when there is danger and everyone is running.

* The only time they go for evening stroll is when they want to go and lay a complain to the parents of the person that beat their child or got their daughter pregnant.

* The only time they bath together is when both are late for work.

* the only time a wife looks closely to her husband's eyes is when he complains of dirt in his eyes.

Unfortunately, some feel that any romantic man is being controlled by his wife. They will begin to spread bad rumours.

*Couples, change begins with you ooo*......

MARRIAGE IS TO BE ENJOYED NOT TO BE ENDURED

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*BUILD THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU FOR YOUR TOMORROW*

*1. Nothing Makes Life Sweeter Than Making People Happy*

*2. The People You Help Today Become Your Soldiers In The Battle Of Life Tomorrow*

*3. To Invest In Properties Is Good But To Invest In People Is Far Far Better.*

*4. Try To Make Money, But Try Also To Make People Great.*

*5. Your Greatest Trophies Are The Tears You Wipe Away From People's Faces Not The Things You Acquire.*

*6. Your Greatest Achievement Should Be Raising Achievers.*

*7. People Will Defend, Stand By You & Honour You When They Realise You Value Them*

*8. Don't Let An Ingrate Stop You From Making Others Great.*

NEED TO PAMPER 'WOMEN'*

If you choose a WORKING_WOMAN , you must accept that she CANNOT manage the house full time, her time is shared... So, help her at home.

If you choose a HOUSE WIFE who can take care of and manage the household completely, you need to accept that she DOES NOT MAKE MONEY, so, always provide enough money for her, *she is odozi aku.

If you choose a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN, you should accept that she DEPENDS on you... Submissiveness is not easy ooo.

If you choose to be with a STRONG_BRAVE_WO

MAN , you need to accept that she is STUBBORN and has her own thoughts and ways, she can be romantic & weak too, if you treat her well.

If you choose a BEAUTIFUL_WOMAN , you need to accept all the EXPENSES, beauty needs maintenance, *she is Ori aku*.

If you choose to be with a GREAT/CAREER WOMAN, you must also accept that she is HARD and FIRM, do not shout on her or force her to get in kitchen always, she is *Oso Di eme*.

If you choose a DADDY'S GIRL, get ready to pamper her and treat her like a baby, she can be very romantic, *she is apunanwu*.

NO WOMAN IS PERFECT

A woman has her own "GOOD THING" that defines who she is and makes her unique.

Go for who you can tolerate.

*NOW TAKE NOTES OF THESE*.....

Growing Breast ____ Painful.

Menstruation ____ Painful.

Losing virginity ____ Painful.

Pregnancy stage ____ Painful.

Childbirth stage _____ Painful.

Breastfeeding _____ Painful.

Stop Breastfeeding ____ Painful.

Miscarriage ____ Painful.

You wanna hear the truth ...? *..... Every woman deserve a caring Man*.

Women are indeed priceless treasures to value and respect.

God bless all mothers cum Mummies and ladies here!.

You are irreplaceable.

*Have a wonderful and Blessed day!*.

MOMMY greets you all.

Thank you Lord for blessing me with a wonderful HUSBAND.

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WHAT HOLDS IN FUTURE FOR A MOTHER OF RAY

She came to the school to make enquires with her son who is 7. They walked into my office hand in hand. I greeted her with a smile and offered her a sit. I love to engage every child who walks into my office in a conversation.

I pay more attention to kids than to adult.

So I turned to him and greeted. "Good day young man " .

He ignored me totally and behaved as though he didn't hear me. I repeated myself again. This time a bit louder .

He looked at me and looked away. He began to move around the office. Touching everything and anything that was in sight.

I observed him.

I handed the prospectus to his Mom. He turned immediately and snatched it from her. She smiled and said..."Ray, Ray, give it back to me please". He said No bluntly and held on to it.

She asked him to give it back to her politely again and he yelled at her and began to tear it. I watched with keen interest.

She asked if I could give her another copy and I obliged. I gave her a second copy. He rushed almost immediately, grabbed it from her and tore it to pieces.

She looked at me and said. Ray can be naughty sometimes. He turned to her, kicked her hard and said, I am never naughty.

Wow!

I ran out of patience and ordered him to sit immediately. He looked at me surprised, looked at his mom as though he was telling her to do something to me. I waited for her reaction .

I asked him to pick all the papers he had torn and put it in the trash. He said No. His Mom got to work. She picked it all and trashed it herself. She turned to me and said....he is just a kid. He will outgrow it.

And to him she said, I won't take you to ShopRite if you don't sit.....

He gave her the tongue out and in response she smiled.

Okay!

Cool stuff. I understood it all. She is a loving mom who never shouts, spank or punish her child for acting abnormally.

Admirable live pattern.....

BUT

Do you know that a badly raised child grows to be an adult who worries his family much more than he worries the rest of the world?

Do you know you are the person to suffer the consequences of the actions of your badly raised child at some point in their adult years?

Do you know that your mannerless child will make sure you pay for the lack of positive upbringing they had in the nearest future?

Do you know that you and your ward will be avoided by family and friends because of the negative energy you exhume whenever you come around people?

Do you know your child will make you regret and pay for the years you spent pampering and never training them to be sound ?

It may not matter how people see you now. You may be doing your child well by letting them have their way at all times but the future is near and the past will surely come calling.

YOU WILL BE THE GREATEST LOSER!

YOU WILL CARRY YOUR PAIN ALONE!

YOU WILL LACK PEOPLE TO TALK TO!

This is because you have succeeded in putting everyone out of your space with the attitude of you and your child now.

The time is now!

Begin to consciously re_direct your child. Place them on the right path. Cautioning or disciplining your wards does not mean you love them less.

I am glad I told the woman the dangers of the path she is gradually putting her son in. No one is too young or old to learn. He is not too young to be corrected!

Lets raise total children, not rotten ones.

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NEVER MOCK THESE 3 SETS OF PEOPLE!

1. Never mock your HUSBAND:

2. Your husband is the head of your family. This is God's order.

3. Mocking him is defying the laws of God.

Micah mocked David her husband. She called him a " vain fellow shamelessly uncovering himself".

When you begin to call your husband names, you are in for serious trouble.

Her womb was closed. She never had a child for David.

When you mock your husband, it will adversely affect the innocent children. (Read 2 Samuel 6)

2. Never mock your FATHER:

3. The Bible is very clear and explicit. Reuben went to sleep with his father's concubine and he ended up with a curse. This is mockery.

Absalom chased his father away from the throne. He died unceremoniously.

Whatever you do to bring shame to your father is mockery.

Mothers, never instigate your children against their father. It will be too dangerous for them.

Whatever disagreements you have with their father stops with you. Do not extend it.

Remember, the Bible only talks about the Father's Blessing. Let the heart of their father bless the children.

Malachi 4:6 says... whosoever separates children from their father, upon them shall be a curse. (NLT)

If you are guilty of this, please humble yourself and go and make things right with your father. If you don't, life will be a struggle for you. Be wise.

3. Never mock a true SERVANT OF GOD: Some youths came out of nowhere and began to chant a mockery song against Elisha.

They were torn into pieces by bears.

I met an elderly man in Benin who shared his experience.

He said, on the morning Archbishop Benson Idahosa's death was announced, he was so excited because he hated the man with passion.

He said he sent for two of his friends and they began to toast to Archbishop's death.

While still making noise and bantering in his sitting room, some people ran into his house and told him a gravel tipper had just knocked down his son on his way to lectures at Uniben. The young undergraduate died on the spot.

The elderly man in his seventies said..... 'I have learnt never to mock a true servant of God'.

I have a praying group. One of the women there approached me to come lead the husband to Christ on his death bed.

In humility, the man surrendered his life to Jesus and there was an aura of peace on his embattled face.

Before he breathed his last, he said...... "All my life, I have mocked servants of God.

We are 5 friends and all of them died this way. I am the last of them but now I have made peace with God"

Never join anyone to mock true servants of God.

Job said, what I do not know, I searched out. This is the wisdom of great people. Wise people do not despise SPIRITUAL DIGNITARY.

HOW TO SURVIVE IN A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

The word survive is used because everyone's desire is to live within reach of their partner. But sometimes life gives you a good partner yet circumstance separates you physically. How do you cope?

1. TRUST EACH OTHER

Trust is the reason that will keep the fire burning. Trust is not just blindly given, show you are trustworthy by being open, having a record of dependability and honesty, keep your partner on the know, share details. Do things that make you your partner secure. Let your partner know of your schedules over there. Be predictable

2. DATE ALOT ON THE PHONE OR ONLINE

Unlike other more fortunate partners who get to meet each other so often to go on dates; make up for the lack or minimal frequency of physical connection by chatting and opening up with each other on the phone. This way, your fantasies and desire will remain directed towards your partner even though far apart. Let your cheeky and talkative ways come alive on the phone and online.

3. TALK ABOUT HOW IT HURTS

Share your feelings, say it when you feel low, pour your frustrations on each other brought about by the distance and walk together towards making it bearable.

4. HAVE A COMMON VISION

Define the future, where you two are heading to, talk alot about the future, the goal of why you are together, why you need each other; give each other a hope to hold on to.

5. COME UP WITH A TIME TABLE

You are distant from each other now but come up with a plan that will bring about a permanent solution where you two will finally be together for good. When there is no end in sight the heart gets tired of waiting for love to be within reach; but when a time frame is put, when the heart knows that the distance is only for 3 months, 6 months, a year, two years, that gives motivation to develop the love.

6. COMMUNICATE OFTEN

Use every available communication technology to warmly keep in touch as often as possible. Facebook, Twitter, Skype, Watsapp, Email, Text, Phonecall; don't let it be out of sight, out of mind, out in the cold.

7. PRAY TOGETHER

Loving someone far away from you is tough. Pray together, commit your love to God, it will make the pain easy to bear. You are not physically where your partner is but God is.

8. MAKE AMAZING MEMORIES

The few times you get to be together, make those moments so amazing that when you part, you will have good memories to keep you going as you look forward to meeting physically again to make new memories.

9. KEEP OFF TEMPTATIONS

In as much as you love that person, a vacuum is left by that person not being physically present. Guard yourself so that you don't turn to another to meet your emotional and physical needs. No one wants a partner far away, we all want our needs met here and now but long-distance relationships call for discipline, loyalty and commitment. Hang in there, your partner wishes to be near you, but for now just be patient, soon your needs in love will be adequately met.

10. GROW YOURSELF

Even as you wait for each other, life should not stall or stagnate. Don't feel bad and lonely to the point you forget you need to grow as an individual, before you grow as a couple. Take this time you are apart to build you just as your partner is far away advancing himself/ herself at work or study so that you two can have the best future.

Remember, love is not about how near or far you are to each other but having each other. Someone can be sleeping next to their spouse every night yet be unfaithful, another can be miles away and be faithful to their spouse. Each couple has their own journey, walk it together.