RISK OF OVER-DEPENDENT GENERATION

Most parents of today are raising an *OVER DEPENDENT GENERATION* !!!

1. You cook their food for them so that they can read and enjoy.

2. You help them to wash their clothes and tidy their rooms.

3. You drop them off in school every day by yourself!

4. You lie on their behalf to get them out of trouble.

5. You arrange "expo" to help them pass their exams.

6. You protect them from every danger and difficulties.

7. You prevent them from any form of pain and suffering.

8. You don't want them to suffer like you did as a child.

9. You hustle around while they watch films and play games.

10. They can't go out alone because you're always scared.

11. You take every decision for them, because you're wiser.

12. You go to their schools to fight for them and prove rights.

13. You defend them even when they're wrong and at fault.

14. You can not stand seeing them starve or go hungry for once.

15. You fight against those who try to correct them.

*I PITY YOU*

.....YOU ARE BUSY RAISING AN OVER- DEPENDENT GENERATION !!!

You think you are showing them LOVE ?

*SORRY, YOU'RE WRONG* !!!!

By the time you're no longer there and they face real life challenges, they will become helpless !!!

At that stage, they will realise the havoc you have done to them and CURSE YOU !!!

STOP RAISING AN OVER-DEPENDENT GENERATION !!!

Allow these children to face realities of life !!!

Yardstick for measuring Pride

*1. If you cannot* submit yourself to higher authority.

*2. If you find it* difficult to accept corrections.

*3. If you are too big* to say “sorry”.

*4. If you think that* your success or achievements are based on your efforts.

*5. If you don’t have* respect for people.

*6. If you are always* feeling superior to others.

*7. If you always want to control* or dominate others.

*8. If you think that you* are better than other people.

*9. If you cannot work under* those with lesser qualifications.

*10. If you always want people* to respect and honour you.

*11. If you want people to* notice you anywhere you go.

*12. If you are a graduate and you* feel too big to do any small job till you get a big one.

*13. If you cannot marry* those with lesser qualifications(especially as a female).

*14. If you are always angry* at those who correct you.

*15. If you avoid those* who criticize you.

*16. If you feel* too big to learn.

*17. If you feel ashamed* to ask questions about what you don’t know.

*18. If you are always bragging* about your achievements/connections.

*19. If you don’t consider it necessary to say* “thank you” to those who help you.

*20. If you desire to always be* addressed by your title.

*21. If you think that nobody* knows more than you.

*22. If you think that you cannot* make mistakes.

*23. If you are fond of blaming others* for your actions/inactions

*24. If you think that you know* everything in life.

*Pride limits a man's destiny*

Pride destroys glory

Pride devalues grace and anointing

*The earlier we make a change* and accept adequate corrections.

*When you look at those who helped* you to get to the top as nothing.

*When you refused to appreciate those* who have been a blessing to your life even when you have over enough to do so.

*When message of God has no value or meaning to you* through the same man of God or person God has tremendously used for your upliftment.

*When you are too* officious about position.

Don't be conscious of tittle be humble Remember God resist the proud but gives Grace to the humble.

Stay humble

EFFECT OF ZERO AND ONE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP

```If numbers in *Mathematics* were given an opportunity to speak, i think some were going to accuse zero (0) and one (1).

But why accusing zero (0) and one (1)? Relax.... Any number that is multiplied by zero gives zero e.g. *25×0=0*. Zero will bring down numbers to nothing. There are some people in life who are like number zero. If you associate with them no matter how great your value is they will bring you down to zero.

How about one (1)?

Any number multiplied by one remains unchanged no matter how big it is e.g. *2500×1= 2500.* There are some people in life that are like one (1). No matter how they touch your life you remain the same. You don't grow, you don't improve, you remain at the same level.

So here is the twist. What kind of person are you and who do you associate with?.

May God separate us from everyone carrying the spirit of Zero (0) and One (1). May HE also help us grow and be greater than 1 so that when we touch the lives of others, we will add value.

*StaySafe* and *Stay blessed* and be a blessing to others. 

MENS' ATTITUDE TOWARDS PREGNANCY

Pregnancy is an exciting but emotional time for women.

Sometimes, it has many effect on a female's psyche.

It is a critical period for mothers.

You may find out you become upset and anxious more easily.

This is probably due to both hormonal and emotional changes that they are experiencing.

There are hormones responsible for those unpleasant display.

Husbands, be patient with your wives.

They can nag and go over-board.

Sometimes, accept her as she's , if you do not like something about her, let her know subtly, instead of criticizing her upfront, rather focus on the positive things that you likes in her.

Your presence will give her immense strenght.

Provide emotional support.

Husbands, when you're a leader, you automatically know how to take charge of the house.

There is a natural flow of things and ideas.

And a good leader knows the way, and shows the way but remember not to be bossy.

AFTER WEDDING

Before marriage, we all thought that once the knots are tied, this life go sweet die. Only you with your man/woman, enjoying, partying, shopping, doing somersaults anyhow, this, that, yen yen yen ... Ogidi

Most of us didn't consider the pressures that would come from home keeping, financial pressure on the family, stress from inlaws, friends, coping with the demands of our jobs while securing the home front, etc.

We didn't even think that a time would come when little discussions could result to very big quarrels, and you could actually keep malice with your partner, and say to hell with him/her.

We thought having sex everyday would just be fun since we've gotten the licence to be weird, we never imagined that we would one day be forming tayad in the oza room .

We thought everything would just go as planned and we will live happily ever after, never did we imagine the frustrations, the heartbreaks, the regrets, the hurtful words and actions that would one day come from our heartthrob intentionally or otherwise.

Most of us thought love texting is fun and would never cease, but here we are, sending list of things to buy, issues to be resolved, school fees, utility bills, etc

most times even forgetting to add love you at the end of the messages.

What about pillow talks, . We enjoyed lots of it during courtship, discussing the future, totoring each other, giglling throughout the night, and all... We thought marriage would bring out the PhD of that aspect... . Little did we know that sometimes we would sleep off on the couch even without having our night bath. Pillow talks haff advanced to kitchen/on-the-way-out talk

As you're coming out from one challenge, you're faced with another. It's like a loop, we keep going round and never getting to the end.

These things are overwhelming to a lot of people, you see wonderful sweet women becoming something else, the men most times start looking for outdoor activities, some, see themselves as stuck with each other and just continue to manage and hope for a better tomorrow, while the impatient ones seek ways and excuses to return to spinsterhood/bachelorhood.

It takes a lot to make this thing called marriage work. If you've not been there you won't understand any of those .

So the next time you see couples celebrating their marriage anniversary, rejoice with them, cos what they celebrate is beyond the beautiful appearances they put up and the fine pictures you see on social media.

Every marriage anniversary is worth celebrating, don't wait until you're 25years in marriage.

Kudos to all men and women who despite the many challenges are still keeping up with the love they saw and believed in, may God continue to strengthen your home and give you double success for every effort you make, Amen

If u can't forgive, please don't marry. Marriage is a Ministry of 'Offence'. So u must be a Permanent Secretary in Forgiveness Department with a PhD in Understanding

M.Sc in Loving and a B.Sc in Tolerance. Happy new week

"FORGIVENESS IS ABOUT US NOT ABOUT THEM"

My excellent friends, please, let us forgive one another because forgiving others is not about them but about us. Please, see the following benefits of forgiving others.

1. Forgiveness helps us to forget the past and live in the present and face the greater future.

2. Forgiveness helps us to experience joy and a better walk with God for a better tomorrow.

3. Forgiveness brings us back to good health and help us to grow higher and healthier spiritually.

4. Forgiveness opens us up to divine forgiveness.

5. Forgiveness makes us feel and think right and better.

6. Forgiveness warms the soul and makes us feel right.

7. Forgiveness frees us from destruction and harmful emotions.

8. Forgiveness opens our heart to unconditional love.

9. Forgiveness us to heal deep injuries done to us or to others.

Beloved, let us forgive one another. It is mandatory. It is not optional. Col 3: 13