Mwikali was lying naked in bed. Exhausted. She was wearing a smile. A glow on her face.
Her legs were spread. Her arms thrown wide.
Mwikali's phone rang.
She struggled lifting up her head to pick up the phone which was on the lamp stool just next to the bed.
She picked up the phone. It was her female friend calling. She answered.
"Hi girl" Mwikali answered with a sleepy voice.
"Are you sleeping?" Her friend asked her.
"Nope. I am just well done. My husband has just made sweet love to me and my body is completely done. He is great in bed" Mwikali said.
"Eh, sis. You are there making love and we are over here about to start our Chama?" The friend asked.
Mwikali laughed and said, "What can I do? My husband wanted sex and so I gave him sex. I am sorry, I won't make it for Chama today. I will MPESA you my contribution. Girl I can't even drive right now. The sex was so good, my legs are still trembling. My body needs some time to calm down" Mwikali said as she stretched her body.
"What's the secret?" The friend asked.
"The secret to what?" Mwikali sought to know.
"The secret to a great sex-life? I love my husband and I know he loves me. But I can't even remember the last time we made love. It's like he doesn't find me sexy any more" explained the friend.
"Well, is he a boobs person, a butt person or a hips person?" Mwikali asked.
"Aaahm. I don't know" the friend answered.
Mwikali turned to the side while speaking to the phone, "What, you have no idea what your husband's favourite woman's body part is? Girl, you need to learn your husband"
"I thought all a man cares about is the vagina?" Said the friend.
"My dear, making love is more than the vagina. Men are visual and they love to touch. Find out which body part he loves and present that body part nicely to him. If it is your butt, bend over in front of him suggestively, rub your butt on him, dance for him. If it is your chest, wear see through clothes when just the two of you, position your chest before him, wear either a bra that shows off your chest or stay bra less, show him your nipples, try a wet t-shirt sometimes. If it is your hips, whine your waist and dance for him, wear tight stuff, flaunt those hips, excite him"
"I think he is a butt guy. But I feel so self-conscious about it. I get shy being naked before him. My butt is big and full of stretch marks" the friend confessed.
"Now you. If you are shy in front of your husband, who will you be free with? Us women are the ones who beat ourselves down. That big butt of yours had to have stretch marks to grow in size. Your stretch marks are beautiful, be proud of them. Let your husband marvel at your buttocks. Maybe he desires to grab and play with your butt but you deny him. Girl, your body and sexiness is not for you, it is for him. If you are standing in the way of him enjoying your sexiness then you are failing as a wife. Be confident naked" Mwikali told her.
"Sometimes he talks to my butt as if it has life. I honestly used to think he married me for my butt. He looks at my butt like it speaks to him. I find that weird" the friend said.
Mwikali laughed as she laid on her back.
"Do you know how many wives wish their husbands would do that? You should be grateful. When a man loves his wife's body, he gets weird. He can even become a freak. Let him be weird. Allow his sexuality to be expressed raw. Enjoy it. Play along. Don't be too rigid; loosen up. Too many wives are uptight in the bedroom. What do you wear to bed?"
"A t-shirt, a track, a pair of socks and stockings on my head depending on my hairstyle" said the friend.
Mwikali laughed.
"What are you laughing at? I feel comfortable in them" the friend told Mwikali.
"Oh no girl! That is not how you ask for sex. If you want sex, you dress for sex. I have seen you going to work, you dress up. You should put up the same effort to dress up for sex. If you will not wear a sexy lingerie or clothes that are light and free yet showing your nipples and curves then sleep naked. Remember, men are visual and they love to touch. Whatever you wear, look at yourself in the mirror and judge for yourself if you look yummy. A woman can have a gorgeous body but she hides it behind boring clothes. Gorgeous is not what the media says, but your natural beauty. I hope you brush your teeth too at night" Mwikali spoke.
"I do. Of course I do" said the defensive friend.
"Good, cause good breath attracts kisses and good hygiene around the vagina makes him want to make love and to lick and touch you" Mwikali said.
"Lick me? Isn't that yuck?" The friend got shocked.
"You mean, he has never licked your clit? Are you serious?" Mwikali was astonished. She changed the hand that held the phone.
"He has wanted to many times but I have said no. I don't like him looking at my private area" the friend said.
"But he is your husband. You are one flesh. It is part of foreplay. In fact, anything sexual you both desire to do, you two can do it. God created the clit with powerful sensations. The clit is there purely for pleasure. Do you know how wonderfully sensitive your clit is?" Mwikali asked.
"No, I thought he should just focus on the vagina. He goes in gets his orgasm and then it is done" said the friend.
"What about you? What about your orgasm? Do you orgasm?" Mwikali questioned.
"A woman doesn't have to orgasm? Right?" Asked the friend.
"Do you orgasm?" Mwikali questioned again.
"I don't think I do" the friend said.
"That is because you are too rigid. You have rules when it comes to sex. The only rule a married couple should have is to be faithful to each other. Relax. Let him explore your clit. He wants to. Let him lick you, touch you, penetrate you. Relax and let him please you. Don't block him or frustrate him yet he is horny for you. Girl, orgasms are sweet; but you won't get them when you overthink. A man feels good when he makes the female body orgasm, you are denying him that good feeling" Mwikali revealed.
"He cums so quickly though. I keep telling him he needs to last. His penis has a problem" her friend complained.
Mwikali leaned on her other side and said, "Oh no, don't ever make him feel bad about his penis. Never talk negatively about the one and only penis that should satisfy you. He cums quickly either because your vagina is too sweet or he wants to end it quickly because he is horny but you are passive and boring. If you make sex exciting, he will learn to prolong it because he wants it to last. Keep changing sex positions, when you feel he is about to cum, deny him the climax by pausing or removing his penis from inside you so that you do a different style. You do different sex positions right? Or is it just missionary?"
"What is missionary?" The friend asked.
Mwikali smiled and said, "That is when you lie on your back and spread your legs, he makes love to you while on top of you"
"Yap. That's the one we do. That is the only one we do" the friend answered.
"That is the only one you do? Oh no girl. Your body is capable of more, you can do doggie, sit on him and ride him, do it leaning on the side. Wait a minute, have you ever been the one who initiates sex?" Mwikali asked.
"No. I thought that is the work of the husband?" The friend sought clarity.
Mwikali spoke, "Sex is not for the man alone. Women are sexual beings too, you have sexual needs too. Men don't love a sexually passive wife, they want a wife who can show him she wants his sex too. He wants you to make moves on him too. Tease him, seduce him, strip for him, take your fingers inside his pants and rub his penis to hardness, lick and touch his nipples, be the first to kiss him. Don't just sit and wait for him to always do all the work. He wants you to want him too. Why are you so shy about sex?"
"I grew up thinking it's a no go zone, a taboo. Maybe that has led me to being apprehensive about it" the friend explained.
"Oh yes. The world has damaged the view of sex. Because sex has been abused and misused, it is easy to see it as dirty and evil. But sex is from God. God wants you and your husband to enjoy it in intimacy, don't spit on God's gift to your marriage. The Bible says Abraham knew his wife when it talks about them making love. Sex makes you two know each other and be more one, you are one flesh. Your husband will not know you if you close your legs, hide your clit or be ashamed of your stretch marks. Be unapologetically naked and horny for your husband. I have to end the call dear, my husband is back from the shower and I see he is horny again. Talk to you later. Have fun"
"Thanks girl. God bless. Have fun too" the friend said then hanged up.
Later that night, the friend texted Mwikali on her phone.
The text said, "Thank you for the talk girlfriend. I have just had an awesome orgasm. My body feels so good. My husband did things to me I have never felt before. I have never seen him this sexually excited. We're waiting for him to cool then harden up again for round two. I thank God for you'"
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