SON, WHAT DID YOU DO?*

*I was at home and we had some visitors, so I decided to go upstairs to my mother's room to pray and study since she was busy with cooking in the kitchen.*

*As I lay on the bed, I saw on the platform where she keeps things, a small quantity of sugar wrapped in nylon but engrossed by some tiny ants. Immediately, I took the sugar and dropped it on the floor where the rays of light coming from the sun can penetrate it. Then, I continued my prayers.*

*Suddenly, I heard the voice of God saying to me, "Son, what did you do to the sugar?"*

*I replied, "I exposed it to sunlight".*

*Then, God spoke again, "Why didn't you start killing the ants one by one?"*

*I said, "Because I will be wasting time and of course no matter the number of ants, when the sugar is exposed to light, they will all disappear".*

*Then, God said, "Son, expose your life to the light of the word when the 'ants' of worry, lack, pains, trials come to you. Don't attack the problem, just expose your life to the word of God, and the problem will be solved (disappear)".*

*Beloved, what are the 'ants' surrounding your 'sugar' right now? Is it lack, delay, joblessness, barrenness, dryness, failure, disappointment, all manner of sinful habits and the vicissitudes of life? Simply, expose your life to the 'light of the word'.*

*Have you read about the temptation of Jesus? I mean did you study it? What did you see? For me, I saw the exact illustration above in that context.*

*Jesus had exposed Himself to the light of the scriptures and the enemy was unable to have a free run.*

*Do you know what would have happened to that small quantity of sugar? Little by little, the ants would have sucked it up and left nothing there.*

*That is exactly the enemies' agenda for you and me but we are able to stop them when we are exposed to light, not by 'killing' them.*

*I Hope this blessed you, please share if it has! It's a free gift to all passing through one challenge or the other.

SEX DOES NOT BEGIN IN THE BEDROOM....strictly for married couple

I have noticed with disdain that in this part of our world, most Christian couples are not romantic at all. I can say with a heavy heart that romance is virtually dead in many christian marriages.

Many christian couples live like intimate strangers in the name of being spiritual and practicing holiness unto the Lord.

I was at a Christian couples' retreat some years ago where the guest speaker asked all the couples present to kiss each other.

My goodness! You needed to see the look on the faces of most of the couples at that meeting immediately that instruction was given; it was as if they had marched "poopoo". I was a bit irritated by the spirikokoism I saw on display that day.

That day, you will be shocked to see some wives' dodging the lips of their husbands, and some husbands did same to their wives.

In fact, the scene reminded me of that toothpaste advert in the 80s with the song we recomposed as , "Gbenu e soun, o foyin, o foyin, enu e n run"

Dear Husband, when last have you hugged your wife as you were going out or coming in? Do you even hug your wife at all? Or you think your body is the temple of God and must not be used for hugging?

Dear Wife, when last did you grab your husband's head and plant a kiss on his lips?

When last did you dance together? When last did you crack jokes together? When last did you leave the kids with grandma and travel on a fun vacation together? When last did you do pillow fight?

The only time some Christian men hold their wives' hands is when they want to pray together. Se ogun laye ni?

I charge all Christian couples, don't only PRAY together, PLAY together as well.

Husband, feel free to play the keyboard on your wife's body. You paid dowry over the owner of that body.

You see those twins on her chest! Whether they are Extra large, large, medium or small; size does not matter; It could be Water melon or agbalumo, believe me, size does not matter. Play with them regularly and skillfully. Squeeze them often. You think they are mere decorations? You think they are meant for the babies alone? No, sir! Use your hands and mouth skillfully on those things. It does not reduce your anointing.

Smack her playfully on her backyard once in a while! It's not a crime.

Wife, feel free to trouble that man in the other room. Fight like children doing ere ipa! It is allowed. Mummy, It does not reduce your spirituality. It even makes you to bond together. Mummy, do you even sit on Daddy's lap often? We know you are born again. We know you are Spirit filled. So are we too!

I remember how an older pastor advised me some time ago, "Pastor, I have seen how God's power has been flowing in your ministry and it's commendable. If you want to operate in more power, you have to limit how you meet your wife, too much sex with one's wife reduces the anointing." The reason I did not laugh right there before him was because of my respect for his age.

To be candid, Sex does not begin in the bedroom but outside it.

Husband, in the other room, don't just lay your wife on the bed and go straight into action. Haba! Kilode? Who is chasing you? What's the rush? Are a "Russian?" Who is hurrying you up? Try to go downstairs and work some magic there with your hands.

Wife, don't just lie down on the bed like a log of wood showing no emotions or feelings while the man does all the action. What are your hands for? Kilode? Se Ogun laye ni? Let the man hear your ringtone. It's not a sin for ringtones to be playing in the other room.

"Haaa! Yee! Chimo o! Oooos! aaaas!" sounding in the other room is not a sin o. It doesn't mean you are not a virtuous woman. Infact any "other room" where there is no ringtone during fellowship is a cold room.

Many Christian homes are just too cold and most couples are too formal. Many Christian marriages are just too boring. No intimacy! No display of affection either openly or secretly. This shouldn't be. Christianity is not against romance.

Wife, Please don't listen to those women that are saying a man will still cheat no matter what you do to satisfy him during sex. Don't listen to such women and allow what they say to kill your enthusiasm and action in the other room.

I agree that a man that will cheat will still cheat but that is no excuse for you to be boring in the other room; because I have also seen men that were pushed out because of that. Though that's not a genuine excuse.

Uncle, Daddy, please wake up, be a Lion for aunty/mummy. Aunty, mummy, please wake up, be a Tigress for Uncle/Daddy in the other room.

I believe this will help many Christian marriages....

"But, man of God, I don't love sex. After all it is not food" If that is what I can hear you saying to me.

You want to know my response to you? It's simple: In Patience Jonathan's voice I will tell you "Wee you keep kwayet sir/ma? Why did you marry in the first place?"

Chai! Sorry! I have forgotten that as an apostle, I should be teaching you only spiritual things. We should all be focusing on spiritual things. I hope I'm still spiritual ba yi sha!

God bless all the Christian marriages out there.

Enough of the Voltron we are forming with ourselves. Let's be real and frank.

God bless all the Christian couples out there. May your homes be heaven on earth.

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*THE WOUND OF A FATHER*

A true father goes through many unspeakable experiences to continue to be a father. When he goes out daily in search of bread for his household, he sustains many mental injuries he does not discuss with his family.

His wife and children may not be able to stand the pains he goes through if he shares it with them. The insults from his boss, the embarrassment from his customers, the harassment from his superiors etc yet he can't quit.

Most times when he gets home, he is welcomed with nags and unending requests. He gets blames for not able to meet up or for not able to be like his fellow men. Hmmmm! He is rarely appreciated for his struggles and push just to keep the family together.

Some men had secretly dipped their hands in so many things they can't discuss with their families. Some have stolen, embezzled and borrowed so much that they live in inexpressible guilts everyday.

A real father can take anything just to keep food on the table for his household.

An adage says ''goat sweats but his hair does not let people see his sweat''. Many men are sweating but no one is seeing their sweat because they have a car, a house, a job etc. When it comes to celebrating him, it is done casually.

He may not have breasts to breastfeed, yet everyone sucks from his unseen breasts.

He may not carry pregnancy for nine months but he's always pregnant with family needs.

He may not know how labour pain feels, but his pains are not physical.

Tears may not be on his eyes but he bleeds from inside when he has no means to put food on the table for his household.

His shout, hostility and mood are not premeditated, they are fallout of what he goes through. Understand him please.

Pray for a father!

Buy a gift for a father!

Celebrate a father today!

Send an encouraging message to a father.

NO WOMAN IS PERFECT

Dear GENTLEMAN

If you choose A WORKING WOMAN, you must accept that she CANNOT manage house full

time.

If you choose a HOUSE WIFE who can take care of and manage d household completely ,you need to accept dat she DOES NOT MAKE MONEY.

If u choose a SUBMISSIVE woman,just accept dat she DEPENDS on you

If u choose to be with a STRONG BRAVE woman,just accept dat she is stubborn and has her own thoughts and ways.

If u choose a BEAUTIFUL woman,you need to accept all the EXPENSES.

If you choose to be with a GREAT/CAREER woman,you must also accept dat she is HARD and FIRM.

If you choose a DADDY'S GIRL,get ready to pamper her and treat her lyk a baby.

NO WOMAN IS PERFECT

A women has her own "GOOD THING"dta defines who she is and makes her unique

WHEN HUSBAND FAILS TO ADMIRE HIS WIFE

THE SCENARIO BETWEEN SOME MARRIED WOMEN, THEIR HUSBAND AND SOME RANDOM OUTSIDE ADMIRERS

Wife makes new hair.

Wife to husband: Dear, you didn't even take note of my new hair, is it not fine?

Husband: (without looking at the wife): Yes, it is. I've seen it.

Admirer: Madam, your hair is nice. What's this hairstyle called? Can I pay for it?

Wife to admirer: Thanks, but never mind, my husband already paid.

2 Days later, wife rocks a new outfit.

Husband to wife: It is only clothe that you know how to buy.

Admirer to wife: Madam, you look elegant. Your husband is truly lucky. Beauty is you.

Wife to admirer: Thanks anyway.

This is the situation many men have kept their wives. No words of affirmation, no compliments, nothing. Just some dry, lifeless marital life......Haba!

Sir, married women still have feelings too. Do you know your wife can fall for the guy complimenting her all the way? One day, those compliments will get to her and she may give the guy some attention. Your wife is human too. She's not invincible. Even if this doesn't sound good, it is possible.

Well, if this post applies to you, it's left to you to accept the message and make amendments or get angry that I'm making excuses for cheating wives....Me I don talk my own.

Ejoor sir, pass nice compliments to mummy all the time.

✓Remind her of her beauty always.

✓Compliment her hair whenever she makes a new one.

✓Take it upon yourself to always take note of her new clothes, and say something nice about it.

✓You licked all your five fingers while eating her food but your mouth is too heavy to confess that she's a good cook....no be juju be that?

✓When she speaks well at a public function, let her know you're proud of her. You're not doing well if it is outsiders that you leave to give feedback about your wife's performance.

E get some guys now wey be say na people wife dem wan dey snatch.......God no go shame us, madam no go shine teeth because of compliment from one small boy.

This is just one of the many little things that matter in marriage.

By John Adesogan

THE SECRET OF THRIVING MARRIAGES

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Keeping learning, keep earning wisdom, keep improving your life, relationships and marriage

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At whatever phase of pre-marriage or marriage you are, you can learn and grow much better.

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There is always a better version of you and me than we are presently.

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The more we learn good stuffs and act accordingly, the better our marriages.

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Read godly books on marriage every month or quarter.

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Keep relationships with couples whose marital ideologies and worldviews can be of tremendous positive impact on your marriage.

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Listen to audio or watch audio visual marriage programs on how to achieve successful marriage.

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Your spouse is a core course you must not fail to study and understand. Study your spouse's love language(s), preferences, personality uniqueness, strengths and weaknesses.

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Attend both paid and free marriage seminars or conferences regularly.

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Don't allow a day to past without making mention of your spouse, children, marriage and family in prayer.

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In all of your learnings, learn God's indispensable ideas and blueprints for achieving successful marriage.

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Thriving marriages are those of couples who individually and collectively submit to the leadership of the One who instituted the big idea of marriage.

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To your marital peace and bliss,

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By Muyiwa Adigun