_How to lessen marital conflicts_

- As a family make it your habit to pray together, a family that prays together stays together

- Meet your spouse’s needs as you want your spouse to meet your needs

- Learn to spend quality time together

- Be courteous, gentle, caring, affectionate and appreciative to one another

- As much as possible avoid referring to past wrongs of each other

- Avoid destructive criticism and comparison

- Respect each others views and interests

- Do not allow outsiders to crash your heads together - protect each other

- Do not disgrace your spouse to friends, family or neighbours

- Resolve to forgive your partner anytime a conflict erupts

- Never use the silent treatment, but communicate

- Never hit (hands are intended to protect, cares reassure etc)

- Never call names - foolish woman or worthless man or lazy or liar ( names that hurt or attack who we are). These words are hard to forget, you can't take them back. They can kill relationship.

Realize that the quality of your relationship with your spouse affects the quality of your relationship with God. It is therefore expedient that you do whatever you can, as obedient to God to let go whatever resentment that can block the flow of peace between you and your spouse. If you do this, your confidence level will be raised to counsel younger couples

SIX REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD DRESS DECENTLY

"Raise your hands & touch your toes. If anything shows, go change your clothes."

I saw the above quote somewhere and I like it so I copied it in order to share it with you.

Dressing decently is a good thing and the best thing to do. It shows you are modest, have good morals and responsible.

I will be sharing with you 6 reasons why you should dress decently.

I believe this is going to help so read consciously.

First reason, the Bible admonished us to do all things decently and in order (you can see that in 1 Corithians 14:40). And when it says all things, it means all things including your dressing. Let your dressing be decent and in order.

Don't dress just anyhow with the mindset that it is your body. Of course no one is disputing the fact that it is your body. But dressing indecently is not the best and for the fact that we've seen scripturally that we should do all things including our dressing decently and in order should move us to dress well.

Second reason, it commands respect from people: have you seen that people tend to respect you for your dressing? When you dress well, people see you as matured and respect you. And truly, matured people can't dress irresponsibly.

Do you also know that, your dressing is you as a person? That's why Mattew 12:34 tells us "out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh" and in Proverbs 23:7, it says, "for as he thinketh in his heart, so is he."

Your dressing is you so dress well.

Thirdly, you feel comfortable: Yes! dressing decently makes you feel so comfortable. Let me quickly share something with you in line with this third reason.

Few days back while walking along the road, I saw a young lady and she was putting on a top (to me it was a top) but to her, it was a gown and I guess that was why she didn't get to wear probably a skirt or trousers underneath it.

While she was walking, she had to start using her hands to hold the "top-gown" to herself so that the breeze doesn't blow the "top-gown" away.

I was amazed at the funny scenario and I began to ask some questions in my mind, questions like:

What's she even trying to prevent?

Why does she have to undergo the stress of having to fight with the friendly breeze all because of her indecent dressing?

(I guess she will start passing unnecessary blame to the gentle breeze that's only doing its job)

Was it that she doesn't know the dress is suppose to be a top and not a gown?

You see all those questions I asked could have been asked and answered by the lady before she left the house and that would have saved her the unnecessary stress and inconveniences.

Do you now see why decent dressing makes you comfortable?

Fourth reason, you look good on decent dressing: if probably you've not been taking notice of this, just start from now and you'll see that those who dress decently usually look good and more responsible.

Those folks don't just look good only, they also attract good people to themselves.

They attract people of like minds, responsible minds and great minds.

Specifically for me, this is one of the major reason that attract me to people.

Fifth reason, your dressing is a message: your dressing is a message that people who looks at you reads which means in order to pass a positive message to people, dress properly.

Sixth reason, it boost your confidence: as a public speaker, I can tell you this is so true. Your dressing is going to affect the way you think and also affect the way you act. Do you want to boost your confidence then dress properly.

I believe you've learnt one or more things from this, do let me know in the comment section.

_The effects of peaceful marriage_

Peaceful marriage prolongs life.

Peaceful marriage enhances family and social health and peace.

It sets a good example for younger ones to emulate.

It creates a sound atmosphere for progress in life.

It brings honour and glory to God.

It is a vessel of evangelism.

A peaceful marriage brings the favour of God and His blessings on the family.

Let us therefore try all what we can, to make our marriages peaceful to fulfill the intended purpose of God for us. His banner over us is love so let LOVE reigns.

TO KNOW A MAN WHO IS SERIOUS FOR MARRIAGE

A MUST READ For Single Ladies.

Is He Ready For Marriage?

1. A man can date you for 10 years and still NOT get married to you. I heard someone say ‘God forbid.’ That’s good. Don’t let that happen to you.

2. It is sad but MANY men are NOT ready for marriage. Many are immature.This has nothing to do with love. It has to do with wanting to settle down with you.

3. Now that you are young and hot and irresistible, you are not paying attention to this article. But the truth is that you will not remain young for ever. You should therefore not allow any unserious man waste your time.

4. A man may love you but does he want you to be his WIFE? If all he wants is fun and games, he will never propose to you. May the Lord deliver you from time wasters and deceivers.

5. There are ladies who are ready for marriage but are in a relationship with jokers who are still immature. Such ladies will experience pain unless they let go of such a relationship.

6. A man who is READY for marriage will have marriage burning in his eyes. It will be in his every sentence. If you are wise and know he is God's will for you, GRAB him now. When the Lord sends a blessing your way, it is foolishness to let it slip out of your hands.

7. If you have dated for at least 6 months and he has not raised the subject of marriage, my dear sister, he is NOT ready to get married. You may grow old waiting for him to propose to you.

8. A man who is emotionally mature, financially prepared-he doesn’t have to be a millionaire- and talks to you about marriage should be taken very seriously. If you reject him, he will get married to the lady who accepts his proposal.

9. Marriage for a man is not complex. It is the most direct thing for a man who is ready. So, when a man keeps beating about the bush and evading the subject of marriage, he is not ready for you. Let him go or be ready to wait until he is ready, whenever that may be.

10. Let’s wrap this up. Are you good for each other and happy together? Is he ready for marriage? Has he asked you to marry him? If he has, don’t let this moment pass you by, seize it. And may the Lord give you understanding.

HOW TO DEAL WITH PREMATURE EJACULATION AND ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION

FOR MARRIED ONLY

1. Wife, celebrate if your husband ejaculates because of you albeit prematurely. You have the ability to make him climax quickly. The goal is, how can that climax be delayed

2. Husband, if you climax too quickly, rejoice that your penis is able to sense pleasure inside your wife to climax. You just need to work on control

3. Wife, in case your husband climaxes too soon, don't look at him with eyes of frustration and disappointment as if it is the end of the world; you will only make him self conscious

4. Husband, learn your penis. Get to know when you are about to climax; and when you feel about to cum, get out of her sweetness and change the sex position to prolong your hardness

5. Wife, it is not all lost when he climaxes soon, continue playing with him, after some minutes, his penis might get hard again. For a lot of men, the second hard on lasts longer

6. Husband, if in case you climax too soon, don't feel ashamed. Your wife is still horny, find other ways using your hand and tongue to get her to her orgasm

7. Wife, identify which sex position makes your husband climax too quickly. If you notice he climaxes faster when he sees your butt as you two do doggy, or when you are rubbing his nipples as he is on top of you; save that sex position for last

8. Husband, a lot of men climax too soon because they are too excited or they are used to masturbation. Avoid masturbation, relax when making love, don't be in a hurry, allow your spouse to pleasure you in other ways beyond your penis such as massaging

9. Wife, remember that sometimes it is not that your husband cannot sustain his erection; but that you turn him off with your bad attitude, harsh treatment or lack of hygiene. He might start off hard then the penis shrinks when he remembers how bad you treat him. Good treatment sustains an erection

10. Husband, don't overthink during love making. Sex starts and is sustained in the mind, if you over think, your penis will be confused. The penis remains hard when you have one focus: pleasure

11. Wife, a lot of men struggle to maintain an erection when stressed, especially due to finances. Talk with him, relieve his stress

12. Husband, when you are so used to masturbation, your mind will desire self pleasure than a vagina. That is why some men maintain an erection during self pleasure and watching porn but lose the erection when next to a naked and wet vagina. Avoid masturbation; relearn that true pleasure is what you get from your wife's vagina

13. Wife, the quality of foreplay sustains the penis. Find out what activities you do get your husband really hard, is it playing with his balls, pleasing the tip of his penis, licking and rubbing his nipples. Do it. Get him hard to the fullest

14. Husband, be confident as you approach your wife. Believe in yourself. You are capable of pleasing your wife. If you are shy or have a low self-esteem, you will lose your hard on

15. Wife, praise your husband sexually, make his ego feel good. Once a man feels sexually praised by his wife, he sees himself positively and the penis follows suit. The mind controls the penis

16. Husband, avoid panicking and worrying. Yesterday your penis may have lost its erection, today it will be hard like a rock for long. Worrying about what happened yesterday messes up today. No sexual session is ever the same

If it persists, see a sex therapist you two are comfortable with.

DANGERS OF SEXUAL SINS ..

 I AM WRITING THIS LETTER TO THOSE WHO ARE GENUINELY BORN AGAIN, BUT THEY ARE STRUGGLING WITH SOME SECRET SINS... BECAUSE, I WAS ONCE THERE! .... There is something glorious about your future God will show you, you will not need your pastor to keep preaching holiness message to you daily... When you see a girl singing in the choir, yet, from the choir, she keeps sexual appointments, check that girl, she has not seen anything yet about her future... When you see a young boy who dresses to church, to seduce those small girls to bed and his mates will be clapping for him, check that boy, he has a spiritual eye problem... He hasn't seen anything about his future yet... If you do it again and again and again, God will forgive you again and again and again... But, while He is busy forgiving you, angels are busy searching for some one else heaven will use to replace you ... What separates men before God is not how long they can pray or how much scriptures they know... The value God places on people is not determined by the position they occupy in the church... But how much they can bear for His Name sake... Some times, He allows your salary to be delayed, to know if you will start stealing in your office... Sometimes, He allows some lose ladies to start suggesting sex with you, to know if you have grown... But unfortunately, you still fall again .... Yes, He will forgive.... But, you will still remain in the same class in the school of glory... Decision separates men... There is an OIL that comes with separation... The weight of a man is buried in the decisions he makes when no one is watching him ... Many times, God allows you to be lonely so that you can be holy... Forget this public revival messages all of us are preaching... Many are still behind in the school of glory... Not because they chose to, but because they still don't want to pay the price of separation... If it takes a man to be married to be responsible, we will not have many married irresponsible men scattered all over the place who are renting houses for their girlfriends, while their wives are still at home.... When a man is due for marriage, he should get married... But don't tell me to get married because you want me to escape fornication... Marriage is not an escape route into a responsible life... What you cannot control when you are single has the power to control you even when you are married ... No matter how beautiful your wife will be, you will still see other beautiful ladies.... Teach me how to die to flesh sir... Teach me that I can live alone in a house alone and yet, I will not think rubbish thoughts... Joseph was not married before he ran away naked from Portiphar's wife bedroom ... It was not a marital ring on his finger that made him refuse that gesture.... But because he knew the future God has planned for Him will be messed up by a single decision.... God wants to raise a generation of young boys and girls that will love God where no one is seeing them ... God wants to raise a breed that doesn't appear holy only when they see their parents or their pastors... This holiness by dressing is sending people from choir seats to hell fire... They are dying in secret sins, yet, they have none to cry to, because, once they confess, they will be stigmatized... Consequently, we are raising a generation that is speaking in tongues on their way to hell... Sister, singing in choir doesn't confer value on men before God, but decision... Stop attaching your spiritual growth on night vigils where you go and flog enemies ... God is waiting for you when no one is there... If you can succeed there, you will be a commander of the supernatural... The greatest tool against the end time church is the adulteration of the message of grace... They teach you that God will forgive... But they will not teach you that God will not promote you to another class... No matter how you love your child, you will not give him your car key to use when you know he has not perfected his driving... As long as that child is finding it hard to drive perfectly, he will keep trekking to school... There is someone reading this posts now, heaven is saying that you are due for manifestation, but you have not made a decision yet... You are still afraid of hunger.... You don't want to starve.... You are ashamed of what people will say when you stop sleeping with men for money to pay bills... They have even told you that there is no young person like you that doesn't have sexual partners... That human beings were wired by God to fall and rise again... Several times, you have made moves to delete all those phone numbers that connect you to your vomits... But you have been afraid of the days of loneliness... You don't want to miss those cuddles... You don't know if you can ever look into his eyes and tell him: "No more sex"... Even if he accepts, you are afraid that you might never cope... Sister, don't let weekend orgasms rob you of eternal value... Your enemy is no more that witch in the village.... But any man that is making you comfortable in a place of rebellion with God ... Don't be in church singing in the choir and God will go to the nearest hotel and catch a prostitute, wash her, clean her and fill her with His power... I know you have been trying to make amends ... You have answered altar calls several times, yet, you still fall back, even more deeper ... Some of us were there not too long ago... Singing in choir, leading in powerful prayer sections, yet, battling with addictions... Worse of all we were afraid to tell anyone... Because, people around would never have understood how much we were trying to be better ... We bought different anointing oil, from different men of God, yet, we were not free... We even afflicted ourselves with fastings... Yet, nothing changed ... Until we encountered the Word of God..... When Jesus said that " We are made clean by the Words that I speak unto you..." We began to read and study the Bible... Like Job, we began to esteem God's Word above our necessary food... Gradually, addictions began to lose its grip... God began to change our appetites... Until today, the darkness is past, the true Light now shineth ... Brother, I want to recommend you to the Word of God.... The Word of God will settle that lust issue... Don't go and rush into marriage if you are not ready, because you want to avoid temptation... The spirit of lust does not respect wedding ring... Especially now that our sisters who are still in Babylon even prefer having it with married men ... There are still single guys who are serving God in spirit and in truth... 5 chapters of the bible every day and 1 hour prayers or more... You will see that your mind will stop going to those thoughts ... Jesus did not say it is easy... But He said that with God all things are possible ... Your heart is beating faster now as you are reading this... You are wondering if you will ever get free from the things you are struggling with... Friend, that God that did it for us, He will show up on your case... Receive grace to feast on the Word from now.... In Jesus Name...please teach the young ones in your church and God bless you. There is no obligation to share. No whips or curses if you don't share. But we both know that when you share this, it goes a long way to help someone. So I'm asking you to help someone . .. Thank you for reading God bless you