DON’T MARRY THE OFFICE, MARRY THE MAN.

It’s important I briefly address a particular issue this morning. I won’t take too much of your time.

But I often see too many cases all over social media whereby women will bring terrible marital cases and they tell us she married him cos he is a Pastor, I’ve handled several of such cases personally too.

You see dear Sis. Marriages don’t succeed because it’s a minister’s home. Don't marry a guy because he's a pastor, marry the man not his office. It takes more than annointing and scripture quoting to make a good husband, it is character and ability to follow God's word that makes a good husband.

Never mix success in ministry with success in marriage. The fact that a man understands the principles of ministry and succeeding in ministry, doesn’t mean he automatically understands the principles of marriage and will succeed in marriage. Ministry and Marriage are two different institutions, the prerequisites and qualifications for admittance and success are totally different.

A man doesn't have to be a pastor to make a good husband, he only needs to be a good son of God. So ladies out there, I need you to please stop telling me you want to marry him because he's a pastor. We know them by their fruits not by their offices or positions in church. Believe me, my marriage is not succeeding because I’m a minister, it’s succeeding because I choose to follow God’s principles on marriage. And I’ve been following them before marrying.

Same goes for guys too, but it’s more common with ladies, that’s why I’m facing them more.

Have a blessed day ahead.

THE IDEAL LOVE....

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1 ----- Spending Time looking for the Perfect Person will cause you to miss the imperfect Person who can make you Perfectly Happy.

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2 ------ If argument can Break up the relationship easily then staying Together might not be wise. The foundation isn't Strong enough.

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3 ----- Sex can bring Pleasure but it can never bring Love. Sex is a Product of Love, Love isn't a product of Sex.

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4 ----- A Man that has money and spends it on you means nothing. A Man that has no time but makes time to spend with you means everything.

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5 ---- Sometimes When you want someone, you keep making reasons to make it seem like the persons like you too. That's how you get hurt. # experience

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6 ------ It's not about who you spend the most time with, it's about who you have the best memories with. If you're lucky, that's the same Person. # BBS

THE NEVERS....IN LIFE AND LOVE.

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1----Never settle for being a character in someone else's story, when you're meant to be author of ur own.

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2Never change who u are just bcoz u are afraid of losin them. If they really love u, ur imperfections won't matter.

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3---- Never take People for Granted, No matter how much they Love you. People get Tired.

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4----- Never make a Decision when you are Angry. It's likely to be Wrong Decision.

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5--- Never Judge a Book by its Cover, bcoz a Plain cover may hide a Beautiful Story.

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6----- Never waste your Feelings on People who don't Value Them.

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7--- Never lie to the Person you Love, 1..It's not worth it & 2..They don't deserve it.

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8---- Never say "That won't happen to Me". Life has a Funny way of Proving us Wrong.

A REASON TO CHEAT??

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1 --- If someone is taken, Respect their Relationship. If you are takem, Respect yours. Don't Cheat or be a reason someone Cheat.

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2 --- You have to Forgive and Forget. Forgive how stupid you were...and Forget them!

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3 --- Being Faithful is not Hard, if they truly Love you.

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4 --- Lying doesn't make the Truth go away, it just Postpone it.

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5 --- Some People will still Cheat no matter how good it is in the Relationship. Some will never cheat even when they have a reason to.

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6 --- Social Networks destroy Relationships that are without Trust and full of insecurities.

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7 -- The RelationSHIP sink when they have too many Passengers

SOME SITUATIONS ABOUT MARRIAGE TO BE CAREFUL OF!!!

In marriage there are days you wish you had remained single. There are moments you look at your spouse and wonder “what was I thinking when I married her/him?” There are times you wish you had married someone different. There are times when you feel that divorce is the only option. There are instances you feel betrayed beyond recovery. There are times you feel that your love is being taken for granted.

You are not alone. The truth is that every marriage has its fair share of difficult moments. Every marriage goes through rough times. Every husband & every wife experiences perplexing moments. Remember it's the rough surfaces that sharpen the best. Rough times are meant to build your marriage; not break it.

The beauty of marriage is in realizing that difficult seasons are temporary moments. Straight roads don’t make experienced drivers. Keep on, moving on!

SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

By Rev Amos.

WHAT WOMEN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MEN:

1. Men don't read minds. If you want him to know you and what's on your mind, tell him

2. A man loves it when his woman brags about him

3. A man hates it when things he shares with his woman are told to her girlfriends as juicy gossip

4. The number one thing a man finds sexy is her heart, the man serious about love might look at a woman with a gorgeous body but he only chases after and keeps the one with a good heart

5. Men don't think about sex all the time. It means alot to him to have a woman he can talk to deep and intelligent stuff. His need for sexual stimulation is high and scattered, but his need for mental stimulation is constant

6. The easiest way to keep him from spending too much time with his friends at the expense of you, is to make sure being with you is more fun, more intelligently stimulating, more stress-free than being with his friends

7. Every good man loves his woman more than his friends, but if he spends more time with his friends it's to escape the stress he gets when with her

8. The more you nag, the more he will avoid you

9. Men want to express their feelings, but will only do so when they feel safe. How much he lets you be there for him depends on how much he thinks you can handle his issues

10. Don't fight his favourite past time, embrace it. If he loves football, watch matches with him or buy him a jersey. If he loves to swim, swim with him or just check him out as you chill by the pool. If he loves to dance, dance with him even if you are not a pro. The more you do things with him, the more he will value your company, the more he will in return learn to like or accommodate what you like

11. No matter what happens in your marriage, make sure your sex-life doesn't suffer. Don't ever use sex as a weapon to attack him or punish him

12. If he truly loves you, he will still find you sexy whether you gain or lose weight. The thing is always know how to dress and look sexy no matter your size; men can pick up a woman's confidence

13. When you give birth, don't focus too much on being a great mother that you forget to remain a great wife

14. Men also love to be listened to. Be his confidant. Find out how he is, how his day has been. He has feelings too. Let it not always be about you

15. Don't jump into conclusions quickly when you hear rumors about him or think he is cheating or fooling around. Confront him gently with love, it will make him respect you more. He should never feel you are quick to leave his team, be rational

16. Know that good men are constantly being bashed by society because of what the bad ones have done and are doing. Look at him as an individual, celebrate him

17. The more you appreciate his efforts, the more he will do for you

18. Don't let your hurry to get married put him off. Don't rush love

19. A man and a woman may not grow ready at the same pace. Don't force a marriage proposal out of him, if he loves you and is serious, be sure he is planning the proposal. The more comfortable you make him, the easier you make it for him; the more you rush him, the more he starts to feel used

20. A man will always be publicly proud of the woman he admires, be admirable

21. The number one cause for a man to feel less important and threatened in a woman's life is when he has little money or he can't adequately provide. This is one of most crucial moments when he needs his woman to affirm him that she still loves him and the two will find a way

22. It's not that men are intimidated by women with power and success it's just that they detest the pride of some of these women with power and success. You wouldn't want to be with a proud man so full of himself just because he has lots of money and success; neither do the men want to be with such a woman

23. Never praise another man yet belittle your man. A man will not hesitate to walk away from a woman who sees him as nothing

24. When an issue has been resolved between you and your man, move past it. It is retrogressive to dig up resolved fights to prove how right you are and how wrong he is

25. Patience with a man will take you far. Many women miss out on the growth with a man because they want perfect right now

26. Submitting to a man doesn't mean you are his slave, it just means giving him the authority to build with you, to nourish you, to look out for you and be concerned about your well being