Developing right perspective on love

 It took me a lot of broken roads, heartaches and sleepless nights to develop the right perspective on love.

Sure, we always think of love in the passionate sense of romance and soulmates..

But it’s so much more than that.

I’d always wanted so much to be loved by another that I would be wrecked when it didn’t work out.

I’d endure sleepless nights, countless tears and I’d always ask what was wrong with me..

But my friends were always there for me, helping me pick up the pieces of my broken heart, without hesitation.

I started to understand that love is everywhere, in all its splendor..and I just had to stop focusing on the selfish love I wanted and see the beauty of real love that was so abundant in my life.

I realized that when you put love unselfishly into the universe, it always comes back to you..

It may not be in the form I always wanted, but love was always around me, trying to remind me that I was loved more than I knew.

All the times that it didn’t work out?

I’ve learned to stop regretting those and calling them mistakes..because they were necessary for me to learn.

Those were the hard lessons I couldn’t understand any other way other than to go through them.

From each failure, I started growing, evolving and becoming better.

There’s a reason for everything and everyone if you just start trying to understand why it didn’t work instead of thinking “what’s wrong with me?”

There was never anything “wrong” with me, I was just wrong for them..

And thankfully so.

I’ve been lied to, disrespected, and all the many other gross things that happen in relationships.

Do I regret them?

No, I’m a stronger and better person for each of the bad choices and failed relationships.

And without fail, the love I put out there- in any sense to anyone- always came back to me tenfold.

Love from my close friends, sweet love from a nephew or niece, maybe even the kindness of a stranger..

I started to see that love was all around me and always came back to me, despite how I wanted to wallow in the misery of failed romance.

Sure, the failed love stories hurt and I hate the feeling of loss..but I had to go through the fire to become the person I was always meant to be.

I still make mistakes and choose the wrong people to let in sometimes, but I’ll still keep loving hard when there’s love to be had..

And I will keep growing, keep learning and I will always keep loving..

It’s just who I am.

And I know now, that no matter what, love is always around me and in my heart..

I’ll take that every day, in any way.

There’s nothing better in this world to love and be loved..

In any form.

It’s up to me to recognize and appreciate all the beautiful love around me,

each and every day.

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Two choices in love

 At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away. There is no in between. There is no bartering, bargaining, expecting and falling short in love. There is just choosing to be there or to not. Anything in between is a tired, self-interested excuse for love. ~Heidi Priebe

My past

And as she walks, they're with her

The people from her past

Everyone she's loved and lost

Before she learned love never lasts

And she cherishes the memories

They're all that she has left

She knows no one will save her

So she tries to save herself

But she's drowning in her sadness

She's dying in her grief

And nobody can see it

Because everybody leaves

She lets no one in her life, now

She knows they're better off

Far away from all her pain

And everything she's lost.

~Mandy Kocsis2020~

FROM THE GUY'S PERSPECTIVE

 FROM THE GUY'S PERSPECTIVE

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1----- People come into our Lives for 2 Reasons: To Educate or To Complicate. Each Reason is important to the all round Human Learning.

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2------ A Guy needs a Woman that will believe in His Dream and Help Him achieve it. Not a Woman that wants to Please herself all the time.

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3---- Men love their Mothers bcoz subconsciously, we know She is the only Woman that will ever Love us unconditionally and want nothing in return.

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4----- It's crazy what defines a "Real Man" these days is how much Money he has and willing to spend on a Female.

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5------- A Beautiful Woman is easy to Find. Easy to Get, Easy to Wifey. But you need more than Beauty to build a HOME.

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6------ Pain Changes People, but also makes them Stronger.

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7---- You will likely end up disappointed if you think People will care for you the way you care for Them. Not everybody has your Heart.

TEACH OUR BOYS YOUNG;TEACH 'EM NOW.🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

TEACH OUR BOYS YOUNG;

TEACH 'EM NOW.

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If you are a father in this group. Be aware that we are commanded by God Almighty to teach our children how to become responsible fathers and mothers. God will hold us accountable for the attitude of the children we ought to direct properly to  serve God and humanity.

      Therefore we must stand firm on the principles of discipline and virtuous conducts whatever happens. Not minding the fierce campaign of the iniquitous. WE MUST DEMONSTRATE THE EXAMPLES TO THEM. 

     We must teach the boys to become responsible men and husbands of impeccable characters. Men who will marry in an appropriate legitimate manner and who will love their wives and children, provide for the physical, sociological, physiological, psychological and spiritual needs of their wives and children. We must raise men who will be faithful to their chosen wives even in the face of aggressive seduction by irresponsible females. Our boys must be taught from infancy to imbibe self-control and personal integrity no matter the influences of the devil's "modern world." 

     Our boys need strict orientation in order to be able to escape from the numerous immoral females prowling around looking for males to destroy while pretending to be virtuous and even holier.

     For men to sustain the leadership role of husbands and fathers, there is the need, too, to protect our boys from being exposed  to cheap sexual offers from their female counterparts before marriage.

WE HAVE TO TEACH THEM TO BE IN CONTROL OTHERWISE WE HAVE FAILED OUR GOD.

Life may break you

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”

Louise Erdrich

Catrin Welz Stein