Tuesday 26 September 2023

Developing right perspective on love

 It took me a lot of broken roads, heartaches and sleepless nights to develop the right perspective on love.

Sure, we always think of love in the passionate sense of romance and soulmates..
But it’s so much more than that.
I’d always wanted so much to be loved by another that I would be wrecked when it didn’t work out.
I’d endure sleepless nights, countless tears and I’d always ask what was wrong with me..
But my friends were always there for me, helping me pick up the pieces of my broken heart, without hesitation.
I started to understand that love is everywhere, in all its splendor..and I just had to stop focusing on the selfish love I wanted and see the beauty of real love that was so abundant in my life.
I realized that when you put love unselfishly into the universe, it always comes back to you..
It may not be in the form I always wanted, but love was always around me, trying to remind me that I was loved more than I knew.
All the times that it didn’t work out?
I’ve learned to stop regretting those and calling them mistakes..because they were necessary for me to learn.
Those were the hard lessons I couldn’t understand any other way other than to go through them.
From each failure, I started growing, evolving and becoming better.
There’s a reason for everything and everyone if you just start trying to understand why it didn’t work instead of thinking “what’s wrong with me?”
There was never anything “wrong” with me, I was just wrong for them..
And thankfully so.
I’ve been lied to, disrespected, and all the many other gross things that happen in relationships.
Do I regret them?
No, I’m a stronger and better person for each of the bad choices and failed relationships.
And without fail, the love I put out there- in any sense to anyone- always came back to me tenfold.
Love from my close friends, sweet love from a nephew or niece, maybe even the kindness of a stranger..
I started to see that love was all around me and always came back to me, despite how I wanted to wallow in the misery of failed romance.
Sure, the failed love stories hurt and I hate the feeling of loss..but I had to go through the fire to become the person I was always meant to be.
I still make mistakes and choose the wrong people to let in sometimes, but I’ll still keep loving hard when there’s love to be had..
And I will keep growing, keep learning and I will always keep loving..
It’s just who I am.
And I know now, that no matter what, love is always around me and in my heart..
I’ll take that every day, in any way.
There’s nothing better in this world to love and be loved..
In any form.
It’s up to me to recognize and appreciate all the beautiful love around me,
each and every day.
|ravenwolf
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