I am a decisive element

 I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming. ~Haim G. Ginott

You cannot knock out a woman off a pedestral she built herself

 All the guys come around thinking that they have to put me on a pedestal..

Wine and dine me, impress me with fancy dinners and show me the grandest of times.

They don’t get it at all.

They can’t put me on a pedestal and they can’t buy me the world…

I don’t need it and I don’t want it.

I’ve already done all that myself.

I’ve seen all the games and done the fancy adventure with all the gusto, glitz and glamor one could ever want..

But that’s not what fills my soul and sparks my heart.

Love isn’t about what you can buy me, show me or impress me with..

Those things have never mattered to me.

Show me your heart.

Impress me with your depth.

Buy me a one way ticket to forever.

You can’t put me on a pedestal because I built my own..

So if you’re going to say that I’m a stuck up snob and that I’m high maintenance…

Guess again.

Yes, I have standards.

Yes, I don’t settle for less than I deserve.

And I’ll damned sure never tolerate disrespect, dishonesty or disingenuous behavior.

So you wanna win my heart?

Stop worrying about all the things that all the others made you think were important..

And just be real, passionate and deep.

Talk to me, not at me.

Stop trying to dazzle me or buy my affection and just show me who you really are.

Cry, laugh and walk with me.

Show me the depths of your soul and the fire in your heart.

Cause I promise you one thing:

I’ve worked too hard to get where I am and built this pedestal just how I want it..

And I’m not coming down for just anyone.

Earn it.

You’ll be glad you did.

Some days I'm getting better

And some days I'm just not

Every day's a colander

Straining everything I've got

The memories just keep coming

And some days I don't care

But some days I feel every one

Like ghosts no longer there

I could write each one down

Make poems that would last

But there's no longer any point

Why put myself through that?

I can feel the tears inside my soul

But I never let them fall

It doesn't matter anymore

And it never did, at all

So perhaps I'm getting better

Maybe I'm even healed

Or am I the champ of hide and seek

From everything I feel?

"When I say goodbye,

 "When I say goodbye,

it is never for forever,

it simply means that I farewell you with love

until in another time and space

I meet you once again.

For those we love

We can never truly lose

Only temporarily depart from,

And in the meantime,

you may hold me in your heart

Knowing that in every thought loving thought you think of me

and every loving action you take in memory of me

you remain fully connected to me,

for true love transcends all space and time."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Feeling completely alone

 "If you ever find yourself feeling completely alone in the world and afraid, my child, look up at the stars. Know that throughout history, many human beings once gazed up at the same night sky, stood where you now stand, thought what you now think, and felt what you now feel, wrestling with the same fears, doubts, and insecurities, but just as they made it through and kept on going, so too will you. Let the many stars in the night sky serve as a reminder of the millions of souls that found their way through the darkness and now may illuminate the path forward for you."

Words by Tahlia Hunter

How did you know that you were on the right path?"

 "How did you know that you were on the right path?"

"When my dreams were greater than my doubts,

My joys were greater than my sorrows,

My aspirations were greater than my fears,

My determination was greater than my obstacles,

My hope was greater than my despair,

My trust was greater than my doubt,

My purpose was greater than my uncertainty,

And my faith was greater than my challenges."

Words by Tahlia Hunter