Friday 29 March 2024

*WHAT IS TRUE LOVE?*



Years ago,  when I lived in *Lugbe,* a suburb in *Abuja,* a number of girls lived in a building adjacent to me. They strictly lived to be picked up by men.  

The girls will *go out at night* and return the following *morning.*  I, and other neighbors were *angry.*  The girls were very noisy.  They never cared who their noise disturbed.

One day, the landlord had enough. *He evicted all of them.* Their properties were thrown out. All the girls found somewhere else to relocate, *except one.* She had no place to go.

She kept her belongings in our building corridor, and on nights that she was home, she'd sleep there... *and that was on most nights.*

The tenants in the building, *including my husband and I,* met to plan how to put her and her belongings out. *Surprisingly,* one tenant, *a woman* was against the idea. She asked, "What would you all do if this girl was *your daughter, sister or relative?"* She told us that this girl and her friends have, no doubt made *wrong choices.* But she reminded us that we too, *at some point* in our past also made wrong  choices. But God still held us close to His heart and saved us.  She cautioned us as Christians to *consider what Christ Jesus would do.*

Everyone was quiet. But none suggested any way to help the *now homeless* lady. 

Later on, the same woman who defended her at the tenant meeting had a talk with her husband. They agreed to house the girl *in their moderate apartment.*

They invited the girl into their home and told her she could stay with them. The homeless girl was shocked when the woman said to her, *"We know what you do for a living.* And you are free to go out at night and come back the next day if that's what you choose to do. Feel free to eat our food. Use the other bedroom. It is yours *as long as you live here.* Live like one of us. We did not bring you in to judge you. _But we will continue to pray for you._ Hopefully, the spirit will talk to you..., *at your own time."* 

_The girl was dumbfounded._ And she cried. At nights, *she stayed home.* Going out to look for men gradually became a thing of her past. 

She would join the family for morning devotion *and go to church with them on Sundays.*

One day, the woman, *now her landlord of sorts* told her of her husband's decision to pay for her to register in a university. The lady gained admission into a university. *She graduated on top of her class* and got a good job.  But even before she graduated, with a university grant for outstanding students, *she had started a business* of her own. 

Today, when you enter her office, she has this woman and her husband's photo on the wall behind her desk. The photo has the inscription, _*" 'My parents,' the only Christians I know''.*_

*Folks, what is true love?*
Many Christians cannot answer to this question.
*We resist the true essence of love but gossip around the house.*

The truth is, "Christ Jesus died for us.'' Why would a righteous man die for sinners?
That's what love is.

What can you do for someone even against your intrinsic instincts?

Every one we have chosen not to forgive, deserve forgiveness. That is the sacrifice that a Christian, who shows true love makes. 

*Love is not the practice of loving beautiful people. True love is shown by being willing to truly love those that many look down upon.*

_*How many less fortunate people have you taken home from church after service to feed?*_
_*Why do we feed the rich, and don't feed the needy?*_

Why do we scorn people who look like prostitutes? We look at children who look unkept and we shake our heads in disapproval, warning our children to avoid such people.

But what kind of people do we think that heaven is waiting up there for? 

Let's not lose the purpose of life because of what we have almost achieved.

Can someone say of you, *"I met a true believer in you?"* 
Think about it.

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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR SPOUSE HAS A HIGH OR LOW LIBIDO......


Several factors causes libido to peak or take a downward plunge.

 1.  As your wife enters forty and is more confident about her body especially what easily turns her on and excites her, her s*x desire peaks while yours plunges at forty.

 2.  The stress of raising children can k*ill a woman (in her thirties)'s libido while her husband's desire peaks because pregnancy, breast feeding and child raising makes her body more beautiful and desirable leaving her husband in regular s*xual arousal.

 3.  As the man reaches forty and financial responsibility increases, the demand to work more to generate income may deflate a man's libido while the wife peaks because his ability to provide turns her on.

 4.  Huge age gap can cause a sharp disparity in libido. I.e. A forty years old woman in marriage with a sixty years old man.

 5.  Highly outgoing men/spouses (e.g) most times have a higher s*x drive than their quiet, introverts partners.

Etc.

HOW DO YOU HANDLE THIS?

 1. Talk about your desire and how often or regularly you want to have s*x.
 
 2.  Have a s*x timetable so the one with low libido can come up while the one with a high libido can control themselves till the next date for s*x. S*X timetable helps you plan and think ahead for s*x.
 
 3. Assist your man financially to reduce financial stress which may deflate his erection.
 
 4. Assist your wife with chores to reduce stress which may make her get too tired to have s*x
 
 5. If you have a low libido and use time table, fantasize about your partner all day, wear seductive clothes and prepare your mind and body for the fun ahead.

 6.  If you are too tired to have s*x to avoid being drained after ejaculation, you can bring her to orgasm through heavy foreplay targeting her most erogenous zones! Once you put out the s*xual fire, both of you will have rest and sound sleep!πŸ˜‚

Here is my little s*x tip for today.

Be blessed!.

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πŸ’‘FACTS ABOUT WOMEN.



1- When a woman is angry, over half of what she says-she doesn't mean...

2- The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves.

3- A woman is not like 'detol advert', if you don't take care of her... Others will.

4- It takes time for a woman to trust a man, its hard to change when she does, but if you mess-up, you might just forget it.

5- A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.

6- Your wedding certificate with her is not a "driving licence", its just a "Learners permit"

7- She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach.

8- A woman hardly forget things, she remembers hurts more, avoid making her hurt.

9- A woman can be highly secretive... Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and friends to cry.

10- All women Love to be begged. men often miss out on this........

11- All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.

12-if she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as far as it makes you happy,so never force her to love you.

13-if a woman truely loves you,even to ask money from you she will be shy and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend"""unnecessarily!...that's what makes them special....☺

If you find a woman who loves and fears God, cherish her for life and never let her go.. She will do you good for the rest of your life. 

SO WOMEN ARE VERY SPECIAL....🀩😍🀩

GOD BLESS OUR WOMEN..

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10 THINGS EVERY MARRIED MAN SHOULD KNOW HOW TO DO



by Pastor Bisi Adewale

There are many things a Man should know how to do before he gets married, let me mention some of them here:

1) NURTURE A PREGNANT WOMAN HOW TO DO BEFORE MARRIAGE
You expect your wife to become pregnant after the wedding? But how much do you know about pregnancy and pregnant women apart from the fact that their tummy is usually big and protruding. Every man going to the altar should learn how to care for pregnant women and have better Knowledge of pregnancy.

2) KNOW HOW TO COOK
A good Man should know how to cook basic food at home. Don't always wait for your wife if you are at home before her, learn to do something in the kitchen.

3) DO A LULLABY:
Playing with a newborn baby will require you singing and dancing for the newborn, have you learnt this?

4) LOVE A WOMAN THE WAY SHE WANTS TO BE LOVED: Marriage needs more than romantic love, it needs authentic love. You need to learn how to be an authentic lover and love your wife the way she wants to be loved.

5) KNOW HOW TO FORGIVE:
Your wife will hurt you; you will hurt her too no matter how much you love each other. So, learn the attitude of forgiveness before you go into marriage.

6) OPERATE HOME MACHINES:
A Good Man should know how to operate “home machines” like microwave oven, dishwashers, gas cookers, stoves, electric cookers, Laundry machines etc.

7) FIX HOME APPLIANCES: Every man should know how to fix simple home appliances such as toilet problems, electrical sockets, electronic issues, light bulbs, make generator work, change generator plug, solve gas cooker issues etc.

8. KNOW HOW TO DRIVE:
Every man should learn how to drive, not having a car is not an excuse, do not wait until you have your own car, learn how to drive both manual and automatic transmission cars. It will help your family greatly; make you look more responsible, help you avoid accidents when you buy yours.

Encourage your wife to learn how to drive too and this can be very useful to your family in the event of an emergency.

9) PERFORM BASIC FIRST AID:
Performing basic first aid can save life and you don’t have to be a doctor, nurse or health care providers to know how to do this for yourself and people around you.

10) CARRY A BABY:
Every man dream to become a father one day, if you are one of them, then you should learn how to carry a baby. You can help your spouse with the baby. It is not just a woman’s business, the Child is yours.

12 WRONG THINGS GIRLS CHECK BEFORE MARRYING A GUY!!!



Many Ladies are known to base their marital decisions on things that will not endure a life-time. These have led many of them into wrong marriages and life time bondage. We need to identify and deal with them:

1) HEIGHT: Every girl's dream is to marry a tall, dark guy with a baritone voice, I wonder where they got the idea that tall guys are better in marriage. Hey Girls, tall guy can give you tall problems; it is not the height that matters but the depth of the guy in God and in character.

 
2) MUSCLE: Muscular and heavy looking guys are also lucky, they are seen to be good suitors, and girls do say they look manly. they look like real men. Sorry Girls, muscles do not make a real man, character and ability to shoulder responsibility do. A guy with muscle without character will use his muscles to deal with you and batter your beautiful face.

3) A WELL SET HOUSE: A guy with a well set house is the dream of any girl any day. Many girls will throw caution into the wind to grab a man who have a house with King size; beautiful Italian Settee, micro wave oven, well stock freezer, home theater, refrigerator, gas cooker, Plasma TV,6 by 6 bed, well stuff Kitchen, Dining table, washing machine, dish washers, split unit air conditioner etc is a dream catch for girls any day. Sorry girl, a well set house is good but it may be a well set trouble if the guy is not a man of character, manners or discretion, he will make the house look like a prison yard for you.

4) FAT BANK ACCOUNT: Girls are fond of trying to know how rich a guy is by checking the guy's phones for bank alerts. They joyfully decide to marry a guy when they discover the guy is very rich with fat Bank balance. What a mistake? They don't want to know where the money is coming from; they dont even want to know what the guy does for a living. What concerns them is the money that is available to be spent. Many girls ended up finding themselves entangled for life in this kind of situation, don't base your marriage on GREED, it won't turn to GREEN.

5) PLACE OF WORK: Some of our girls are in the habit of making marital decision base on the place a guy works. You dare not talk of marriage to them if you are a Teacher or civil servant. You dare not propose them if you are working with a small firm, or one man business. What an error? Girls note that, that a guy works in ACCESS BANK does not mean he will give you ACCESS to his heart or peace of mind. A guy that works in SHELL may put your life in a SHELL forever, you may not be the FIRST in the  life of a guy that works in FIRST BANK, a guy that work in GUARANTEE TRUST BANK may not GUARANTEE your future. He may be working in NESTLE but not SETTLE you at home, So it is not about where he is working but about who is working in Him, God or devil.

6) ROMANCE: A young lady said, The guy is romantic, hot and sexy, i will marry him. Stop girl!!!!, Romance is not enough for marriage. The truth is, most so called romantic guys don't remain like that after wedding. Marry a guy base on qualities that will endure, romance dont last forever, go and ask married women.

7) TYPE OF CAR: A whole lots of girls will be enticed by a guy driving a big and expensive car. Some will not even go out with a guy that does not have a car. If you want to mess yourself as a guy, ride on a bike to go and propose to a lady, you will hear the story of your life. Ladies, a guy that has a CAR may not CARE for you, life is not about CAR, it is about marrying somebody that will CARE for your future.

8. US or UK passports
Most girls will readily marry anybody with US or UK passports, Lots of girls have destroyed their lives in the process of looking for somebody with a foreign passport to marry.

9) HIS PERFORMANCE IN THE CHOIR: It is funny that some ladies are ready to get marry to some guys because they are very good in the choir, they can play Sax, keyboard, drums, trumpet and sing tenor and Bass very well, I wonder whether they want to start a choir band in their houses.

10) RICH PARENT: Children of Rich parents are easy target for many young girls not because they are in love with them, but they know they will have access to money and connection. Many of these guys who come from rich background are pompous, cocky, proud and will be terrible and irresponsible husbands and fathers tomorrow but girls will not care about that, Most of these girls do live to regret their wrong decision.

Don't marry anybody just because the parents are rich, marry the person for who he is and the love you share together.

11) FELLOWSHIP LEADERSHIP: Many Christian ladies are ready to die to marry brothers that are in the executives of their Campus fellowship. They fight tooth and nail to get the attention of these brothers, some even go to the extent of offering their bodies. Many of these ladies do think that the best of all men are in the executives of the Campus fellowship, they have forgotten that A PRESIDENT OF THE FELLOWSHIP MAY NOT BE A RESIDENT OF HEAVEN.

12) BEDROOM EXPERTISE: One of the most stupid way to make a decision of whom to marry as a lady is to base it on how good, s*xy or terrific a Guy is, in the bedroom. If you base your marital decision on a man's sexual prowess; you may end up with a play boy instead of a Husband. You may end up getting marry to a s*x hunter, instead of a real lover. You will end up getting married to a universal sperm donor who will sleep with your sister, house maid, friends, girls in the neighborhood, his secretary and anything in skirt that cross his paths. DON'T GO FOR S*X GO FOR SENSE.

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Wednesday 27 March 2024

11 MOMENTS TO TOUCH YOUR WIFE'S BUTT


A woman's butt is special. When the wrong man touches it, it is sexual harassment, when her man touches it she feels good.  Here are moments when to touch your woman's butt

1. WHEN SHE DRESSES UP
When your wife wears a dress, tights, a pair of shorts or a leso and asks you how she looks. Look at her from top to bottom with focussed eyes and hold her butt and curves and say "You look beautiful and sexy". She will feel desired

2. WHEN SLEEPING
When in bed as you prepare to sleep, whether she is facing you or giving you her back, rub your hands on her butt as you tell her how beautiful she is. This will make her feel close to you and give her a good night sleep 

3. WHEN SHE IS COOKING
In the kitchen, as she stands cooking, grab and rub her butt as you kiss her neck and cheek telling her warm words. It makes her feel connected

4. WHEN MASSAGING HER
Offer to massage her, ask her to lie down naked as your wife and oil her body then massage her,  play close attention to her butt. Whether her butt is big or small, with stretch marks or without, speak wonderfully of it as you play with it and make it jiggle. This makes her feel comfortably naked with you

5. WHEN SHE IS DOING CHORES
Chores don't have to be boring. When she is doing chores, creep from behind and hold her butt as she bends, mops or cleans and appreciate what she is doing with you saying, "The house looks really clean". Help out with the chores too. She will look at you and smile, shaking her head as she says "I have such a great husband"

6. WHEN YOU TWO JUST CHILL
When you two are lazing around on the bed or the sofa, as you pillow talk, caress her butt. This makes her feel like you have dedicated quality time just for her and accompanied it with a touch. Women love to be touched. It hurts her to have a husband who rarely touches her

7. WHEN MAKING LOVE 
Whether doggy or she is on top, grab a hold of her butt with passion as you make love. This makes her feel sexy

8. WHEN SHE IS PLEASURING YOU
When she is giving you pleasure as she touches you up, kissing your chest, rubbing her fingers all over you, rub her butt as you tell her how good it feels. This makes her get excited. Any wife loves it when she has a strong sexual effect on her husband 

9. WHEN KISSING
As you kiss, whether a "have a good day" kiss, a long kiss or a just because kiss, hold her on the butt with your masculine hands. This heightens your level of intimacy 

10. WHEN TAKING A SHOWER
Once in a while take showers together. Wash her back and camp on her butt a little bit longer. These are the scenes she remembers and smiles all by herself 

11. WHEN PLAYING WITH HER
Don't be too rigid, sometimes play around with your wife. "Bully" her in a nice way.  Chase after her.  Tickle her. Play around under the blankets as you play around with her butt.  Games like this makes her enjoy growing old with you and making silly memories 

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde