Friday 29 March 2024

15 STUPID THINGS A WIFE CAN DO TO MESS UP HER MARRIAGE…


1) DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO BEAT YOU:
You block the door way, then dare him to beat you up and see what will happen. A Lot of women have done this and end up regretting.

2) DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN:
You will be making a major mistake if you dare your husband to sleep with another woman. You may live to regret it.

3) NEGLECTING YOUR BODY AND LOOKS BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED:
“I am married i can relax, after all who is looking at me.?” He married you Slim, sexy and trendy. Next thing you become obsessed, dirty and shabbily dressed.
It is the mistake of most careless married women.

4) DENYING YOUR HUSBAND SEX REGULARLY:
You are a career woman; You are an overly religious woman… Hmmm! You feel sex in marriage is secondary, you deny your husband your body regularly, so he is sexually starved and intimacy famished. His Secretary, colleagues and girls in church are seducing and begging him to come to them but you have padlocked your Jerusalem and expect him not to lust after others. His mind will drift from you towards them.

5) LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND FOR YOUR FEMALE FRIEND TO CATER FOR:
“My dear friend, please be my eye as I travel for this one week, help cater for my husband and my little kids”. By the time you are back, your dear friend has so really helped you by sleeping with your husband and expecting a new baby as continuation from where you stopped.
If at all she has not eloped with your man, leaving your children all alone.
It is very stupid to commit your husband into the hands of your beautiful and very active friend.

6) LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND IN THE HANDS OF YOUR HOUSE MAID:
Your maid is the one that cooks,cleans the house, cares for the children and your husband. You suddenly become a lazy bone since the arrival of the maid. All you do is shout and place orders. Not bad! But if your husband feels more love and care from the maid, sister that maid won’t struggle to snatch your husband. You are the one graciously giving him to her and those that need him.

7) EMPLOYING A FULLY GROWN, RED BLOODED LADY AS A MAID:
She is fully grown up and well endowed back and front very tantalizing. She dresses skimpily and sexily like an actress, cat walks like a model and that is your own house maid?
What a mistake!

8) EMPLOYING A HOUSE GIRL THAT IS MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU:
Employing a house girl more beautiful than you is a major technical mistake most women make. This means you are using your money to employ a rival for yourself. Don’t be foolish when getting a maid. They act dumb like maids to you for the time being but when your husband starts sleeping with them, you will be shocked they are more agile than you when they start fighting you.

9) USING ANALOG BRAIN TO LIVE WITH A DIGITAL HUSBAND:
Your husband is growing with ideas and all; you contribute nothing than sitting down at home to eat. He is dressing like a guy with jeans and face cap; you are celebrating the fact that you are a married woman to a Yuppy cute man. Your husband is on *Twitter, Facebook, Whatsapp, Skype etc;* the only thing you know about mobile phone is receiving and making calls. Your husband is talking about stock market; you only talk about tomato market. He’s talking about Forex; you are talking about fruit and vegetables only. He will see you so backwards, local and dumb. Upgrade please!

10) FAILING TO COMMIT YOUR FAMILY INTO THE HANDS OF GOD:
A wife won’t do well if she fails to commit her family into the hands of God regularly. Don’t make such mistakes of thinking you are in charge of your husband and marriage and you can handle things. Be prayerful, hand over your family to God daily. May you never labour in vain and another reaps where you have sown!

11) FIGHTING YOUR MOTHER IN-LAW CARELESSLY:
You may fight your Mother in-law dirty and think you have won especially if she’s innocent, you will end up losing. Her son and herself have been friends and lovers for years before you came; may be before you were born. She was the first ‘wife’ of your husband and also the first ‘girlfriend’. Her son cannot divorce her and she is more experienced than you in matrimonial battles, in fact she is a veteran of many conflicts. Yes i know that a wife becomes a priority and number one and some men try to place their mums above their wives . That is stupid and sickening! Apply wisdom and talk to God and your husband about it. But don’t come in with the intention to separate mother and son. Respect a worthy mother in-law. Not all of them are wicked. Not all are witches. You meet a wicked one, apply wisdom and avoid her ways.

12) TELLING YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE:
When you tell your friends about your sex life and how your husband rocks you, you are indirectly telling them to go have a feel of him. They can size you up and know whether your husband is hot or not, whether he is sexually fulfilled or not. They may even know your Husband’s “turn on” and use it against him then grab your husband. Most women have carelessly lost their husbands as they boast to their friends “my husband is too sexually demanding, he is an expert when it comes to sex, he is a horse, he almost kills me in bed, he has a horse size” etc… Your friends will pick information like this and cover things up where you have been failing.

13) REPORTING YOUR HUSBAND TO HIS MUM:
It looks beautiful to report your husband to his Mum, but the end result will hurt you. Most mothers will support their sons any day; children are always right before their Mothers. Seek counsel in the right quarters, never report your husband to his Mum unless his mum is so god fearing, honest and impartial.

14) LETTING CHILDREN TAKE THE PLACE OF YOUR HUSBAND:
Many wives abandon their husbands, denying them of love, care and attention as soon as babies begin to arrive they transfer all affection to their kids. To sleep in bed, they put the Baby in between themselves making the man feel lost and the bond divided. No warm hugs, caress etc.

15) USING SEX WRONGLY:
Sex is supposed to bind you both together, it is supposed to create intimacy and love but in many homes it is the bone of contention. Some women do turn sex to a tool of manipulation;
Some use it for trade by barter. *Some wives will suddenly become commanders at home when their husbands touch them for sex, ordering the man around, “go and off the Fan” “go and lock the gate” “go and check whether our children are sleeping” “How about that money I asked you to give me?” Etc…*
This is just too bad.

Remember: Some wives sleep like log of wood in bed while some even wear Jean, knickers to bed.
Nothing sexy
Nothing erotic
Nothing romantic
Nothing Inviting!
If you continue like this you will hurt your marriage deeply and you may destroy your future also. He will start lusting and chasing sexy daughters of Jezebel out there who may fetish him out of home to themselves
A smart wife builds her home, the stupid ones are careless. I know you will be like.
We are all humans and things push us to do things we never planned. Be wise. God bless us all.

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE


We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

WATCH YOUR TONE
When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

TIMING
Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

WATCH YOUR EYES
Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too 

DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

 DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

SOOTHE  HIM
If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

 BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

 NO INSULTS
Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

THE 28 LAWS OF LOVE:



1. If you want to be hugged; keep foul smells off, take showers, wear nice perfumes or colognes

2. If you want to be trusted; keep secrets shared with you, don't judge

3. If you want to be sexed by your spouse; stay sexy and faithful

4. If you want to be listened to; talk

5. If you want to be talked to; listen

6. If you want to be easily and quickly forgiven; apologize

7. If you want to be thought of; be memorable

8. If you want to be known; open up

9. If you want to be kissed; maintain good dental hygiene, moistured lips.

10. If you want to be fought for; be valuable, be someone worth fighting for

11. If you want your phone to be called; give out your phone number

12. If you want to be taken out for dates; make time, be available

13. If you want a love blessed by God; do it God's way, choose someone Godly

14. If you want freedom; be responsible

15. If you want to be believed; don't tell lies

16. If you want to be admired; be of great character

17. If you want to be chosen and made special; stand out

18. If you want someone to be strong for you; show your weakness

19. If you want to be helped; share your issues and problems

20. If you want to be supported; disclose your dreams and ambitions

21. If you want someone to walk with you; make room for them in your life

22. If you don't want to be lonely; be social, learn to relate

23. If you want a good spouse; have the qualities you desire in a spouse

24. If you want real love; be real, be yourself

25. If you want to grow; be willing to learn and be open to correction

26. If you want to be married to; act like someone ready for marriage and a serious commitment

27. If you want to experience the depth of love; give it your all

28. If you want love; take risks, trust someone with your heart

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THE ART OF SPEAKING TO YOUR MAN


1. Avoid talking tough to him. Don't make him feel you are out to compete with him

2. Don't speak harsh at him and justify you do so because you are angry. In your anger, do not damage

3. Give him room and time to talk. Don't dominate the conversations. Dialogue, not monologue

4. Be consistent. Don't be the woman who speaks great things to him and the same who insults him. Your insults will cancel all the good you have spoken to him in the past

5. Check your tone. You might be saying the right thing but with the wrong tone. Sometimes your message is not well received because of your delivery

6. Don't give silent treatment, it pushes him away 

7. Don't make demands or give instructions as if you are his boss, he will switch off. 

8. Maintain warmth in your conversations, it makes him stay in the talk

9. Talk with him things that stimulate his mind, that makes him learn; it makes him excited to talk to you. Mature talk, not drama

10. Never make a conversation be about praising another man whilst demeaning him; be it your ex, your father, your pastor, a celebrity or friend

©️ Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde

YOUR NA*KEDNESS IS YOUR HUSBAND'S CROWNπŸ’πŸ’ž


 
Never fail to understand that your na*kedness is your husband's crown. Once another man sees your nakedness, that means your husband's crown has been taken off 
 
As a married woman, some men won't stop admiring you even when they fully know you're a married woman. 
When a man starts calling you unnecessarily or say outrageous words to you try and stop him. 

 
As a married woman, be wise not to be carried away, when a lot of men toast you, calls you a beautiful bride, they do all that because of your husband's crown  on your head. Once you take it off or they succeed to take it off, you will come to understand it was all an illusion. 
 
Set boundaries and stop entertaining pet names from another man. 
Stop unnecessary conversation from opposite s*x in your inbox and warn them seriously. 
Stop begging people to give you data/airtime, it is the simplest way you can avoid disrespect from young guys who are looking for people's wife to sleep with.

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15 THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT BELIEVE ABOUT YOUR WIFE:



Hello sir, I want to tell you things you must not believe about your wife. Read it sir πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡.   

1. Don't believe that your wife is a mistake in your life  

2. Don't believe that you can go far in life by neglecting your wife  

3. Don't believe that you can cheat on your wife & go scot-free. 

4. Don't believe that you did your wife a favour by marrying her.  

5. Don't believe that s*x with your wife will destroy your anointing.  

6. Dont believe that s*x with another woman is better than s*x with your wife.  

7. Don't believe that your wife is your slave.  

8. Don't believe that your wife's opinion does not count in your life and your family success.  

9. Don't believe that your wife knows nothing. 
 
10.Don't believe that there is something in the body of another woman that is not in the body of your wife except you are looking for your early grave.  

11. Don't believe your wife has all it takes to raise your children alone.  

13. Don't believe that the best way to correct your wife is to beat her.  

14. Don't believe that your wife is so strong that she does not need your help, attention and affection.   

15. Don't believe that God is not aware of how you are treating your wife.   

True love is a beautiful thing πŸ’•πŸ’žπŸ’“♥️

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