A COUNSEL FROM A FATHER TO A DAUGHTER.

1. No matter how much a man loves you he will never love your indiscipline: Your financial indiscipline, sexual looseness, carelessness etc.

2. No matter how stunning your look is, if your character is ungodly and unwelcoming your suitor will be unwilling to pay your bride price. Character looks good on you than cosmetics.

3. A man always wants you to be a wife before he can take you to his home. Being a wife is more than being a sexual toy but neatness, spirituality, discipline, insight, kindness etc.

4. Always know what you want in a man before saying YES I DO. There is no such thing as "I JUST LOVE YOU I DON'T KNOW WHY"

5. Any man you can compromise for will find it hard to believe you after wedding. If you can offer him your virginity before wedding then you've traded your value. If you can't stand for "NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE" You have sold your trust after wedding.

6. You can't change any man because you're not the Holy Spirit. Why will you ignore all good and spiritual brothers in fellowship, church and your group only to claim you're attracted to a carnal, sensual and whore on the street then you want him to change? You're very sick!

7. You don't look for money in a man but his manliness and the dignity of manhood in him. Be wise! Papa Zion gives you this eye opening keys.

17 THINGS YOUR SPOUSE WANTS TO HEAR YOU SAY IN THE BEDROOM

1. "Please don't leave the bed just yet"

- It feels good when your spouse can't get enough of you

2. "What do you recommend I wear today? This or this?" 

- It feels good when your spouse asks for your opinion

3. "Do me doggie"

- Alot of women and men love changing sexual positions. Whether husband or wife, tell your spouse to make love to you a different style

4. "Kiss me"

- Yes ladies, it excites your husband when you are sexually aggressive

5. "Shall we pray?"

- Blessed are you if you have a spouse that loves to pray

6. "You look so beautiful"

- Husbands, your wife longs to hear you say this especially when naked with you. She never gets tired of you admiring and wanting her

7. "Mmh, I love your penis"

- The penis is the one organ every man is sensitive about. Lady, praise his penis and he will feel so good with you in bed

8. "How are you my love?"

- The bedroom should be the place for intimate conversations

9. "We go another round?"

- How special it is to have a spouse that longs to make love to you again. How sweet it is to cool down then touch, kiss, rub and start another session of love making

10. "Good morning my love"

- There is unspeakable joy waking up to the face of the one you love in a brand new day

11. "Good night honey"

- These little words have a huge impact. Don't just get to bed and turn then sleep. Close the day properly. Even kiss goodnight

12. "That was so good"

- After making love, tell your spouse how much you enjoyed it

13. " Relax my love, I will attend to our baby"

- Husbands, when you have a small baby, your wife will feel good when you offer to attend to the crying baby sometimes. Allow her to rest as you have a daddy-baby moment

14. "Everything will be alright"

- In the bedroom, your spouse will open up to you about his/her fears and concerns. Allay those fears

15. "You will have a great day my love"

- Before your spouse steps out of the bedroom, speak a blessing into each other's day. Words are powerful

16. "I love you"

- In the bedroom is where 'I love you' should be said the most. It is your joint haven and island

17. "That feels so good"

- When your spouse is massaging you, s*xually licking you, su*cking you or rubbing you; let him/her know how good you are feeling. It motivates him/her to do it more

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In the love book called GOOD S*X BAD S*X, I reveal how to get the most out of intimacy and also show what happens when you ab*use, misuse or use s*x wrongly.

20 WAYS TO BEFRIEND YOUR PARTNER:

I decided to write this list because someone asked  " How can I be a friend to my Lover?"

A friend is someone who understands you and adds value to your life.

The popular saying says" Marry your friend or Befriend anyone you marry".

1. Speak to her softly instead of shouting.

2. ‍Always make her smile and crack jokes for her. Stare at her face and Smile, if she asks why smiling. Tell her she's beautiful;  laugh when she cracks jokes or says something funny. Frowning always is not spiritual.

3. Walk a distance together.

4. Hang out together at eateries.

5. Watch movies( wrestling, football, and Christian films) and play games together.

6. Fulfill purpose by going into ministration together.

7. Write love letters to each other.

8. Read books together.

9. Read the Bible together.

10. Pray together.

11. Sing praises and worship together.

12. Shop for her.

13. Speak your dialect.

15. Call her sweet names ( Honey, Gem, Gold, my heartbeat, my sugar...)😂😂😂

16. Coauthor a book.

17. Cook for her.

18.  Seek her advice and follow it as the spirit leads.

19.  Discuss your plans with her.

20.  Keep your money with her. Support him financially.

Above all thy getting, befriend her, and watch things work for you in your relationship. 

Marriage is too long for you to journey with your boss, not a friend.

It's absurd for you to be in a relationship and still have opposite sex Bestie somewhere else.

A relationship thrives when you start with friendship!

Marry your friend!

Befriend your Lover!

Marry your talking mate!

Marry your purpose mate!

Marry your spiritual mate!

Marry your genotype mate! (You should marry someone your genotype is compatible with. AA should marry AS. AA should marry SS)

Marry your academic mate!

Marry your playmate!

#Too_late_for_your_Relationship_to_fail

#Be_friend_your_lover

#Be_his_or_her_closest_friend

Finally, 

Prov 27:17 said "

Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend"

©Oluwaniyi Aderopo Hezekiah

*3 CATEGORIES OF LADIES WHO BEG TO BE LOVED*

1️⃣ LIABILITIES 

These ones know they have NOTHING tangible to offer or contribute to a Man, they know anybody being with them is actually doing them a favor, so they turn love beggars when they see someone that gives them a second look... The only thing they can offer you in a relationship is different 888s£x positions and perform wifey duties for you because according to them, it worked for their friend or someone they know & the person got a husband. They are the "do what works for you" geng. Another name i call them is "Anywhere belle face." 😀

2️⃣ LADIES WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM 

The ones suffering from low Self Esteem Deficiency Syndrome (SEDS)

They are beautiful, have much to offer, they are a blessing, they carry favor, BUT they think and feel otherwise.. They don't know what they truly want or deserve. They think less of themselves,  settle for less or just anything that doesn't even portray love. They will settle for a community pen!s, a woman beater, a manipulator, a liar, etc

They lack understanding of WHO they are, and how lucky a Man actually is to have them.

Most Ladies in this category think this way because of their looks, background, past experiences or financial handicaps. They lack understanding. 

3️⃣ DESPERATE ONES 

This is the oga patapata of them all. 

Desperation messes with a Woman's mind. 

+When desperate, a lady will keep silent in the face of physical/emotional abuse, endure insults and assaûlts from a Man even when she is dying, because she wants to be in a relationship/ get married. She is scared of starting all over again.

A desperate lady will not only BEG, she will also COMPROMISE.

If desperation hits a Christian lady for instance, she will drop all her godly convictions and do ANYTHING at the request of a Man (even Men who don't deserve her).

A desperate Lady will ignore obvious red flags. 

A desperate Lady will not consider her personal dignity and pride..

Then we have the REAL WOMAN:

 ❤ A Real Woman knows her true Worth, irrespective of her height, body, size, shape, occupation, past experiences, background or current financial situation. 

A Real Woman has made herself an0 asset, she knows what she can bring to the table and, she's not scared to leave when disrespect is being served.

A Real Woman wants a Man to love her, but she will not beg a Man to love her. She will never compromise her standard. She knows what she deserve & will not go below that standard. You can't entice her with money and material things.  She will never cohabit with a man that's not yet her husband.

A Real woman doesn't use her body to keep a Man.

A Real Woman attracts a Real Man.

Dear Sisters, Be a Real Woman.

Avoid "Please say Yes" situation.

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SHARE TO ALERT THE YOUTH

*📍TAKE YOUR TIME TO READ‼️* 

Girls at the age of 18-24 years always attract serious men who are fully ready to marry them, but at this age most of our girls/sisters never wish to hear anything about marriage.

1. I'm too young for that.

2. Who cares about marriage.

3. I'm focused on my books.

4. I want to gather some money first.

5. Marriage is full of problems.

These are some of few statements ladies talk of at their youth age.

But these girls will be having serious & series of sex relationship with small boys of their age, because at that age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them, but they will prefer to choose those boys rather than the real men who want to marry them. They are still young to marry right, but they are not young to have sex with boys.

No problem, God is watching you.

At age of 25-27, parents will start asking them the following questions;

1. How far?

2. Don't you have any one yet ?

3. Are you not planning to get married ?

4. Are you seeing that all your mates are getting married ?

5. Don't you know you are getting old?

But mind you, parents only see the outside of their daughters, not knowing there is nothing left inside.

With all these questions by her own parents, she will now be thinking and asking herself things like: My mates are marrying,

1. Does it mean am old enough to marry?

2. Hmmm, how should I go about it?

3. My boyfriends are not serious about asking my hand in marriage.

4. They are not even ready to marry yet.

5. Well, God knows the best. I believe in God.

See oooh...!, she has started putting her blame on God. "God's time is the best" OK, I agree for argument sake.

At age 27-30 they now start looking for men to marry not boys to have sex and play with again.

They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage, but unfortunately, at this age of 27-30 not all men will be asking their hand in marriage.

You will see them forcing themselves to marry a man who don't want to marry them. Please we beg you, leave us alone.

No single man at age 27-30 will like to marry a lady of 30-35. Now you hear the sisters say age does not matter.

My sister, it matters a lot.

Imagine buying a rotten tomato for $10 and your friend buys a fresh one for $7. Yes, that's how it feels like in marriage too.

Remember you rejected men because you think you were too young. What makes you think your old age does not matter to us?

That's why some men go back to their villages to find young girl to marry when the city ones are not serious about marriage and those that are serious happen to be old for them.

At age 30-35, her friends will ask her:

1. Why are you not married yet by this age of yours?

2. Is it not getting too late for you ?

You will hear her asking you some silly questions like...

1. Are you God?

2. Or do you want to marry me?

3. Is it a crime to be single at 30 or 35?

4. Did I see a man willing to marry me but I refused?

5. God knows the best for everyone please.

At age 30-35 they will start praying like never before, moving from one church to another. If she's a Muslim, she will start praying night prayers, fasting and dressing modestly.

If you ask her for dating, she would burst out to say:

1. My brother, I'm not like them.

2. Am looking for a serious man, a husband not dating.

3. If you truly love me go and see my parents for marriage.

4. I can't do anything with you without my parents concern.

Dear parents, they have started knowing your worth. When she was 18-24, she was doing everything without considering you as parents.

You don't expect a young man of 27-30 to marry you of 30-35 as his house wife when there are younger pretty girls out there.

Even if he chooses to ignore your age and marry you, his family and friends will discriminate you.

Men that will be interested to marry you will be of 45 yrs and above and mind you, those men are married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife.

Everything in life has its own season and time.

There's no lady at age 30-35 seeking for marriage who haven't been approached during 18-24. But by then, they were busily jumping from clubs/parties to hotel rooms looking for FUN not MARRIAGE.

Not everything is about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you. But when you change the plan or miss the road, please don't disturb the peace of God. Because, He will be busy planning for your younger sister.

Think about this when you have time.

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11 WAYS TO PROPOSE TO THE LADY YOU LOVE BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!!!

When Oral Roberts proposed to Evelyn in 1958, these were his words:

"My huge, happy, hilarious heart is throbbing, tumultuously, tremendously, triumphantly with a lingering, lasting, long lived loved for you. As i gave into your bewildering, beauterous, beaming eye, I am literally, lonesomely lost in a dazzling, daring, delightful dream in which your fair, felicitous, fanciful face is ever present like a colossal, comprehensive, constellation. Will you be my sweet, smiling, soulful, satisfied spouse?"

To which Evelyn replied: "Listen Oral, If you are trying to propose to me, do it in English Language"!!!

Many guys have lost the opportunity of getting married to the ladies they love because they dont know how to go about it

These tips will help you if you follow them!!!

1. Don't speak grammar like Oral Roberts so that the girl will not need to go home and check her dictionary to know what you really mean!!! Just be yoursef and present your proposal in a very simple way!!! You dont need grammar even if you are a professor of English!!!

2. Never make a proposal to anyone that you are not friendly with at all. At least establish a rapport and some level of friendship before breaking the news!

3. Don't use religious terminologies such as "The Lord said you are my wife" or Without me in your life, you can not fulfill destiny" or "I had a dream....." etc.

The lady does not just want to know "God said", she wants to be sure you love her and not that God is just forcing you to marry her. By all means try to avoid "God said"......when you are proposing.

Make it plain and in simple language.......just tell her you love her and leave her to discover whether it was the Lord or not! 

4. Don't pressurize a lady if she tells you that she needs time to give you an answer. Give her a breathing space. She may not be playing "hard to get", In most cases its a genuine and sincere request. That is not the time to be visiting her everyday or escorting her after fellowship disturbing her peace all the time trying to force her to give you an answer. You may end up irritating her and causing her to hate you. She has a choice in this matter, even in the Lord. The scripture admonishes "She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord". 1 Cor 7:39.

5. If she belongs to a group or company, dont try to isolate her by only talking or relating to her, get along with the other ladies in her group or company. Be friendly to all her friends!

6. Don't be cunning. Don't come under the guise of a pastor, mentor or father in the Lord in order to win her consent. Ladies prefer guys with genuine and clear intentions not hidden under any cloak. So, even if you are her pastor, propose to her as a brother. Remember that she won't be getting married to annointing. 

7. Don't be too busy going around, trying to find out from people about her. You may never get along with her if she finds out. Remember that when you come together eventually in a relationship, you can know so much about yourselves. 

8. Don't try to impress a lady with material things so as to influence her decision. You may not like the outcome. A virtuous lady wants to marry a man, not things.

9. Having established a good rapport or friendship, do the proposal as you are led and be sincere. Sincerity is the rule of the game. Don't try to be poetic; she might know the poem or song already. Be sincere!

10. Prepare to receive a "yes" or "no" with gladness. You may be persuaded of God, she is your wife but if she says "no" respect it and dont break your friendship. A lady saying "no" to you is not the end of the world even if God spoke to you audibly. Move on! 

It is immaturity to be embittered or harbor hatred towards a lady you once professed to love, simply because of a "no". To most of the men of God or role models of our time, someone, somewhere had sometime said "no" but most of them are happily married today. 

11. Seek the face of God before making any move. Be sincere with God and with yourself and stop saying things like, "I must hook a fair complexioned, thin lady with a long hair" or "........a well rounded bla, bla, bla "..Such things change. Do not walk up to a lady to propose marriage on the basis of sexual attraction because she has a dazzinling beauty! For we walk by faith, not by sight (2 Cor 5:7) the one that is thin today may be fat tomorrow. Just make sure that you are led by the Spirit and be sincere all long.

What are you still waiting for? Be bold!!! Confront your fear and the death of fear is certain!!! Begin to take that step!!! 

Happy "Yes" to your proposal!!!

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