11 WAYS TO PROPOSE TO THE LADY YOU LOVE BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!!!

When Oral Roberts proposed to Evelyn in 1958, these were his words:

"My huge, happy, hilarious heart is throbbing, tumultuously, tremendously, triumphantly with a lingering, lasting, long lived loved for you. As i gave into your bewildering, beauterous, beaming eye, I am literally, lonesomely lost in a dazzling, daring, delightful dream in which your fair, felicitous, fanciful face is ever present like a colossal, comprehensive, constellation. Will you be my sweet, smiling, soulful, satisfied spouse?"

To which Evelyn replied: "Listen Oral, If you are trying to propose to me, do it in English Language"!!!

Many guys have lost the opportunity of getting married to the ladies they love because they dont know how to go about it

These tips will help you if you follow them!!!

1. Don't speak grammar like Oral Roberts so that the girl will not need to go home and check her dictionary to know what you really mean!!! Just be yoursef and present your proposal in a very simple way!!! You dont need grammar even if you are a professor of English!!!

2. Never make a proposal to anyone that you are not friendly with at all. At least establish a rapport and some level of friendship before breaking the news!

3. Don't use religious terminologies such as "The Lord said you are my wife" or Without me in your life, you can not fulfill destiny" or "I had a dream....." etc.

The lady does not just want to know "God said", she wants to be sure you love her and not that God is just forcing you to marry her. By all means try to avoid "God said"......when you are proposing.

Make it plain and in simple language.......just tell her you love her and leave her to discover whether it was the Lord or not! 

4. Don't pressurize a lady if she tells you that she needs time to give you an answer. Give her a breathing space. She may not be playing "hard to get", In most cases its a genuine and sincere request. That is not the time to be visiting her everyday or escorting her after fellowship disturbing her peace all the time trying to force her to give you an answer. You may end up irritating her and causing her to hate you. She has a choice in this matter, even in the Lord. The scripture admonishes "She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord". 1 Cor 7:39.

5. If she belongs to a group or company, dont try to isolate her by only talking or relating to her, get along with the other ladies in her group or company. Be friendly to all her friends!

6. Don't be cunning. Don't come under the guise of a pastor, mentor or father in the Lord in order to win her consent. Ladies prefer guys with genuine and clear intentions not hidden under any cloak. So, even if you are her pastor, propose to her as a brother. Remember that she won't be getting married to annointing. 

7. Don't be too busy going around, trying to find out from people about her. You may never get along with her if she finds out. Remember that when you come together eventually in a relationship, you can know so much about yourselves. 

8. Don't try to impress a lady with material things so as to influence her decision. You may not like the outcome. A virtuous lady wants to marry a man, not things.

9. Having established a good rapport or friendship, do the proposal as you are led and be sincere. Sincerity is the rule of the game. Don't try to be poetic; she might know the poem or song already. Be sincere!

10. Prepare to receive a "yes" or "no" with gladness. You may be persuaded of God, she is your wife but if she says "no" respect it and dont break your friendship. A lady saying "no" to you is not the end of the world even if God spoke to you audibly. Move on! 

It is immaturity to be embittered or harbor hatred towards a lady you once professed to love, simply because of a "no". To most of the men of God or role models of our time, someone, somewhere had sometime said "no" but most of them are happily married today. 

11. Seek the face of God before making any move. Be sincere with God and with yourself and stop saying things like, "I must hook a fair complexioned, thin lady with a long hair" or "........a well rounded bla, bla, bla "..Such things change. Do not walk up to a lady to propose marriage on the basis of sexual attraction because she has a dazzinling beauty! For we walk by faith, not by sight (2 Cor 5:7) the one that is thin today may be fat tomorrow. Just make sure that you are led by the Spirit and be sincere all long.

What are you still waiting for? Be bold!!! Confront your fear and the death of fear is certain!!! Begin to take that step!!! 

Happy "Yes" to your proposal!!!

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💞COMMUNICATION TIPS FOR MARRIED COUPLES.💞

A lot of times, couples get pissed off with each other by the way they respond to each other. We can do better if we learn responses in the affirmative and not in the combative. 

Let's  read the following:

1. Statement: Are you okay; is anything the matter?

Wrong response: Can't you see yourself; what kind of question is that?

Right response: I'm not feeling fine; I think I need some attention.

2. Statement: I got wounded in kitchen.

Wrong response: I've told you to always be careful with knife.

Right response: Oh sorry, let me have a look. Please be more careful with knife.

3. Statement: I'll like to eat corn flakes.

Wrong response: No way! It's for the children; and that's for one month! Take garri if you are hungry.

Right response: Okay, you can eat a little. I trust you'll give us money to buy another.

4. Statement: I'm really hungry.

Wrong response: Even I myself have not eaten since morning.

Right response: Oh sorry, let's see if there's something you can manage for now.

 5. Statement: Why don't you do it this way?

Wrong response: Why is it that you always find fault with what I do?

Right response: Well, I've tried this before and I think it will work. If not, I'll try that.

6. Statement: I want more food.

Wrong response: Ha-ha, it has finished. You want to finish all the food in the house?

Right response: Sorry, please manage that for now. We are down on food stuff.

7. Statement: Handle that thing carefully please.

Wrong response: Am I that daft? You will just be talking to me as if I don't have any sense.

Right response: Yes dear, I will.

8. Statement: Haven't you finished what you are doing?

Wrong response: You are seated there doing nothing and you are asking if I've not finished!

Right response: It will still take a while; can you please lend me a hand?

9. Statement: I bought this on my way; I thought it will be useful.

Wrong response: How much did you buy it? What! That's too expensive - wọ́n ti gbá ẹ!

Right response: Thank you; it will indeed be useful. Thanks for the surprise.

10. Statement : I'm feeling horny today, I will like us to have sex.

Wrong Response : Ha ha, is it food. I'm tired ooo.

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Right Response: Whaooo. Dear, for it to be mutual enjoyment, can you please wait till early in the morning. I'm so tired right now.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Please send to your spouse and other couples, not for the purpose of condemnation, but for continuous improvement of your or their love relationship.

MAY YOU HAVE A PEACEFUL HOME AMEN.

THE ROLES OF UMUNNA IN UBULU TRADITION:

In Ubulu, UMUNNA translates literally as 'KINDRED' group of people that descended from the lineage of same father, but not of same mother. When you hear someone says 'my father's side' the person is referring to his Umunna.

Umunna's have bond, they do so many things together as kindred.

Umunna helps in various ways such as marriage, organization of funeral rites and settlement of disputes.

In marriage, Umunna support their male bachelors with gifts.

During burial, Umunna equally facilitate the burial of male members of the clan. It is the duty of Umunna to dig the grave if they lose anyone to death.

Discipline: Umunna ensures strict adherence to law and order.

In situation where someone violates any laid down rules and regulations, Umunna usually visits the person with fines and other forms of punishment. Also, if there's any land dispute between members of a family, it's the Umunna who settles it by intervening, demarcating the boundaries to avoid further encroachment from the parties involved in the dispute ... So, in Ubulu tradition, if anything happens, Umunna should be your first point of call before going outside.

The Catholic Priesthood

This is a long post (but I am sure you will learn something) 

The teaching of the Catholic Church on the priesthood is something I would like every Catholic, as well as non-Catholics, to understand.

You may have heard of this Latin phrase "IN PERSONA CHRISTI CAPITALIS"... that is exactly the summary of the church's teaching on the priesthood.

In Persona Christi Capitalis simply means 'in the person of Christ the Head."

To break it down, every ordained priest, as he celebrates the sacraments, is not acting or celebrating them on his own, but he is standing in the place of Christ. 

What it implies is that the priest is never the one celebrating any of the sacraments even though he is the one that is physically present, but rather it is Christ himself who celebrates them. 

When the priest hears confessions, it is not his hand that offers absolution, but Christ's. At Mass, when the priest says “This is my Body,” it is not the priest that should be understood as talking, for the priest has no power to give us his body, rather it is Christ who speaks the words through him. 

If you read the book of Hebrews, you will understand the depth of this teaching. We all know that the Eucharist is Christ offering himself for us. In that sacrifice, Christ is both the High Priest and the Victim—both the one offering a sacrifice (the role of a priest) for sins as well as the one sacrifice being offered (since He offered up Himself). 

Below is a little background to the teaching. . .

During the fourth century, a group led by Bishop Donatus Magnus started teaching that only men who are without sin can administer the sacrament validly.

To them, if an immoral priest baptizes you, your baptism is no good. Likewise, if a less-than-perfect bishop was the one that ordained your parish priest, all the Masses he celebrates are just a waste of time. This heresy is known as Donatism.

St Augustine tackled this heresy. He argued that the real celebrant of each Sacrament is Christ Himself, so the priest’s moral state cannot affect the validity of the Sacrament. 

As the Catechism rightly puts it, "The sacrament is not wrought by the righteousness of either the celebrant or the recipient, but by the power of God.” ~CCC 1128

The moment a sacrament is celebrated in accordance with the intention of the Church (ex opere operato), the power of Christ and his Spirit acts in and through it, independently of the personal holiness of the minister. Nevertheless, the fruits of the sacraments also depend on the disposition of the one who receives them.

It is this teaching that makes all the priests equal. Truth is, every priest is unique and gifted differently, but you see, at the altar and in the confessional every priest is the same. It is Christ that uses the priest and not the other way round. The priests' words and actions are prescribed. He is a vessel for Christ, not a platform for his own grand ideas. 

Recently, there have been arguments on how some priests are not called and how it was their mum who takes them to the seminary simply because she wants to bear the name "Mama Fada." 

I think there is a disconnection here. In the Catholic Church, for one to say a priest is not called is to question the seminary training, the discernment process, the Holy Spirit, and even the validity of the person's ordination. You can express dissatisfaction with the priest's conduct, or you may hate the fact that he is on social media, but once he is validly ordained, he is called. God uses him, and the sacraments he celebrates are no less valid because it is Christ who celebrates them through him.

And talking about mothers taking their boys to the seminary, it is not a bad thing. It was Hannah who took her son Samuel to the priest Eli. Samuel did not become less of a prophet because it was his mum who took him there. The seminary process is such a rigorous process that if you do not want to be there on your own even if your mum took you there, you can't survive a day. Canonically, no priest is ordained below the age of 25. Anyone ordained was ordained because he chose to cooperate with God, not because the mum wants to be called "Mama Fada."

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HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU...

I am a woman. I want to help you guys know what makes a lady ticks, get her say yes to you and put an end to years of frustration in getting a quality woman to marry. The first place to start is know what turns ladies off and avoid them like plague. Know what turns them on and do them with pleasure. Now let's go:

1. NEVER APPROACH A LADY WITH PET NAMES: It's a huge turn off. For crying out loud, you don't know her, you just saw her from afar or on Facebook and you are saying "Hi honey." Honey? Honey for where? Who dash monkey banana?

2. DON'T BE DESPERATE: Desperate guys are a huge turn off! You look like someone who doesn't have a job and he's desperate to get a lady solve all of his life's problems. We take to our heels fast!

3. GET BUSY: No lady likes an indolent guy who spends all his life on facebook. If you are a clean online business person, carry go but if all you do is post your pictures while waiting for comments morning, noon and night then you are not qualified for marriage.

4. BE CLEAN: Drooling mouth, stinking breath and stained shirt doesn't get any lady's attention unless you want a dirty woman as a wife because you attract who you are. Learn to be clean from head to toe. Never approach a serious lady with bad breathe.

5. BAD GROOMING: Avoid it. Tangled hair, colour riot, bad body posture is a hiss. You can't wear a brown shirt on lemon trousers matched with white shoes and black tie, and you want to approach an intelligent lady, what? Are you a clown?

6. STUDY HER FIRST: This is where some bros land into trouble. You don't know a lady from Adam. You just see her waka pass and gbam! The Holy Ghost has spoken! The next thing is "Sis, God says you are my wife!" Well, desperate, frustrated and cheap ladies may give you a "Yes" right away, not the virtuous ones.

7. START AS FRIENDS not with "I love you." What do you  love about her? Have you seen her at her worst? Please keep that to yourself and give her a break.

8. START WITH GENUINE COMPLIMENTS not flattery and not something stupid : Don't say

"What sexy hips you've got!" on the first meeting. Well, a whore may blush at that, not a virtuous woman.

9. PAUSE, DON'T RUSH HER: Don't bombard her with all manner of questions on the first date. Puh-leeeeeeeeze! Give her time. You don't need to know how many boyfriends she's had or if she finds you sexy, urrrgh!!!

Gentle guys are a huge turn on. Learn to be a gentleman around ladies.

11. SHOW COURTESY: It speaks volumes. Open the door for her, let her go in first, hold her chair while she sits and open the car door for her.

12. KNOW WHEN TO CALL HER: Definitely not during her busy schedule at work. When she's at home and fully relaxed is better.

13. BE A GOOD LISTENER: Women talk and they love a man who listens genuinely and take note of everything they say.

14. FIND OUT ABOUT HER vision, dreams, goals and hobbies: It shows you are interested in her as a person not just a woman to warm your bed and slave in the kitchen.

15. DON'T PROPOSE until she shows interest in you and that takes time: she needs to find out if she can really spend the rest of her life with you.

16. WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT? Her bust, hips and behind? Come on, take your eyes off and look at her tenderly in the face, you are not gonna lay her, are you?

17. PRACTICE SELF CONTROL: That is where some men completely lose their senses and wander why they can't find a good woman to marry. Let me ask, will a GOOD woman have sex with you on a FIRST date? Will a GOOD woman sleep with you when you have not put the wedding ring on her finger? Why do you order for sex and complain the women in your life lack character? That is who your lust has attracted man. A principled, virtuous and godly woman won't sleep with you in courtship. She RESPECTS herself and won't give herself cheaply to any man. She's not in your life on trial. She's not there to waste her time and check you out. She really wants to marry you and contribute to your life. She has seen a great future ahead of you and wants to contribute her quota to bring it to pass so she's not someone you can use and dump! The moment you ask a godly woman for sex in courtship, you lose your respect by 50%.

18. DON'T ASK FOR SEX: Same thing as above. If you want a woman to find you sexually attractive, do not pile sexual pressure on her head.

One of the reasons I said yes to my husband is, he treated me with respect and for the five years we courted, he NEVER asked for sex once. I told him at the beginning that that was a no go area until we get married and he agreed. He was a principled man himself so that was not a problem. It made him VERY sexually appealing to me. A man who controls himself around a woman is always sexy and very much respected. He didn't need to try me out to see if I am good in bed. Sexual compatibility is determined by the degree of chemistry between us and his attitude determines the level of chemistry. The more he showed me love and respect, the higher the chemistry and that foundation has helped us a great deal in marriage. I still find him very hot and our sex life is excellent.

Stop checking all the ladies on the street out. Look for the one you love and keep your eyes focused.

Never be rude to a lady. Treat her with care. Control yourself and do not use abusive words -it is degrading. If you can do all these with prayer, you will locate your future spouse faster, get her fall in love with you and go on to have a blissful courtship and stress-free marriage. 

God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

HOW TO HANDLE A MAN AND MAKE HIM BOW AT YOUR FEET...💦

1. Respect him, honour him, submit to his leadership.

2. Praise him, celebrate him, adore him.

3. Listen to him when he talks, look into his eye ball, give him 100% attention when together.

3. Support his vision, business, ministry, career.

4. Be his number one fan and cheer leader.

5. Cover his nakedness, don't expose his weaknesses to friends, families and foes.

6. Listen meekly to him when he corrects.

7. Always correct in love, don't shout at him, ridicule, disgrace and abuse him both in private and public.

8. Serve him quality food when due.

9. SEX MATTERS FOR WIVES:

a. Be eager to make love to him whenever he needs you unless you are seriously sick, tired and worn out.

b. Learn to be hot, wild and passionate or gentle, slow and rhythmic depending on how he wants it.

c. Shamelessly flirt as occasion demands.

d. Keep body in shape after childbirth, don't allow your v*g fall apart.

e. Always go to bed sparkling clean and smelling fresh.

f. Be eager and sometimes initiate love making.

10. FOR SINGLES AND THE ENGAGED:

a. No sex is allowed before marriage.

b. No kissing, romancing, necking and pecking. When a man gets milk for free, he won't buy the cow.

c. Let him pay your bride price first and marry you properly.

11. Pray for your man daily.

12. Be gentle, loving, sweet and tender.

When all these qualities are backed up by prayer, your man will find it difficult resisting you, leaving you, abusing you or divorcing you.

He becomes a lamb whom you handle with ease. Allowing him be the head makes it easy for you -the neck to rotate and direct the head anywhere you like.

He will totally adore you, honour you and literally bow before you. 

Men honour women who honour them. It is the law of sowing and reaping. You reap what you sow in relationships. If you treat him like a king, he will undoubtedly treat you like his queen. Thanks for reading. . God bless you. Cheers!

I want to see how many woman Wey go comment... 🏃🏃🏃.

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