LADY, CHERISH THIS KIND OF MAN:

LADY, CHERISH THIS KIND OF MAN:

1. Cherish the man who loves his mum. He has been brought up well

2. Cherish the man who loves to read, and not just for exams. He is wise and deep

3. Cherish the man who is funny. You will never be bored

4. Cherish the man who treats strangers and the less privileged with dignity. He has a kind heart

5. Cherish the man who listens. You will be understood

6. Cherish the man whose idea of fun is constructive, not endless drinking and clubbing. He is mature

7. Cherish the man who is a family man ready for responsibility and clear about what he wants with you. Your time will not be wasted 

8. Cherish the man who respects his father no matter how his dad is. He has learned true manhood

9. Cherish the man who doesn't insult his ex or your ex even if the break up was messy. He is someone who enters into love for the right reasons

10. Cherish the man who needs you. He will hold on to you

11. Cherish the man who lets you love him, who lets you see the nakedness of his weaknesses and strengths. He trusts you 

12. Cherish the man who accepts correction and changes his ways if he offends you. He will make himself better to love you

13. Cherish the man who prays for you. He knows you are a gift from God

14. Cherish the man who treats other women with respect. He will show you even more respect

15. Cherish the man who loves the children you and also is a father figure to those not his. That man will have an honourable legacy 

16. Cherish the man with a vision. He will challenge and build you, he knows where he is going

17. Cherish the man who has a good set of friends.You can tell the character of a man by the friends he keeps

18. Cherish the man who values intimacy above sex. He will be faithful to you

19. Cherish the man who is interested in your dreams. He cares about your future

20. Cherish the man who respects your decisions and doesn't rush you. He sees you as a life partner, not someone to dominate 

21. Cherish the man who corrects you when you wrong and inspires and pushes you to do better. He sees your potential and will not rest until your potential is lived out. That man is a keeper

22. Cherish the man who has been consistent on his focus. You can depend on him

23. Cherish the man who works hard, is self motivated and is diligent even when he has little. That man is going places and one day he will make you proud

24. Cherish the man who is not intimidated by other men when they notice your beauty. He is a secure man

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde

A COUNSEL FROM A FATHER TO A DAUGHTER.

1. No matter how much a man loves you he will never love your indiscipline: Your financial indiscipline, sexual looseness, carelessness etc.

2. No matter how stunning your look is, if your character is ungodly and unwelcoming your suitor will be unwilling to pay your bride price. Character looks good on you than cosmetics.

3. A man always wants you to be a wife before he can take you to his home. Being a wife is more than being a sexual toy but neatness, spirituality, discipline, insight, kindness etc.

4. Always know what you want in a man before saying YES I DO. There is no such thing as "I JUST LOVE YOU I DON'T KNOW WHY"

5. Any man you can compromise for will find it hard to believe you after wedding. If you can offer him your virginity before wedding then you've traded your value. If you can't stand for "NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE" You have sold your trust after wedding.

6. You can't change any man because you're not the Holy Spirit. Why will you ignore all good and spiritual brothers in fellowship, church and your group only to claim you're attracted to a carnal, sensual and whore on the street then you want him to change? You're very sick!

7. You don't look for money in a man but his manliness and the dignity of manhood in him. Be wise! Papa Zion gives you this eye opening keys.

17 THINGS YOUR SPOUSE WANTS TO HEAR YOU SAY IN THE BEDROOM

1. "Please don't leave the bed just yet"

- It feels good when your spouse can't get enough of you

2. "What do you recommend I wear today? This or this?" 

- It feels good when your spouse asks for your opinion

3. "Do me doggie"

- Alot of women and men love changing sexual positions. Whether husband or wife, tell your spouse to make love to you a different style

4. "Kiss me"

- Yes ladies, it excites your husband when you are sexually aggressive

5. "Shall we pray?"

- Blessed are you if you have a spouse that loves to pray

6. "You look so beautiful"

- Husbands, your wife longs to hear you say this especially when naked with you. She never gets tired of you admiring and wanting her

7. "Mmh, I love your penis"

- The penis is the one organ every man is sensitive about. Lady, praise his penis and he will feel so good with you in bed

8. "How are you my love?"

- The bedroom should be the place for intimate conversations

9. "We go another round?"

- How special it is to have a spouse that longs to make love to you again. How sweet it is to cool down then touch, kiss, rub and start another session of love making

10. "Good morning my love"

- There is unspeakable joy waking up to the face of the one you love in a brand new day

11. "Good night honey"

- These little words have a huge impact. Don't just get to bed and turn then sleep. Close the day properly. Even kiss goodnight

12. "That was so good"

- After making love, tell your spouse how much you enjoyed it

13. " Relax my love, I will attend to our baby"

- Husbands, when you have a small baby, your wife will feel good when you offer to attend to the crying baby sometimes. Allow her to rest as you have a daddy-baby moment

14. "Everything will be alright"

- In the bedroom, your spouse will open up to you about his/her fears and concerns. Allay those fears

15. "You will have a great day my love"

- Before your spouse steps out of the bedroom, speak a blessing into each other's day. Words are powerful

16. "I love you"

- In the bedroom is where 'I love you' should be said the most. It is your joint haven and island

17. "That feels so good"

- When your spouse is massaging you, s*xually licking you, su*cking you or rubbing you; let him/her know how good you are feeling. It motivates him/her to do it more

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In the love book called GOOD S*X BAD S*X, I reveal how to get the most out of intimacy and also show what happens when you ab*use, misuse or use s*x wrongly.

20 WAYS TO BEFRIEND YOUR PARTNER:

I decided to write this list because someone asked  " How can I be a friend to my Lover?"

A friend is someone who understands you and adds value to your life.

The popular saying says" Marry your friend or Befriend anyone you marry".

1. Speak to her softly instead of shouting.

2. ‍Always make her smile and crack jokes for her. Stare at her face and Smile, if she asks why smiling. Tell her she's beautiful;  laugh when she cracks jokes or says something funny. Frowning always is not spiritual.

3. Walk a distance together.

4. Hang out together at eateries.

5. Watch movies( wrestling, football, and Christian films) and play games together.

6. Fulfill purpose by going into ministration together.

7. Write love letters to each other.

8. Read books together.

9. Read the Bible together.

10. Pray together.

11. Sing praises and worship together.

12. Shop for her.

13. Speak your dialect.

15. Call her sweet names ( Honey, Gem, Gold, my heartbeat, my sugar...)😂😂😂

16. Coauthor a book.

17. Cook for her.

18.  Seek her advice and follow it as the spirit leads.

19.  Discuss your plans with her.

20.  Keep your money with her. Support him financially.

Above all thy getting, befriend her, and watch things work for you in your relationship. 

Marriage is too long for you to journey with your boss, not a friend.

It's absurd for you to be in a relationship and still have opposite sex Bestie somewhere else.

A relationship thrives when you start with friendship!

Marry your friend!

Befriend your Lover!

Marry your talking mate!

Marry your purpose mate!

Marry your spiritual mate!

Marry your genotype mate! (You should marry someone your genotype is compatible with. AA should marry AS. AA should marry SS)

Marry your academic mate!

Marry your playmate!

#Too_late_for_your_Relationship_to_fail

#Be_friend_your_lover

#Be_his_or_her_closest_friend

Finally, 

Prov 27:17 said "

Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend"

©Oluwaniyi Aderopo Hezekiah

*3 CATEGORIES OF LADIES WHO BEG TO BE LOVED*

1️⃣ LIABILITIES 

These ones know they have NOTHING tangible to offer or contribute to a Man, they know anybody being with them is actually doing them a favor, so they turn love beggars when they see someone that gives them a second look... The only thing they can offer you in a relationship is different 888s£x positions and perform wifey duties for you because according to them, it worked for their friend or someone they know & the person got a husband. They are the "do what works for you" geng. Another name i call them is "Anywhere belle face." 😀

2️⃣ LADIES WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM 

The ones suffering from low Self Esteem Deficiency Syndrome (SEDS)

They are beautiful, have much to offer, they are a blessing, they carry favor, BUT they think and feel otherwise.. They don't know what they truly want or deserve. They think less of themselves,  settle for less or just anything that doesn't even portray love. They will settle for a community pen!s, a woman beater, a manipulator, a liar, etc

They lack understanding of WHO they are, and how lucky a Man actually is to have them.

Most Ladies in this category think this way because of their looks, background, past experiences or financial handicaps. They lack understanding. 

3️⃣ DESPERATE ONES 

This is the oga patapata of them all. 

Desperation messes with a Woman's mind. 

+When desperate, a lady will keep silent in the face of physical/emotional abuse, endure insults and assaûlts from a Man even when she is dying, because she wants to be in a relationship/ get married. She is scared of starting all over again.

A desperate lady will not only BEG, she will also COMPROMISE.

If desperation hits a Christian lady for instance, she will drop all her godly convictions and do ANYTHING at the request of a Man (even Men who don't deserve her).

A desperate Lady will ignore obvious red flags. 

A desperate Lady will not consider her personal dignity and pride..

Then we have the REAL WOMAN:

 ❤ A Real Woman knows her true Worth, irrespective of her height, body, size, shape, occupation, past experiences, background or current financial situation. 

A Real Woman has made herself an0 asset, she knows what she can bring to the table and, she's not scared to leave when disrespect is being served.

A Real Woman wants a Man to love her, but she will not beg a Man to love her. She will never compromise her standard. She knows what she deserve & will not go below that standard. You can't entice her with money and material things.  She will never cohabit with a man that's not yet her husband.

A Real woman doesn't use her body to keep a Man.

A Real Woman attracts a Real Man.

Dear Sisters, Be a Real Woman.

Avoid "Please say Yes" situation.

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SHARE TO ALERT THE YOUTH

*📍TAKE YOUR TIME TO READ‼️* 

Girls at the age of 18-24 years always attract serious men who are fully ready to marry them, but at this age most of our girls/sisters never wish to hear anything about marriage.

1. I'm too young for that.

2. Who cares about marriage.

3. I'm focused on my books.

4. I want to gather some money first.

5. Marriage is full of problems.

These are some of few statements ladies talk of at their youth age.

But these girls will be having serious & series of sex relationship with small boys of their age, because at that age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them, but they will prefer to choose those boys rather than the real men who want to marry them. They are still young to marry right, but they are not young to have sex with boys.

No problem, God is watching you.

At age of 25-27, parents will start asking them the following questions;

1. How far?

2. Don't you have any one yet ?

3. Are you not planning to get married ?

4. Are you seeing that all your mates are getting married ?

5. Don't you know you are getting old?

But mind you, parents only see the outside of their daughters, not knowing there is nothing left inside.

With all these questions by her own parents, she will now be thinking and asking herself things like: My mates are marrying,

1. Does it mean am old enough to marry?

2. Hmmm, how should I go about it?

3. My boyfriends are not serious about asking my hand in marriage.

4. They are not even ready to marry yet.

5. Well, God knows the best. I believe in God.

See oooh...!, she has started putting her blame on God. "God's time is the best" OK, I agree for argument sake.

At age 27-30 they now start looking for men to marry not boys to have sex and play with again.

They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage, but unfortunately, at this age of 27-30 not all men will be asking their hand in marriage.

You will see them forcing themselves to marry a man who don't want to marry them. Please we beg you, leave us alone.

No single man at age 27-30 will like to marry a lady of 30-35. Now you hear the sisters say age does not matter.

My sister, it matters a lot.

Imagine buying a rotten tomato for $10 and your friend buys a fresh one for $7. Yes, that's how it feels like in marriage too.

Remember you rejected men because you think you were too young. What makes you think your old age does not matter to us?

That's why some men go back to their villages to find young girl to marry when the city ones are not serious about marriage and those that are serious happen to be old for them.

At age 30-35, her friends will ask her:

1. Why are you not married yet by this age of yours?

2. Is it not getting too late for you ?

You will hear her asking you some silly questions like...

1. Are you God?

2. Or do you want to marry me?

3. Is it a crime to be single at 30 or 35?

4. Did I see a man willing to marry me but I refused?

5. God knows the best for everyone please.

At age 30-35 they will start praying like never before, moving from one church to another. If she's a Muslim, she will start praying night prayers, fasting and dressing modestly.

If you ask her for dating, she would burst out to say:

1. My brother, I'm not like them.

2. Am looking for a serious man, a husband not dating.

3. If you truly love me go and see my parents for marriage.

4. I can't do anything with you without my parents concern.

Dear parents, they have started knowing your worth. When she was 18-24, she was doing everything without considering you as parents.

You don't expect a young man of 27-30 to marry you of 30-35 as his house wife when there are younger pretty girls out there.

Even if he chooses to ignore your age and marry you, his family and friends will discriminate you.

Men that will be interested to marry you will be of 45 yrs and above and mind you, those men are married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife.

Everything in life has its own season and time.

There's no lady at age 30-35 seeking for marriage who haven't been approached during 18-24. But by then, they were busily jumping from clubs/parties to hotel rooms looking for FUN not MARRIAGE.

Not everything is about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you. But when you change the plan or miss the road, please don't disturb the peace of God. Because, He will be busy planning for your younger sister.

Think about this when you have time.

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