Sex before marriage

Dear Single,

Don't let anybody deceive you.

Sexual Experience before Marriage doesn't better prepare you for Marriage

Being a Sexual Expert and PhD Holder in bedroom matters as a single isn't a criteria for a Happy Marriage or a fulfilling Sex Life after Marriage. In fact, it can prove counter productive. 

Some young Men are being told that their decision to marry as a virgin will backfire, that how will they satisfy their wives after marriage, they need to practice and become Pros while single.

What a big Fat Lie.

Some Ladies are told that if they marry as a virgin, their wedding night will be messy and painful, and as such their first time with their husband will be an embarrassment, and that they need to abandon their Virginity now, and become experts so they can wow their Husband on their wedding night and thereafter. 

All Lies.

Sexual expertise can be acquired after Marriage. In fact, it's best when acquired with the person you Married. 

Practice can always begin anytime. And the best time is when you are married. 

If you are keeping yourself, please continue.

You and your partner can learn together after Marriage. It's not foolish to marry as a sexual novice.

It'll even be fun discovering things together, and learning together, laughing at each other as you make mistakes, and become better, growing over the years to become experts at pleasing each other in za Oda room. 

Plus the fact that you escape the health hazards, pregnancy, prevention drugs, abortion, guilt, infections, and the spiritual consequences,.. 

Dear KINGDOM SINGLE.. KEEP YOURSELF 

(c) Musa Gift 

#MG

#MARRYWELL

#RelationshipHeartbits.

How Can I Know That This is The Right Person?

How Can I Know That This is The Right Person?

This question has been one of the most asked and common question that boggles the mind of many singles when it comes to knowing who to marry. Many have been given superficial tips by some relationship bloggers, counselors or self-made relationship therapist. 

What I'm about to share with you would help you get it right if you could adopt these tested and proven tips. 

Many I add this: marriage becomes successful when the right person marries the right person, and they apply the right principles for a successful marriage and they involve the right person. It just have to be right, otherwise, it'll be wrong. 

How can I know if this person is the right person? 

Only a right person can know who is right, and who is wrong under the right condition and influence. 

The following tips would help you to know who is the right person. 

1. Be the right person

It takes a thief to know a thief. 

If you're not the right person, it'll be difficult for you to know the right person. 

Are you the right person? 

What makes you the right person has to do with the rightness of your heart (spirit and soul) and your right understanding about marriage and life in general. 

You may pass all the basic maturity test (mental, physical, financial, social emotional or spiritual), but it doesn't mean you are the right person. 

A person may walk up to you for marriage but their heart isn't right with you because they have an hidden agenda or motive for coming into your life. This is why you can't fully know the right person through physical observation because the heart of men and women is evil, deep and desperately wicked, only God can know it. 

See, you are not the right person when your understanding about marriage is wrong. 

If you believe that women are done a favor by marrying them; that all men are polygamous in nature; that divorce is an option in marriage or cheating is one of the inevitables of life; then you have a wrong understanding of marriage. 

If you even marry angel Gabriel or virgin Mary, you will still end up with a bad marriage if you are not the right person. 

If the right person marries the wrong person or vis-a-vis, the marriage will fail or become an enduring one. 

Next is that you must... 

2. Be connected to the person who will make you know the right person

Sounds confusing? Read on! 

Man, with the best of all his acquired knowledge and understanding can't know the right person unless God opens his eyes to see the right person. 

Many are not connected to the right person (God) but wants to know the right person without Him. How possible it that? 

You need a personal and intimate relationship with God so He can reveal or guide you to the right person. 

Don't ever think you can know the right person without God because only Him knows the right person that will accept your past, present and future. 

Dear ladies, be so connected to God that it will take a man whose heart is right with God to find you as his help meet. 

Dear men, be a man after God's own heart that God will have to bring one of His daughters that He has made to you as a wife. 

Please, treasure your personal relationship with God more than church activities or being religious. 

Ask for the grace to love Him and fellowship with the Holy Spirit, as this would sharpen your spiritual senses to know the right person. 

More so...

3. Be at rest

Adam wasn't "dating" all the animals in search of the right person. God gave him a divine anesthesia and he fell into a deep sleep. 

Brother, go and rest. 

My sister, quit looking for Mr. Right. 

When you are at rest, you will be calm enough to recognize the right person when they come. But if you are jumping from Jane to Janet, or from John to Justus, you will be confused, anxious or frustrated in your human search for the right person. 

Rest puts you into a hibernate mode, while God is busy working out the right person for you. But if you are busy looking for Mr or Miss Right, God becomes at rest while He watches you doing it in your own way. 

Those who are at rest leaves everything in God's hands while He gives them His best. 

4. Compatibility

Having adopt items 1-3, you will know the right person through your agreement in so many ways. 

The right person will be compatible with you in your desire to fulfill your divine purpose. There will be mutual agreement in almost all critical issues of life, or you two can easily align your differences to reach an agreement. 

Compatibility has nothing to do with sex. Don't seek to practicalize it before marriage. You can talk things out if there are differences. 

There must be compatibility in goals, visions, divine purpose and in other important areas. 

5. Through divine revelation or spiritual discernment 

Last but very important, your ability to know the right person is tied to how functional your spiritual senses are. 

Adam could spiritually discern the woman as his bone of bones and flesh of flesh. The Bible didn't tell us that he dreamt or saw visions, there was a knowing in his heart that was deep enough and it was beyond her physical appearance, material possessions or personality impression - it is called discernment. 

More so, divine revelation comes through dreams, vision or trance. Only God determines whether the right person will be revealed to you through that means. 

Do not also forget that dreams could be manipulated by the devil or originates from your own thoughts. 

Dear readers, knowing the right person is not a rocket science, and it's not something you will know suddenly if you don't have a track record of an intimate relationship with God. 

Don't wait till you are ready for marriage before you draw closer to God. It takes time to know God and His ways. Start now, don't wait until you're "ripe" for marriage before you begin the journey. 

Remember, love is best expressed, and marriage is sweet when the right person marries each other and they apply the right principles, with their involvement of the right person (God)....

ENCOURAGING LOCAL FOOD PRODUCTION: AGUATA LGA TO HOLD MAIDEN DI JI COMPETITION

ENCOURAGING LOCAL FOOD PRODUCTION: AGUATA LGA TO HOLD MAIDEN DI JI COMPETITION 

Driven by the desire to encourage more agricultural activities in the local government, the Transition Committee Chairman of Aguata Local Government Area, Dr Chibueze Ofobuike, has announced the 2024 Aguata Di Ji Competition.

The 2024 Aguata Di Ji Competition is a challenge aimed at propelling more people in Aguata Local Government Area to get involved with farming at medium or small scales. 

At the end of the current planting season and in a ceremony to be held at the Aguata LGA Secretariat, the farmer with the largest and heaviest tuber of yam uprooted from a single mound in a farm located in Aguata LGA will be rewarded with the cash farming support of ₦500,000, while the runner-ups will receive ₦300,000 and ₦200,000 respectively, alongside other consolation prizes and reward items.

Directives on how to participate are contained in the attached flyer.

#AGreaterAguata 

#SurvivingHardship

#SolutionIsHere

Hon. Onwuka Ikenna Councilor Akpo

SHORT FUNNY STORY

A man was sick and tired of going to work everyday while his wife stayed at home;

he wanted his wife to see what he goes through and so he prayed;

“Dear Lord, I go to work all day and put in eight hours while my wife stays at home.

I want her to know what I go through,

so please switch her body to mine for a day, as I take hers.

So God in His own infinite wisdom granted the man's wish.

The next morning, sure enough, the man awoke as a woman.

He cooked breakfast, awakened the kids, set out their school clothes, fed them, packed their lunch, took them to school, came back home, picked up the dry cleaning, took it to the cleaners, went grocery shopping, got home and put away the groceries, cleaned the cat's little box and bathed the dog. By then it was already 1:00pm.

He quickly went to make the bed, do the laundry, swept and mop the floor, ran to school to pick up the kids, got into an argument with one of them, set out milk and cookies and got the kids organised to do their home work. He then set the ironing board and watched tv while he did the ironing.

At 4.30pm, he began peeling potatoes and washed the vegetables for salad, breaded the pork chop and snapped fresh beans for supper. After supper, he cleaned the kitchen, ran the dishwasher, folded laundry, bathed the kids, put them to bed.

Now He's exhausted, and though his daily choice wasn't over, he went to bed and was expected to make LOVE, which he managed to get through without complaints.

Early in the morning, he woke up and quickly knelt down by the bed and said: “LORD, I do not know what I was thinking, I was wrong to envy my wife being able to stay home all day. Please let's trade again.

GOD answered: “Man I'd love to answer your prayers, but the time you made love last night, you got pregnant, so you have to wait for nine months to change.I love you all💖💖💖💖💋

LightLights Matthew

HOW TO HAVE PEACE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. BE BEST FRIENDS

Marry your best friend. And when you are married, deliberately stay best friends. There is peace in close friendship

2. HAVE A LOT OF SEX

Making love releases the tension and brings about intimacy. With intimacy comes peace

3. BE RIGHT WITH GOD 

The more your relationship with God as individuals and as a couple grows; the more peaceful you will be

4. MAKE GOOD FINANCIAL DECISIONS 

Don't go into debt, live within your means, don't misuse money or cause your spouse to feel financially overburdened. Even when you are in financial problems, come up with a plan. Financial strain can bring stress

5. START EACH DAY RIGHT 

Start with a blessing, a prayer, a kiss, warm words; it sets the tone of the day

6. HELP EACH OTHER OUT

Do everything as a team. Share responsibilities. It lifts the burden bringing peace

7. RESOLVE ISSUES QUICKLY 

Don't dwell on issues. Apologize when you wrong, forgive when wronged. Making up maintains peace

8. CONTROL YOUR TEMPER

Learn to keep calm when angry. Pray

9. PLAY WORSHIP MUSIC 

Let worship surround the home. Where God is worshipped there is peace

10. KISS MORE, TOUCH MORE

Cuddling makes you less moody and grumpy

11. DO NOT HAVE AN AFFAIR 

This is the quickest way to destroy peace

12. DON'T DO ANYTHING SUSPICIOUS 

Refrain from doing anything that might make your spouse doubt you or be suspicious of you. You may not be doing wrong but make sure your spouse gets no impression that you are

13. LAUGH

Watch comedies, laugh, play games, enjoy a sport, have constructive debates. Be fun

14. COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER 

Tell your spouse how good he/she is or looks. When people are made to feel good about themselves, they are peaceful

15. SAY "I LOVE YOU" TO EACH OTHER 

These thee words calm the heart, they come with peace

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde 

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Dangers of marrying an ALREADY MADE man?

Dangers of marrying an ALREADY MADE man?

You see many girls are more interested in marrying boys who are doing well financially. To them husband material is one with a good job, car and house. Most of them do not realize that very few successful young men will bend for marriage. They do not consider the dangers of marrying a man who’s life you have not contributed anything. You just want to enter there and enjoy all the good things. What a shame !

Dangers of marrying already made men ;

1. They don’t change for any woman. If you found him taking alcohol, he will continue. If you found him womanizing he will continue womanizing that comfort zone cannot be abolished by marriage.

2. You will have little say on what he has. When an already established man marries you, he doesn’t consider you as a person to value but a property to keep. He will be counting you among the things he owns. Many girls are treated like things and not humans because they love material things. With his money he bought you, with his influence he married you instead of other girls so he chooses to treat the way he likes.

3. You will be eating crumbs. Have you heard girls saying it’s better to cry in a Benz than smile on a bicycle? Those are wives with cosmetic riches. Broken inside but intact outside. Hypertension kills them, they dies of depression. They drive cars but they have no drive within them. No hope no faith. They fail to step out of those abusive marriages because the day they will go is the day the cosmetic beauty will go. They are just keeping up appearances.

Marry a man who is just building himself up. A reasonable and sober man. A vision driven man, when you build together, the chances of breaking apart will be very low. Look for the brothers in Zion who are trying to put their lives together and build with them. It’s good to marry a visionary Christian especially if he has shown love for you even though he has nothing yet.

Note: This post is not suggesting that every built up