WHY HUGGING IS IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE

1. Hugging is a non-sexual physical expression of love. You need this because marriage is more than sex

2. Hugging makes your spouse feel welcomed to your space 

3. Hugging can lead to an emotional release where your spouse breaks down receiving comfort, a therapeutic experience

4. Hugging is a good way to receive each other back home after a day of being a part. Leaving the house and coming back home safe is a miracle you should never take for granted 

5. Hugging your spouse in public shows you are proud of your spouse 

6. Hugging your spouse affirms to your spouse you two are emotionally close. When there is an emotional rift between you two, you will find it difficult to hug

7. Hugging is a good way to resolve conflict after you two have talked things out

8. Hugging makes you both feel loved. There are some people in this world longing for a hug, don't let your spouse be one of them

9. Hugging breaks down the rigid walls created by trauma or by an upbringing that lacked affection 

10. Hugging in front of the children normalizes being vulnerable in the family. Children exposed to love grow up confident to express love

© Dayan Masinde 

May you find someone who will make you feel safe enough to be emotionally naked.

He stormed into the house looking for his wife.

He found her in the kitchen and then he jumped to her and hugged her so tightly. He has never hugged her like that before.

He broke down and cried. Confused she was.

The sound of a crying man is shocking because men are told not to cry.

He gave a good cry with his deep voice.

She held him tightly.

"Darling, what is wrong?" she asked him.

"Talk to me honey, please. What is wrong?" she asked.

He cried even more with every word she spoke.

"Baby, you are scaring me.  I have never seen you like this before. What is going on?" she got worried.

"I love you" he said.

It has been a while since he has told her that and this time it came out with a certain authenticity than ever before.

"I need you" he said as he squeezed her to himself.

"I am here for you" she assured him.

"I feel so alone in my life and the worst part is that it is not that I don't have someone to love me but that I push that someone away. Time and time again, you have tried to get to me but my ego shouts you out" he said as she rubbed her hands on his back.

"Today I almost had a car accident but God saved me. After the car swerved and regained balance, I parked somewhere and looked at myself on the side view mirror and asked myself some questions. Who am I?  Am I loved? Am I allowing myself to be loved? Why am I a lone ranger? Why do I suffer alone in life? All my life, I have never had someone to let in my heart, I pride myself in being a self made man who doesn't need anyone. When I married you, I married for a title, to have children.. but I feel alone. I come home late and avoid heart conversations with you. I shut you out emotionally. What if I die today, will I die a stranger to you?"

"No honey, don't say that. Don't talk like that" she begged him.

"I want to know what love is. I don't know how long I have to live but I know for the first time in my life, I need love. I need to open up, I need genuine laughter, I need to be fully naked with you, I need to tell you my thoughts, I need your touch, I need to talk about matters of the heart not just bills and responsibilities. I need love. Teach me love. I surrender my ego, I want to live my life in full. I don't want to be a stranger" he said.

She pulled herself from him and kissed both his eyes and wiped his tears. I want to know you my husband, show me who you are so that I may love you. Stop fighting your battles alone, stop feeling alone yet I am here. My love for you is gentle and true. 

In your lifetime, may you find someone who will make you feel safe enough to be emotionally naked. It is easy to be physically naked with someone, but emotional nakedness will need you to put down your pride and be vulnerable. May you be loved, may you allow yourself to be loved.

 ©️ Dayan Masinde 

In the book MOTO MOTO COUPLE, Akello and I address in depth the 21 issues that affect every relationship/marriage including work, sex, finances, children, in-laws, communication and how rekindle love back in your marriage. She giving the female perspective, I give the man's perspective on each of those 21 issues. 

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WHAT TO DO AS AN ULCER PATIENT!!!

WHAT TO DO AS AN ULCER PATIENT!!!

Don't buy any ulcer drug until you read this🤦

1.Being overworked and overstressed are like extending a direct invitation to gastric problems. 

The body loses its ability to perform normal digestive functions and is often associated with increased production of stomach acids🙂.

2. Having 5 small easily digestible meals a day at proper intervals is a key to good digestive health 💯

3. Eating slowly without talking and chewing the food properly also improves digestion. It reduces intestinal gas as less air is swallowed during the eating process🙏.

3. A prerequisite in order to achieve a healthy digestive process is an efficiently hydrated body. Drinking 8-10 glasses of water every day is mandatory to prevent any gastric complications.

Drinking 2-3 glasses🍵 of luke warm water first thing in the morning is said to help with regular bowel movements and relieve indigestion and flatulence🍼

4. CABBAGE🥬 AND CUCUMBERS🥒 smoothie help to relief stomach ulcer

5. One of the best known herbs to treat gastritis is GINGER🥐. 

It heals the gastric lining and reduces inflammation. It reduces vomiting tendencies and is known for its anti microbial prowess.

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SEX: DOES THE SIZE OF A MAN'S PENIS MATTER?

SEX: DOES THE SIZE OF A MAN'S PENIS MATTER? 

A big size to many is seen as a sign of sexual prowess, but as a man, don't lose your sleep or your sexual confidence because of the natural size of your penis which is God given.

When it comes to pleasing a woman sexually, know that the woman's most sexually sensitive areas are at the entrance of a lubricated vagina and the top and lower walls inside of a vagina. These two areas can be sexually stimulated by any size of the penis.

The entrance of a lubricated vagina is what excites your wife when you get to push inside her. That is why she enjoys that feeling of you starting penetration.

The top and lower walls inside her are the ones that make her feel good when you are pushing in and out. These walls are very close to the entrance. As you move your penis in and out, your penis rubs on the walls inside giving her sensations. 

When she moans and tells you "Harder! Faster! Deeper", she is asking for more passionate rubs of your penis on her top and lower walls to heighten the sensations. 

The stimulation on top and lower walls inside her vagina can vary depending on sex positions: missionary, woman on top, doggy,  Mombasa Raha and others. It is all about stimulating the inner walls.  The faster you do it, the intense the sensations.

As you do so, those inner walls inside her close in on your penis to help you to please her by pressing her inner walls on your thrusting penis. You on the other hand get pleasure as the tip of your penis rubs on the walls.  It is your tip that feels the pleasure regardless of your size.

What matters is not your size. What matters is... 

1. Are you faithful to her? Nothing turns on a woman like knowing her husband is faithful to her. Your faithfulness will release her to giving you her body and allowing herself to enjoy you as you enjoy her 

2. Do you treat her right? When sex is not the agenda, do you treat her well? Do you take care of her emotions? Women make love with their heart. Emotional intimacy leads to sexual intimacy 

3. Do you sufficiently make her wet? Do you get horny and just jump on her or do you prepare her? How good is foreplay? Foreplay increases the feeling your penis will eventually give her

4. Do you maintain your erection? Do this by focusing on her. When you are making love, don't over think, don't doubt yourself. Sex starts in the mind. If you lose it in the mind, you will lose your erection. Avoid masturbation as this will help you to find her enjoyable. Avoid pornography, porn makes your wife compete with images of other women in your mind making your penis confused 

5. Are you selfless when it comes to intimacy? Do you make sexual pleasure all about you or do you show her that you want to please her? Do you know her favourite position and do you give it as she wants it? 

6. Are you confident in yourself? There are so many men with a penis out there but she chose you. Be confident in all you have to offer. Confidence makes you sexy and attractive. She values your penis because it belongs to you 

7. Do you pay attention to how her body responds? Do you listen when she tells you "Faster! Harder"? Do you pay attention to her moaning to tell you she is enjoying what you are doing, keep going?

8. Are you caring in your passion? If you have a big penis, are you gentle with it? Do you handle her roughly and hurt her? 

9. Do you know how to change the rythmn? Do you change the speed when penetrating to get her to enjoy various sensations? 

10. In case you do climax before her, do you find other ways to please her or do you leave her alone as you feel like a sexual failure?

© Dayan Masinde 

In the love book called GOOD SEX BAD SEX, I reveal how to get the most out of intimacy and also show what happens when you abuse, misuse or use sex wrongly.

THE HEART KNOWS... ❤️🎀💓💓💓🎀

THE HEART KNOWS... ❤️🎀💓💓💓🎀

1 😉****    If u want to build a life together, make sure u have the same vision when looking at ur future . 

2 💁*****Learn to give your absence to those who don't appreciate your presence . 

3 🤗*****    Sometimes you're not afraid of letting go, you're just afraid of accepting the fact it's gone 

4 😢*****   Sometimes you fall in love with someone who just wasn't ready to be loved . 

5 🤓****  They can say whatever, their actions show their real feelings, everything else is just lip service. 

6 🙋*****   Your mind will never forget what your heart won't forgive... 

7 🙋*****   A partner who makes everything about them and rarely make anything about you. Doesn't love you, they just love the benefits of having you. 

8🙎****    If you care too much, you're going to get hurt; but if you don't care enough, you'll never learn.

EMOTIONAL FOOL OR TOOL?💞💔

EMOTIONAL FOOL OR TOOL?💞💔

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1 **** If you Succeed in Cheating Someone, don't think that the Person is a Fool. Realize that the Person Trusted you much more than you Deserved.

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2 💁***** Listen to Your Instincts! When someone is using you or Playing you and things are not adding up. Your instincts will tell you.

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3 🤦**** Not all Men who courts you, Loves you. Some are just testing your Stupidity.

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4🚶**** The Truth is, I've never Fooled anyone, I've let people sometimes Fool Themselves.

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5 🤷*** A Wise Man speaks bcoz He has some thing to say.... The Fool speaks bcoz He has to say Something....