THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE GETTING MARRIED TO A LAST BORN

THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE GETTING MARRIED TO A LAST BORN

Getting married is a big decision, and when you decide to tie the knot with a last-born, there are some important things to consider. Last-borns typically exhibit certain personality traits and behaviors that can impact a marriage.

Here are  things to know before getting married to a last-born:

1. Last-borns are often seen as the baby of the family and may have a tendency to be spoiled or pampered by their older siblings.

2. They may crave attention and affection from their partner, so be prepared to give them the love and attention they need.

3. Last-borns are typically more laid-back and easygoing, which can be a refreshing change for someone who is used to being with someone more Type A (or a CHOLERIC).

4. They may struggle with being independent and making decisions on their own, so be prepared to take on more of a leadership role in the relationship.

5. Last-borns are known for their creativity and spontaneity, which can bring excitement and fun into a marriage.

6. They may have a fear of abandonment or rejection, so be sure to reassure them of your love and commitment regularly.

7. Last-borns often have a strong sense of humor and love to make others laugh, so be prepared for some playful banter and jokes in your relationship.

8. They may have a tendency to procrastinate or avoid responsibilities, so be prepared to gently encourage and support them in taking on tasks and challenges.

9. Last-borns can be sensitive to criticism or perceived slights, so be mindful of how you communicate with them and offer constructive feedback.

10. They may have a tendency to be more passive-aggressive in conflicts, so be prepared to address issues head-on and communicate openly and honestly.

11. Last-borns may struggle with setting boundaries and saying no, so be mindful of their needs and feelings in the relationship.

12. They may seek validation and approval from others.

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT KISSING

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT KISSING

(For The Married)

1. Kissing is not just meant for sex

2. You can tell how your spouse feels about you through the kiss. Are you being kissed back? 

3. Kisses are a good thermometer of your spouse's emotions. If your spouse is emotionally not OK, it will reflect on the kiss

4. After talking about issues, kiss each other. Kissing helps to heal

5. Kissing is good for intimacy as it says what words can't

6. Kissing invites love making. If you want more love making, kiss more

7. If you want to be kissed, maintain good oral hygiene. Brush your teeth at least two times a day

8. If you want to be kissed, watch what you say and your tone. Lips that say hurtful things are not desirable

9. After lovemaking, before you black out and sleep, kiss your spouse. It shows affection and that you were not just after an orgasm

10. Randomly kiss your spouse. Surprise kisses are sweet

11. Relax when kissing. There is a difference between being passionate and being forceful

12. Flow with your spouse's rythmn. Get to learn if your spouse likes tongue kissing or not. Make it enjoyable

13. Gentlemen, the more a woman is kissed the more she feels wanted and desired. Kissing is part of the watering that makes her feel special

14. Learn to kiss more than the lips. Kiss your spouse's forehead, cheeks, closed eyes, back, arms, hips. It brings you two closer

15. As you explore your spouse's body with kisses, you will unearth secrets about your spouse's body that were unknown.

I WANT A SPOUSE WHO IS LED BY THE SPIRIT, NOT THE FLESH

1. One who when we have a dispute, instead of insulting me because of anger; still speaks to me with love

2. One who when faced with temptations of the flesh to be with another; the Spirit causes him to flee

3. One who even when mad at me prays for me; the flesh sees prayer as a favour, the Spirit cannot help but pray

4. One who will tell me off when I am going against God's ways; to keep my flesh in check

5. One who will see raising our children is not just an assignment of provision, but also a spiritual assignment

6. One who when they get fleshy marital advice from outsiders, will discern well and not apply

7. One who will not seek revenge in marriage like the flesh likes to do; but will seek reconciliation led by the Spirit

8. One who will be God's mouthpiece in our marriage, knowing the right words of love to speak in order to minister, encourage and bless

9. One who will not be preoccupied in pleasing outsiders and relatives; but pleasing God

10. One who when even far from me will still be accountable to God, I don't need to worry; a spouse who knows God is watching

11. One who is not governed by selfishness, anger and lust of the flesh; but one led by love, peace...the fruit of the Holy Spirit 

12. One who sees me more than a spouse to fulfill a role; but as someone created in the image of God and my body as the temple of the Holy Spirit hence won't abuse me

May I also be that kind of spouse 

© Dayan Masinde

THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY

When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:

1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH

One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time.

If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse!

2. Give Your Spouse SPACE

As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planning, etc.

Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over-demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse the space they need when they need it.

3. Give Your Spouse A CALL/CHAT

Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phone and all the people on their Face book friends list but they will never chat with or call their spouse all through the day. 

Chatting with or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, “Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you.”

Make sure you send a chat, or give a call, to your spouse today. Make it a habit; it is beneficial to both of you. Nobody can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.

4. Give Your Spouse A HUG

Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. Research has proved that hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being.

THE SIMPLE THINGS A WOMAN WANTS FROM HER HUSBAND

1. Give her your time. Don't make her beg for your attention. Women equate love with time. If she means a lot to you, she should see that expressed by how much time you give her. Come home early. Take her out on dates

2. Compliment her efforts to look good; her new hairstyle, her body, her clothes, her sexiness, her cooking. It is your opinion that matters most to her. Appreciate her and she'll do anything for you 

3. Say sorry when you wrong her. Do so quickly. Don't move on without addressing the hurt you've caused her. This shows you are responsible with her heart

4. Randomly buy her gifts: Jewellery, chocolates, flowers, a dress, perfume. It is not the gift that excites her, but that she is constantly on your mind leading to you buying her things as a manifestation of your love

5. Ask for her advice and perspective on issues. This shows her that you are a team and she is not a pretty escort in your life

6. Publicly show her love. Speak your love for her online, in public, to your friends, parents. This makes her feel secure. Defend her from attacks from your family, friends and the public. A secure woman will love you with no restrictions

7. Kiss her without warning, touch her like you know she is all yours, gently grab her bum the way she likes it, make her wet because you can, pin her to the wall and caress her lovingly. Make her feel wanted. She has preserved her sexy body for only you

8. Answer her phone calls lovingly, "Hi my love". End phone conversations with her on a high note, let her hang up smiling. Phone communication with you are very special to her. Call her just to say "I love you", be her number one chat mate

9. Don't just tell her "I love you", tell her why you love her, do this often. It gives her facts of love to hold on to. She wants to know

10. Treat her well outside of sex, when sex is not the agenda. And when it comes to making love, she will ride your hardness so good.

WHAT DOES YOUR WIFE THINK OF WHEN SHE THINKS ABOUT YOU?

WHAT DOES YOUR WIFE THINK OF WHEN SHE THINKS ABOUT YOU? 

1. "I miss him so much, I can't wait to be home with him" OR "I hope he doesn't show up early, when he is around, my mood just gets worse"

2. "I am such a blessed woman to be married to such an amazing man" OR "What was I thinking to get married to such a fella? I know more of pain than joy with him"

3. "Last night was amazing! He made love to me so good I think I am still wet" OR "What is a woman supposed to do in this marriage to get good loving? This man I have makes sex all about him, nkt"

4. "Our children have such a great dad! Look at him, the way he handles them. I am so glad I am doing parenting with him" OR "I feel like I am raising these kids alone, doesn't he love them? God I pray my children don't turn out like their father"

5. "Whoever said good men don't exist, never met my husband" OR "Marriage is a scam. This man made me believe in a lie, why did I get married?"

6. "God, teach me to love my husband better, I want to be the best wife to him" OR "God, save me from my husband"

 7. "Dad and mom, if you see how my husband treats me in our home you would be so proud of your daughter" OR "Mom, dad; I am sorry for failing you and choosing a husband who has brought shame and stress"

8. "Look at this silly husband of mine, he is so funny, such a clown. I can't stop laughing" OR "I can't even remember the last time I laughed. When did I become such a sad wife?"

9. "I can't believe that with my aging, my sagging boobs, stretch marks and child bearing; my husband still finds me sexy" OR "I don't feel beautiful anymore. Look at him sleeping next to me after insulting my body. He is making me lose my self esteem and I hate it"

10. "I need to share this video with my husband, he will love this" OR "I wonder who is that my husband chats with online, he is always looking at his screen smiling. I envy that person, I wish that was me"