HAVE FUN WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Life can be serious with a lot of things to cater for which can stress us out. In the midst of it, couples should intentionally work towards their happiness; if this is not done, they will drift away from each other while trying to meet up with life demands.

And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife. Genesis  26:8

Create time to have fun with your spouse once in a while, this will rekindle the love you share and help create a bond between the two of you.

These are some of the ways to have fun with your spouse:

1. SEE A MOVIE TOGETHER:  You can go to the cinema or see a movie together at the comfort of your home. Make sure there are no distractions, so you both can enjoy the movie. It is fun. 

2. PLAY: Loving couples can be likened to children as they can play without shame. Pillow fight, hide and seek etc brings about a happy mood in the home. Don't be serious all the time, create time to play like children and just laugh out the stress.

3. GO OUT ON VACATION: Go for vacation if you can afford it.  Create time to be alone with your spouse, enjoy a new honeymoon again.

4. PLAY GAMES: Games like Ludo, Whot, Chess, etc  can be fun and entertaining. Do them together. 

5. DANCE TOGETHER:  Dancing together shows you have decided to be happy despite all you may have been going through.

These are just a few of the things you can do together as a couple, do them often. 

Take care of each other, you're one.

The right type of affection.

Dont say a word, don't even let her get undressed after work.  

Pull her to the living room, lie down with her and pull her next to you.

 Not because you want anything from her but just to simply let her know that whatever it is that she goes through you'll be there every step of the way.  

Gently run your fingers through her hair and tell her how much you appreciate her and everything she does ........ it never goes unnoticed.

Women go through so much on an daily basis and sometimes a pair of strong arms and some words of encouragement from the one she loves is all she truly needs the most. 

~ Cody Bret

You are worth so much more.

You are worth so much more. 

This is for the girl who is healing from the trauma that nobody apologized for. 

This is for the girl who was fired because she was late to work for the third time this month all because she had been awake for days up on end with her sick child.

This is for the single mom who doesn't know how she is going to afford winter clothes for her child because her child's father left as soon as he found out she was pregnant.

This is for the girl who has gone through multiple miscarriages and has tried for years without success but still shows up to all of her friends baby showers. 

This is for the girl who has a line of judging eyes at her and her children as she slides her welfare card across the counter at the grocery store.

This is for the girl that opens the door to the news of her husband being killed overseas three weeks before he was to return home. 

This is for the girl that gives to her family every single day and just needs a small break from reality. 

This is for the girl that puts on a smile every single day for people she doesnt know ..... but as soon as she goes to bed, she falls asleep in a puddle of her own tears. 

This is for the girl that heard the rumor about herself at church last Sunday. 

This is for the girl who's partner punishes you for the mistakes made by the ones behind you. 

This is for the girl whose genetics will never allow her to look like the ones in the magazines.

This is for the girl that endures one broken relationship after another because there was no father around to teach her what love actually looked like.

This is for the girl raising a fatherless daughter and praying that history doesn't repeat itself. 

This is for the girl falling asleep every night wondering if she still matters. 

Let me tell you something ......

Everything you do on a daily basis never goes unnoticed and I respect and admire you for who you truly are as a person.

-Cody Bret

RULES OF LIVING WITH PEOPLE

RULES OF LIVING WITH PEOPLE

1. When you meet young people - INSPIRE THEM.

2. When you meet children - EDUCATE THEM.

3. When you meet old people - HELP THEM.

4. When you meet wise people - STUDY THEM. 

5. When you meet leaders - HONOUR THEM.

6. When you meet foolish people - AVOID THEM.

7. When you meet humble people - TREASURE THEM.

8. When you meet arrogant people - IGNORE THEM.

9. When you meet gracious people - EMULATE THEM.

10. When you meet aspirational people - ELEVATE THEM.

11. When you meet strong people - SUPPORT THEM.

12. When you meet godly people - BLESS THEM.

13. When you meet elderly people - RESPECT THEM.

14. When you meet weak people - STRENGTHEN THEM.

15. When you meet hardworking people - ENCOURAGE THEM.

16. When you meet kind people - ESTEEM THEM. 

17. When you meet Honest people -

 PROMOTE THEM.

18. When you meet virtuous people - REWARD THEM.

19. When you meety evil people - EVADE THEM.

20. And in all situation “ Watch, Pray and wish everyone well. 

1. Dr. Ben Carson said,  "I struggled academically throughout elementary school yet became the best neurosurgeon in the world in 1987."

 LESSON:

 Struggling is a sign that you are on a verge of success. Don't quit yet. 

2. Bill Gates said,  "I didn't even complete my university education but became the world's richest man." 

LESSON:

 School does not make you rich. School is only supposed to polish what will make you rich, not make you rich.

3. Christiano Ronaldo said, "I told my father that we would be very rich but he couldn't believe me. I made it a reality." 

LESSON:

Your words rule your life. If you mean what you have said, each word will come to pass. You get what you say. 

4. Hear Lionel Messi!

 "I used to serve tea at a shop to support my football training and still became one of the world's best footballers."

 LESSON:

 Believe in your dream. Don't let your pain tell you how your future will look like.

DON'T FRIENDZONE YOUR SPOUSE

DON'T FRIENDZONE YOUR SPOUSE

1. Never stop flirting with your spouse

2. Never stop kissing your spouse

3. Husband, never stop touching her butt

4. Wife, never stop playing with his penis

5. Never sleep in different rooms in the same house or same hotel 

6. Never tell your spouse, "You don't have to know"

7. Never deliberately hide your nakedness from your spouse

8. Never deny your spouse sex or use sex as a weapon

9. Never treat your spouse as you do your friends. Your spouse is most special

10. Never joke with your spouse in a manner that sounds insulting to your spouse

11. Never deliberately hide things from your spouse

12. Never go a day without saying something loving to your spouse

13. Husband, never stop checking out her breasts and clit with desire

14. Wife, never stop being sexually playful with your spouse

15. Never stop calling your spouse affectionate names like "My love", "Darling", "Honey"

16. Never stop dating your spouse

Don't make your spouse feel friendzoned. This is marriage, not friendship. Your spouse is your special, sexy companion

 

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THE IMPORTANCE OF SEX IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. Sex is God's gift for the both of you in your marriage. You two would be going against God's desire, not to do it

2. Sex relieves stress and taking away tension. Yes, it has a way of making you two relax even in the midst of tough times 

3. Sex makes you two create exclusive memories that makes you two bond deeply 

4. Sex is a celebration of your love. It's like a "Thanksgiving party" on the sheets where only two are invited

5. Sex affirms you two of your love. It reminds you two that you are a couple, that is why married people panic when the frequency dwindles. Some wives even remember the exact day the husband last touched them and wonder what happened 

6. Sex helps you two be vulnerable. As you two strip down to physical nakedness, it will help you two to be emotionally naked with each other 

7. Sex is good for your physical health. As a physical activity, sex is a good work out, helps your body organs and blood circulation 

8. Sex is a journey of self-discovery and discovery of your spouse. As you two work on sexually pleasing each other,  you will discover new things about yourself and your body and about your spouse and his/her body. This makes you know each other better

9. Sex allows you two to express your naughty side. We all have naughtiness inside that we hide from the public, sex with your spouse helps you to release that 

10. Sex brings down walls. As you two have sex, you will realize that you will also find it easier to talk about difficult conversations and you won't be so guarded because you feel you belong 

11. Sex gives you a glow that reflects on your children, your workmates, friends and the public. People who are sexed really good tend to be so upbeat, happy and positive 

12. Frequent sex reduces the power of temptation. When you and your spouse have a healthy sex life, and you do it frequently, you will be too satisfied to be lured by another 

13. Sex helps you two to solve issues. Once you two talk about an issue or you go for days fighting over something then you make up and have sex, it brings a feeling of closure and togetherness. That is why make up sex is sweet and passionate 

14. Sex keeps you warm. Nothing warms up your body in a cold season like good sexing with the one you love

15. Sex helps you two to bring children to the world. That is why you two look at your child/children with pride and go like "Our pleasure did that"

16. Sex provides an opportunity for you two to feel loved. When you have a spouse whose intent is to make you feel good to the maximum, you will feel really loved

17. Sex is a good way of passing idle time. When you two have free time and are just lazing around, what better way to pass time as adults than making a sex scene?

18. Sex takes away frustration. There is nothing as frustrating as having a hard on or a wet vagina and throbbing clitoris and no one to attend to it. Blessed are you when you have a spouse who will not let your hardness or wetness go to waste 

19. Sex takes away the need for porn and masturbation. Why touch yourself, lust after porn stars when you have the real deal?

20. Sex helps you build up memories to talk about in your retirement years. One day your penis and vagina will retire, when they do,  you two will look back and remember the sexy things you did

When you do it this way, it stops being just sex, it becomes making love. May your marriage have a healthy sex-life made by you two 

© Dayan Masinde