HOW TO MAKE YOUR HUSBAND FEEL LIKE A KING

HOW TO MAKE YOUR HUSBAND FEEL LIKE A KING

1. Be a Queen in your own right. Be confidently you. This makes him feel he has a strong person who can hold her own next to him

2. Be proud of his achievements and efforts, especially when he goes out of his way to be there for the family

3. Don't greet him with issues when he comes home. Greet each other warmly when he comes home, when he has relaxed and you have found out how each other has been, then talk about issues 

4. Don't let the home be filled with drama. It is easier for the wife to stay in the house but for husbands, when there is drama, they easily tend to avoid being at home

5. Don't make major decisions without consulting with him, not because you need his approval but to demonstrate you are doing life with him. Don't be Miss Independent. Marriage is about interdependence

6. Don't gossip about him to your friends or bad mouth him behind his back. A King values loyalty 

7. Stay faithful to him. Just because you are beautiful and sexy doesn't mean you entertain other men.  Show him your sexiness and beauty belongs to only him

8. When he does wrong, correct him with love, know when is the right time to let him know he is on the wrong. Don't let that wrong cancel all the other good he has done for you for years

9. Speak to him with a tone of love and respect. It's not what you say but how you say it 

10. Have great intimacy with him, you are the one he comes to for comfort, relaxation, pleasure, rejuvenation and rest; don't push him away 

11. Make him feel needed. Ask for his help and assistance even when you can do it on your own. A King loves to save the day of his Queen and feel like he is adding value 

12. Talk Kingdom talk. Talk great things about the two of you and your family; your investments, your goals as a couple, how can you two maximize your potential, how can you raise great children of excellence. A King loves vision-driven conversations, not talks full of complaints, past mistakes, fea

IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIED?DO THESE TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH

IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIED?

DO THESE TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH

1) GIVE YOUR EX HOLY SPACE 

 Especially the Ex that still loves You. 

To Avoid "I don't know how it happened?" 

Thw ex that keeps sending you flirty messages, showing up where you are, when your partner is not around. 

He or she will tell you different things.

"I just want us to hang out, nothing will happen". Lori Iro

"I won't bite, just a peck, for old times sake". Lori Iro

Run oh....

Before your X becomes Y your Relationship or Marriage crashed. 

2) AVOID "BESTIE" OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER OTHER THAN YOUR PARTNER

Your Partner is alive, breathing and kicking, you're doing bestie with somebody else from the opposite gender, your Fiance/fiancee/Husband/Wife is not bestie material?

You are looking for trouble.

"He's just my Prayer Partner." Oshei oh,

Prayer Partner kor, Black Panther ni 

"She's just my Confidant". 

"We are just hangout buddies." 

Egungun be kaiful.. Express is not far oh. 

3) DON'T ALLOW YOUR HEART CATCH FEELINGS.

The moment you notice that you are getting attracted physically/Sexually/emotionally to someone else other than your partner,

You can't wait to see them, hear them, hang out with them, touch them and vice versa, Withdraw from such an individual.. Before your Relationship/Marriage will withdraw from you.

(c) Musa Gift

#MG 

#MARRYWELL

#RELATIONSHIPHEARTBITS

WHAT MEN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT WOMEN:

WHAT MEN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT WOMEN:

1. Women fall in love through a man's words, they stay in love because of his actions

2. They find it a turn off when a strange man uses intimate names like "Dear", "Sweetheart", "Love" on them. He might think saying so impresses her, but to her she finds it cheap, that he uses those intimate names on any random lady

3. Before you tell her "I love you", be sure you know the meaning, depth, weight and responsibility of those words

4. She loves to be slowly unveiled, don't push or rush her

5. Even though her heart believes in love, she needs convincing as to why she should love. It is up to you to call her heart out from hiding

6. Awaken love in her only if you are serious

7. Honesty is key, tell her the truth no matter how painful or difficult it is to bear, she will love and trust you more for it

8. Women think of sex too, but it is a side of her preserved for her special man

9. Women love attention, the moment she notices you don't give her attention, she reads that as things falling apart between you two

10. The best gift you can give a woman is your time. You can buy expensive gifts but if you rob her you, the expensive gifts mean little to her. Her indicator of love is your time

11. Every woman wishes her man would confide in her but often women find men to be guarded and she feels helpless on how to get to him. Share with her your troubles, fears and hopes; she wants you to need her

12. There is a difference between love and being in love. Loving you is her personal choice, being in love with you is dependent on how good you treat her and excite her

13. When you keep secrets you make her insecure. The easiest way to make her feel safe and secure is by empowering her with information. Let her know your friends, your schedule for the day, alert her when you will be busy and not able to talk or meet and she will understand

14. It is one thing to say you love her, it is another thing to make her feel loved.

WHEN YOUR WIFE ENJOYS TALKING WITH YOU

WHEN YOUR WIFE ENJOYS TALKING WITH YOU

Women love conversations. In fact, the worst thing you can ever do to your wife is to make her feel lonely, single and ignored in marriage.

Make your wife enjoy talking with you.

1. Create time to be with her, don't let it get to the point where she has to beg you to be with her 

2. Have emotional conversations with her, listen. Do not be Mr. Facts all the time. Even you as a man have an emotional and vulnerable side, embrace it 

3. Ask her how her dreams and life goals are  going. Most husbands expect the wife to help him achieve his dreams but have no idea about the dreams of the wife. Show concern and be supportive 

4. As much you can, come home early to her and the children. Don't give her the exhausted you where she is trying to make a connection but you black out to sleep on the sofa. Don't tip toe into the home late at night when she is asleep, she will feel ignored 

5. Use the bed, not just for sleeping and sex but also for intimate conversations: pillow talks

6. Give her eye contact when she is talking to you. Don't let her compete with your phone or the television 

7. Don't shout at her or intimidate her.  A wife is not supposed to live in fear. You ought to be her safe spot 

8. Don't belittle her conversations, ideas or feelings. If something is important to her, let it be important to you 

9. Randomly call her or text her, not to give her a task, but just because you thought of her

10. Call her by a sweet name; "Hun", "Love", "Sherrie"... and don't call any other woman by that name. A woman who is made to feel special enjoys to talk 

11. Know when it is time she just wants to be listened to and when she is in need of your advice. Discern. Sometimes she just wants to be heard 

12. Start the day on a good note with her, tell her something like "Good morning Beautiful" and end the day on a good note, tell her something like "Good night Love".How a woman starts and ends the day with her husband means a lot

DEAR LADY, APPRECIATE YOUR MAN:

DEAR LADY, APPRECIATE YOUR MAN:

1. Appreciate your man if he treats you well. It is hard to find a good man

2. Appreciate your man if he is faithful to you. It is easier to find an unfaithful man than it is to find a faithful one

3. Appreciate your man if he works hard to provide for your family,no matter how much or little he brings home. This world has alot of lazy men

4. Appreciate your man if he can handle the stains in your dark past. It is hard to find a man who can understand you and love you despite your mistakes

5. Appreciate your man if he shows you off to other women. He is proud to be your man

6. Appreciate your man if he takes time to listen to you. He cares

7. Appreciate your man if he loves being sober. Far too many men are lost in alcohol

8. Appreciate your man if he tells you his secrets, if he lets you see his weaknesses and is naked and vulnerable to you. Men don't open up or trust easily

9. Appreciate your man if he has never beaten you up. Out there are many hurting women physically abused but your man uses his strength to protect you

10. Appreciate your man if he tells you the truth no matter how painful it is. An honest man is reliable, you can trust him

11. Appreciate your man if he corrects you when you wrong. He is looking out for you

12. Appreciate your man if he is not too proud to apologize when he wrongs. He is trying to be better for you, give him a chance

13. Appreciate your man if he asks about your family. He respects the people in your life

14. Appreciate your man if he marries you instead of cohabiting with you so casually. He wants to spend his life with you and he wants to enter into marriage the right way

15. Appreciate your man if he is patient with you. Many men give up easily

16. Appreciate your man if he tells he loves you. Those words are not easy to come by from a man

17. Appreciate your man if he puts effort to make you happy. He values your smile

18. Appreciate your man if he runs to you for help.

THE BUILDING OF THE AFRICAN UNION HEADQUATRES: OH MY AFRICA

THE BUILDING OF THE AFRICAN UNION HEADQUATRES: OH MY AFRICA 

[First posted 13th August 2022]

Do you know that the African Union headquarters in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, where African leaders converge to discuss affairs concerning Africa biannually and which also serves as a conference center for African and diaspora businesses, were built and donated by the Chinese government? The magnificient building was started in 2009 and completed in 2012 at a cost of 200 million dollars. The architect was Chinese, the designer was Chinese, and the builders were Chinese. We are saying that the 55 African states could not provide 200 million dollars to African architects, engineers, or bricklayers to build what is supposed to be Africa's most important building. It is not all. The Chinese government also installed all the computer and communication gadgets in the building via Chinese computer experts. 

"In 2018, the French newspaper Le Monde reported that China had installed listening devices in its headquarters. The report alleged that servers in the AU headquarters were secretly sending data to a computer system in Shanghai each night between midnight and 2 a.m." The Chinese government denied this and other allegations of spying on the African Union. Despite all these allegations, the heads of the 55 African states have continued to meet at least twice a year in a building that needs only a Chinese to repair a faulty microphone. 

This is what happens when people lose their culture and identity. This is what happens when people wake up every morning to remind their children that they are slaves, third class citizens of the world, and creatures of a lesser God. This is what happens when people are brainwashed to believe that they do not have what it takes to solve their day-to-day wahalas by themselves. This is what happens when a people's educational or academic curriculum is designed by foreigners. This is what happens when people cut themselves off from their ancestors. This is what happens when people depend on a savior who does not live in them. The poor man is not the one without money, but the one who has lost a sense of dignity and shame. 

Fada Angelo Chidi Unegbu 

August 2022