Wednesday, 1 May 2024

IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIED?DO THESE TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH

IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIED?
DO THESE TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH

1) GIVE YOUR EX HOLY SPACE 

 Especially the Ex that still loves You. 

To Avoid "I don't know how it happened?" 

Thw ex that keeps sending you flirty messages, showing up where you are, when your partner is not around. 

He or she will tell you different things.

"I just want us to hang out, nothing will happen". Lori Iro

"I won't bite, just a peck, for old times sake". Lori Iro

Run oh....

Before your X becomes Y your Relationship or Marriage crashed. 

2) AVOID "BESTIE" OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER OTHER THAN YOUR PARTNER

Your Partner is alive, breathing and kicking, you're doing bestie with somebody else from the opposite gender, your Fiance/fiancee/Husband/Wife is not bestie material?

You are looking for trouble.

"He's just my Prayer Partner." Oshei oh,

Prayer Partner kor, Black Panther ni 

"She's just my Confidant". 

"We are just hangout buddies." 

Egungun be kaiful.. Express is not far oh. 

3) DON'T ALLOW YOUR HEART CATCH FEELINGS.

The moment you notice that you are getting attracted physically/Sexually/emotionally to someone else other than your partner,

You can't wait to see them, hear them, hang out with them, touch them and vice versa, Withdraw from such an individual.. Before your Relationship/Marriage will withdraw from you.

(c) Musa Gift
#MG 
#MARRYWELL
#RELATIONSHIPHEARTBITS

ANGER MANAGEMENT RULES FOR COUPLES

ANGER MANAGEMENT RULES FOR COUPLES

1. Know that anger is a normal and human emotion

2. Know the temperament of your spouse and yourself. Are you or your spouse hot tempered, or slow to anger? This will equip you on how to better handle yourself and your spouse

3. Do not get comfortable using curse words and insults; if you do, most likely you will use those hurtful words when you are angry. Decide that your tongue will be clean even when aggravated. It is so painful to have a spouse who tells you "F*ck you", "Stupid", "Whore"; such cursing and insults are hard to heal from when they are coming from your spouse

4. When you or your spouse are angry, learn to keep quiet or walk away. Refrain from talking lest you say something hard to take back 

5. Even as you walk away, keep the channel of communication open. Don't turn off your phone or run away with no way to reach you

6. Never hurt your spouse because you feel hurt by spouse. Revenge leads to more mess, hurt and deterioration. Be the bigger person

7. Resolve issues quickly. Sit down and have a candid talk no matter how painful it is

8. Develop a culture of touch. Touching each other: A hug, a gentle rub on the hand or back, a hold at the waist; this warms up your loving spouse to you

9. Pray. In the midst of your anger, pray. In the midst of your spouse's anger, pray. Prayer moves people

10. Play worship music. Worship God. A spirit that loves God will be calmed down in an environment of worship

11. Remember the bigger picture. When you are angry, it is easy to focus on the current emotion; but don't forget just how far you and your spouse have come from. Don't throw away a love so good out of a moment of anger

12. Double, triple check the decisions you make when angry. In fact, refrain from making decisions when anger. Angry decisions often lead to regret

13. Go out of your way to please your spouse. Do a gesture to your spouse that shows care and affection; cook, serve your spouse.

MEN STOP DATING A LIABILITY!

MEN STOP DATING A LIABILITY!

1. A girl who doesn't have transport fare to visit someone that she claims she love. (liability) 

2.  A lady who can't get you birthday or valentine gift but expect you to bring down the world for her during hers.(liability) 

3. Someone who can't comfortably call you on phone for 5 minutes.
Always flashing, complaining and requesting for data and airtime...(liability) 

4. I wonder how some Men cope with ladies that think relationship is an occupation where she's supposed to be paid and taken care of??
(S*x is not a benefit to only men.). She might not even allow you have the s*x, yet you keep spending on her like government. (liability) 

5. Stop dating a liability no matter how beautiful she is. Beauty is a bonus, focus on her content!
Date a lady who can add something meaningful to your life.
Things like: financial intelligence, emotional intelligence, spiritual intelligence.

6. Date someone who's capable of managing multiplying whatever she has and the ones you give to her, your soul will be at peace!
Not someone that will always be at the receiving end.

7. We're not saying she must be rich.
But let her have something doing no matter how little it is, because no matter how much money you make, she must be able to assist you during the rainy days...

Some of you boys just see nyash and be willing to sell everything you have just to make it work,  you might give her 100K today she'll say "thanks" but when you call her tomorrow and tell her to visit you she will say "send TPT" (liability) 

Two good heads are better than one👌👌. .

2 THINGS NOT TO DO EARLY ON IN A RELATIONSHIP


1) BECOME TOO POSSESSIVE

A Relationship is on the verge of beginning, or it has just begun,

You can't believe your eyes and ears,

You: 1
Village people: 0

 You are in a relationship, wow, you made it, you now have someone to tell all the sweet nonsense you have been rehearsing since. 

Hey, calm down..

If you don't, you will spoil something.

Relax.., take it slow,

Don't become so possessive too soon, calling them 7 times a day, texting them all day, following them bumper to bumper, showing up at their place as if you don't have work again, are you a sta.lker abi serial kí.ller?

Asking them to go out with you everyday, as if they don't have a life of their own again. 

Give them breathing space.

Be busy

Let them miss you. Scarcity drives up demand (and vice versa) 

Don't abandon your friends and focus on them, don't stop reading, writing, working on your own life just because you want to give them attention...

Stop canceling all your appointments and schedules just to rush to their side.

You'll come out as desperate and needy and your desirability will reduce. 

2) DIVULGE TOO MUCH

It's still early, you're still getting to know them, and their capacity,

Be careful what you say early on in a relationship, it could backfire and chase them away.

Don't dump everything about your exes, your family, your sufferings, your baggage all on them in the first few weeks of being In the relationship,

If they ask, no problem..
You can even say "don't worry, I'll tell you at the right time" 

Learn to keep some information till later.

Certain informations can spook and scare people away before they have had a chance to get to know the real you.
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Be Wise

For every single/dating/courting person out there, I pray you find the Relationship that will lead to the Marriage of your dreams.

#Musa Gift 
#MARRYWELL
#RELATIONSHIPHEARTBITS

BARBARÌSM IS NOT CULTURE ❌

BARBARÌSM IS NOT CULTURE ❌

Masquerades are very important component of the people of Nsukka cultural zone in Enugu state. They come in different colours, shapes and sizes and appear at various times of the year depending on communities, called Odo, especially in Aku, Igbo-Etiti Local Government Area; some other popular masquerades in the Nsukka zone are Oriokpa of Nsukka, Ogede of Orba and Akatakpa of Obollo Afor both in in Udenu Local Governmenet Area.

Unfortunately, this beautiful aspect of the Igbo culture has become a nightmare to the people of Nsukka zone as today; traditional rulers, church leaders, leaders of thought and indeed security agencies are faced with thei challenge of controlling the atrocities of masquerades.

The wanton barbarism and brutality associated with masquerades in some communities have become big source of concern; as they molest visitors and natives at will including girls and women, particularly during masquerade festivals. In fact, certain persons have lost their lives in the hands of masquerades in the area.

In the past,two catholic priests were waylaid and beaten to stupor by daredevil masquerades in Ogbodu-Aba, Udenu Local Government Area.

The two priests, were dragged out of their car by a group of masquerades and beaten like condemned criminals as reported,
Adding salt to injury, the crowd that gathered couldn’t even help matters, instead they encouraged and hailed the masquerades to go on with the abominable and mischìevous act which left one of the priest sustained serious injuries,affected his vision and was referred to a specialist hospital in Lagos while the other  had since been treated and discharged from hospital.

Investigation showed that masquerades have had very ugly encounters with church leaders, especially, clerics of the Catholic faith, in recent times.

In 2016, it was reported that a seminarian on one year apostolic work at one of the parishes at Orba, in Udenu Local Government Area was attacked by a group of of masquerades along Orba/Nsukka road. The seminarian was left with broken leg by his attackers; he sustained injuries and was hospitalised for more than six months.

In April 2017, A seminarian, escaped déath by whiskers when some masquerades attàcked him at the Ugwuoye axis of Nsukka town. The seminarian who was on six weeks apostolic work somewhere in  Nsukka on his way to pay electricity bill at the Enugu Electricity Distribution Company (EEDC), Nsukka District, when he was rounded up by the masquerades and beaten to coma. He also had his head severely injured.

When there was upsurge in r0bbery in the Nsukka zone in September 2015; masquerades were fingered in the snatching of people’s handsets, laptops and even motorbikes in broad daylight. One of such incidents which took place in Ovoko, Igbo-Eze South Local Government Area involved a pregnant woman.The attack which claimed the woman’s life attracted huge condemnation, but was not followed by any punitive measures on the perpétrators.

In fact, their activities ceased momentarily when the woman diéd; in Ovoko as reported but few weeks later, they continued unleashing terr0r on the innocent citizens again.

It was gathered that the  woman was on her way to a maternity home when the masquerades stopped her,beat her mercilessly, resulting in excess bleeding and her eventual déath.

Lately, A nurse on uniform going on her way to duty was brutally messed up by these sets of h00ligan in the name of masquerade where she ran into the gutter.

The above listed are pure wickedness and typical act of barbarìsm.. 

Is it that the traditional rulers doesn't know what to do about this ?

Is it that Local Government or state Government doesn't know what to do on this incessant act or barbarìsm masquerading as culture in the society? 

How long do we keep quite watching and  allowing masquerades continue molesting and wreaking havoc on the Innocent masses and  more especially the  priests?.”

Can't we have measures to checkmate the excesses of these masquerades?

“These masquerades are gradually turning Nsukka into full blown terr0rist zone in the name of promoting culture and we don’t want them to turn Nsukka into a violence prone area because of masquerade. We want our community to remain as peaceful as ever.”

I know that some masquerades doesn't know but the sponsors or someone who knows should tell them that
In 1999 Constitution Chapter four fundamental human rights: there is a provision for right to dignity of human person.

“In the first provision, it stated that nobody should be subjected to torture. But these masquerades don’t know anything about your right, your liberty or your freedom of anything. They can abuse you; torture you contrary to the provisions of the constitution.

“We have freedom of expression, freedom of movement, they don’t allow you to move about, they have so much abused it that at times they use the opportunity to stéal which is completely against the express provision of fundamental human rights, and I don’t think that is culture. A culture does not mean violation of another person’s right.”
Many people are unhappy that masquerades that should be source of unification and cultural development have become threát to people of the area and have therefore, called for their outright ban or at best, limiting of their days of outing in different communities.

Only the few who praise the brutality from these masquerades have kept  me wondering the following:

If they are yet to realize that Nsukka is no longer the small village it used to be?

If they don't know that Nsukka is now a town filled up with people from different parts of the country?.

If they don't know that most of these masquerades beating needs to stop?

Doesn't they know that some of these Masquerades have messed up culture using this as an avenue for hein0us crìme. Etc.

In summary, Masquerades are gradually turning Culture into Barbarìsm and Barbarìsm is not culture.

Your's Sincerely, Dr Hero Victor Emeka Okechukwu 

#DrHero

We keep pushing ✅

*A CHRISTIAN WORKER’S GUIDE TO FRUITFULNESS*

*A CHRISTIAN WORKER’S GUIDE TO FRUITFULNESS*

*“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me.” (John 15:4)*

Today, the first of May is known as International Workers Day. In many countries, it is observed as a public holiday to celebrate workers' contributions to national development. For us Christians, today is a day to remember the man who taught Jesus Christ how to work and because of whom Jesus was addressed as ‘the Carpenter’s Son’. While we join the world to celebrate workers, we celebrate St. Joseph, the head of the Holy Family. This feast was instituted by Pope Pius XII in 1955. Coincidentally, today’s readings present some salient points on achieving fruitfulness as workers.   

*1. Do Not Be Distracted By Traditions:* Every organisation (company or group) has certain codes of conduct that guide its staff or members. Some of these codes have been practised for many years and may have lost their relevance over time but have become ingrained in the mentality of such organisations. For instance, in today’s first reading, some men from Judea brought a disturbing teaching to the Christian converts: “Unless you are circumcised according to the custom of Moses, you cannot be saved.” Meanwhile, circumcision was only a sign, not the essence of the covenant with God. “You shall circumcise the flesh of your foreskins, and it shall be a sign of the covenant between you and me.” (Genesis 17:11). By emphasising circumcision, these Jewish Christians did not realise the importance of Christ’s sacrifice on the Cross. Are there traditions around my work that have lost relevance over time? 

*2. Stay Connected to Jesus:* There is a saying that “What is beyond six is more than seven.” As a worker in any field, pay attention to your spiritual life and do not depend solely on your human efforts and skills. Jesus tells us today: “Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can you unless you abide in me.” Listen to Jesus daily. Obey God’s commandments. Do not worship money. Today, many business people, including so-called Christians, get entangled with the devil, all in the name of protecting their business. By so doing, they mortgage their souls. The devil can never bless you.   

*3. Glorify God By Your Work:* “If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you. By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be my disciples.” (John 15:7-8). As a Christian worker, remember that you are a missionary. In other words, we should aim for productivity and fruitfulness. Beyond doing your job excellently to satisfy your customers and employers, aim to win souls for God. This can only happen when you are prayerful and abide in (study) God’s Word daily. Remember, you cannot give what you don’t have. You cannot convert your fellow workers if you are not well-grounded in God’s Word or are not prayerful.

*4. Make St. Joseph Your Role Model:* As a worker, emulate the virtues of St. Joseph, which include righteousness – a commitment to do what is right and not cut corners, protection of the family – being ready to take risks for the good of those under your care, hard work and diligence – see work as a blessing and not as a curse, chastity – avoid all forms of immorality, obedience to God – seek to please God above everything else, silence – let your actions speak louder than your words, prudence – never rush to decide anything; sleep over the issue and let God speak to your heart. When work gets hard and tough, ask St. Joseph to pray to God on your behalf, and He who wasn’t afraid of work will intercede for you. 

*Let us pray:* Almighty, ever-living God, grant me the grace to abide firmly in you always. Through Jesus Christ, Our Lord. Amen 

*Remember, amid all challenges, choose to be happy. Live with a positive mindset and believe in God’s plan for you. God bless you abundantly. (Wednesday of the 5th week of Eastertide or Saint Joseph the Worker. Bible Study: Acts 15:1-6, Ps. 122:1-5, John 15:1-8).*

Fr. Abu