Friday, 11 April 2025

CAN AN IMPOTENT MAN BECOME A ROMAN CATHOLIC PRIEST?


 My Answer may surprise you…”

According to Church law, impotence is not an impediment to priesthood. Since priests are celibate, sexual function isn’t required for ordination.

But in Nigeria, it’s common for dioceses to require an impotence test before ordination. And not everyone is okay with that.

Take My friend Emeka, a seminarian in his final year. After 9 years of formation, prayer, and study, he received a letter from the diocesan office:

“All candidates are to undergo a full medical exam, including an impotence test.”

He was shocked. Why test something I’ll never use? he wondered. Isn’t celibacy enough? Emeka felt hurt — like his spiritual journey was being reduced to a medical report. 

In places like Nigeria, where priests are deeply visible figures, this step is more than medical — it’s pastoral prudence. It guards the Church, the priest, and the people of God.

So yes, an impotent man can become a priest. But in some places, the path includes unexpected tests — not out of mistrust, but out of love and responsibility.

Before ordination: Can impotence affect a man’s ordination?

Yes and No
According to Canon Law, there is no requirement for a man to be sexually potent in order to be ordained a priest.

But… in practice, it can become a concern if:

1. It’s linked to deeper medical or psychological issues

If the impotence is part of a larger health condition (e.g., hormonal imbalance, severe anxiety, trauma, or a congenital disorder), the bishop or superiors may pause or postpone ordination — not because of the impotence itself, but to assess:

Can he handle the rigors of ministry?

Is he emotionally and mentally stable?

Will he need ongoing treatment or support?

2. It raises questions about transparency or maturity

If the seminarian hides his condition or is dishonest about it, that can be more problematic than the impotence itself. The Church values truthfulness, transparency, and readiness.

3. Local customs or expectations apply

In some dioceses (like parts of Nigeria), the impotence test is a local requirement. If a candidate fails the test, the bishop may delay or withhold ordination — not because of Canon Law, but because of pastoral concerns, cultural expectations, or the potential for scandal.

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Monday, 7 April 2025

Placebo Effect

A prisoner was sentenced to death by hanging, but a group of scientists wanted to test the limits of human belief and the power of the mind. They told him that instead of a hanging, he would be killed by a venomous snakebite. 

To make it more convincing, they showed him a large, terrifying cobra. The prisoner, filled with fear, was then blindfolded. Unbeknownst to him, the scientists used a sharp needle to prick his hand in the same spot where a snake's fangs would strike, simulating a snakebite. 

As they watched from a distance, the prisoner, believing he was poisoned by the snake, began to feel the effects of venom coursing through his body. 

Despite there being no actual venom, the man’s belief in the snakebite led to his rapid physical decline. Within minutes, the man collapsed and died.

This phenomenon, though shocking, is known as the placebo effect where belief and expectation can bring about real physical outcomes. It illustrates just how powerful the mind can be. 

The mind can shape our reality, either for better or for worse. In this case, the prisoner’s belief in his fate was so strong that it caused his body to react as though the bite had truly occurred, even though it had not.

This story teaches us a crucial lesson: our thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions have a profound impact on our well-being. What we believe about ourselves and our lives can either uplift us or tear us down. 

Therefore, it’s essential to maintain a positive outlook, as our minds have the potential to shape our realities. Never underestimate the power of your thoughts. Choose to believe in your strength and potential, for your mind can be your greatest ally in overcoming challenges.

300 ENGLISH IDIOMS AND THEIR MEANINGS:


1. A piece of cake - Something very easy to do.
2. Hit the nail on the head - To describe exactly what is causing a situation or problem.
3. Break the ice - To initiate conversation in a social setting.
4. Cost an arm and a leg - To be very expensive.
5. Let the cat out of the bag - To reveal a secret.
6. Barking up the wrong tree - To pursue the wrong course of action or to have a mistaken belief.
7. Don't cry over spilled milk - Don't waste time worrying about something that has already happened and cannot be changed.
8. Kick the bucket - To die.
9. Jump on the bandwagon - To join a popular trend or activity.
10. Bite the bullet - To endure a painful or difficult situation.
11. Break the camel's back - To be the final straw that causes a situation to become intolerable.
12. Cut to the chase - To get to the main point without wasting time.
13. Fish out of water - To feel uncomfortable in a new or unfamiliar situation.
14. It's raining cats and dogs - It's raining heavily.
15. Kill two birds with one stone - To accomplish two tasks with a single action.
16. Miss the boat - To miss an opportunity.
17. Once in a blue moon - Very rarely.
18. Paint the town red - To go out and have a wild or enjoyable time.
19. Pull someone's leg - To tease or joke with someone.
20. Take the bull by the horns - To confront a difficult situation directly.
21. All ears - Fully attentive and eager to listen.
22. Burn the midnight oil - To work late into the night.
23. Don't judge a book by its cover - Don't form an opinion based solely on appearances.
24. Get cold feet - To become nervous or hesitant about doing something.
25. Keep an eye on - To watch or monitor closely.
26. Make a long story short - To summarize something briefly.
27. Out of the blue - Unexpectedly or without warning.
28. Put all your eggs in one basket - To risk everything on a single venture.
29. Spill the beans - To disclose secret information.
30. Under the weather - Feeling unwell or sick.
31. A dime a dozen - Very common and not valuable.
32. Back to the drawing board - To start over again because a previous attempt was unsuccessful.
33. Don't put all your eggs in one basket - Do not risk everything on one opportunity.
34. Go the extra mile - To make additional effort or do more than what is expected.
35. Hit the sack - To go to bed.
36. Kick the can down the road - To postpone dealing with a problem.
37. Make hay while the sun shines - To take advantage of an opportunity.
38. On the ball - Alert, competent, and efficient.
39. Piece of the pie - A share in something, especially profits.
40. Take it with a grain of salt - To be skeptical about something or not take it too seriously.
41. Break a leg - A way to wish someone good luck, especially before a performance.
42. Cut corners - To do something in the easiest or cheapest way, often sacrificing quality.
43. Drive someone up the wall - To irritate or annoy someone greatly.
44. Get off on the wrong foot - To start a relationship or activity badly.
45. Keep your chin up - To stay optimistic in a difficult situation.
46. Make a mountain out of a molehill - To exaggerate the importance of something small.
47. Penny for your thoughts - A way to ask someone what they are thinking about.
48. Put your best foot forward - To make a good impression by trying your hardest.
49. Save face - To avoid embarrassment or humiliation.
50. The ball is in your court - It's your turn to make a decision or take action.
51. Beat around the bush - To avoid addressing an issue directly.
52. Don't count your chickens before they hatch - Don't assume success before it's certain.
53. Elephant in the room - An obvious problem or issue that everyone ignores.
54. Feather in one's cap - An accomplishment or honor to be proud of.
55. Give someone the cold shoulder - To intentionally ignore or snub someone.
56. Hit the ground running - To start something quickly and with great energy.
57. In hot water - In trouble or facing difficulties.
58. Jump the gun - To act prematurely or before the appropriate time.
59. Let sleeping dogs lie - To avoid stirring up old conflicts or problems.
60. Needle in a haystack - Something extremely difficult to find.
61. On thin ice - In a risky or precarious situation.
62. Play devil's advocate - To argue the opposite side of an issue for the sake of debate.
63. Rule of thumb - A general principle or guideline.
64. Straight from the horse's mouth - Directly from the original or authoritative source.
65. Time flies when you're having fun - Time seems to pass quickly during enjoyable activities.
66. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush - It's better to have something certain than to risk losing it by trying to get something better.
67. Blood is thicker than water - Family bonds are stronger than other relationships.
68. Don't put the cart before the horse - Don't do things out of order.
69. Get a taste of your own medicine - Experience something negative that you have inflicted on others.
70. Have your cake and eat it too - To want more than is reasonable or possible.
71. Keep your fingers crossed - To hope for good luck or a favorable outcome.
72. Make waves - To cause trouble or disruption.
73. No pain, no gain - You have to work hard and endure difficulties to achieve success.
74. Play it by ear - To handle a situation without a definite plan.
75. Rome wasn't built in a day - Great things take time to accomplish.
76. The early bird catches the worm - Those who act promptly and decisively will have an advantage.
77. A penny saved is a penny earned - It's wise to save money rather than spending it needlessly.
78. Actions speak louder than words - What someone does is more important than what they say they will do.
79. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater - Don't discard something valuable while getting rid of something undesirable.
80. Get your act together - To organize yourself and start behaving in a more responsible or effective way.
81. Have a chip on your shoulder - To be easily offended or to hold a grudge.
82. In the same boat - In a similar situation or predicament.
83. Kill time - To pass time idly.
84. Make a silk purse out of a sow's ear - To turn something of low quality into something of high quality.
85. Put the cat among the pigeons - To cause trouble or upset a stable situation.
86. Sleep like a log - To sleep deeply and soundly.
87. Take the cake - To be the most outstanding or remarkable.
88. Wear your heart on your sleeve - To show your emotions openly.
89. All bark and no bite - To act tough or aggressive but not follow through with action.
90. Burn bridges - To damage relationships or opportunities to the extent that they cannot be repaired.
91. Cut the mustard - To meet expectations or perform satisfactorily.
92. Fish or cut bait - To make a decision or take action one way or another.
93. Go down in flames - To fail spectacularly.
94. Have a frog in your throat - To have a hoarse or strained voice.
95. Keep something at bay - To keep something under control or prevent it from happening.
96. Make a clean breast of it - To confess or admit to something.
97. Put the kibosh on - To put an end to something or to prevent it from happening.
98. Save the day - To prevent a disaster or resolve a difficult situation successfully.
99. Take the wind out of someone's sails - To deflate or undermine someone's confidence or enthusiasm.
100. You can't judge a book by its cover - You can't accurately assess something or someone based solely on appearance.
101. Bury the hatchet - To make peace or end a conflict.
102. Catch someone red-handed - To catch someone in the act of doing something wrong.
103. Drive someone round the bend - To annoy or irritate someone greatly.
104. Every cloud has a silver lining - There's something positive to be found in every negative situation.
105. Give it your best shot - To make the maximum effort to achieve something.
106. Hit the jackpot - To achieve a great success or win a large prize.
107. In the same boat - In a similar situation or predicament.
108. Jump through hoops - To go through a lot of effort or difficulty to achieve something.
109. Keep something under wraps - To keep something secret or confidential.
110. Live and let live - To accept other people's differences and beliefs without interference.
111. Make ends meet - To have enough money to cover expenses.
112. No stone left unturned - To make every possible effort to find or achieve something.
113. Pay the piper - To face the consequences of one's actions.
114. Queer the pitch - To spoil someone's plans or efforts.
115. Rub someone the wrong way - To irritate or annoy someone.
116. Take a rain check - To decline an offer or invitation but suggest that it could be accepted later.
117. Under the thumb - Under someone's control or influence.
118. Variety is the spice of life - Diversity and change make life interesting.
119. Weather the storm - To survive a difficult situation.
120. X marks the spot - A phrase used to indicate the location of something important or hidden.
121. Zip your lip - To remain silent or keep a secret.
122. A penny for your thoughts - A way to ask someone what they are thinking about.
123. Back to square one - To return to the starting point or to start over again.
124. Cut and dried - Something that is settled and unchangeable.
125. Devil's in the details - The important or critical aspects of something are found in the details.
126. Eat humble pie - To admit one's mistakes or faults publicly.
127. Fly by the seat of one's pants - To act without a clear plan or preparation.
128. Go off the deep end - To become irrational or extremely upset.
129. Have a skeleton in the closet - To have a secret or embarrassing past.
130. In the nick of time - Just in time, at the last possible moment.
131. Jump on the bandwagon - To join a popular trend or activity.
132. Keep something at bay - To keep something under control or prevent it from happening.
133. Like a bull in a china shop - Clumsy or reckless behavior that causes damage.
134. Make hay while the sun shines - To take advantage of an opportunity.
135. Not playing with a full deck - Not mentally or emotionally stable; lacking intelligence or common sense.
136. On cloud nine - Extremely happy or euphoric.
137. Paint oneself into a corner - To put oneself in a difficult or inescapable situation.
138. Quick on the draw - Very quick to react or respond.
139. See eye to eye - To agree or have the same opinion as someone else.
140. The apple of someone's eye - Someone's favorite person or thing.
141. Turn over a new leaf - To start anew or make a fresh start.
142. When pigs fly - Something that will never happen.
143. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours - Mutual cooperation or assistance.
144. A wolf in sheep's clothing - Someone who appears harmless but is actually dangerous or deceitful.
145. Bells and whistles - Extra features or embellishments that are not necessary.
146. Cry over spilled milk - To lament something that has already happened and cannot be changed.
147. Donkey's years - A very long time.
148. Get bent out of shape - To become excessively upset or angry about something minor.
149. Have a heart of gold - To be kind, generous, and compassionate.
150. Keep your powder dry - To be prepared for future challenges or opportunities.
151. A dime a dozen - Very common and not valuable.
152. All in the same boat - Sharing the same situation or circumstances.
153. Behind the eight ball - In a difficult or unfavorable position.
154. Bite off more than you can chew - To take on more responsibility than one can handle.
155. Cut to the chase - To get to the main point without wasting time.
156. Devil is in the details - The important or critical aspects of something are found in the details.
157. Eat crow - To admit that one was wrong or mistaken.
158. Fish out of water - To feel uncomfortable in a new or unfamiliar situation.
159. Green thumb - A talent for gardening or growing plants.
160. Hit the nail on the head - To describe exactly what is causing a situation or problem.
161. In the same boat - In a similar situation or predicament.
162. Jump on the bandwagon - To join a popular trend or activity.
163. Keep your nose clean - To stay out of trouble or avoid causing problems.
164. Let the cat out of the bag - To reveal a secret.
165. Money talks - Wealth has influence and power.
166. Not a spark of decency - Lacking basic manners or morals.
167. On cloud nine - Extremely happy or euphoric.
168. Pull someone's leg - To tease or joke with someone.
169. Rock the boat - To disturb the status quo or cause trouble.
170. Shoot the breeze - To engage in casual or idle conversation.
171. Spill the beans - To disclose secret information.
172. The early bird catches the worm - Those who act promptly and decisively will have an advantage.
173. Turn over a new leaf - To start anew or make a fresh start.
174. A wolf in sheep's clothing - Someone who appears harmless but is actually dangerous or deceitful.
175. Add insult to injury - To make a bad situation worse.
176. All ears - Fully attentive and eager to listen.
177. Back to square one - To return to the starting point or to start over again.
178. Cat's out of the bag - The secret has been revealed.
179. Devil's advocate - Someone who argues against a popular opinion or belief.
180. Elephant in the room - An obvious problem or issue that everyone ignores.
181. Get the ball rolling - To start or initiate something.
182. In the same boat - In a similar situation or predicament.
183. Keep your chin up - To stay optimistic in a difficult situation.
184. Let sleeping dogs lie - To avoid stirring up old conflicts or problems.
185. Make a long story short - To summarize something briefly.
186. No harm, no foul - If there is no damage done, there is no reason for blame or punishment.
187. Out of the blue - Unexpectedly or without warning.
188. Penny for your thoughts - A way to ask someone what they are thinking about.
189. Play it by ear - To handle a situation without a definite plan.
190. Rain on someone's parade - To spoil someone's plans or celebrations.
191. Save face - To avoid embarrassment or humiliation.
192. Take a rain check - To decline an offer or invitation but suggest that it could be accepted later.
193. Under the weather - Feeling unwell or sick.
194. You can't judge a book by its cover - You can't accurately assess something or someone based solely on appearance.
195. A fish out of water - Someone who is out of their element or uncomfortable in a particular situation.
196. All bark and no bite - To act tough or aggressive but not follow through with action.
197. Break a leg - A way to wish someone good luck, especially before a performance.
198. Catch someone's eye - To attract someone's attention.
199. Don't count your chickens before they hatch - Don't assume success before it's certain.
200. Every cloud has a silver lining - There's something positive to be found in every negative situation.
201. Fish or cut bait - To make a decision or take action one way or another.
202. Go down in flames - To fail spectacularly.
203. Have a frog in your throat - To have a hoarse or strained voice.
204. Keep something at bay - To keep something under control or prevent it from happening.
205. Make a clean breast of it - To confess or admit to something.
206. Put the kibosh on - To put an end to something or to prevent it from happening.
207. Save the day - To prevent a disaster or resolve a difficult situation successfully.
208. Take the wind out of someone's sails - To deflate or undermine someone's confidence or enthusiasm.
209. You can't judge a book by its cover - You can't accurately assess something or someone based solely on appearance.
210. A fish out of water - Someone who is out of their element or uncomfortable in a particular situation.
211. All bark and no bite - To act tough or aggressive but not follow through with action.
212. Break a leg - A way to wish someone good luck, especially before a performance.
213. Catch someone's eye - To attract someone's attention.
214. Don't count your chickens before they hatch - Don't assume success before it's certain.
215. Every cloud has a silver lining - There's something positive to be found in every negative situation.
216. Beat around the bush - To avoid addressing an issue directly.
217. Don't cry over spilled milk - Don't waste time worrying about something that has already happened and cannot be changed.
218. Elephant in the room - An obvious problem or issue that everyone ignores.
219. Feather in one's cap - An accomplishment or honor to be proud of.
220. Give someone the cold shoulder - To intentionally ignore or snub someone.
221. Hit the ground running - To start something quickly and with great energy.
222. In hot water - In trouble or facing difficulties.
223. Jump the gun - To act prematurely or before the appropriate time.
224. Let sleeping dogs lie - To avoid stirring up old conflicts or problems.
225. Needle in a haystack - Something extremely difficult to find.
226. On thin ice - In a risky or precarious situation.
227. Play devil's advocate - To argue the opposite side of an issue for the sake of debate.
228. Rule of thumb - A general principle or guideline.
229. Straight from the horse's mouth - Directly from the original or authoritative source.
230. Time flies when you're having fun - Time seems to pass quickly during enjoyable activities.
231. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush - It's better to have something certain than to risk losing it by trying to get something better.
232. Blood is thicker than water - Family bonds are stronger than other relationships.
233. Don't put the cart before the horse - Don't do things out of order.
234. Get a taste of your own medicine - Experience something negative that you have inflicted on others.
235. Have your cake and eat it too - To want more than is reasonable or possible.
236. Keep your fingers crossed - To hope for good luck or a favorable outcome.
237. Make waves - To cause trouble or disruption.
238. No pain, no gain - You have to work hard and endure difficulties to achieve success.
239. Play it by ear - To handle a situation without a definite plan.
240. Rome wasn't built in a day - Great things take time to accomplish.
241. The early bird catches the worm - Those who act promptly and decisively will have an advantage.
242. A penny saved is a penny earned - It's wise to save money rather than spending it needlessly.
243. Actions speak louder than words - What someone does is more important than what they say they will do.
244. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater - Don't discard something valuable while getting rid of something undesirable.
245. Get your act together - To organize yourself and start behaving in a more responsible or effective way.
246. Have a chip on your shoulder - To be easily offended or to hold a grudge.
247. In the same boat - In a similar situation or predicament.
248. Kill time - To pass time idly.
249. Make a silk purse out of a sow's ear - To turn something of low quality into something of high quality.
250. Put the cat among the pigeons - To cause trouble or upset a stable situation.
251. Sleep like a log - To sleep deeply and soundly.
252. Take the cake - To be the most outstanding or remarkable.
253. Wear your heart on your sleeve - To show your emotions openly.
254. All bark and no bite - To act tough or aggressive but not follow through with action.
255. Burn bridges - To damage relationships or opportunities to the extent that they cannot be repaired.
256. Cut the mustard - To meet expectations or perform satisfactorily.
257. Fish or cut bait - To make a decision or take action one way or another.
258. Go down in flames - To fail spectacularly.
259. Have a frog in your throat - To have a hoarse or strained voice.
260. Keep something at bay - To keep something under control or prevent it from happening.
261. Make a clean breast of it - To confess or admit to something.
262. Put the kibosh on - To put an end to something or to prevent it from happening.
263. Save the day - To prevent a disaster or resolve a difficult situation successfully.
264. **Put your best foot forward** - To make a good impression by trying your hardest or presenting oneself in the best possible way.
265. Take the wind out of someone's sails - To deflate or undermine someone's confidence or enthusiasm.
266. You can't judge a book by its cover - You can't accurately assess something or someone based solely on appearance.
267. A fish out of water - Someone who is out of their element or uncomfortable in a particular situation.
268. All bark and no bite - To act tough or aggressive but not follow through with action.
269. Break a leg - A way to wish someone good luck, especially before a performance.
270. Catch someone's eye - To attract someone's attention.
271. Don't count your chickens before they hatch - Don't assume success before it's certain.
272. Every cloud has a silver lining - There's something positive to be found in every negative situation.
273. Beat around the bush - To avoid addressing an issue directly.
274. Don't cry over spilled milk - Don't waste time worrying about something that has already happened and cannot be changed.
275. Elephant in the room - An obvious problem or issue that everyone ignores.
276. Feather in one's cap - An accomplishment or honor to be proud of.
277. Give someone the cold shoulder - To intentionally ignore or snub someone.
278. Hit the ground running - To start something quickly and with great energy.
279. In hot water - In trouble or facing difficulties.
280. Jump the gun - To act prematurely or before the appropriate time.
281. Let sleeping dogs lie - To avoid stirring up old conflicts or problems.
282. Needle in a haystack - Something extremely difficult to find.
283. On thin ice - In a risky or precarious situation.
284. Play devil's advocate - To argue the opposite side of an issue for the sake of debate.
285. Rule of thumb - A general principle or guideline.
286. Straight from the horse's mouth - Directly from the original or authoritative source.
287. Time flies when you're having fun - Time seems to pass quickly during enjoyable activities.
288. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush - It's better to have something certain than to risk losing it by trying to get something better.
289. Blood is thicker than water - Family bonds are stronger than other relationships.
290. Don't put the cart before the horse - Don't do things out of order.
291. Get a taste of your own medicine - Experience something negative that you have inflicted on others.
292. Have your cake and eat it too - To want more than is reasonable or possible.
293. Keep your fingers crossed - To hope for good luck or a favorable outcome.
294. Make waves - To cause trouble or disruption.
295. No pain, no gain - You have to work hard and endure difficulties to achieve success.
296. Play it by ear - To handle a situation without a definite plan.
297. Rome wasn't built in a day - Great things take time to accomplish.
298. The early bird catches the worm - Those who act promptly and decisively will have an advantage.
299. A penny saved is a penny earned - It's wise to save money rather than spending it needlessly.
300. Actions speak louder than words - What someone does is more important than what they say they will do.

Friday, 4 April 2025

15 Lies You Should Never Believe About Your Wife


Dear Men,

Your wife is not just a companion but a vital part of your journey. She is your partner, your confidante, and the one who shares in your triumphs and struggles. The way you perceive and treat her determines the peace, progress, and longevity of your marriage. Here are 15 common lies you should never believe about your wife misconceptions that can ruin a relationship and cause irreversible damage.

1. Your Wife Is a Mistake in Your Life

She is not a mistake but a blessing. If you made the choice to marry her, then she has a purpose in your life. Learn to appreciate and nurture that bond instead of regretting it.

2. You Can Succeed by Neglecting Your Wife

A neglected wife becomes an unhappy wife. Ignoring her needs, emotions, and presence will only create resentment and distance. A man’s success is often linked to the peace and support he receives at home.

3. You Can Cheat on Your Wife and Go Scot-Free

Infidelity always comes with consequences. You may think you’re getting away with it, but emotional damage, broken trust, and even karma will catch up with you.

4. You Did Your Wife a Favor by Marrying Her

Marriage is a partnership, not charity. You both chose each other. She brings value to your life just as you bring value to hers. Marriage should never be seen as a one-sided privilege.

5. Sex with Your Wife Will Destroy Your Anointing

Intimacy in marriage is not a sin; it is a divine gift. A loving and fulfilling sexual relationship with your wife strengthens your bond it does not weaken your spirituality.

6. Sex with Another Woman Is Better Than with Your Wife

Desire fades, but love, trust, and emotional connection last. Seeking excitement outside your marriage is a dangerous illusion that often leads to regret.

7. Your Wife Is Your Slave

She is your partner, not your servant. Marriage is built on mutual respect, love, and shared responsibilities, not control and oppression.

8. Your Wife’s Opinion Does Not Matter

Her voice is valuable. Ignoring her wisdom, concerns, and advice weakens the foundation of your marriage. A wise man listens to his wife.

9. Your Wife Knows Nothing

Underestimating her intelligence is a mistake. She has insights, instincts, and experiences that can help you grow. A man who dismisses his wife’s wisdom loses a powerful ally.

10. There’s Something in Another Woman’s Body That Your Wife Doesn’t Have

Every woman is unique, but the idea that someone else’s body offers something ‘better’ is misleading. If you are constantly seeking something different, the problem is not your wife—it’s your mindset.

11. Your Wife Can Raise Your Children Alone

Parenting is a shared responsibility. A father’s presence, guidance, and love are just as crucial as a mother’s. Leaving the burden of child-rearing solely on her weakens the family structure.

12. The Best Way to Correct Your Wife Is to Beat Her

Violence is never a solution. A real man communicates, corrects with love, and builds his wife up rather than tearing her down with abuse.

13. Your Wife Is So Strong That She Doesn’t Need Your Help, Attention, and Affection

She may be strong, but she still needs your love, care, and support. Strength does not mean she doesn’t get tired, feel unloved, or need reassurance.

14. God Is Not Aware of How You Treat Your Wife

Every action, word, and treatment you give your wife is seen by God. A man who mistreats his wife cannot expect divine favor and peace in his life.

Final Thought

Your wife is your partner, your helper, and your support system. Marriage flourishes when built on love, respect, and mutual appreciation. When you honor your wife, you honor your marriage.

"A real man loves his wife and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and contentment in life than simply being a good husband and father.

*𝐄𝐗𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏 𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐓𝐔𝐒*





*1.  A leader is a servant to all. If you don't have the heart to serve others without looking for a reward, you are not yet a leader.*

*2.  If you can't withstand criticism and can't withstand and survive the havoc of hate speech, you are not yet a leader.*

*3.  If you don't have the power of forgiving and forgetting, you are not yet a leader.*        

*4.  If you stop doing good because nobody recognizes your kind gesture, you are not yet a leader.*

*5. If you see your followers making mistakes, but you keep quiet saying, "If they don't call me for advice, I will allow them to learn by experience." Your attitude depicts that you are not yet a leader.*

*6. Do you have the "Pull Them Down Syndrome (PhD)"? When you see someone doing better than you, what do you do, encourage or pull them down?*

*7. A genuine leader should not desire the downfall of his followers who are better than him/her.*

*8. If you close doors for your subordinates because you are afraid they will be far better than you, you are not yet a leader.*

*9. If you don't produce your kind. You are the only champion doing great and mighty things, you are not a good leader. Never forget that every good leader must have a better successor.*

*10.  As a leader, you must feed on knowledge. Don't be stagnant, improve yourself personally, spiritually, emotionally, professionally, mentally, relationally, sincerely, and educationally, so you can make an impact.*

*11.  As a leader, be a ladder for others to climb to the top. Don't pull them down. Your desire should be to make your followers better than yourself.*

*12. Be humble, let them learn from your mistakes. Do not watch them grope in darkness when you can guide them as light.*

*13.  A leader should be compassionate. How can you be comfortable when your followers are living in abject poverty?*

*14.  A leader should have the heart of a father. A father leads and ensures his family is safe. A good leader should provide for his people sacrificially without using them for his agenda.*
 
*15.  A leader should have the heart of a mother. When the child is sick, the mother runs helter-skelter to ensure his/her quick recovery. Why do you pretend you don't know your followers are suffering?*

*16.  A leader should not allow evil people to make him wicked. No matter how good you are, some people will not like you.*

*17.  A leader should not allow evil to prevail in the land because of his interest. Sinful associates will want to build a nest of sin around an honest leader and entice him into it. Don't allow that. Do what is right for conscience's sake and leave the rest.*

*18.  A leader should not be partial in judgment. There is always the need for honest, sincere, and forthright leaders. We always need leaders who can be fair in judgment.*

*19. Be a voice for the voiceless in society without fear or favour. Treat the rich and the poor alike with love and kindness. Do you have the loving heart of a leader?*

*20. You are probably wondering if this article is meant only for our leaders over there. You are wrong. It is meant for you. I mean you that is reading it now. You are a leader in your sphere of influence.*

*21. You wonder, "Really, I don't think so. I am just a follower." You are far from the truth. Believe it or not,  you are a leader. You might be under training but know that you are a leader all the same.*

*22. Do you intercede for your people? A good leader lifts his followers to God in sincere heart-felt prayers all the time.*

*In your home etc, you are a leader. Start making an impact from there.*

*Remember charity begins at home.*

*Wherever you are placed to watch over people, please be a good leader.🙏*

*Don't just be a leader, be a great one. Don't be selfish, greedy, and a cheat, subordinates are watching you.*

*Being a leader is a privilege. Don't misuse it,  and neither should you take undue advantage of your subordinates.*

Choice


Choice🛡

Sometime ago, A friend of mine was so much in love with a girl, and that was his dream girl😍 
She gave him hope and taught him alot about life that he never seen. She showed him the true meaning of love and friendship. She opened a way for a better living for him and showed him God and taught him how to pray. 
 He saw his life revolving around the girl. Nothing, I mean life is nothing without her, me too saw it😁

The girl was loved and welcomed by his family.  They (family) were waiting for him to introduce her to them as his fiancee. 

One day, the girl called him on phone, telling him they needed to see. When they met, she broke the news that she'll be getting married to someone else soon. That was the sickest news and worst heartbreak of his life. He couldn't feel himself anymore, all of his body was shaking as he was speechless. 

He came back and told me everything with tears. I was seeing a man in pain, losing what he cherished most. I felt like crying with him but I couldn't. 
He said to me: Junior, I will fight for love this time. She can't marry him. I will stop the marriage. 

Wow... He was ready to lose any other thing but not her. I asked him to calm down first, but he say that he can never find a girl like her again. It was a hell for him to let her go in his heart. We talked severally before he understood that she made her choice and that's the best for her. 

At times, things doesn't go as we plan, but that doesn't mean the doors are close. 
That you were not chose doesn't mean that you are not good enough or she was not making her choice right. 
All of us knows what is better for for ourselves. You don't have to convince someone they'll accept you. 
 
There are things you don't have to fight for. Ask yourself, is it worth fighting for? 
Is what am fighting for truly mine? 

Yes, she can be the queen of your heart but her throne is in another person's heart. Don't give yourself to someone who doesn't deserve you because you feel you so much love him or her. 
Do you know that someone can feel pity for you as she or he is dating you and you assume it as love. 

Bro, you don't have to lie about your business before she accepts you. You don't need to pretend to show that you love her. You don't need to get the whole world to her feet to prove your love for her to give you green light. You don't have to wear expensive clothes before she finds attractive. Be the better man you have to be. 

A President's daughter can choose a barrow pusher over a billionaire. It's just choice of heart. A good man doesn't beg for love, his own loving heart attracts love. 

If someone doesn't see as that person for him, even if you give your life him he will still blame you for your death. You have to check if you are truly needed.

Choice must be made no matter what. As they say; Good things never end. What is yours will come and you won't even struggle to have it. 
The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh... ~ Genesis 2:23
This is a man that found peace and what he asked from God. Adam knew it that this is the real and right thing for him. 

~ Ifeanyi Valentine Okeke 

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