NO MARRIAGE WITHOUT TROUBLE..👉

Husband must understand that wife is a soft creature her need is one who will love and pet her despite her age, if you can satisfy her with your love and petting, trouble will be less. Wife must understand that husband is a strong creature, authority as the head is working with his brain, he don't tolerate any challenge or proving you are this or that to him, he needs one who will be submissive to him, if you can satisfy him with your submission, you have already solve many problems. Your marriage is not for advertisement, don't use video act to judge your partner.  There are no trouble- free marriages. Many couples have gone through what you're going through. Some gave up and walked away. Others gave up but decided to stay for the sake of their children or social status. But there are those who decided to persevere even when everything seemed impossible. They kept their vows in the face of impossible challenges. They kept loving even when they felt like leaving. They had immovable faith in God's ability to solve their problems. They didn't lose hope even when they prayed without end and heaven seemed silent. They did not revenge even when they would've been justified. They forgave. They waited. They praised and they worshiped and they did not give up. Finally, God answered their prayers and healed their marriages. Their tests became testimonies and trials turned into triumph. "Nothing is impossible with God." If you don't lose hope, if you can pray for your marriage always, if you don't revenge, if you can forgive, if you can wait, knowing that it takes time to build a home, if you can apply endurance, perseverance, etc. God will give you best from that marriage in Jesus name 🙏🙏 🙏

9 Challenges of Being the Second Wife

Relationshipscome and go, and that’s to be expected. What’s not typically expected is becoming a second wife.

You didn’t grow up thinking; I can’t wait until I meet a divorced man! Somehow, you probably have always pictured someone who has never been married.

It doesn’t mean that it can’t be wonderful. It doesn’t mean that it won’t last. It just means that being a second wife comes with a lot of challenges along the way.

Here are challenges of being a second wife to watch out for:

1. Negative stigma

“Oh, this is your second wife.” There is just something you feel from people when they realize you are the second wife; like you are the consolation prize, only second place.

One of the disadvantages of being a second wife is that for some reason, people are far less accepting of a second wife.

It’s like when you are a kid, and you have had the same best friend since you were a baby; then, suddenly, in high school, you have a new best friend.

But by then, no one can picture you without that first friend. It’s a hard stigma to run away from and can lead to many second marriage challenges.

2. The statistics are stacked against you

Depending on the source, divorce rates are pretty scary. A typical statistic out there now says that 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, and 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.

Why is it higher the second time around? Could be many factors, but since a person in the marriage has already gone through a divorce, the option seems available and not as scary.

Obviously, it doesn’t mean your marriage will end, just that it is more likely to than the first.

3. First marriage baggage

If the person in the second marriage who was married before didn’t have children, then chances are they never have to even talk to their ex again. But that doesn’t mean that they aren’t a little wounded.

Relationships are hard, and if things go wrong, we get hurt. That’s life. We may also learn that if we don’t want to get hurt again, to put up a wall, or other such adjustments.

That kind of baggage can be detrimental to a second marriage and undermine any benefits of being the second wife.

4. Being a stepparent

Being a parent is hard enough; in reality, being stepparent is out of this world hard.

Some children may not accept a new mother or father figure, so instilling values or upholding rules with them may prove difficult.

This can make for a challenging home life from day to day. Even if children are more or less accepting, the ex more than likely won’t be ok with the new person in their child’s life.

Even extended family like grandparents, aunts, and uncles, etc., may not ever see you as an actual “parent” of the other person’s biological child.

5. A second marriage gets serious quick

Many first marriages start with two young, giddy people, unfettered by the realities of life. The world is their oyster. They dream big. Every possibility seems available to them.

But over the years, as we get in our 30s and 40s, we mature and realize that life just happens, no matter if you plan for other things.

Second marriages are like that. Second marriages are like the mature version of you getting married again.

You are a little older now, and you learned some harsh realities. So second marriages tend to have less of the giddiness and more of the serious daily life attached.

6. Financial issues

A married couple that stays together can rack up plenty of debt, but what about a marriage that ends?

That tends to bring with it even more debt and insecurities.

There is splitting the assets, each person taking on whatever debt there is, plus paying attorney fees, etc. Divorce can be an expensive proposition.

Then there is the hardship of making a living by yourself as a single person. All of that financial mess can translate into a financially difficult second marriage.

7. Nontraditional holidays

When your friends talk about Christmas and having the whole family there together—you’re over there thinking, “The ex has the kids for Christmas…” Bummer.

There are many things about a divorced family that can be nontraditional, especially holidays. It can be challenging when you expect those normally happen times of the year to be a certain way, but then they aren’t so much.

8. Relationship issues we all face

While a second marriage can be successful, it’s still a relationship composed of two imperfect people. It is still bound to have some of the same relationship issues that we all face from time to time.

It can be a challenge if wounds from old relationships aren’t quite healed.

9. Second wife syndrome

Even though there can be many advantages of being a second wife, you might feel inadequate when filling the spaces left behind by the ex-wife and kids.

This can lead to a much-known phenomenon known as the ‘second wife syndrome.’ Here are some signs that you have allowed the second wife syndrome to fester in your home:

• You constantly feel that your partner knowingly or unknowingly puts his previous family before you and your needs.
• You get easily insecure and offended as you feel that everything your spouse does revolve around his ex-wife and kids.
• You find yourself constantly comparing yourself with his ex-wife.
• You feel the need to establish more control over the decisions of your partner.
• You feel stuck and feel as if you do not belong where you are.

Being a second wife to a married man can be overwhelming, and if you are not cautious enough, you might find yourself stuck in a loop of insecurities.

Hence, before you embark on your marital journey, you must understand the second marriage problems and how to handle them.

Rachael Pace

Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships Read more

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𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗡𝗔𝗞𝗘𝗗 𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗧𝗛 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗟𝗜𝗘.

The Truth and the Lie meet on the road one day. The Lie says to the Truth: “It’s a marvelous day today”!

The Truth looks up to the skies and sighs, for the day was truly beautiful. They walk together for a while, until they reach a beautiful well. 

The Lie tells the Truth: “The water in the well is very nice, let’s take a swim together!” The Truth, once again suspicious, tests the water and discovers that it indeed, is very nice.

They undress and start the bathe. Suddenly, the Lie jumps out of the well, puts on the clothes of the Truth and runs off towards a nearby village. The furious Truth leaps out of the  well and runs to find the Lie and get her clothes back. 

The Villagers, seeing the Naked Truth, are horrified and look away with contempt and rage.

The poor Truth returned to the well and disappeared, forever hiding her shame.

And since then, the Lie travels around the world, dressed as the Naked Truth, satisfying the needs of society, because, the world in any case, harbours no wish at all to meet the Naked Truth.

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BIG SECRETS IN MARRIAGE!

             Secret 1

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

            Secret 2

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

            Secret 3

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

              Secret 4

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

             Secret 5

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance 

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness 

Third party influence 

Stinginess

Stubbornness 

Lack of love 

Rudeness

Laziness 

Disrespect 

Cheating 

Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

             Secret 6

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages. 

              Secret 7

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

             Secret 8

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future.  Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

            Secret 9

Marriage is not a contract. It is  permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

            Secret 10

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

So today let us pray for our marriages. Send to those you care about because you never know who you may be helping. 

May God bless you all.

WIDOW CRIES FOR JUSTICE OVER INTIMIDATION, MALTREATMENT IN NNEWICHI

- Accuses Humphrey Ngonadi (Ngobros) And Chidi Odogo For Intimidation, Maltreatment And Forceful Encroachment On Her Husband's Property 

It is said that silence in the face of injustice is injustice itself. Following the constant cry for help from Mrs Rose Odogo, the wife of Late Mr. Samuel Chukwuemeka Odogo of Okpuno Nnewichi, Nnewi in Nnewi North LGA of Anambra State over unbearable intimidations, maltreatments and attempting to forcefully take over her husband's properties by Mr Humphrey Ngonadi (Ngobros) And Mr. Chidi Jasper Odogo. 

NnewiNorth Online swung into action to hear the true side of the story.

Mrs Rose Odogo narrated her ordeal and threat to her life and the lives of her children following her refusal to sell the said portion of her late husband's land to Mr. Humphrey Ngonadi who had on countless occasions approached her to buy the land at the sum of Twenty Million Naira, to which she vehemently refused the offer.

In a separate interview with Mrs Rose and her children, it was gathered that Mr. Humphrey Ngonadi and Mr. Chidi Jasper Odogo (her late husband's brother) has resulted to series of intimidations and maltreatments, including using armed thugs and weapons for years to frustrate the Widow into giving up on her late husband's land. She equally narrated how Mr. Chidi Odogo locked up her husband's corpse and her children in a room for three days, which made the corpse to swell so bad until the intervention of Obi Nnewichi, Chief George Onyekaba on whose orders the house was broken for the dead body to be buried.

The eldest son of Mrs Rose Odogo, Arinze Odogo who also spoke in an interview with Nnewi North online narrated the series of attacks, blackmails and torture he has been facing from Mr. Humphrey Ngonadi and Mr. Chidi Odogo over their refusal to sell his father's land to them. He said, that he has been accused of being a cultist with a petition written against him but, he was set free following the intervention of his kindreds who came out openly to speak the truth.

Arinze accused Mr. Humphrey Ngonadi (Ngobros) of being a medlesome interloper, trying to reap where he didn't sow and using his Uncle to drag his father's land, despite the will and sharing of the properties of the late Chief Odogo which was very clear before the law and everyone.

He told Nnewi North online that it was because of the series of threats and maltreatment from Humphrey Ngonadi and Chidi Jasper Odogo that made them took the decision to sale off the said land and seek refuge from another place to enable them have their peace. He narrated how he heard about Mr. Emeka Chukwueloka who later bought the said land after much deliberation and paid in full as work has ever since commenced in the said portion until Chidi Jasper Odogo and Humphrey Ngonadi instituted a court action against the new legitimate owner of the land.

What we are saying is that the family of late Mr. Samuel Chukwuemeka Odogo of Okpuno Nnewichi, Nnewi have unanimously sold our own portion to Mr. Emeka Chukwueloka of Abubor Nnewichi, Nnewi, hence ceased to be legitimate owners of the land after receiving full payment for the land, let Mr. Humphrey Ngonadi (Ngobros) And Chidi Jasper Odogo allow us some peace for us to move on with our lives.

We are calling on the Anambra State Government led by Mr. Governor, Professor Charles Chukwuma Soludo , the Anambra South Senator, Sen. Patrick Ifeanyi Ubah and other various authorities to please intervene in this matter because, the threats to our lives increases by the day.

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👉A FATHERLY AND MOTHERLY ADVICE TO A YOUNG MAN SEARCHING FOR A WIFE.👈

My son, I will be very raw and sincere with you. Do not worry about the size of a woman buttock or breast but worry about the size of her heart and brain including sincerity. Worry about the size of her love and endurance including faithfulness. Because after 5 or 10 years, it will not be about the breast or buttock. As you can see, your mum now has a flat chest and almost flat buttock but we still live together happily, I still love her and she still love me. Be careful of a woman that loves money. I mean the woman that talks ‘every time’ about her hair, clothes, shoes, bags panties and make-ups. Marriage is not all about these things. Without make-up, clothes, shoes and panties a good marriage will still stand but without love, no marriage can stand.

When I got married to your mum and when your mum get married to me, I didn't have a car or house of my own. I was not even educated. But I had dreams and she appreciate and support me. Any woman that does not support your dream is not worth thinking -a-minute about. There are women that will see your dreams better than you, you are lucky if you find one, My son, open your ears very well, there is a kind of woman you should avoid, do not make a mistake to marry this kind of woman or you will regret it. I mean a woman that always has bad things to say about everyone . If you see this kind of woman, run away. One of the worst kind of woman you can marry is the one that complains about everything. If you buy this, she says you should have bought that, if you do this, she said you should have done that.

Please stay away!

Most women enjoy talking but the one who talks for two hours and listen for two minutes is a potential ‘bomb'. Be wise Be very careful of a pretending partner. A pretending woman is not hard to know. She will always know everything about everything, she will be careful. Just close your eyes and open your heart and you will see!