SCARCITY OF HUSBAND

HUSBAND SCARCITY has become one of the challenges faced by many young ladies today. If you go to prayer houses,churches and native doctors shrine majority of the intentions are prayers for life partner, and this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of "HUSBAND SCARCITY" problem or there were more men than women? i don't think so....maybe then, women had values and were prepared and preferred to build a home and not to pack into a built home. I was told that, in those days, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciate him and help him to build a future but these days...All ladies prefer to marry a ready made man.

Honestly, ladies created husband scarcity themselves and now reverse is the case. Go to social media the first time you are chatting with a lady the next thing is can you help me with (airtime,money for one thing or the other). When you said no they will blocked you and give you a tittle (broke or stingy man). Ask an average girl to define her dream husband, you get things like...he has to be tall, handsome, fair, rich, own a house, be presentable, and will add GOD fearing in order not to sound worldly.

Just imagine 40 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is one and he gonna pick one, then what becomes of 39 others?

You hear them saying,i can't suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man. That is why some of them fall into the hands of evil men because of the standerd.

My dear, let me tell you the truth MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAMME, it's a mission of building the family of God here on earth.

You don't even know you maybe the person that will help him to that destination fast.

NOTE: I am not saying you should pick any man that comes your way(a man that can not feed himself) or if a rich guy comes you should not marry him. Get me right.

PLEASE Look beyond the physical.

Work by faith not by sight.

May God give us better Understanding.

Road to GOLDEN JUBILEE

30yrs of togetherness in

love.....Thanks for the love and care you've shown me since I was a kid till this very moment. Not even a day have you two turn back on me.I pray for God to shower more love,health, and life on you two.

Love you Dad & Mum

Winning the medal is not always the ultimate price.

Kenyan runner Abel Mutai was only a few meters from the finish line, but got confused with the signs and stopped, thinking he had finished the race. A Spanish man, Ivan Fernandez, was right behind him and, realizing what was going on started shouting to the Kenyan to keep running. Mutai did not know Spanish and did not understand. Realizing what was going on, Ivan Fernandez pushed Mutai to victory. A reporter asked Ivan, "Why did you do this?" Ivan replied

My dream is that one day we can have some sort of community life where we push ourselves and help each other win." The reporter insisted "But why did you let the Kenyan win?" Ivan replied, "I didn't let him win, he was going to win. The race was his."

The reporter insisted and asked again, "But you could have won!" Ivan looked at him and replied: "But what would be the merit of my victory? What would be the honor of this medal? What would my Mother think of it?"

What values do we teach our children and how much do you inspire others to earn? Most of us take advantage of people's weaknesses instead of helping to strengthen them.

30 RULES TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you.You are each other's keeper.(Eph 5v12)

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.(Prov 15v13)

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.(Gen 2v24)

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)

. Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.(Deut 3v28)

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over your duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long(even the anointed ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.(Eph 4v31)

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam25v3)

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.(Luke 21v16)

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home. (Gal 6v9)

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork.(Gal 6v10)

21). Don't be too judgemental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.(Eph 4v29)

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food?, try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food. (Prov 31v14)

24). Never be too demanding to your husband,enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)

28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)

29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)

30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17)

Have a lovely day..... God help us

A wise man sayings

1. Never date your friend's wife, for you expose yourself to death;

2. Before closing the door to sleep, check if you haven't forgotten something outside;

3. If your friend makes a living, be happy, and the doors will also open your turn;

4. Do not speak too much before your elders, but listen to much;

5. If you find a wise father or a wise mother, consider them as your true parents;

6. If your friend gets married, be happy because your turn will come;

7. If someone wants you to help them, don't hesitate if you have the opportunity to do so, because you never know about the future;

8. Do not criticize a poor, for he can become rich in the future;

9. Don't crave a rich man when riding a carriage, for you don't know the source of his income;

10. Respect your prayers there is a good sign that shows your gratitude to your creator the good God.

JDPC ISSELE-UKU TRAINS AND EMPOWERS SOME ADOLESCENTS IN DIFFERENT VOCATION SKILLS

By Stephanie Ngozi Okoro

In keeping with her vision of having a society of freedom, hope and worthwhile living, JDPC Issele-Uku Diocese presented start-up kits to seven adolescents who were trained through her 4GATES OVC project. The event took place at Public Health Centre Ogwashi-Uku, Aniocha South LGA, Delta State on Wednesday, 28th July, 2021. It began at about 10:20am with an opening prayer, which was said by one of the participants. The welcome address was given by JDPC Program Manager, Mrs Lilly Ehbomhenhuele, who represented the Director, Rev. Fr. JohnBosco Ezeonwumelu, who was unavoidably absent.

The start up kits were then inspected by the invited guest with guidiance of the 4GATES HES Officer, Mrs Florence Ugbechie-Biose, under whose supervision the beneficiaries were trained. The beneficiaries of the start up kits were also given the opportunity to share their story so far and they equally expressed the joy in their heart as they saw their  kits. With tears of joy, they appreciated Caritas Nigeria and JDPC Issele-Uku for picking them from nothing and showed them a brim of light. One adolescent who was earlier  profiled for skill acquisition and who would have been part of this number opted out to continue her education. She would be re-enrolled back into school.

The start up kits were presented to the beneficiaries with admonitions from memebers of the high table, the representative of Caritas Nigeria, Mr. John Ukel and the 4GATES OVC Project Manager, Stephanie Ngozi Okoro.

The dignitaries present at the event included  the Deputy Chief Inspector for Education of Aniocha South, Executive Secretary (Health) of Aniocha South LGA, Aniocha South LACA Officer, Representative of the DSS Boss, Social Welfare Officer Aniocha North and the CARITAS Representative, Mr John Ukel. The Obi of Ogwashi-Uku, HRH Obi Ifechukwude Okonji was also represented. To spice up the occasion, light refreshments, which was made possible by the Obi of Ogwashi-Uku and Executive Secretary of Aniocha South, was shared to participants. The Obi of Ogwashi-uku also supported the beneficiaries with transport to enable them take their start up kits back home.

The event came to an end after the votes of thanks by one of the trainers and the Executive Secretary and the closing prayer, which was also led by the Executive Secretary of Aniocha South at about 1:30pm.

The 4GATES Caritas Orphans and Vulnerable Children (OVC) Project is a PEPFAR project sponsored the Centre for Disease Control (CDC) through Caritas Nigeria. Outside this, in the last one year, the project has also supported 42 caregivers to begin some income enerating activities (IGAs) to help them improve the livelihood of their households. Other 51 caregivers who are living in near destitution received cash transfers to meet their immediate family needs. As part of teaching them how to sustain themselves, over 800 households have been supported with seedlings for planting around their homes to help increase the intake of food with quality nutrients at no cost.

So far, about 250 household received water, sanitation and hygiene (WASH) kits  to help improve the hygiene in their homes, WASH messages were also given to them on monthly basis to help curb the spread of COVID  and other contagious infections.

About 3118 children, who did not have birth certificates have received their birth certificate through the collaboration of the Nigerian Population Commission (NPoPC). These children and many more were also given deworming tablets. Thanks to Surelife Pharmaceuticals Okwe and Vaccine Networks Ozoro who helped to provide us with deworming tablets for that exercise.

It is not an ended program yet. Beneficiaries have being able to have assess to soft loan through the engagement in village savings and loan association (VSLA), formed among themselves. Three of these groups are actively going on in Isheagu, Ogwashi-uku and Igbodo, more are yet to be formed. We are also in the process of collaborating with another project to give soft loans to some of them who would need to be assisted to boost their business.

Presently, 10 other adolescent have been profiled for training in different skills, 30 caregivers for IGAs and 8 caregivers for cash transfer. On the Education domain, bulk grant have been approved for Enede Primary school Nsukwa. We shall embark on the provision of toilet Facility and renovation of the restroom building. This grant will enable 23 children who are already in the school to attend school at no cost for two years. Apart from that, with special technical assistance from the Ministry of Basic and Secondary Education, all out of school children, who are enrolled in the program, in the different communities we work in, are being re-enrolled into the schools.

ZOO FUN

A graduate in zoology was having difficulties in finding job...... He saw an advert in one of the daily news paper for a job at a zoo.

At the interview, the manager told him that their gorilla which has been a tourists attraction has died, so they needed someone to dress and disguise as a gorilla since they have not been able to afford a new gorilla.

The graduate was embarrassed but since the salary was very okay and attractive, he accepted the job offer

On the first day, he put on the gorilla skin and entered the cage, started jumping up and down, beating his chest while roaring like a gorilla..

The next day, he put on the gorilla skin and started moving around the zoo again and mistakenly entered another cage untill he found himself starring at a lion , the lion roared and started moving towards him.

The scared graduate forgot that he was a gorilla and started shouting like a human being "help! help!! help!!!".,, The lion leaped onto him, knocked him to the ground and whispered onto one of his ear; emeka, it's me chibike your course mate, no fear, guy no work for these country,....., Infact you see that crocodile wey dey inside that water , Na ndubesi your class rep be that.

Just for fun

Mess with Intelligent People

When Nelson Mandela was studying law at the University, a white professor, whose last name was Peters, disliked him intensely.

One day, Mr. Peters was having lunch at the dining room when Mandela came along with his tray & sat next to the professor.

The professor said,

"Mr Mandela, you do not understand, a pig & a bird do not sit together to eat"

Mandela looked at him as a parent would a rude child & calmly replied,

*"You do not worry professor. I'll fly away,"*

& he went & sat at another table.

Mr. Peters, reddened with rage, decided to take revenge.

The next day in class he posed the following question:

"Mr. Mandela, if you were walking down the street & found a package, & within was a bag of wisdom & another bag with money, which one would you take ?"

Without hesitating, Mandela responded, "The one with the money, of course."

Mr. Peters , smiling sarcastically said,

"I, in your place, would have taken the wisdom."

Nelson Mandela shrugged & responded, *"Each one takes what he doesn't have."*

Mr. Peters, by this time was about to throw a fit, seething with fury. So great was his anger that he wrote on Nelson Mandela's exam sheet the word *"IDI0T"* & gave it to the future struggle icon.

Mandela took the exam sheet & sat down at his desk trying very hard to remain calm while he contemplated his next move.

A few minutes later, Nelson Mandela got up, walked up to the professor & told him in a dignified polite tone,

"Mr. Peters, *you signed your name on the sheet*, but you forgot to give me my grade."

ZOO FUN

A graduate in zoology was having difficulties in finding job...... He saw an advert in one of the daily news paper for a job at a zoo.

At the interview, the manager told him that their gorilla which has been a tourists attraction has died, so they needed someone to dress and disguise as a gorilla since they have not been able to afford a new gorilla.

The graduate was embarrassed but since the salary was very okay and attractive, he accepted the job offer

On the first day, he put on the gorilla skin and entered the cage, started jumping up and down, beating his chest while roaring like a gorilla..

The next day, he put on the gorilla skin and started moving around the zoo again and mistakenly entered another cage untill he found himself starring at a lion , the lion roared and started moving towards him.

The scared graduate forgot that he was a gorilla and started shouting like a human being "help! help!! help!!!".,, The lion leaped onto him, knocked him to the ground and whispered onto one of his ear; emeka, it's me chibike your course mate, no fear, guy no work for these country,....., Infact you see that crocodile wey dey inside that water , Na ndubesi your class rep be that.

Just for fun

FACTS ABOUT HEPATITIS

HEPATITIS is an inflammation of the liver.

MOST COMMON TYPES ARE :

Hepatitis B

A serious liver infection caused by the hepatitis B virus that's easily preventable by a vaccine.

Hepatitis C

An infection caused by a virus that attacks the liver and leads to inflammation.

Alcoholic hepatitis

Liver inflammation caused by drinking too much alcohol.

Autoimmune hepatitis

Inflammation in the liver that occurs when the immune system attacks the liver.

Hepatitis D

A serious liver disease caused by infection with the hepatitis D virus.

Hepatitis A

A highly contagious liver infection caused by the hepatitis A virus.

Hepatitis E

A liver disease caused by the hepatitis E virus. COURTESY: DIRECTORATE OF HEALTH ,NNAMDI AZIKIWE UNIVERSITY. WE CARE

WHO IS A WOMAN??

Having vagina, boobs, and hips doesn't make you a woman.

A woman is the one who feeds a man with encouragement and ideas 

A woman is the one who helps a man to save and invest wisely .

A woman does not run her mouth with sarcasm and insult just to prove a point, rather her words are gracious and can heal a broken heart .

A woman is the one that knows when to talk and to keep Quiet.

A woman is the one that doesn't leak secret. 

A woman is the one that is content with what she has, and not the one that sells her self for material things.

A woman is a manager, a caretaker,a womb that can nature and birth destinies .

A woman doesn't do trending things, but she is reserved and has a taste of a Queen.

A woman doesn't look down on any man because of his present state of life and financial status, rather she encourages any man to get better.

A woman is the one that does not just bears babies, but bear ideas and inspiration anytime, anywhere.

A woman  is the one a man can cry on her shoulders and not feel humiliated for doing so nor lose his value . 

A woman is not the one that deceive a man just to eat his money, but the one who is honest and sincere in any relationship.

.A woman. Is not the one that makes men feel terrible, but the one a man can run to for comfort.

A woman is the one that will spoil a man with honour  and respect because there lies her strength and integrity .

A woman is an influence, a nation and a helper. 

Many are females but only few can be called a woman.

Now ask yourself today, 

am I a woman.

Rules of courtship

1. Courtship is not where you choose who to marry, it is where you test your choice.

2. The beautiful thing is that the test in courtship is both ways, you are both a candidate and an examiner.

3. Even if you heard God, courtship is when you see how you match. What do you need to adjust and what is a prayer point?

4. You are both God's imperfect gifts. Courtship is where you learn the kind of imperfection you are dealing with.

5. Courtship is where you come to and may have to run back to God and ask 'is this the one or I should expect another?'

6. Oftentimes, courtship is God's major test for your own readiness. It can stretch you so hard your immaturity snaps.

7. When you start having sex, you have stopped courting, you have started marriage! That thing blinds too much.

8. The more premarital sex goes on in the world, the more marriages will fail because discipline and preparation is lost.

9. Failed courtships account for a lot of failed marriages. The lost art of preparation is the reason for bad performance.

10. Whilst I don't prescribe any length of time, you better get yourself some time before marriage to relate and familiarize; to appreciate who you both are on a basic level, to reasonably forecast the full weight of what your combination will be, to reasonably predict outcomes and appreciate signals of both pleasures and pressures.

11. Courtship must not end in marriage if you realize the choice was a mistake or the choice is corrupted. The next points will explain.

12. God anointed King Saul but rejected Him. God can give you a partner and because of their personal choices reject them before marriage.

13. I know you have been going out for so so and so years, but that's not enough to marry a person you suddenly realize is outside GOD'S order for you.

14. Don't lie to yourself about the truth in courtship; marriage tells bitter truths to those who lie such lies.

15. Don't stay in the relationship on blackmail when your heart knows it's over.

GRANNIES AND GRANDPA'S: A GIFT TO HUMANITY

"I am with you always..", Pope Francis says in his address regarding the celebration of the elderly and grandparents.

More often than not, we are so busy and occupied that we tend to forget about our lives ones. More especially our elderly ones, who have over the years nurtured us and brought us to become what we today. These persons which we are encouraged to celebrate today always commended us in prayer to God, advised us and even support us emotionally.

We are thus challenged by the soothing words of the Pope to make that promise of Christ to be with us always become a reality in the lives of our elderly ones.

Let me even ask, when last did you speak to your grandma and grandpa for those whose are still alive. Even those whose have departed this world, when last did you pray for the repose of their souls?? Let us examine our consciences today and begin to accord the elderly amongst us the respect they deserve.

May Ss Joachim and Anne, the grandparents of Jesus intercede for us all. Amen.

ACTING VICTIM!

I always hear ladies say "He just used and dumped me, after all I suffered with him, after all I did for him ".

My dear friend, if you didn't give him your kidney, sell your father's land or give him a loan to start a business, you did nothing.

That you drank garri with him is because you're also broke. If not, you would have prepared a decent meal. That you stayed in the gutters or under the bridge with him is not a sacrifice, because if you had a palace,you wouldn't have done that.

About using you, my dear, if it was a mutual agreement between both of you, then you shouldn't say he used you. You both had fun and used yourselves

The only reason you feel hurt and left out is because you abandoned yourself in his shadow. You lost yourself in him. While he is staying out at night thinking outside the box, while he's setting goals and achieving them, you were busy counting the days, waiting for him to blow or hammer .While he was investing in his future, you left yours stagnant without any meaningful long term plans. A young guy is struggling to survive, struggling to make it, but you will come in the name of girlfriend to ask him money for hair, shoes , cream, soap, pad, undies, thereby spending what he's supposed to be saving or investing , and in the end, you begin to wail on how he used and dumped you after suffering with him.

My dearest sisters, my point is, stop supporting him in bed. Start supporting his dreams, ideas, and vision. As he's struggling to establish himself, strive to make yourself relevant, add values to yourself, make your own money, too. Don't depend totally on him.

If you don't contribute anything tangible either in cash, assistance , anything that's progressive or crucial towards his success, don't play victim if he gets tired of the relationship.

Times have changed. Men are no longer the only ones winning bread , women are now bread winners, too.

Sex is not enough!

Love is not enough!

Have a purpose!

PROBLEMATIC MARRIAGE

You are a lady, you have no job, no handwork, no business, no trade that you are running nor has anything tangible in your hand as a means of support or a help to that man's struggle and you said you are ready 4 marriage.

What are you going there to do? Are you going there to burden that man with your life budgets ,kill him untimely with stress of meeting your needs when in the reality according to the word of God you are the one to be a help meet to any man you chose to be with, or what exactly are you going there to do?

Think ladies