Participant #53= SHIFT AND DESPERATION: SEX THIS, SEX THAT

Prologue: 

Have you ever noticed discomfort in the eyes of someone who has been asked not to do what gives them pleasure? I think most of us experienced such discomfort when we were younger. As a kid, I would always wish I left everything for others to do, like: house chores, going for errands and even helping at the farm. 

Whenever we are asked to leave our zones of relaxation, we feel that something has been taken away from us. One thing we fail to note when corrected is that - corrections shape our now and tomorrow. We must know thus, that pleasurable things give us thát comfort and happiness we pray for; they enable us to laugh out loud and we even dance some times when there is no sound of music around our environs, all because we are happy. But should pleasurable things be  pointers to abnormalities and atrocities? 

Today, people strive to find pleasure in some material things in the society. In Nigeria, there is no fear whatsoever among some people when it comes to what makes them happy. You hear statements like: Omo, that thing deh gimme joy, omo, I no fit leave that thing, and I must do am! Should we do anything that gives us pleasure, come what may? One of the things people feel must be done to be regarded as a PERFECT and COMPLETE person in our society today is having SEX. Little wonder why when we listen to some people as they discuss about sex, we hear so much about SEX: sex this, sex that. What a shift and desperation?!

Wrong Modifications and Affirmations:

Generally, when it comes to the topic of SEX, there is usually a lot of controversies. People, especially young adults have MODIFIED the ideology behind sex, making the letter A to appear like the letter B, and vice versa. Hmm! Some Nigerian societies have made what is abnormal to look normal and what is meant to be normal to look abnormal; the shift about SEX we see and hear today needs to be questioned to know the veracity - why the desperation about SEX? Sex should be a Mathematics that presents itself. I call it the Mathematics of creation as contained in the Torah or Old Testament - "... therefore, a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh." (cf. Gen. 2:24, New RSV - Catholic Edition). Here, sex should be enjoyed and consumed without fear and it should be for pleasure between the husband and his wife. 

Know the Gist: 

We hear illusions of pleasure regarding sex today where young adults make it normal. We must remember the Mathematics of creation stated earlier. Our concern now is, why is sex overrated in modern Nigerian society? I feel sex is overrated because some people feel it is that which gives the highest happiness and pleasure. I want to take us to the time of antiquity. In the Ancient world, where one of the greatest encyclopedic scholars of Philosophy, Aristotle, in his work "The Nicomachean Ethics" (Book 2 Chapters 6-9) asserts that "virtues lie in the middle." Here, we can say that sex should NOT be overrated or wrongly done by adults but should follow the Mathematics that is; hence, making sex have its sacredness and maintaining the meaning of sex that is set for legally married people. Permit me to put to us, if the thing the too do you, go and marry. Go and marry, Paul, go and marry, Amina. 

Furthermore, sex is not meant to be a thing of pleasure among young singles, the Mathematics of creation should teach us that sex is meant for procreation and pleasure ONLY among people who are legally married. There is a drift in what is meant to be about sex because our society presents it WRONGLY as we see teenagers who are not married involve in it. This has hit the SACREDNESS of sex a dirty blow, I am afraid this might WAX even to the apex where we shall be killed whenever we mention the abnormalities in the next generations. The SACREDNESS of sex therefore, needs to be told among youths and the aged to avoid the shift and desperation.

Finally, young adults today brag about sex, challenging themselves about body counts as if it is an achievement. Let me plead - TELL ME WHO HAS HAD SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE AND WAS GIVEN A TROPHY AFTERWARDS. SHOW ME THE PERSON AND I WILL TRY TO GO FOR MY TROPHY. 

Epilogue: 

There is a great shift from the usual to the unusual but it sits well with most people because of the MODIFICATIONS and APPROVALS made by some Nigerian societies. If and only if we try to be cultured, and suppress our sexual urges, sex would be SACRED again and the Nigerian society would be great again, shunning all vices and embracing goodness. 

Peace!

By: Achoghul Terhemba Jacob.