Sunday 6 October 2019

The Untalkative Man

As a quiet person, is it advisable that I marry a quiet girl or one who talks a lot?

It depends. Are you the kind of person who doesn't enjoy talking himself, but like being around people and enjoys listening to others talk? If so, you should marry someone who is talkative. If you are comfortable with long stretches of silence, and often feel bothered by chatter, marry a quiet girl.

I'm fat and my boy friend is slim and l don't feel comfortable with it

You can either slim down yourself or fatten up your boyfriend. Or, you could choose to be comfortable with your weight and his - if he is attracted to you the way you are, and you're attracted to him the way he is, nothing needs to change except your insecurity.

Spendthrift Cousin

I live with my first cousin. She found herself a boyfriend and I feel like the boy is using her. She spends a lot of money on him and then begs her dad for more while feigning illness. I feel like I should tell her to stop but then I feel like I should let her figure this out by her own...Should I or should I not talk her out of it?

Giving unsolicited advice usually isn't a good idea! Your cousin will simply be annoyed at you instead of realizing her mistake. Unless you are close to her dad (who is being cheated out of his money), stay out of it until she starts having her own doubts and comes to you for advice. If you do give advice, stay affirmative (i.e. say you deserve better than him, instead of you're silly for letting him use you).

I love you


A boy asked me to send him a voice note of me saying I love you to him, should I do it?

Not unless you actually love him! If you love him, go ahead.

Can exostosis melt?

An exostosis is an outgrowth of bone. It occurs usually due to constant irritation of the bone. There are conditions where multiple exostoses may occur as a hereditary condition. Exostoses normally cause no symptoms except for mild to moderate pain occasionally. It is usually noticed as a painless bump. In such cases, they require no treatment. Some exostoses may grow in size, or may be in a sensitive area causing pain. These may require surgical removal. However, chances of recurrence after surgery are high. Exostoses do not “melt”.

My husband comes home late almost every day what should I do... This is emotionally destroying me

First ask him why he is coming home late every day. Perhaps lately he has more work than usual. If he is hanging out with friends or spending time on outside interests, then you should tell him how this is affecting you. Work out a schedule that works for both of you. Perhaps he can promise to come home on time on certain days of the week, and later on others. If you know that he is going to be late on certain days, you can plan your day accordingly instead of stressing about when he'll be home!