Marriage councel

I Can't Imagine This!
Cruel world!

Please She want to know What Next!
Godly Counsel Please!

Good afternoon ma, please help me post on TMT and make me anonymous. I am 32yrs old and married for one year now no child yet. My younger sister who is 20yrs left the village to come stay with me after her secondary sch. After some times I noticed behaviors and chat between her and my husband that I wasn't comfortable, i reported her to my mum and sent her away never to come to my house again. She left and stayed with my immediate younger brother who stays in the same location with me. I took responsibility of her since her SS class and  was still taking care of her after she left my house by sending her 6k every week plus other things.

I was still interested in making her further her school and I bought jamb form for her this year, all these at a distance. Early this year, I fell sick and was hospitalized for a week. On coming back, I wanted to use my husband's phone to make a call, I saw several to and fro calls btw my sis and husband. I installed an app on hubby's phone to record their calls. I found out from the app that my husband calls her a and have sex with her as they pls. I have not confronted them yet. I want to ask married people in this house how I can manage this betrayal from this two. If I leave this marriage, does it mean I can't fight for my marriage? Can I ever forgive them? What should I do please

I have been married for the past 9yrs with three boys but I and my husband have never stayed more than one month together because of my work, I work somewhere far from my husband. he took that opportunity and picked a girlfriend whom he has a baby boy with, for the past five years my marriage have being hell for me, my husband insult me, shout at me, dislike my children, and so many things because I always complain about his other relationship the girlfriend on the other don't respect me even though I consider her child as mine, now my problem is, a little issue came up between us, and he called and my parents he can't stay with me anymore. n
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Question is ever since we got married, am the only one who apologize when we have issues, my husband doesn't know how to say sorry, now he is waiting for me to apologise once again for a crime I have not committed else our marriage will collapse. because I always apologise for peace, he feels am the only one who causes problem. Should I apologise once again for a crime I have not committed?

WHAT DID YOU DO?

I was at home and we had some visitors, so I decided to go upstairs to my mother's room to pray and study since she was busy with cooking in the kitchen. As I laid on the bed, I saw on the platform where she keeps things, a small quantity of sugar wrapped in nylon but engrossed by some tiny ants. Immediately, I took the sugar and dropped it on the floor where the rays of light coming from the sun can penetrate it. Then, I continued my prayers.
Suddenly, I heard the voice of God saying to me, *'Son, what did you do to the sugar?'*
I replied, I exposed it to sunlight! Then, God spoke again, *why didn't you start killing the ants one by one?*

I said, because I will be wasting time and of course no matter the number of ants, when the sugar is exposed to light, they will all disappear.
Then, God said, *Son, expose your life to light of the word when the 'ants' of worry, lack, pains, trials come to you. Don't attack the problem, just expose your life to the word of God, and the problem will be solved (disappear)*
Brothers and Sisters, what are the 'ants' surrounding your 'sugar' right now? Is it lack, delay, joblessness, barrenness, dryness, failure, disappointment, all manner of sinful habits and the vicissitudes of life? Simply, expose your life to the 'light of the word'.
Have you read the temptation of Jesus? I mean did you study it? What did you see? For me, I saw the exact illustration above in that context. Jesus had exposed Himself to the light of the scriptures and the enemy was unable to have a free run.
Do you know what would have happened to that small quantity of sugar? Little by little, the ants would have sucked it up and left nothing there. That is exactly the enemies' agenda for you and me but we are able to stop them when we are exposed to light, not by 'killing' them

Quick Lesson for ladies

I just want to teach some of the ladies out there a quick lesson.
It is no longer news that a lot of ladies move in with men that are not legally their husbands.
The guy promises them marriage and invites them to come to live with him. For some, it was just introduction. Aunty introduction is not marriage as long as he as not either put an official ring on that finger or paid your complete bride price depending on your tradition.

So, Aunty, you move in and start performing wife duties. You wash plate, sweep the house, wash his clothes, sleep with him on the same bed, have sex with him, some get pregnant, some abort while some keep the baby. You automatically turn baby mama.
Funny enough, uncle is not even saying a word about coming to see your parents, some times you ask him baba what's up and he tells you to relax that soon he will do something about it that you should try to understand.
Wait first, if uncle can take care of you while cohabiting with him, please what is preventing him from paying your bride price since he can take care of you and himself.

Uncle is busy enjoying wife privileges without paying your bride price. Aunty you too, you are busy enjoying husband privileges without any price paid on your head.
Few years down the line you are wondering why the marriage promised years ago is still just a promise and not yet a reality.
Sister listens very carefully.
Let me let you in on a secret about guys, once a guy starts getting from you everything he should get from his wife, he becomes lazy towards marrying you. He will keep putting other needs ahead of you. To him, what's the point of marring you legally when he is getting everything that a husband gets from his wife.
Aunty wife trainee, you need to understand that the distance you give a man and his desire to always have you around him is the force that will push and motivate him to do everything necessary to make you his wife. As long as you are always available the desire to put in the necessary action to tire you down to himself forever is lost.
You know yourself. As you are still reading this, start packing your bags and everything that belongs to you in his house. It's time to either go back to your parent's house or look for a female friend to stay with. I know you have been thinking about this, so now is time do make up your mind. Don't allow any man brainwash you that you no longer have value for yourself and the principal guiding your life.
Some of you will claim hardship as an excuse, aunty wife in training, let's be honest, you are not the only one in a difficult position. Many people have found themselves in a worse situation but didn't even consider the option of moving into the house of a man that is not legally their husband no matter what was promised. So receive sense now. Don't be lazy.
Living with him is not a guarantee that the uncle will end up marrying you. So many have tried and ended up shocked as to how uncle moved on to marry another sister that values herself.
If you move out and he is not rushing to pay your bride price to bring you back, then my sister you have wasted your life on a man that never wanted you.

LADIES: FOUR WAYS TO BOND WITH YOUR HUSBAND DURING PREGNANCY

LADIES: FOUR WAYS TO BOND WITH YOUR HUSBAND DURING PREGNANCY
Pregnancy can affect our relationships in different ways. Pregnant women are advised to work on their relationships with their partners in order to make their love life stronger. There are different ways you can make your bond with your partner stronger while pregnant. Here are four ways to bond with your husband while you’re pregnant.

1. KEEP HIM IN THE LOOP: It is important to maintain a close relationship with your man while you're pregnant. Having regular discussions about the pregnancy and the baby's development will help him know what kind of support you require. You can create time to read different books or watch videos about pregnancy together. This will help you both in preparing for the baby.
2. LISTEN TO HIM: Always listen to your man. Allow him to talk about his feelings and tell you how the pregnancy has affected him. Also, let him know that you appreciate his support during this period and laud him for the little things he does for you to ensure you're comfortable.
3. LET HIM KNOW HE’S YOUR PILLAR OF STRENGTH: Always remind your man that he is the best and he means the world to you. Let him know that his support and care makes you stronger. A man will feel great when you appreciate the support he gives you while you are pregnant.
4. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: Do you have expectations? Make sure they are realistic. Do not expect too much from your man. Have expectations that your man will meet without straining

Extreme Faith

One man from Ayetoro Ekiti in Ido Osi Local Govt of Ekiti State in Nigeria and he does carpentry work. This man, every morning, passes in front of a Church on his way to work. One day he took a decision that he must go into the Church at the chapel to greet JESUS before going to his work. So each day he passes the Church he will go to the chapel and say "JESU mo ya ki o ni o " meaning "JESUS l ‘m here to greet you" he did this for many years and it became part of hm. One day he went to work as usual and fell down from the roof where he was working and had a spinal cord injury, he was taken to many hospitals and there was no remedy to his health and he became paralyzed. One day at the hospital where he was on his sick bed without hope, his wife left him alone in the room to bring something from the house. A man who dressed in white walked into the room and greeted him saying, " awe mi mo ya ki o " meaning my friend l have come to greet you. JESUS came to visit him since he couldn't come to visit Him as usual. And the sick man said Thank You, the visitor left and this man started to notice changes on his body, and to his greatest surprise, he got up and sat down on the bed still thinking if it was a dream when his wife came and saw him sitting down she thought it was a Ghost and raised alarm ran out from the room. The Doctor and Nurses rushed to the room thinking the sick man is dead, when the Doctor first entered and saw the man sitting comfortably, he also ran back, before he decided to ask him what happened and the healed man told him all that happened, the hospital was full of praises. He was visiting JESUS daily for many years but one singular visit by JESUS changed his hopelessness to joy!