I just want to teach some of the ladies out there a quick lesson.
It is no longer news that a lot of ladies move in with men that are not legally their husbands.
The guy promises them marriage and invites them to come to live with him. For some, it was just introduction. Aunty introduction is not marriage as long as he as not either put an official ring on that finger or paid your complete bride price depending on your tradition.
So, Aunty, you move in and start performing wife duties. You wash plate, sweep the house, wash his clothes, sleep with him on the same bed, have sex with him, some get pregnant, some abort while some keep the baby. You automatically turn baby mama.
Funny enough, uncle is not even saying a word about coming to see your parents, some times you ask him baba what's up and he tells you to relax that soon he will do something about it that you should try to understand.
Wait first, if uncle can take care of you while cohabiting with him, please what is preventing him from paying your bride price since he can take care of you and himself.
Uncle is busy enjoying wife privileges without paying your bride price. Aunty you too, you are busy enjoying husband privileges without any price paid on your head.
Few years down the line you are wondering why the marriage promised years ago is still just a promise and not yet a reality.
Sister listens very carefully.
Let me let you in on a secret about guys, once a guy starts getting from you everything he should get from his wife, he becomes lazy towards marrying you. He will keep putting other needs ahead of you. To him, what's the point of marring you legally when he is getting everything that a husband gets from his wife.
Aunty wife trainee, you need to understand that the distance you give a man and his desire to always have you around him is the force that will push and motivate him to do everything necessary to make you his wife. As long as you are always available the desire to put in the necessary action to tire you down to himself forever is lost.
You know yourself. As you are still reading this, start packing your bags and everything that belongs to you in his house. It's time to either go back to your parent's house or look for a female friend to stay with. I know you have been thinking about this, so now is time do make up your mind. Don't allow any man brainwash you that you no longer have value for yourself and the principal guiding your life.
Some of you will claim hardship as an excuse, aunty wife in training, let's be honest, you are not the only one in a difficult position. Many people have found themselves in a worse situation but didn't even consider the option of moving into the house of a man that is not legally their husband no matter what was promised. So receive sense now. Don't be lazy.
Living with him is not a guarantee that the uncle will end up marrying you. So many have tried and ended up shocked as to how uncle moved on to marry another sister that values herself.
If you move out and he is not rushing to pay your bride price to bring you back, then my sister you have wasted your life on a man that never wanted you.
It is no longer news that a lot of ladies move in with men that are not legally their husbands.
The guy promises them marriage and invites them to come to live with him. For some, it was just introduction. Aunty introduction is not marriage as long as he as not either put an official ring on that finger or paid your complete bride price depending on your tradition.
So, Aunty, you move in and start performing wife duties. You wash plate, sweep the house, wash his clothes, sleep with him on the same bed, have sex with him, some get pregnant, some abort while some keep the baby. You automatically turn baby mama.
Funny enough, uncle is not even saying a word about coming to see your parents, some times you ask him baba what's up and he tells you to relax that soon he will do something about it that you should try to understand.
Wait first, if uncle can take care of you while cohabiting with him, please what is preventing him from paying your bride price since he can take care of you and himself.
Uncle is busy enjoying wife privileges without paying your bride price. Aunty you too, you are busy enjoying husband privileges without any price paid on your head.
Few years down the line you are wondering why the marriage promised years ago is still just a promise and not yet a reality.
Sister listens very carefully.
Let me let you in on a secret about guys, once a guy starts getting from you everything he should get from his wife, he becomes lazy towards marrying you. He will keep putting other needs ahead of you. To him, what's the point of marring you legally when he is getting everything that a husband gets from his wife.
Aunty wife trainee, you need to understand that the distance you give a man and his desire to always have you around him is the force that will push and motivate him to do everything necessary to make you his wife. As long as you are always available the desire to put in the necessary action to tire you down to himself forever is lost.
You know yourself. As you are still reading this, start packing your bags and everything that belongs to you in his house. It's time to either go back to your parent's house or look for a female friend to stay with. I know you have been thinking about this, so now is time do make up your mind. Don't allow any man brainwash you that you no longer have value for yourself and the principal guiding your life.
Some of you will claim hardship as an excuse, aunty wife in training, let's be honest, you are not the only one in a difficult position. Many people have found themselves in a worse situation but didn't even consider the option of moving into the house of a man that is not legally their husband no matter what was promised. So receive sense now. Don't be lazy.
Living with him is not a guarantee that the uncle will end up marrying you. So many have tried and ended up shocked as to how uncle moved on to marry another sister that values herself.
If you move out and he is not rushing to pay your bride price to bring you back, then my sister you have wasted your life on a man that never wanted you.
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