Why men ????

Am at the point of committing murder because I have never been this angry. In this locked down my husband brought his girlfriend into our home without my knowledge. The babe came prepared. We have a two bedroom flat in our basement. Is a kind of guest chalet that my husband always use when he is doing research,writing books and reading for professional exams. Sometimes when we have visitors that comes in from outside the country they stay there, the place is like a guest house well furnished to taste with all the kitchen utensils. 

So this babe and my husband planned to come and stay in the basement . She bought food stuffs, brought her clothing and she came in when no one could see her and checked into the guest chalet. I noticed my husband spent so much time in the basement all in the name of writing his book that he needs quiet time away from the kids. I didn't suspect anything until now. I just finished cooking and I decided to take the food to surprised him there. As I gained access to the flat, I started perceiving smell of food. Lo and behold I met my husband and his babe naked and asleep having eaten food cooked by her in the living room. I went round the house and saw her clothings, shoes, toiletries in the bedroom. I screamed and the both rushed into the bedroom and met me. I bounced on him and started beating him. They were both naked. I feel so hurt and betrayed. Bringing her into my home is a huge slap on my womanhood. Now the problem is she can't leave as Abuja is locked down. How can I handle this? Will she stay here for 14 days. I feel like killing the both of them now. My husband said the babe is pregnant and insisted she can't stay alone during the lock down so they both decided she come and stay in the guess chalet. Someone should tell me what to do before I kill the two of them. 😭😭😭😭.

NK talk

I am 30yrs old. My story is a very long one  butI will just cut everything short. I met this man in 2010 and we started dating and I got pregnant for him few months after. He decided to go to my place and pay my bride price but my people refuse to collect the bride price because I was pregnant. So they told us to go back to lagos and come back after I have given birth so that was how we started living together and after 2years, I gave birth to another baby and we started having issues that led to break up in 2016.to just cut long stories short, when we were still apart he called me one day and proudly told me dat for my information, he is HIV positive and for that, I should stop doing shakara. Initially I thought he was just trying to say that to make me feel bad because I have done so many HIV test even when I was with him and after I left him. Infact this story is too long. All this while he has collected the kids from me since 2016 so I normally go to the east to visit them. Last year I visited my kids and spent two months with them. During that process I don't sleep in his room so he stated complaining and doing everything to get me back even went as far as trying to convince me to go down with him. But I reduced to do so. I told him we should go the hospital and I will do all the inquiries b4 I will accept. To my greatest surprise th secret cam up. After all long stories, he confess to me that he had HIV in 2004 and he met me in 2010 and his motive was to infect me with it and wen I get to know, I won't be able to liv him again. But God almighty has proven himself in my life and my kids. I am negative and my kids are negative too. But this man still don want leave  ealone. He is beginning me to come back to him and let him go and pay my bride price. I don't want him again he is a wicked man. I have moved on with my life but his father and mum keep begging me to come back to him.

Cheated wife

Nigerian Nigerian woman (Name withheld) narrates how she sleeps with her husband’s girl friend, because her husband stopped having time for her.

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“I have been married to John, my husband for about two years now but I find myself sleeping with his best friend.

“My husband and I started dating when we were in the university. John has a best friend from his school days called Dave.

“John, Dave and I were all friends in those days until I later got married to John.

“To be honest, I had a crush on Dave back then in school but due to some circumstances, I had to bottle up the feelings. However, I never stopped admiring him from afar.

“John was an outspoken guy. He came from a wealthy family. He virtually did not lack anything while in school.

“John was very supportive financially when we were in school. He helped out with my school fees and other expenses. I owe him a lot for the assistance he rendered throughout my education.
I guess I accepted his proposal for a relationship with me because I felt I was indebted to him.

“After our graduation, we got married. I thought my feelings for his best friend would die down and I will learn to love John but I was wrong. The feelings never left.

“Barely a year after our marriage, my husband completely changed towards me. He started keeping late nights. He barely had time for me, his wife.

“I confronted him several times but he gave me sarcastic and insulting responses that he was out there making money for the both of us since that was what attracted me to him in the first place.

“I was beginning to lose interest in the marriage. I decided to contact his best friend, Dave to help me talk to him but all his friend’s effort were unsuccessful.

“Dave was very sympathetic and caring. He call to check up on me almost every day.
He could tell I wasn’t enjoying my marriage which was just two years old.

“Dave kindness towards me reignited the feelings I have tried so hard to bury. Whenever, my husband was away on business trips, I invite him over to keep me company.

“At first, I kept it strictly on old times friendship level only but at time went on, I couldn’t hold my feelings any longer. I opened up to Dave about it and how I waited for him to ask me on a date then before his friend won me over.

“Dave’ response surprised me. He told me that he also had feelings for me but couldn’t tell me about it because his friend had interest in me back then in school.

“It was in this moment of truth that for the first time I cheated on my husband with his best friend.

“I felt bad about it but the absence and attitude of my husband wasn’t helping matter.
Rather, it made me go back to his best friend for more.

“I know this is wrong. I am a married woman sleeping around with another man who happens to be my husband’s best friend.

“I want to stop but the feelings are just too strong. Right now, I’m caught up in the middle and I don’t know what to do.

“Despite the fact that I am not enjoying my marriage with John, I still feel guilty for cheating on him severally.

“What should I do now? I am so confused because I love Dave but I also have an obligation to my husband.

UNFORGIVEN COUPLE

My marriage is just one year plus and am pregnant for our first issue. My husband cheat on me, I found out months after we got married he even slept with the girl,I threatened to leave he pleaded  after everything I forgive and continued.

It was a distance relationship I had with him and finally joined him months back.My husband is badly addicted to phone chatting with girls he can do that from morning till night without minding if I'm around or not.we hardly make love unless I initiate I have decided to just forget about sex with him because of his attitudes and addiction. It is too bad ,he is in all social network always sex chatting with girls there is nothing I haven't done .I now decided not to even go to his phone again so i can have my peace and deliver safely.Most times he prefers I get angry at him so he can  sit to himself and chat all day.His addiction is killing me we don't play anymore like our dating days .I have talked to him severally yet nothing. sometimes I wonder why I ended up with him cos I had people that were better but I decided to follow my heart.But now it seems he doesn't love me enough. If I go naked or even try to seduce my husband he tells me to let him be that he is tired. Sometimes I just feel I will cheat on him someday  with anitger guy just that am pregnant for now at least to help me ignore him more.There is no kind of love I don't show this man buy I gave up because even while I worshipped him and pampered him when we newly got married I later found out he is cheating even with everything and all the love I'm showing him. He hardly apologize for any wrong which was different during courtship.

During Courtship he used to disturb me for sex if I visit I used to even be the one to tell him no way that I don't Want to get involved now till marriage, now after exposing me to sex this man sometimes stays months without minding my feelings.Am tired of always asking for sex from a man I call my husband. I noticed he got another cellphone he uses outside the home ,confronted him but he denied it ,I kept mute. Until one week end I came across the phone  and I hid it,since then he didn't asked me about it.He just behaved funny for some days but I ignored and have decided he won't see that phone again, I either dispose it or give it out to someone. I don't know what to do to make it work again. Am tired of the man I married .it even worst now that we are all at home,he  chat morning till night not minding me.I brought out game for us to play he told me he was busy out of annoyance I told him it even better be leaves the house that his presence is making me unhappy. Because of this man I just started charting the ways I'm not suppose to.I have prayed no way.Just decided to open different social network now to start my own because I'm tired I don't want to think again .Just new marriage.Please how do I handle this man,he hardly tells me he love me but he says that to his girls when he chats them. although he provides everything needed. I am tired .sorry for the long post I just need a way yo harden my heart more so I can forget about him.

THE URGE FOR OPPOSITE SEX

My struggle with lust and how I overcame

I want to speak with my fellow male counterparts. Please ladies close your eyes. It is non of your business. My brother, let's talk man to man. You know we men have these natural tendencies in common. For instance when we look at erotic images or motion pictures, we have urge for sex, you notice erection of the organ and a hunger for the real thing. Yes. It is natural. God created man that way, if it doesn't happen that way, if you get married, how will you impregnate your wife? Those who never felt like

that are not normal. If there is no erection there will be no penetration. God made it so. 
But I have not come to give you a sex education. No. I have come to give you a knowledge on the implications of having sexual urge with someone who is not your wife, as God had ordained it.
In wedlock, sexual intercourse is Holy, and pleasing to God. Yes He made it that way and reserved it for married couples. 
When I genuinely encountered Christ, I gradually ceased from being natural. It took time. I read and heard the word of God that said that that "natural" tendency of having sexual urge is carnal. Though It is natural but if one becomes born again, having a new nature, that urge dies with the old self. It only comes online when it is for Holy purposes in God's Will in marriage.

My confession

May I announce here that among the sins I struggled with during my early Christian life, sexual urge was the strongest. At a point in life, I considered it normal, if not, why must I remain under the yoke after making all the effort to quit? It was because it took me years that seemed endless. I must also confess that I fell prey to different seductions especially from erotic movies, websites, music and ladies I see on the streets. Yes. Though I was a believer then. I don't pass a beautiful lady without looking at her figure eight, from face to breasts, buttocks, legs. Yes. I was guilty of lust as a believer back then. I always had the urge to go into relationship with ladies, though not for sex but to gratify the urge. As a result, I opened the gateway for the spirit of lust to take over and I became possessed. I lost total control of my sensual body such that I engaged in secret sin like, watching pornography, and ejaculating, even as a believer. 
I lost my salvation totally, but on the outside, I still lived holy, doing the church things as usual. I maintain my good reputation as a genuine believer but I was rotten inside. I knew I was a big mess. I pretended but was dying inside. My spirit once whispered to me that I would soon enter into perdition. It shocked me to bone. Perdition. God forbid. 
Do you know the meaning of perdition? This is the opposite of perfection. In our Christian journey, we run the heavenly race to attain perfection, becoming like Christ. It is a point of no return. At the stage of perfection, which Paul announced, when he said he had finished the race, we wait to be raptured or taken to glory, no matter the age whether young or old. Perdition on the other side is a point of no return, whereby grace has elapsed or expired. Satan and his cohorts are in perdition. The door of grace has been shut up against them. So also are many souls shut out of grace while they are still alive on earth, simply because they crossed boundary line with their sins and entered into mortal sin. 
Paul explained why, he said every other sin is outside the body, but the sin of immorality is against our own body. May I inform someone reading this post that the only sin that leads to perdition is immorality. Ask Paul. Whether it is only in the mind, without actual sex, they are the same thing. Jesus said whoever looks at a woman and lust in his heart has already committed immorality in his heart. 
Immorality includes watching porn, sexual thoughts, masturbation, sex chat, watching erotic videos of movies, music; it also includes reading novels, books, websites that tells or shows immoral images or stories. 
Do you know Sirens? These are ladies with perfect beauty viral on the internet but they are hybrid demons. They reproduce through sex betwen demons and humans. Whether it happens through dream or it happens physically. You hear about spiritual wives and husbands. They reproduce in hours while normal human beings should reproduce in a gestation period of 9 months of conception. The Sirens are here with us. Many of them are on the internet. They don't have souls. There is nothing like conscience. That's why they derive joy in nudity. They are pornstars. They destroy even marriages with their sexual simulations. They are also here with us, in the churches. That sister you assume to be a strong believer, maybe one of them. Their picture on internet are as strong and active as their physical presence. They defy the law of time, gravity and distance. Just a glimpse on them, whether half naked or completely nude, their demons will posses their victims electronically and live inside of them physically. These are spirit of lust. I became their victim.

Their only goal is to defile God's temple. Once they have done that, their mission is complete. 
Paul wrote that defiling our body is tantamount to destroying our soul. Paul added that whoever defiles God's temple, him also will God destroy. They took advantage of God's word in making Him destroy souls by Himself. When God destroys, who can save them?
But it is our decision that makes it possible because the devil cannot decide for you. Just a little thought, "let me see this".... you enter. 7 years of salvation is gone in one minute.

Destroying a soul here means that the soul has been relegated to perdition. A point of no return. A point where no amount of prayer or repentance can bring you back to God. Paul said at this stage, it is impossible to receive grace again. This was dawning on me and making me uncomfortable such that I had to leave everything and entered into 21 days of fasting and prayer, studying the word of God, after which I underwent serious deliverance for a second time. 
I repented severally, it never worked. I prayed and prayed, tried the first deliverance, it didn't work. I continued until the last one worked. It was like hell on earth to be under the yoke of sexual spirits. My dear, if you have given your life to Christ but you are still having this challenge, just know the truth from me that you still need deliverance and sanctification not salvation this time. Salvation without sanctification is useless. Yes. If you die like that you are ending up in hell. Or you may not come out of it if you don't run for your soul now. God's time is "now". Not later or tomorrow. The danger of it all is, if one is under satanic yoke, the devil can do anything with his soul, take his life untimely in order to take away his chances of restoring his salvation. The devil creates problems, here and there, or keep you too busy to attend fellowship, weaken your prayer life, sap all grace out of your life. Taking you closer and closer to perdition. God forbid.

But when I got delivered, I had boldness to testify. 
For a very long period now, I have never had sexual urge or lust or anything immoral. Not even the slightest of it. If I had not been there, I may not have the testimony to share. But it was the love of God and rare grace that delivered me. Many souls never restored their faith after fallen. I have known some of them who told me that they had lost it and cannot return. They have tried all they could but to no avail. But that will not be the portion of someone reading this post. I leave you with some scriptures below. I advise you that is reading this, if you have the same challenge, meet a genuine pastor or deliverance minister in a genuine church. Note that most pastors are agents of darkness. You can inbox me to recommend a church for you. I am not saying you are to change church. No. Just go there to get delivered so that you will deliver others suffering similar cases in your own church. The scheme of the devil is spreading like wildfire all over the churches, without an exception. But only those who overcome till the end shall be saved.

Leviticus 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. 
Proverbs 6:32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. 
Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 
2 Peter 2:14 Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children:

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

1 Corinthians 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

1 Corinthians 3:17 If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.

Hebrews 6:4 For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted of the heavenly gift, and were made partakers of the Holy Ghost, 6:6 If they shall fall away, to renew them again unto repentance; seeing they crucify to themselves the Son of God afresh, and put him to an open shame.

1 Timothy 6:9 But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition.

Jeremiah 6:30 Reprobate silver shall men call them, because the LORD hath rejected them. Romans 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient.

Hebrews 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, 10:27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. 
10:38 Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him. 
10:39 But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul.

If you believe to saving of the soul, then kill that self to save your soul.

Marriage councel

I Can't Imagine This!
Cruel world!

Please She want to know What Next!
Godly Counsel Please!

Good afternoon ma, please help me post on TMT and make me anonymous. I am 32yrs old and married for one year now no child yet. My younger sister who is 20yrs left the village to come stay with me after her secondary sch. After some times I noticed behaviors and chat between her and my husband that I wasn't comfortable, i reported her to my mum and sent her away never to come to my house again. She left and stayed with my immediate younger brother who stays in the same location with me. I took responsibility of her since her SS class and  was still taking care of her after she left my house by sending her 6k every week plus other things.

I was still interested in making her further her school and I bought jamb form for her this year, all these at a distance. Early this year, I fell sick and was hospitalized for a week. On coming back, I wanted to use my husband's phone to make a call, I saw several to and fro calls btw my sis and husband. I installed an app on hubby's phone to record their calls. I found out from the app that my husband calls her a and have sex with her as they pls. I have not confronted them yet. I want to ask married people in this house how I can manage this betrayal from this two. If I leave this marriage, does it mean I can't fight for my marriage? Can I ever forgive them? What should I do please