SCARCITY OF HUSBAND

HUSBAND SCARCITY has become one of the challenges faced by many young ladies today. If you go to prayer houses,churches and native doctors shrine majority of the intentions are prayers for life partner, and this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of "HUSBAND SCARCITY" problem or there were more men than women? i don't think so....maybe then, women had values and were prepared and preferred to build a home and not to pack into a built home. I was told that, in those days, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciate him and help him to build a future but these days...All ladies prefer to marry a ready made man.

Honestly, ladies created husband scarcity themselves and now reverse is the case. Go to social media the first time you are chatting with a lady the next thing is can you help me with (airtime,money for one thing or the other). When you said no they will blocked you and give you a tittle (broke or stingy man). Ask an average girl to define her dream husband, you get things like...he has to be tall, handsome, fair, rich, own a house, be presentable, and will add GOD fearing in order not to sound worldly.

Just imagine 40 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is one and he gonna pick one, then what becomes of 39 others?

You hear them saying,i can't suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man. That is why some of them fall into the hands of evil men because of the standerd.

My dear, let me tell you the truth MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAMME, it's a mission of building the family of God here on earth.

You don't even know you maybe the person that will help him to that destination fast.

NOTE: I am not saying you should pick any man that comes your way(a man that can not feed himself) or if a rich guy comes you should not marry him. Get me right.

PLEASE Look beyond the physical.

Work by faith not by sight.

May God give us better Understanding.

Road to GOLDEN JUBILEE

30yrs of togetherness in

love.....Thanks for the love and care you've shown me since I was a kid till this very moment. Not even a day have you two turn back on me.I pray for God to shower more love,health, and life on you two.

Love you Dad & Mum

Winning the medal is not always the ultimate price.

Kenyan runner Abel Mutai was only a few meters from the finish line, but got confused with the signs and stopped, thinking he had finished the race. A Spanish man, Ivan Fernandez, was right behind him and, realizing what was going on started shouting to the Kenyan to keep running. Mutai did not know Spanish and did not understand. Realizing what was going on, Ivan Fernandez pushed Mutai to victory. A reporter asked Ivan, "Why did you do this?" Ivan replied

My dream is that one day we can have some sort of community life where we push ourselves and help each other win." The reporter insisted "But why did you let the Kenyan win?" Ivan replied, "I didn't let him win, he was going to win. The race was his."

The reporter insisted and asked again, "But you could have won!" Ivan looked at him and replied: "But what would be the merit of my victory? What would be the honor of this medal? What would my Mother think of it?"

What values do we teach our children and how much do you inspire others to earn? Most of us take advantage of people's weaknesses instead of helping to strengthen them.

30 RULES TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you.You are each other's keeper.(Eph 5v12)

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.(Prov 15v13)

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.(Gen 2v24)

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)

. Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.(Deut 3v28)

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over your duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long(even the anointed ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.(Eph 4v31)

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam25v3)

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.(Luke 21v16)

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home. (Gal 6v9)

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork.(Gal 6v10)

21). Don't be too judgemental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.(Eph 4v29)

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food?, try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food. (Prov 31v14)

24). Never be too demanding to your husband,enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)

28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)

29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)

30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17)

Have a lovely day..... God help us

A wise man sayings

1. Never date your friend's wife, for you expose yourself to death;

2. Before closing the door to sleep, check if you haven't forgotten something outside;

3. If your friend makes a living, be happy, and the doors will also open your turn;

4. Do not speak too much before your elders, but listen to much;

5. If you find a wise father or a wise mother, consider them as your true parents;

6. If your friend gets married, be happy because your turn will come;

7. If someone wants you to help them, don't hesitate if you have the opportunity to do so, because you never know about the future;

8. Do not criticize a poor, for he can become rich in the future;

9. Don't crave a rich man when riding a carriage, for you don't know the source of his income;

10. Respect your prayers there is a good sign that shows your gratitude to your creator the good God.

JDPC ISSELE-UKU TRAINS AND EMPOWERS SOME ADOLESCENTS IN DIFFERENT VOCATION SKILLS

By Stephanie Ngozi Okoro

In keeping with her vision of having a society of freedom, hope and worthwhile living, JDPC Issele-Uku Diocese presented start-up kits to seven adolescents who were trained through her 4GATES OVC project. The event took place at Public Health Centre Ogwashi-Uku, Aniocha South LGA, Delta State on Wednesday, 28th July, 2021. It began at about 10:20am with an opening prayer, which was said by one of the participants. The welcome address was given by JDPC Program Manager, Mrs Lilly Ehbomhenhuele, who represented the Director, Rev. Fr. JohnBosco Ezeonwumelu, who was unavoidably absent.

The start up kits were then inspected by the invited guest with guidiance of the 4GATES HES Officer, Mrs Florence Ugbechie-Biose, under whose supervision the beneficiaries were trained. The beneficiaries of the start up kits were also given the opportunity to share their story so far and they equally expressed the joy in their heart as they saw their  kits. With tears of joy, they appreciated Caritas Nigeria and JDPC Issele-Uku for picking them from nothing and showed them a brim of light. One adolescent who was earlier  profiled for skill acquisition and who would have been part of this number opted out to continue her education. She would be re-enrolled back into school.

The start up kits were presented to the beneficiaries with admonitions from memebers of the high table, the representative of Caritas Nigeria, Mr. John Ukel and the 4GATES OVC Project Manager, Stephanie Ngozi Okoro.

The dignitaries present at the event included  the Deputy Chief Inspector for Education of Aniocha South, Executive Secretary (Health) of Aniocha South LGA, Aniocha South LACA Officer, Representative of the DSS Boss, Social Welfare Officer Aniocha North and the CARITAS Representative, Mr John Ukel. The Obi of Ogwashi-Uku, HRH Obi Ifechukwude Okonji was also represented. To spice up the occasion, light refreshments, which was made possible by the Obi of Ogwashi-Uku and Executive Secretary of Aniocha South, was shared to participants. The Obi of Ogwashi-uku also supported the beneficiaries with transport to enable them take their start up kits back home.

The event came to an end after the votes of thanks by one of the trainers and the Executive Secretary and the closing prayer, which was also led by the Executive Secretary of Aniocha South at about 1:30pm.

The 4GATES Caritas Orphans and Vulnerable Children (OVC) Project is a PEPFAR project sponsored the Centre for Disease Control (CDC) through Caritas Nigeria. Outside this, in the last one year, the project has also supported 42 caregivers to begin some income enerating activities (IGAs) to help them improve the livelihood of their households. Other 51 caregivers who are living in near destitution received cash transfers to meet their immediate family needs. As part of teaching them how to sustain themselves, over 800 households have been supported with seedlings for planting around their homes to help increase the intake of food with quality nutrients at no cost.

So far, about 250 household received water, sanitation and hygiene (WASH) kits  to help improve the hygiene in their homes, WASH messages were also given to them on monthly basis to help curb the spread of COVID  and other contagious infections.

About 3118 children, who did not have birth certificates have received their birth certificate through the collaboration of the Nigerian Population Commission (NPoPC). These children and many more were also given deworming tablets. Thanks to Surelife Pharmaceuticals Okwe and Vaccine Networks Ozoro who helped to provide us with deworming tablets for that exercise.

It is not an ended program yet. Beneficiaries have being able to have assess to soft loan through the engagement in village savings and loan association (VSLA), formed among themselves. Three of these groups are actively going on in Isheagu, Ogwashi-uku and Igbodo, more are yet to be formed. We are also in the process of collaborating with another project to give soft loans to some of them who would need to be assisted to boost their business.

Presently, 10 other adolescent have been profiled for training in different skills, 30 caregivers for IGAs and 8 caregivers for cash transfer. On the Education domain, bulk grant have been approved for Enede Primary school Nsukwa. We shall embark on the provision of toilet Facility and renovation of the restroom building. This grant will enable 23 children who are already in the school to attend school at no cost for two years. Apart from that, with special technical assistance from the Ministry of Basic and Secondary Education, all out of school children, who are enrolled in the program, in the different communities we work in, are being re-enrolled into the schools.