*THE EFFICACY OF COUPLE'S' PRAYER*

By Rev Dr Okwechi Iwunze

*1.* It is always difficult to hold the hands of someone you are not happy with in prayers.

*2.* The power of praying together is hidden from many couples.

*3.* Prayers can solve any problem, it can bring down any mountain in marriage.

*4.* The couples that stay connected in prayers live happier and healthier.

*5.* Never joke with prayers in your marriage!

*6.* There are types of prayer:

a. Personal prayer

b. Congregational prayer.

c. Family prayer

d. couples' prayer etc.

*7.* Family prayer is different from couples' prayer. So many marriages observe family prayer but neglect couples' prayer.

*8.* Couples' prayer involve only the husband and the wife. Don't assume family prayer for this please.

*9.* You need to be alone with your spouse in the place of prayer, don't be too busy for this.

*10.* You have not won the battle of quarrelling, nagging, unloving, lack of respect etc because you have not been holding hands together in prayers.

*11.* Put aside every resentment and join hands with him/her.

*12.* Don't wait till your spouse instigate it, make the first move by calling on him/her for prayers.

*13.* End every argument in prayers. Prayer has enough power to melt away hurt. Any time you are seriously furious or hurt, tell your spouse to pray together.

*14.* Couples prayers is a serious prayer but it can be spiced with some activities to foster the bond, for examples:

a. Hold hands together

b. Join hands together and walk around

c. You can pray by standing chest to chest (don't back each other).

d. Hold each other tightly.

e. Placing hands on each other's shoulder.

*15.* Don't be too rigid when you are together with your spouse in prayer, you are husband and wife, you can be in any form to pray.

*16.* Don't always stay afar from each other during couples' prayer.

*17.* The secret of couple's prayer is, be willing and ready to pray with him/her regardless of of the heaviness of your heart.

*18.* Love and respect for each other is the outcome of couples' prayer.

*19.* When you pray together as couples, you will have emotional security and confidence in each other.

*20.* I will encourage young couples to grow together in prayers. Difficult issues of life and marriage can be solved through couple's prayer.

*21.* Also, my admonition goes to "about to wed" couples/parents, don't be carried away with the joy of the wedding, start the couple's prayer right from the night of your wedding . strengthen the prayer life between you and your spouse.

Daalu

*THE VOICE IN MARRIAGE!*

By Dr Okwechi

*Voice 1*

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his/her strength.

*Voice 2*

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

*Voice 3*

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

*Voice 4*

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

*Voice 5*

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness

Third party influence

Stinginess

Stubbornness

Lack of love

Rudeness

Laziness

Disrespect

Cheating

Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

*Voice 6*

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

*Voice 7*

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

*Voice 8*

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

*Voice 9*

Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

*Voice 10*

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

So today let us pray for our marriages. Send to those you care about because you never know who you may be helping. May God bless us all.

*ATTITUDES OF A GOOD AND GODLY HUSBAND*

If you desire to be the husband every woman would respect and willingly submit under his authority then you must work hard to possess these qualities as a good husband.

*GOOD LISTENER*

He should be concerned about her thoughts and stories. A woman wants a husband she can open up to. An emotional companion

*KEEP QUIET*

He should know when to hold back his tongue to prevent things from escalating especially when she is moody.

*COMMUNICATE*

He should learn the art of communication; face to face and over the phone. Learn to check up on her, to engage, to chat her up and keep loneliness away

*GIVE DIRECTION*

He should learn to give direction. Where are they going as a couple and family? He should offer confidence, vision and leadership

*STAY FAITHFUL*

He should show commitment to the vision of their love through faithfulness. Leading from the front publicly and privately. Keeping off other women.

*PURSUE*

He should date his wife no matter how long they have been together. Make her feel special, compliment her, flirt with her, pursue her, romance her, excite her heart, treat her like a queen.

*BOOST SELF ESTEEM*

He should make her believe in herself more, drowning her doubts, allaying her fears, reminding her who she is when she forgets, lifting up her spirits when she feels low, making her feel sexy and beautiful when she does not feel all that.

*PRAY & TEACH*

He should cover his wife and children in prayer, a prayer warrior in the spiritual realm, committing his family to his maker, putting on the full armour and going to war, accessing the spiritual blessings meant for his family.

He must develop his wife with scriptures which is spiritual food so as to grow up together as deep will always search into the deep.

*COMFORT*

He should be a shoulder to lean on when she cries, the person she runs to when this world overwhelms her. Her cover.

*SEXUALLY AROUSE*

He should make her feel desired and wanted. Turn her on like crazy. Open her tap of wetness. Know which buttons to push to give her sweet highs.

*PROVIDE*

Whether she earns more than him or not, he should play his part in meeting the needs of the family and seek ways to get more provisions and investments.

*ENCOURAGE*

He should be her voice of reason. The firm voice that counters her negative voices or the storms that shake her. He should be that man who tells her “I believe in you honey. You can do this.

God bless you!

LAUGH YOUR STRESS OFF

A mom visits her son for dinner who lives with a girl as a roommate . When they were eating, his mother couldn't help but notice how pretty his roommate was . She had long been suspicious of a relationship between the two and this had only made her more curious . Over the course of the evening while watching the two interact , she started to wonder if there's more between him and his roommate. Reading his mom's thought, his son volunteered, "I know what you must be thinking , but I assure you, we are just roommates ." About a week later, his roommate came to him saying, "Ever since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to find the silver plate . You don't suppose your mother took it, do you ? He said, "Well I doubt it, but I'll email her just to be sure

!"

He sat down and wrote,

Dear mom,

After your visit me, the silver plate has been missing. I'm not saying that you did take the silver plate from my house

, and I'm not saying that you didn't take it, but the fact remains that it has been missing ever since you were here for dinner.

Love,

Your son.

Several days later, he received an email from his mother which

read:

Dear Son,

I'm not saying that you do sleep with your roommate , and I'm not saying that you don't sleep with her : but the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her OWN bed, she would have found the silver plate by now, under her pillow.

Love,

Mom

Clever woman paaa.

THE LITTLE CLUE THAT YOU DON'T SEE THAT BREAKS MARRIAGE

By Profit Eneh

When I hear stories about people who suffer abuse in their marriage, the story always sounds like there was never a clue that this abusive person can be abusive.

A lot of people subscribe to this school of thought but I have tried to get myself to agree with them but then I can't.

Yesterday I read a story of a lady who shares her story of how she dated her husband for 11 years and 11 months into the marriage they divorced because the man was abusive.

Her story painted a picture of a good man in 11 years and a devil in 11 months. In 11 years of dating, there was no clue that this guy was immature and abusive? No clue? So you believe that?

The issue today is that a lot of people are blinded by good sex, money spent on them, and forget to be doing the real thing why they are in a relationship in the first place.

Money is good, sex is great in marriage but those are not what sustains a marriage, to be honest. They are vital, they make marriage sweet but then there are other vital this you need to watch out for.

Most people are looking for a big red flag before they quit a relationship. Nooo. Seeing the big red flag for example hitting you is good. That's so obvious, but what most people don't see is the little clue like how authoritative he is or how subtle abusive her words can be.

One thing I know is that there is always a clue. Even if they are pretending there is always a clue. People are not just observant and they don't read deeper meaning into what they should actually read meaning to.

When someone's words are not aligning with his actions it's already a clue. A liar.

When someone is always giving excuses for almost everything there is already a clue there. Irresponsibility and blame gamer.

When someone is always too busy. Lack of interest in you.

When someone is never satisfied with what you do. Spirit of comparison.

When they fault you for everything. Possible Narcissistic.

When they threaten to hit you even if they never do. Possible abusive person.

When they always feel right or want it their way all the time. Potential inconsiderate person.

If he is all about women taking care of the home while a man goes to make the money. Possible dream killer.

I can go on and on.

There is always a clue. When you hear people make certain statements don't just brush it off. There could be clues to that person's mindset of how marriage should be which can make your marriage hell on earth.

It's good to be looking for the bigger red flags but don't ignore the little clues here and there.

Ask a lot of questions. Don't allow AC + Cold stone to blow off your brain that you focus on unimportant things and ignore the important things and questions you need to ask and behavior you need to observe.

So the two skill you need is the ability to ask important question and ability to observer unsaid words or actions.

Now the other reason why people fall into this mess of not spotting the clues is because of their irreconcilable value system and this is one topic I will be talking about in-depth in my 5 days training titled from Self Discovery to a Happy and Healthy relationship/marriage. Note: This training is not free. (If you are looking for free training don't contact me please but If you are serious about being a part of it go ahead and send me a message. Come and learn how to win in life and relationships).

You are your Solution

By Profit Eneh

It is easy to find yourself in that position in life where you feel worthless. You feel everything is just working against you and that other people have a better life than you.

You might have heard from friends that you are a failure, you are nothing. Just like in the days of Jesus Christ, when he was announced as the Messiah and as the son of Joseph from Nazareth. Someone said, can anything good come out of Nazareth. Some might have said can anything good come out of you.

They might have written you off but I have good news for you. You are a solution. You are valuable. You are important. Jesus proved them wrong and you can do so too because you have a purpose. You have something they need.

You have an assignment here on earth and your assignment/purpose was designed to announce you to the world. It's is in your place of calling that you will find peace or joy.

You might have tried to gain peace and happiness from your relationship but your partner didn't make that happen, rather he or she broke up with you and now you even feel more empty.

You have thought of ending it all. I pray you don't because in you lies the answers to someone's prayers. In you lies the solution to someone's pain. You are someone's destiny helper and they need what you carry.

You are not an accident, you are not a problem, you were born for a reason and you need to find out why.

It's possible that you a passing through series of heartbreaks just because you have ignored this part of your life. I know you feel lonely, i know you want someone by your side. But the truth is that for you to be able to meet the right one for you, you need to be the right one for yourself.

You need to find yourself. You need to build yourself and when you succeed in doing this you will discover that you will feel happier as a person and your chances of meeting the right one for you will increase because now you know where you are going in life and you know the kind of person you want to go through life with.

If you are struggling to find your purpose or develop yourself and become the best version of yourself then i welcome you to enroll in my coming 5 days training tagged From Self Discovery to a Happy and Healthy relationship where i will take you through my working and practical method of discovering your self and building a powerful relationship. Note: this is not free training. Interested persons can send me a message so i can share more details about the training with you.