"Do Not Marry A Man You Can Not Respect" .

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Popular relationship expert and cleric, highlights the basic needs of men in marriage.

"Some of you women have husbands who are alive physically, but you have killed them emotionally with the way you speak to them.

Some women talk to their husbands anyhow because they feel they are better than him in some areas. Please, do not have an African or American marriage; have a cultured-based marriage.

Even if he is very short, you saw him like that before you married him. Do not marry a man you can not respect.

The greatest need of a man is not physical intimacy or food. One of his greatest need is respect.

Sometimes, I wake my husband up with a love song. When a man wakes up like this, anything you want he will give it to you.

WHY I CHOSE POLYGAMY

WHY SHOULD A MAN GO FOR A SECOND WIFE WHEN THE FIRST WIFE IS STILL ALIVE, HEALTHY?

Second marriages are tricky business, the baggage can be major and multilayered

It's cimplicated and sometimes frustrating.

I am totally against polygamy, i don't know about you.

Some men who have two wives said that, their first wife pushed them into marrying a second wife.

They said, their first wife had no care for their home.

Based on Religion (doctrines/teachings) like the Muslim Counterpart, all i advice is that, a man who has chosen to have a second wife must take care of them.

He must not favour one wife and neglect the other.

He also must not show that he loves one more than the other.

If he begin to show that he prefers one to the other, he has sown a wrong seed in the mind of his wives.

They wives may begin to hate themselves.

Overtime, i have come to realise the one reason men take a second wife.

It is because they are bored with their first wife, (boredom)

Any woman who wants to stop her husband from taking a second wife should do so in a calm, smart way.

If a man's decision to marry a second wife is not based on his religion, his wife can convince him not to take a second wife.

However, wives should wake up to their roles as mothers.

It is possible for a woman to convince her husband not to marry a second wife.

The affected woman should begin to pay attention to her dressing, cooking and other things that would make her husband happy in his home.

It is so easy for a woman to win her husband's heart if she knows the right button to press.

*Almost all men wants to be loved and cared for*

A woman must not be a grandmother to her husband.

She should be his wife and dress like his wife.

She should constantly do things that make the husband happy.

God Bless You.

Your Happiness Is Most Paramount.

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UNCLEANED WINDOW

A young couple moved into a new neighborhood. The next morning while eating breakfast, the young woman saw her neighbor through the window hanging the wash outside.

"That laundry is not clean," she said. "She doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap".

Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time the neighbour would hang laundry to dry, the young woman would make the same comments.

About one month later, the woman was surprised to see nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: "Look, she has learnt how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this!"

The husband replied: "I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows."

And so it is with life.

What we see when watching others depends on the purity of the window through which we look.

Easy to discuss other people, their lives and things that don't really concern us. Yet we tend to forget that our window isn't that clean after all.

Clean up your window. Good morning brethren!

AVOID THE MARRIED MEN

SOME MARRIED MEN ARE ALL OVER ROAMING AND DECEIVING LADIES EVERYWHERE.

*LIES MARRIED MEN USE TO HIT ON YOU*

1# I AM NOT HAPPY IN MY MARRIAGE.

This is the topmost lie that men lie to woo naive girls into dating them.

If he is not happy he should leave, not bringing a sob story to make you swallow the line and hook up.

My bluv sister, if he is unhappy, you are not his happiness either.

2#. I WILL LEAVE HER.

You have heard this statement a thousand times from married men.

He says, he is fed up with his wife and will leave her for you.

It's a lie!

3#. I AM WITH HER FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS.

You' ve already heard this comment gazillion time.

He will lie that, he is with the wife for the sake of the kids, while in the real sense, they are very happily married.

Visit his social media accounts and you'll be met by pictures of a perfect family.

4#. I DON'T LOVE HER

This is a lie that most married men are fond of using if he doesn't love her.

What makes you think he will love you?

Wake up girl, he just want to slide you to the sacks.

5#. I WILL MARRY YOU.

What makes you believe that he will leave his wife for you?

Some married men use this lie to lure you into accepting his demands knowing very well he will never leave his wife for you.

The only way to avoid this is to avoid him.

6#. SHE'S NOT AS BEAUTIFUL AS YOU.

No one hates to be told that, they are beautiful, but using this lie to get you is just lame.

Everyone is beautiful in their own ways, sweetie.

He's just making you feel good so that you fall into his trap head first.

7#. I WILL MOVE OUT.

He will lie to you that he will find a place for you and leave his matrimonial home.

Men use this lie to make you feel that he's more interested in making a future with you.

It's a lie, be wise!

God Bless You.

WHO SHOULD I MARRY, ELKANAH OR ISAAC?

In marriage my daughter, you need to be prayerful. You cannot afford to joke with prayer. Some women can go away with it but it is not every woman that can afford that. It all depends on who your husband is. It depends on whether your husband is an Elkanah or an Isaac.

In case you marry an Elkanah you cannot afford to live a prayerless life. Elkanahs are very religious people but they are not spiritual. They love to do the religious activities that come with fanfare. They are quick to do their offerings or take the communion even though they may not know the spiritual implication of what they do. Every year they will go to Shiloh without miss. Every Sunday they will go to Church but they are not praying people. And so an Elkanah would not pray for himself let alone pray for you and for your needs (physical, spiritual, emotional or psychological). If you finally realized that you need to take your destiny into your own hands and rise up and pray, he would discourage you or even prevent you. He would complain about why you attend prayer meetings. He would tell you it is not necessary. Even if you tell him why you have to pray, he would tell you he should be more valuable to you than any need in your life. When Hannah could not have a baby and was seriously praying for it, Elkanah asked her in 1Samuel 1:8 that “Why are you crying, Hannah? Why aren’t you eating? Why be down hearted just because you have no children? You have me-isn’t that better than having ten sons?” If your husband is an Elkanah who thinks that you should not have any other need or priority but rather you should be satisfied because you are married to him then you better be on your knees daily. He does not recognize that you should have a need. Even when he knows your need he would play it down by describing it as JUST. He trivializes your most important need. By the way he talks, you should know that he would not pray about your issue for you. He does not see your need as important. He thinks that he should be the most important thing you ever wanted in this world.

But If you are married to an Isaac, lucky you. You can afford to go to bed and sleep comfortably because an Isaac, unlike an Elkanah, will be on his knees for you. Isaacs are not religious people but very spiritual. They are very sensitive to things of the spirit. In Genesis 25:21, the Bible says that “Isaac pleaded with the LORD on behalf of his wife, because she was unable to have children, and Rebekah became pregnant with twins”. An Isaac is an intercessor. An Isaac would recognize your deepest need and will not rest until it is fulfilled. They do not go to Shiloh every year like Elkanahs but they are connected to the Throne of grace and when they pray Heaven responds with more than you can carry results. His prayers produced twin, the first of its kind in human history then.

Who have you married or who are you planning to marry? Do you know whether he is an Elkanah or an Isaac? Every woman would be looking forward to marrying an Isaac but in case you marry an Elkanah be a Hannah, rise and pray.

Food for thought

MY ADVICE TO SINGLES...

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𝐒𝐄𝐗 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐀𝐆𝐄

He Care for you. He called you every time. He always checked on you. He promised never to leave you. He promised to stand by you no matter what. He was kind and handsome. He promised to marry you.

𝐁𝐎𝐎𝐌

He asked you for sex. You were shocked. You hesitate to agree. But you later agree because you don’t want to make him angry. You thought he was a good guy. You thought he will keep all his promises. He saw you fully naked. He did whatever he wanted to do with you. You gave him all your pride and dignity and he was happy.

𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐇𝐀𝐃 𝐒𝐄𝐗 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐀𝐆𝐄

Then he started asking for more. He had sex with you times without number. He suddenly start to act strange! He began to show less care. He began to get mad at you over small things. He began to cheat. He began to use harsh words on you. And he began to see you as a disturbance to him.

𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐖 𝐖𝐇𝐘?

Just because you have nothing special to to give him anymore. Just because you have nothing for him to crave anymore! Just because you seem so cheap to him.

Sweetheart, what were you thinking before. Were you expecting him to treat you the same way while you have nothing for him to crave? Were you expecting him to value you while you have proven to be cheap to him? Where you expecting him to stay after he has used you and gotten every exciting part about you? What else would you have to offer? What else would you have to be proud of? He’s gonna move on and start chasing other girls.

He’s gonna move on like he has never had any relationship with you. He is gonna move on unaffected He can’t marry because you are valueless and have nothing to offer so he thought. Stop wondering where things went wrong. It’s straight, things went wrong when you let him had sex with you.

Now you are left with regret, tears, broken heart, disappointments and wonders.

Let me tell you this my dear, most guys are afraid of breaking up with a lady he never had sex with. But once they have that sex, the fear is now “you breaking up with him”.

Sweetheart, it’s far better to break up with him because you refused to have that sex than breaking up with him because you had the sex.

Remember if he truly loves you, he can patiently wait.

Don’t agree even when your parents know him. Don’t agree even if he introduced you to his parents and whole generation.

𝐃𝐎𝐍’𝐓 𝐀𝐆𝐑𝐄𝐄! 𝐈 𝐑𝐄𝐏𝐄𝐀𝐓 𝐃𝐎𝐍’𝐓 𝐀𝐆𝐑𝐄𝐄

Some Guys are very good at faking feelings.

𝐈 𝐃𝐎𝐍’𝐓 𝐖𝐀𝐍𝐓 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐓𝐎 𝐂𝐑𝐘 𝐅𝐔𝐋𝐋 𝐎𝐅 𝐑𝐄𝐆𝐑𝐄𝐓.

And those who have made the mistake “it’s okay” don’t let it happen again!

𝐍𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐓𝐑𝐔𝐒𝐓 𝐀𝐍𝐘 𝐆𝐔𝐘 𝐖𝐇𝐄𝐍 𝐈𝐓 𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐒𝐄𝐗.

Not all guys are the same but only few are different. So to be at safer side, ASSUME ALL OF THEM ARE THE SAME.

Don’t let him turn you to a prostitute because you’re not and never will