SIGNS YOUR GUY REALLY WANTS TO MARRY YOU.

Guys comes up with all sorts of stories these days about marriage when truely they want to do damage.

As a lady you should be smart to read between the lines and see the the vivid signs.

But it all lies in your hands to act and take the needed decision.

It is not about dragging the horse to the water, it's whether the horse really wants to drink.

*These sure signs will help you detect the time waster from afar*

1#. HE SAYS IT.

If your guy asks you how you want your dream wedding to be, your preferred wedding colours, ring size or likes to raise some important aspect of the wedding, he is particular about them, he's definitely planning to settle down with you.

2#. HE PLANS WITH YOU IN MIND.

Men naturally are wired to know the details and intrcacies of every project they want to get involved in.

Yes! Project.

A wedding is like a project to a man, and factors such as accommodation, career development, finances etc are considered.

The interesting thing about this is that to plan all these with you in mind.

He is genuinely concerned about how these details will affect your life.

3#. HE DELIGHTS IN YOUR HAPPINESS.

If a guy goes out of his way consistently and genuinely to do tasks or go on events he normally would not go to, just to make you happy, he is definitely gearing to pop the marriage question.

4#. HE HELPS YOU BECOME BETTER.

A guy who is really to get married to a lady genuinely wants her to make progress.

Guys wants their woman to represent them in a good way, so they want to help their woman become better.

5#.HE ENTRUSTS YOU WITH HIS LIFE.

Hey! Ladies, this is not to say if your gut is not telling you things, he is not ready to get married.

One thing you have to understand is that, trust is earned.

A guy who wants to get married to you will eventually be open to you when he finds out you are genuinely concerned about his welfare.

We call it 'wife material' he opens his inner thoughts, fears and deep feelings.

#6. FAMILY LINK.

If your guy wants you to meet his family, be around him at family events, meet his siblings and people he loves, he really wants to settle down with you.

He has seen you as a member of his family.

7#.HE WANTS YOU.

He's not ashamed to tell you how much you mean to him.

He is always telling you how special you are to him.

8#. KIDS.

When your guy jokingly asks about the names of your kids, or the number of kids you want to have, he is actually considering the motherly side of the woman he wants to spend his life with.

You have to understand that it takes commitment to raise kids, and for a guy to talk or joke about them often, he really means to spend his life with you.

*You Are A Fountain Of Goodwill, You Will Not Run Dry In Every Aspect Of Your Lives*

UNDERSTANDING WOMEN'S NEEDS INMARRIAGE

1. AFFECTION: Your wife needs your tenderness, love, care, physical touch, embrace, cuddle, etc to feel loved and cared for in marriage. When she is starved in this area, she will be opened to the temptation to have an affair.

2. CONVERSATION: Women must talk. We easily get connected to a man who listens to us, understands us and honestly share his heart and mind with us. We need a gist mate with an open mind and understanding heart.

3. ADMIRATION: Women need lots of admiration too. Praise your wife. Admire her, compliment her especially her looks. We are very conscious of our looks, that is why we make efforts looking good for God, for our husbands, then ourselves.

4. FINANCIAL SECURITY: A woman needs a man who can pay all the bills and take good care of her. Not paying bills on time, owing rent, school fees, not having good food, clothe and shoes to wear, becoming an object of ridicule can destabilize a woman.

5: OPENESS AND HONESTY: Hiding your phone, keeping secret friendship, staying alone with an opposite sex friend whom your spouse must not know about, having secret chat with ladies on facebook, whatsapp, and other social media platform which your spouse must not see, secret business deals, hidden projects etc can destabilize any woman and destroy your marriage.

6. FAMILY COMMITMENT: Every woman wants a man who is committed to the family, the

children and the home. It makes her feel secure, loved and priceless.

You must consciously work on meeting each other's needs. Marriage is not a joke, it is not a child's play, it is hard work, commitment and self sacrifice to ensure your partner's needs are met, and they are happy and fulfilled being married to you.

May the Lord grant us all the grace to do all we need to do to enjoy bliss unlimited in our marriages. Thanks for reading. God bless you, cheers!

HOW TO MEET YOUR SPOUSE'S NEEDS IN MARRIAGE.

Marriage is about meeting needs. We marry because we have needs only a special, opposite sex can meet. But few years down the line, so many couples are grossly disappointed, angry, frustrated and deeply involved in affairs because their needs are not being met in marriage.

You can't meet a need you do not know exists. You can't make your husband/wife happy if you don't know what makes them happy. You can't make them resist emotional/sexual affairs if you are starving them hard in areas they seriously need you to meet their needs.

So what are these needs? How do you meet them to prevent affairs in your marriage, enjoy bliss unlimited in your home and go on to have one of the best marriages in the world?

UNDERSTANDING MEN'S NEED IN MARRIAGE

1. MEN NEED RESPECT IN MARRIAGE: Unconditional respect makes a man feel loved,

valued, confident, take risks and go on to succeed in life. You show this by giving him regard, talking to him with respect, being submissive and obedient to him. Shouting disgracing, insulting, criticizing and making jest of your husband both in private and public show you lack respect for him and this will in turn make it difficult for him to love you.(1 Peter 3:1-3 Amp).

2. ADMIRATION: A man also wants to be admired for his contributions in the home. Admire his work, achievements, career, efforts and looks, this means the world to him .

3. SEXUAL FULFILMENT: Your husband is not asking you for sex because he is an animal, he is asking for sex because he needs it badly, he is wired for it. Making love makes him feel wanted, needed, in love with you, releases tension, gives him pleasure, helps him stable emotionally and physically, gives his best to work, eliminate distractions and help him focus on you only. Refusing him sex and treating him like a pile of shit destroys his self confidence and may have affairs to ascertain his manhood.

4. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS: Men are moved by sight. They see a lot. Women know this and bombard your husband with all manner of

nude pictures, dressing, perfume, packaging and whatever. Be attractive to your spouse. Stay healthy, eat balance diet, eliminate all body odour, bath and brush your teeth at least twice daily. Wear nice attractive, underwear. Learn to shave. Keep to shape. Let your husband be proud to identify with you in public. Don't look like a slob or his great grand mother, please!

5. SUPPORT: Your husband wants you to support him in any way possible to achieve greatness in life. Support his dream, vision, goals, business and career. Cheer him, encourage him, boost his morale. Support financially to pay bills till his finances stabilizes. Do not reject him, mock him and run him down when he makes mistakes or the business has not picked up as expected. It takes time to achieve success. Rome was not built in a day.

6. GIVE HIM PEACE: A man needs peace of mind to keep his sanity. Nagging criticizing, complaining, abusing, cursing, gossiping him to all friends and foes and running him down can literally, practically drive him insane.

All these needs must be met by his wife at.home, if not your husband is at the risk of having an affair with a woman who meets all or most of these needs in his life

SEX NUMBER 1(MASTURBATION)

*SEX (1): MASTURBATION*

*"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. (I Corinthians 6:9-10 NKJV)."*

Don't be misled by scientific theories and studies. The Bible might not have mentioned the word "masturbation" but there are several places in the scriptures where God spoke against sexual perversion. Masturbation is a sexual perversion.

*Let's do a little study on sex*

Sex is spiritual. God always creates the spiritual reality of a thing before He unveils its physical reality. Sex was first created in the spirit realm before it was created physically. *(Genesis 1:1).*

God created sex to be between a husband and his wife.

*"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 NKJV)."*

God designed sex to be between two people (a male and female), *not* between a man and himself or a woman and herself.

Sex is not for children, it is for matured married adults.

God confined sex to marriage. Any sexual activity done outside the boundaries of marriage is a sin and an abomination to God.

*"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. (I Corinthians 6:18 NKJV)."*

Anyone you have sex with, you become one with the person. You receive all the person's weaknesses, strengths, curses and blessings, and the person receives yours too. It was through this mystery of sex that Christ took upon Himself our sins and gave us His righteousness. He took all our weaknesses, nailed them to the cross and gave us His strengths. He took upon Himself all our curses and gave us the blessings of God. He took upon Himself our mortal nature and gave us His immortal nature. He received the ultimate consequence of sin (death) and gave us His life (eternal life). *(1 Peter 2:24; Galatians 3:13-14).*

When you have sex with someone, you don't just engage in a physical activity with the person, there's also transference of spiritual possibilities from the person to you and from you to the person. This is why God commanded us to only engage in sexual intercourse with our spouse, not with an harlot or someone else or something else.

Anytime one has sex with someone that's not his spouse, he or she automatically invites a spirit to fill in the role of the spouse. This is to create balance in accordance to God's standard, as God does not permit vacuum in the realm of spirit. *(Luke 11:24-26).*

*Masturbation is sex with yourself. It is sexually arousing yourself until you reach the peak or climax of sexual pleasure (called orgasm), resulting to ejaculation in males/females and vaginal contractions in females*. This is a form of sexual perversion and it attracts a lot of demonic influences to the perpetrator. This consequence also applies to fornication, lesbianism, homosexuality, bestiality, rape, incest, and sexual immorality. May the Holy Spirit give us understanding of each of these themes in this series, in Jesus Name.

_5 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU HAVE SUITORS

As a lady, when many men begin to seek for your hand in marriage and coming to your father's house to look for flowers to pluck that they didn't plant, you should know that you are in your prime.

When you are in your prime, you're more beautiful, you will experience influx of men seeking to have you, you're body is more developed, attractive and enticing and you look more matured etc. Just like the Bible said that all things are beautiful in its time(Eccl.3:11).

Therefore, it's important you maximize this season of your life because it doesn't last forever. Once you pass your prime, men coming for your hand in marriage will reduce in number. They won't come as they used to hence the need to make good use of your prime.

So, what do you do when you have many men coming for you almost at the same time?

1. Don't Commit Anyone Of Them

Don't tell Mr A that you will marry him and tell Mr B that you will marry him also, the same thing with Mr C. Don't do that. Tell them you will get back to them. Take your time and make the best choice.

Accepting marriage proposals from different men is setting up yourself for disaster. Don't do that. If you're not sure of anyone, tell them you'll get back to them.

2. Get To Know Them

These people that are coming for your hand in marriage, who are they? What do they stand for? What are their values, interests, beliefs, vision and ambition in life? What do they do for a living? Are they children of God? Which of them do you really love and which of them really loves you too? Get to know them individually.

That's why dating is there. It helps you to know the sustainability of a potential life partner. Dating isn't for eating fried rice and chicken, licking ice cream, visiting the beach and the cinema etc., but a time to get to know someone. Until you have accepted a man's proposal, you're free to go out with anyone you dim fit.

3. Don't Be Moved By Sight

We all like better things, no doubt. We all want a comfortable life including this man writing this. Nobody comes to the world to suffer but you know that not all that glitters are gold and money isn't everything.

Don't let the car keys they're dangling in your front to deceive you. He's rich, handsome, connected, tall, thick etc., shouldn't deceive you. Go for good qualities first. Check out the stuff they're made of. That car key maybe not be their own.

4. Don't Accept Gifts.

The Bible said that the gift of a man makes a way for him, so men know how to use gifts to have their way with women. Also gifts have a way of blindfolding one from making a sound decision.

Don't allow the shoes, handbags, clothes, fried rice and chicken, vacations, movie tickets etc., to becloud your season of reasoning. Even if you want to collect gifts, make it clear to the person that the gifts won't influence your decision.

5. Pray About It

The Bible says, ask and you shall be given, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened to you. Also, the Bible says that you shouldn't lean on your own understanding but in all your ways, acknowledge God and He will direct your steps(Matt 7:7; Prov 3:5).

The secret things belongs to God and those things that are revealed belongs to His children. So, go to God in prayers and present the men coming for your hand in marriage and ask Him which one among them is best for you. If you're God's child, He'll direct you.(Deut 29:29)

After your prayers, go ahead and accept whoever you're led to. Don't ever make the choice of a life partner without involving God.

Conclusively, take your time and make the right decision. No competition in marriage. No award for who first marry. No award for best wedding. No award for the internet breaking marriage. No award for having 200 bridesmaids that you don't even know. Take your time.

PRIVATE BEDROOM MATTERS FOR SPOUSES

1. My spouse, you know I love to kiss. So please be brushing your teeth well including your tongue. Bad breath discourages kissing 2. My wife, you know I love licking your clit. So please be having a wash regularly. Wash your vagina so that my tongue enjoys playing around it 3. My husband, you know I love sucking your penis so please keep it clean. Change your underwear daily, shake off the urine after you pee, keep my lollipop clean. Good hygiene=great blowjobs 4. My wife, you know I have eyes for only you. So please help my eyes to enjoy looking at you. Dress sexy for me. In our bedroom, wear lingerie or stay naked with me. Don't hide from me the body I long for 5. My husband, I love cuddling with you. So please don't be repeating your socks, that will make the air stink. Change your socks daily. I hate smelly feet 6. My wife, I know periods are a female thing. So when you are rolling, maintain your hygiene. Change your pads or tampons regularly, take showers, change your underwear. As I cuddle up with you during that time of the month, keep the stench away 7. My husband, I love it when you make love to me with you on top. So please shower, make use of your deodorant and cologne during the day so that when you are pumping inside me I don't smell your sweat 8. My wife, I love holding you close and I know weaves as a hairstyle look good on you. So please be changing your weaves often, make sure you buy quality weaves that are easy to maintain because weaves that stink are a major turn off 9. My husband, I love it when you make me squirt and we make the sheets wet. So since we wet the bed together, I would find it sweet of you if you clean the sheets with me, or put a cover under me when you are about to explode my wetness so that we don't sleep on wet and cold sheets 10. My husband, I love it when you finger me during foreplay. So please keep your finger nails short and clean. Long finger nails can hurt my wet and sensitive honey pot 11. My spouse, my body is all yours, when you're horny I will do you good. So please don't share your body with another, don't bring unfaithfulness or diseases to our bed