Emotionally Cold

Being Emotionally cold, dry or stiff to your partner or spouse to avoid expression of affection in Relationship is not being Spiritual. You're naive, ignorant & immature that need to grow up emotionally since there's no intention for sexual flirting.

As Partners' or Spouses, learn to laugh & read together, share jokes together, meditate in scriptures together, play outdoor games, cry together during emotional tough times, get angry at each other and settle differences together, talk & walk together are part of showing simple loving affection without flirting if Single.

These attitudes heals the mind from depression and helps to clarify many doubts & wrong assumptions in Love Relationship/Marriage. Squeezing faces, hostile, moody, unlively, being over-serious over everything & unnecessary quietness without sense of humor makes every Relationship time spent together to be boring, unexciting & dull leading to break-up or separation.

After all, not only you has life problems to solve that makes you look like zombie that scares happy people away with your hostility, we all have our hidden burdens yet smiling with radiant hope in God.

Stop being Emotionally rigid, hard to please, unnecessarily tough & difficult as being Spiritual yet married or desiring to be engaged, it's mere hypocrisy & self righteousness that yields nothing in Christ.*

PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES:

1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something

2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweerie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone

3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone

4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile

5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner

6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored

7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner

8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken

9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back

10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other

11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception

12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time

13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text

14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease

15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked

16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face

17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse.

Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand

18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying

19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other

20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts

21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online

22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust

23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two

24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner

Phone use can affect your relationship/

marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone

-REASONS PEOPLE HAVE "DAMAGE" INSTEAD OF MARRIAGE

A lot of marriages begin the journey along the downward slope even before they got to the altar. Many people unknowingly signed a contract of marital failure before their wedding as a result of the choice of a life partner and the foundation they laid.

The foundation of any building is always hidden, but the effect of its presence or absence is obvious to all to see. That is the reason a foundation must be laid with care. Those already married with a bad foundation should pray to God to repair their foundations.

Beware of the following:

1. Bad foundation: If your foundation is built on money, wealth, beauty, position, gift, etc. Regret is inevitable. A solid foundation must be based on God's directive and his wisdom.

Solution: Singles should be careful as they choose whom to marry. Marry for the future not for today.

2. Impure Courtship: Immoralities during courtship will always attract repercussions. You can’t transgress the law of God and go scot-free; it doesn’t work that way.

Solution: Renounce your past misdeeds as engaged couples and during your courtship days, as you seek forgiveness from God. Repent and ask for mercy from God. Singles should avoid sexual sins in courtship as much as possible.

3. Lack of Preparation: In a major number of cases, the preparation for the wedding usually supersedes the preparation for marriage. Preparation is the mother of manifestation. If you don’t prepare, you will have many things to repair.

Solution: Singles should prepare meticulously for marriage. Improve yourself. Learn how to function as a wife or husband, mother or father. Learn the act of marriage; get matured. Attend pre-marital training, seminars, read marriage books, listen to teachings, tapes and attend marriage schools. Learn good things, unlearn bad characters and re-learn the old characters you have dropped along the line. Set your mind up for the best.

4. Wrong Mental Attitude: Marital failure is certain when you are not thinking right. Our mental attitude spurs our actions and reactions. It determines how we relate to people, situations or events. Some people believe marriage is equal to bondage. Some sugarcoat it as a “bondage of love”. Some believe women are necessary evils while men are not to be trusted. Yet, some men believe that a woman is to be treated as a footmat, an “immaterial thing”, not as a personality. Some women believe men are monsters. A majority of women believe that in-laws are bad. The list is endless. You can’t have this kind of mentality and not misbehave in marriage.

Solution: Whose report shall you believe? Stick with what God says about marriage. See marriage the way He sees it. “Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and it the labour which you perform under the sun”.

Wish you the Best in marriage.

Your happiness is my Paramount desire..

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BEFORE A WOMAN SAY YES

Before a good woman say yes to you, she want to know.

* Are you family oriented, no sane woman will marry a man who is not family oriented, a woman wants a man who has family insight.

* No sane woman will marry a man who lacks ambition, you must have the ambition over a vision, dream,purpose.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not goal oriented or focus, queen cara will not even try it talking of other women.

* No good woman will want to marry a man who doesn't believe in being a helper,provider ,supporter , every woman want a man who they can depend on.

* No good woman will marry a man that is not spiritual , listen marriage is a union filled with two spirit filled spouse, a good woman want a gate keeper as a husband.

* No good woman will marry a man who is not prepared both spiritually, physically, emotionally ,mentally, she want a man who is steady and prepared in all ramifications.

* She want a protector, not an abuser, she want a man with clarity not a confuse man, she want a guardian.

* She want a father not just a husband, a father loves his daughter irrespective of every circumstances, that is the love she want, a man whom will love her forever.

A man whom will defend her

A man whom will teach her

She want a director

She want a learning mate

She want a teacher

She want a comforter

She want a confident

I pray for every young sweet lady looking for a man to marry may you never marry a man who is not the will of God for you.

Jesus Christ is the key to the type of love you are looking for he loved you first and gave his life for you despite your imperfections, flaws, shortcomings he still loves you.

I walk you into the love and you are looking for , surrender all to Jesus Christ and he is the gate and door step to the love you are craving for.

I pray that you receive the divine love, divine wisdom tht Jesus has for you, i pray that you walk into his love and purpose for you in Jesus name

AVOID THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP.

1. You should avoid a relationship that is based on sex alone.

It has no future.

If all you do is to sleep with each other

instead of

discussing things that will benefit your life, then that relationship is a waste of time and destiny.

2. Avoid any relationship that doesn't add any positive purpose or aim.

3. Run away from any relationship that gives you more sorrows than joy.

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4. Run away from any relationship that makes you cry or gives you more tears and cry than laughter.

5. Do not stay in a relationship where you love someone but the person makes you unhappy many times.

6. When you see signs that a relationship can't work, don't try to make it work.

Just can't work.

There is no need remaining in such relationship.

Flee from it.

7. Most importantly, and above all, avoid any relationship that will keep you far away from God.

*YOUR HAPPINESS IS MOST

By Dr Okechi  Iwunze

FIVE THINGS MEN WANT FROM WOMEN IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

1) PEACE

One of the greatest thing you can give a Man isn't your Body, but Peace of mind.

An atmosphere where he'll find happiness, a place he can relax and think, plan and reach out to conquer his world and fulfill his purpose from, without stress, constant nagging, and problems.

If you can't give him peace, leave him to find someone who can.

2) UNDERSTANDING

He wants you to understand him

To understand his CAPACITY (financially for example) and manage with him, and not make demands way past it.

To understand his NATURE (temperament, likes, dislikes), and know how to blend/flow with him peacefully.

To understand his CALLING, and know how to support him to fulfill it, and not fight it.

An understanding Woman captures the heart and kidney of her Man.

3) ENCOURAGEMENT

He may not say it, but he looks to you for encouragement daily.

Your words mean a lot to him.

"honey, I know you're trying, I love You"

"I see thẹ sacrifice you're making for us and our future, thank you"

"baby, you can do it, you can get it done, things may not be as you want them now, but I'm with you"

Men love and cherish a Woman who encourages them to success.

4) RESPECT

Calm down first, Before you get offended, You yourself, don't you want respect? So what are we not saying.?

No Man wants to marry a second Mother, or an Elder Sister in context of authority.

TREAT him with respect as you'd he do to you.

TALK to him with Respect (publicly and privately)

Honor and Respect him as you do your Pastor.

5) AFFECTION & CARE

A Man wants to be treated like a baby by his Woman, few ever admit it..

Men also want to be pampered, and taken care of.

He wants you to take care of him..

Men are very weak in this area, that's why most Men don't joke with their mothers, the first Woman to take care of them.

Be there for him to make sure he eats, even if you're not the one currently cooking for him, still urge him to eat..

"Musa, Have you eaten?, Oya go and get something to eat"

Check on him.

Tell him you love him.

Speak his love Language.

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If you're married/when you marry, then SEX should be added to the list.. Give it to Him like food..

Let us share the grace.