CLOSE YOUR MOUTH

*CLOSE YOUR MOUTH*

*1* You are getting married and still on planning stage. *Close your mouth*

*2* Do you want to travel out of the country? *Close your mouth*

*3* You are going for interview, competition or exam. *Close your mouth*

*4* Someone came to ask your hand in marriage. *Close your mouth*

*5* You are planning for your children's future. *Close your mouth*

*6* Your friends wants to know your secret as a couple. *Close your mouth*

*7* Your friends wants to know what happens in your home. *Close your mouth*

*8* Did you receive news of promotion at work? *Close your mouth*

*9* You have a dream about a future project. *Close your mouth*

*10* Your neighbors heard you quarrel with your husband or wife and they came calling to help settle the dispute. *Close your mouth*

*11* Your child have exceptional gift or came top in his or her class. *Close your mouth*

*12* Your husband abroad plans taking you all abroad soon. *Close your mouth*

*13* No matter how small or big your salary may be, *close your mouth*

*14* Your husband is building a house, so as to make you and the children comfortable. *Close your mouth*

*15* Your wife has just been moved into theatre for save delivery. *Close your mouth*

*16* You are fortunate to receive N100,000 monthly from your husband, for house-keep, as a wife. *Close your mouth*

*17* Your female unmarried boss is showing you signs of going into a relationship with you (single); rather than spreading it around in your office, pray about it and *close your mouth*

*18* Your husband is very active, when it has to do with the other side. *Close your mouth*, as it is not meant to be discussed out of your home and marriage.

*19* A leaking mouth decided to share his or her personal life with you, or a colleague shared office secret with you; please help their condition by *closing your mouth*

*20* Your boss financially appreciate your effort at work more, when compared to how he does to others; *please keep your mouth, for GOD sake*

*21* She is a witch and the reason things are not going well with you. *Close your mouth and pray to GOD only, for her to change*, as your relatives that you want to report to were not there when you met her and started that lovely relationship.

*22* As a mentor to some people, they come around to share their challenges in life with you. *Close your mouth*, and don't be a means of spreading people's challenges

*23* A young and a new wife, all of a sudden is facing marital challenges and keeps running to you, as one that has 30 years experience in marriage for advice. Please help build that marriage and home, by *closing your mouth* about all she tells you.

*24* You are this type that *always have a testimony* to share in the church every Sunday. Hmmm, my brother and sister, things are not like before ooo. *Close your mouth*, give GOD all the glory and seldomly share testimony for edification of the body of Christ. Not all in the church came to worship GOD.

*25* lf you are not asked to speak over a certain issue and you know that it doesn't affect anyone negatively; my brother and sister, even if you witnessed it happen, *close your mouth* and walk away.

*10 WAYS TO CORRECT WOMAN WITHOUT HURTING HER;*

*Men do hurt their wives or girlfriends in the name of correction.Most times they speak harshly,they approach their woman rashly and they can be very brutal.Many women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the ways their husbands and boyfriends have been talking to them over time.*

*In this article,you will be able to see the right way to talk to your woman without hurting her.*

*1. Lower The Tone Of Your Voice:*

*Don't shout at your woman,she is not a child or your housemaid, correct her with a tone of love in your voice.*

*2. Do It In Love:*

*Correction should be done in love, if it is done in another way, it turns to criticism and condemnation.*

*3. Don't Criticize:*

*Stop criticizing her,rather correct in love.Many people say it is constructive criticism.It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.*

*Correction and criticism are never the same.*

*Husband A says "What manner of food is this? Is this popcorn or fride rice?.How I wish I* *married a more sensible wife with better home training,who can cook better". boyfriend or*

*Husband B says* *"Sweetheart this rice is too salty and dry,unlike the one you did yesterday,I think the salt level should be reduced any other time because of our health". Boyfriend or*

*Husband A criticized,while Husband B corrected his wife in love.Stop criticizing your wife.*

*4. Praise Her For What Is Right:*

*It will be wrong to correct when it is not well done.Form the habit of appreciating your wife for good deeds.*

*5. Don't Correct Her In Public:*

*Avold correcting your wife/girlfriend in public,it does not show you as a gentleman,it will also affect her self esteem.*

*6. Don't Do It Before Your Children*

*7. Avoid Correcting Her In Anger*

*8. Don't Compare Her With Any Other Woman*

*9. Don't Attack Her Dignity*

*10. Avoid Reffering To Old Issues.*

Funny but wise African proverbs:

1. When god cooks, you don't see smoke.

Meaning: God is powerful enough to do the impossible in our lives without you even knowing.

2. The day you need a wife, the market is filled with mad people.

Meaning: things become scarce, the day you need them most.

3. No matter how good you are to a goat, it will still eat your yam

Meaning: some people will always be ungrateful, no matter how helpful you are to them.

4. No matter how far you urinate, the last drop always falls at your feet.

Meaning: there will always be consequences for your actions.

5. A roaring lion kills no game.

Meaning: bragging or talking about your dreams alone can't make you achieve them.

6. Only a fool tests the depth of a river with both feet.

Meaning: don't jump into a situation without first thinking about it

7. You don't teach the path of the forest to an old gorilla

Meaning: our elders have more experience in this life, so we should learn to respect them and listen to their advice.

8. A restless foot may walk into a snake pit

Meaning: a busy body or idle person will always get into trouble.

9. He who swallows a complete coconut has absolute trust in his anus.

Meaning: before making a crucial decision, you must make sure that you have all it takes to bear the consequences.

10. A man who sees a hen scattering excreta should stop it. Who knows who will eat the leg?

Meaning: when you see something going bad around you, try and rectify it; you'll never know who gets harmed by it.

11. If a man swears that he wants to harm you when you're asleep, you can go to bed. If a woman says the same, stay awake.

Meaning: women are not known to make empty threats

12. Don't call the forest that shelters you a jungle

Meaning: don't insult the person or something you benefit from.

13. No matter how the buttocks hurry, it will always remain behind.

Meaning: don't try to outrun your destiny

14. An army of sheep led by a lion can defeat an army of lions led by a sheep

Meaning: a good leader can lead even a group of incompetent persons to success.

15. Who is brave enough to tell the lion its breath smells?

Meaning: the truly brave persons are those who can face difficult but necessary tasks.

Emotionally Cold

Being Emotionally cold, dry or stiff to your partner or spouse to avoid expression of affection in Relationship is not being Spiritual. You're naive, ignorant & immature that need to grow up emotionally since there's no intention for sexual flirting.

As Partners' or Spouses, learn to laugh & read together, share jokes together, meditate in scriptures together, play outdoor games, cry together during emotional tough times, get angry at each other and settle differences together, talk & walk together are part of showing simple loving affection without flirting if Single.

These attitudes heals the mind from depression and helps to clarify many doubts & wrong assumptions in Love Relationship/Marriage. Squeezing faces, hostile, moody, unlively, being over-serious over everything & unnecessary quietness without sense of humor makes every Relationship time spent together to be boring, unexciting & dull leading to break-up or separation.

After all, not only you has life problems to solve that makes you look like zombie that scares happy people away with your hostility, we all have our hidden burdens yet smiling with radiant hope in God.

Stop being Emotionally rigid, hard to please, unnecessarily tough & difficult as being Spiritual yet married or desiring to be engaged, it's mere hypocrisy & self righteousness that yields nothing in Christ.*

PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES:

1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something

2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweerie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone

3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone

4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile

5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner

6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored

7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner

8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken

9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back

10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other

11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception

12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time

13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text

14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease

15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked

16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face

17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse.

Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand

18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying

19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other

20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts

21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online

22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust

23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two

24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner

Phone use can affect your relationship/

marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone

-REASONS PEOPLE HAVE "DAMAGE" INSTEAD OF MARRIAGE

A lot of marriages begin the journey along the downward slope even before they got to the altar. Many people unknowingly signed a contract of marital failure before their wedding as a result of the choice of a life partner and the foundation they laid.

The foundation of any building is always hidden, but the effect of its presence or absence is obvious to all to see. That is the reason a foundation must be laid with care. Those already married with a bad foundation should pray to God to repair their foundations.

Beware of the following:

1. Bad foundation: If your foundation is built on money, wealth, beauty, position, gift, etc. Regret is inevitable. A solid foundation must be based on God's directive and his wisdom.

Solution: Singles should be careful as they choose whom to marry. Marry for the future not for today.

2. Impure Courtship: Immoralities during courtship will always attract repercussions. You can’t transgress the law of God and go scot-free; it doesn’t work that way.

Solution: Renounce your past misdeeds as engaged couples and during your courtship days, as you seek forgiveness from God. Repent and ask for mercy from God. Singles should avoid sexual sins in courtship as much as possible.

3. Lack of Preparation: In a major number of cases, the preparation for the wedding usually supersedes the preparation for marriage. Preparation is the mother of manifestation. If you don’t prepare, you will have many things to repair.

Solution: Singles should prepare meticulously for marriage. Improve yourself. Learn how to function as a wife or husband, mother or father. Learn the act of marriage; get matured. Attend pre-marital training, seminars, read marriage books, listen to teachings, tapes and attend marriage schools. Learn good things, unlearn bad characters and re-learn the old characters you have dropped along the line. Set your mind up for the best.

4. Wrong Mental Attitude: Marital failure is certain when you are not thinking right. Our mental attitude spurs our actions and reactions. It determines how we relate to people, situations or events. Some people believe marriage is equal to bondage. Some sugarcoat it as a “bondage of love”. Some believe women are necessary evils while men are not to be trusted. Yet, some men believe that a woman is to be treated as a footmat, an “immaterial thing”, not as a personality. Some women believe men are monsters. A majority of women believe that in-laws are bad. The list is endless. You can’t have this kind of mentality and not misbehave in marriage.

Solution: Whose report shall you believe? Stick with what God says about marriage. See marriage the way He sees it. “Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and it the labour which you perform under the sun”.

Wish you the Best in marriage.

Your happiness is my Paramount desire..

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