REASONS WHY PEOPLE EXPERIENCE DELAYED MARRIAGE

It's good to marry early, the Bible is full of scriptures referring to "the wife of thy youth", "the children of thy youth".

Marrying early (EARLY here simply meaning marrying in thy Youth age) in Life is advantageous over Marrying Late,

Even at that, it may not be our fault that we end up marrying later than we envisaged, sometimes it's beyond our control, but not in all cases,

sometimes we are the ones who by our own actions prolong our single hood.

So I've complied Ten reasons why this is so.

1) YOU DECIDED NOT TO GET MARRIED.

I decided to start with this one because there are People who have decided not to get Married for personal decisions, and you don't force Marriage on everyone.

So if you've taken this decision, you'd definitely be single at 40 and beyond that as well.

Have Fun

2) VILLAGE PEOPLE

Except you don't believe in the supernatural, my brethren, things are happening.

It's the reason I feel for People who are not Prayerful,

some persons feel that there's no need to pray when it comes to Marriage, after all Jeffrey that was a chronic womanizer back then in school got married early and has 3 kids already, forgetting that we all come from different families and face different backgrounds and battles.

(3) BEING TOO CHOOSY

Some ladies are too choosy and that's their problem, all the Men God has sent their way, they have had issues with each one,

What do they now want?

He must be Tall, Dark and Handsome, romantic, have six packs, drive a Mercedes Benz, be able to spend N500k in one sitting,

Naira loaded and tongue speaking godly yahoo boy.

Where will you see that combination in one Man?

When as a bachelor, you say the lady must have the combined body of Mercy Johnson, Ini Edo and Genevieve, must be smart like chimamanda, must be....

No wonder you are still single at 42.

Any one that God shows them, they don't want

Jane? she talks too much,

What of Ruth? she's too quiet

What of Oziegbe? she's too local

What of Esther, she's too black,

And you are now 39, we hail you Sir,

Grand Bachelor of the Order of the Niger (GBON)

Keep searching for the Perfect Spouse.

(4) YOUR CULTURE

The younger one can not marry before the elder one and elder one is kuku having problems getting a partner

The Man must be ready to buy 500 tuber of yams, 3 sewing machines, 30 bags of rice, one suzuki motorcycle,...................

....... List goes on

It was that list that drove Segun, Paul, John away,

SOME ADVICE TO PARENTS WHO BY ESSENCE ARE THE FIRST TEACHERS.,AS SCHOOL RESUMES SOON

1- YOU DO NOT WAKE UP THE CHILD WITH BRUTALITY. DO THIS BY GENTLY ROBBING THE SOLES OF THE CHILD'S FEET OR CARESSING THE NECK. NOTE THAT TO SLEEP IS TO TAKE A LITTLE TRIP AND RETURNING CAN GIVE A CHILD A MIGRAINE.

2- WHEN THE CHILD IS AWAKE, LET HIM SLEEP A LITTLE, GIVING HIM SOME TIME TO STRETCH. THIS ACTION ALLOWS HIS SENSES TO COME BACK TO LIFE.

3- ASK HIM A FEW QUESTIONS FOR EXAMPLE: DID YOU SLEEP WELL? DID YOU DREAM? ... AND REMIND HIM THAT IT'S TIME TO GO TO SCHOOL.

4- LET HE/SHE GO TO THE SHOWER!

5- BREAKFAST, EVEN IF IT'S BOILED YAMS, NOTE THAT THE CHILD MUST EAT SOMETHING BEFORE LEAVING HOME.

6- AT THE TIME OF SEPARATION, TELL HIM THAT HE/SHE IS THE BEST.

7- WHEN HE/SHE RETURNS IN THE EVENING, THEY SHOULD TAKE A SIESTA AFTER WHICH BEGINS YOUR SERIES OF QUESTIONS: e.g *WHAT DID YOU LEARN TODAY OR WHAT DID THE TEACHER SAY? ...

8- THEY SHOULD BATH FOLLOWED BY A MEAL.

9- STUDY WITH HIM/HER, AND REVISE HIS LESSONS WITH HIM WITH SOME GROUND TO EARTH EXPLORATIONS TO EASE HIS UNDERSTANDING OF THE LESSON LEARNT IN CLASS. ASK HIM QUESTIONS TO SEE IF HE HAS ASSIMILATED THE LESSONS.

*10- AROUND 9:00 PM, SEND THEM TO BED AND PRAY WITH THEM*

PARENTS IF YOU DO THIS ALMOST EVERY DAY, YOUR CHILDREN WILL NOT ONLY BE HEALTHY THROUGHOUT THE YEAR BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS BE AMONG THE BEST.

*Note THAT GOD HAS GIVEN US THE WISDOM TO MAKE OUR CHILDREN GREAT MEN AND GREAT WOMEN FOR TOMORROW, AMEN

*Reasons Why Should Close Your Mouth:*

*1* It won't harm you in the first place, if you close your mouth and keep your plans to yourself.

*2* Sometimes, when you plan and it fails, its because, your enemy is already armed with your plan.

*3* Not all people who smile and have white exterior mind, do have same inside their hearts. *Close your mouth*

*4* There is no need sharing a testimony before it comes to reality. In fact, in someu cases, *keep your testimony to yourself and live longer*

My brother and sister, *KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED AT ALL TIMES*

*Do you know:*

*1* there are destiny destroyers near and far from you?

*2* that some are not just destiny destroyers, but killers?

*3* that there are jealous-minded people around you?

*4* that there are pit-diggers around you. Looking for victims like you to halt fulfilment of their destiny.

CLOSE YOUR MOUTH

*CLOSE YOUR MOUTH*

*1* You are getting married and still on planning stage. *Close your mouth*

*2* Do you want to travel out of the country? *Close your mouth*

*3* You are going for interview, competition or exam. *Close your mouth*

*4* Someone came to ask your hand in marriage. *Close your mouth*

*5* You are planning for your children's future. *Close your mouth*

*6* Your friends wants to know your secret as a couple. *Close your mouth*

*7* Your friends wants to know what happens in your home. *Close your mouth*

*8* Did you receive news of promotion at work? *Close your mouth*

*9* You have a dream about a future project. *Close your mouth*

*10* Your neighbors heard you quarrel with your husband or wife and they came calling to help settle the dispute. *Close your mouth*

*11* Your child have exceptional gift or came top in his or her class. *Close your mouth*

*12* Your husband abroad plans taking you all abroad soon. *Close your mouth*

*13* No matter how small or big your salary may be, *close your mouth*

*14* Your husband is building a house, so as to make you and the children comfortable. *Close your mouth*

*15* Your wife has just been moved into theatre for save delivery. *Close your mouth*

*16* You are fortunate to receive N100,000 monthly from your husband, for house-keep, as a wife. *Close your mouth*

*17* Your female unmarried boss is showing you signs of going into a relationship with you (single); rather than spreading it around in your office, pray about it and *close your mouth*

*18* Your husband is very active, when it has to do with the other side. *Close your mouth*, as it is not meant to be discussed out of your home and marriage.

*19* A leaking mouth decided to share his or her personal life with you, or a colleague shared office secret with you; please help their condition by *closing your mouth*

*20* Your boss financially appreciate your effort at work more, when compared to how he does to others; *please keep your mouth, for GOD sake*

*21* She is a witch and the reason things are not going well with you. *Close your mouth and pray to GOD only, for her to change*, as your relatives that you want to report to were not there when you met her and started that lovely relationship.

*22* As a mentor to some people, they come around to share their challenges in life with you. *Close your mouth*, and don't be a means of spreading people's challenges

*23* A young and a new wife, all of a sudden is facing marital challenges and keeps running to you, as one that has 30 years experience in marriage for advice. Please help build that marriage and home, by *closing your mouth* about all she tells you.

*24* You are this type that *always have a testimony* to share in the church every Sunday. Hmmm, my brother and sister, things are not like before ooo. *Close your mouth*, give GOD all the glory and seldomly share testimony for edification of the body of Christ. Not all in the church came to worship GOD.

*25* lf you are not asked to speak over a certain issue and you know that it doesn't affect anyone negatively; my brother and sister, even if you witnessed it happen, *close your mouth* and walk away.

*10 WAYS TO CORRECT WOMAN WITHOUT HURTING HER;*

*Men do hurt their wives or girlfriends in the name of correction.Most times they speak harshly,they approach their woman rashly and they can be very brutal.Many women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the ways their husbands and boyfriends have been talking to them over time.*

*In this article,you will be able to see the right way to talk to your woman without hurting her.*

*1. Lower The Tone Of Your Voice:*

*Don't shout at your woman,she is not a child or your housemaid, correct her with a tone of love in your voice.*

*2. Do It In Love:*

*Correction should be done in love, if it is done in another way, it turns to criticism and condemnation.*

*3. Don't Criticize:*

*Stop criticizing her,rather correct in love.Many people say it is constructive criticism.It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.*

*Correction and criticism are never the same.*

*Husband A says "What manner of food is this? Is this popcorn or fride rice?.How I wish I* *married a more sensible wife with better home training,who can cook better". boyfriend or*

*Husband B says* *"Sweetheart this rice is too salty and dry,unlike the one you did yesterday,I think the salt level should be reduced any other time because of our health". Boyfriend or*

*Husband A criticized,while Husband B corrected his wife in love.Stop criticizing your wife.*

*4. Praise Her For What Is Right:*

*It will be wrong to correct when it is not well done.Form the habit of appreciating your wife for good deeds.*

*5. Don't Correct Her In Public:*

*Avold correcting your wife/girlfriend in public,it does not show you as a gentleman,it will also affect her self esteem.*

*6. Don't Do It Before Your Children*

*7. Avoid Correcting Her In Anger*

*8. Don't Compare Her With Any Other Woman*

*9. Don't Attack Her Dignity*

*10. Avoid Reffering To Old Issues.*

Funny but wise African proverbs:

1. When god cooks, you don't see smoke.

Meaning: God is powerful enough to do the impossible in our lives without you even knowing.

2. The day you need a wife, the market is filled with mad people.

Meaning: things become scarce, the day you need them most.

3. No matter how good you are to a goat, it will still eat your yam

Meaning: some people will always be ungrateful, no matter how helpful you are to them.

4. No matter how far you urinate, the last drop always falls at your feet.

Meaning: there will always be consequences for your actions.

5. A roaring lion kills no game.

Meaning: bragging or talking about your dreams alone can't make you achieve them.

6. Only a fool tests the depth of a river with both feet.

Meaning: don't jump into a situation without first thinking about it

7. You don't teach the path of the forest to an old gorilla

Meaning: our elders have more experience in this life, so we should learn to respect them and listen to their advice.

8. A restless foot may walk into a snake pit

Meaning: a busy body or idle person will always get into trouble.

9. He who swallows a complete coconut has absolute trust in his anus.

Meaning: before making a crucial decision, you must make sure that you have all it takes to bear the consequences.

10. A man who sees a hen scattering excreta should stop it. Who knows who will eat the leg?

Meaning: when you see something going bad around you, try and rectify it; you'll never know who gets harmed by it.

11. If a man swears that he wants to harm you when you're asleep, you can go to bed. If a woman says the same, stay awake.

Meaning: women are not known to make empty threats

12. Don't call the forest that shelters you a jungle

Meaning: don't insult the person or something you benefit from.

13. No matter how the buttocks hurry, it will always remain behind.

Meaning: don't try to outrun your destiny

14. An army of sheep led by a lion can defeat an army of lions led by a sheep

Meaning: a good leader can lead even a group of incompetent persons to success.

15. Who is brave enough to tell the lion its breath smells?

Meaning: the truly brave persons are those who can face difficult but necessary tasks.