BEFORE YOU MARRY,BE PREPARED

I have observed during my counseling session with the married who have challenges in their marriage that many did not prepare for marriage but only wedding. This also applies to many singles I've counseled.

1.ACQUIRE KNOWLEDGE

Knowledge acquisition is very paramount in preparing for marriage. Some are of the school of thought that experience is the best teacher when it comes to marriage, but I would tell you it's not because you could possibly learn from others mistakes through knowledge acquisition.

A married man came to me sometimes ago for counseling and I asked him how many books he has read in his five years and above marriage, he said he has not read one?

How can you acquire knowledge?

Reading relationship and marriage books. I expect you to have read a minimum of 15 books about relationship and marriage before getting married.

Listening to relationship and marriage messages.

Attending relationships and marriage seminars and conferences.

Learning from the married.

Knowledge acquisition is not enough but the application of it in your relationship and marriage - WISDOM.

2.DEVELOP QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD.

This comes by being genuinely born again (freedom from sin), sanctification of your mind and Holy ghost baptism.

This comes through personal study of the Bible, prayer and constant fellowship with the Brethren.

You should know how to hear God clearly.

You should have grown up to an extent you don't need any prophet or Man of God to say this is your partner.

You should know how to commune with God.

3.DISCOVER AND FULFILL GOD'S PURPOSE.

If you have not discovered your purpose on earth, you are not supposed to be in a relationship because you would abuse yourself or your partner.

Purpose first before relationship.

Ask God to show you the reason he created you.

What are the things you Love doing even if you are not paid?

Your calling could be to be an Evangelist, Apostle, Pastor, Prophet or teacher of God's word.

You can manifest any of the above in preaching, singing or drama ministry.

You need to discover yourself and start fulfilling purpose when you are single.

4.CULTIVATE GOOD CHARACTER.

It's better to stay alone unmarried than to leave with a man or woman of bad character in marriage.

Good character talks about SELF CONTROL.

Can you control your SEXUAL URGE as single?

Are you still maintaining VIRGINITY or PURITY TILL MARRIAGE?

Do you address people with respect or talk anyhow with no regards for men or women?

How often do you get angry? Can you control your anger?

If your mouth still runs like tap water while addressing people, marriage is not for you yet but taming your tongue.

If you easily get provoked and destroy things, marriage is not for you yet but taming your anger.

Bad character not tamed as single will ruin marriage.

5. OUTWARD APPEARANCE.

Are you aware that you will be mostly addressed the way you dress?

Dressing good and smelling nice is very good and it does not mean you are not spiritual.

Oversize skirt is not a measure of spirituality!

Flamboyant and express way trousers is not measure of spirituality!

Colour combination is very important as well.

What about having a nice Hair cut?

Let your Hair Do glorify God as a sister...

Iron your clothes with gator Buroda..

Shine your shoes...

Develop good Spoken English...

Don't be like Bro. Akande in the movie "final contest"

Don't say "I was here to proposal to you"

5. BE DOMESTICATED OR HOMELY .

If you don't love cooking or you can't cook as a sister, marriage is not the next thing but cooking training.

Learn how to serve food properly in the dining as a sister ...

This doesn't exempt the brothers from being a good cook as well.

You are not marrying a maid but a wife as a Brother.

6. LIVE WITH THE MARRIED .

You can learn the good part of your parents marriage if they are still together.

Staying with the good married people will give you a clue of how a model marriage should be.

What about taking care of their kids?

What about helping them with house chores?

Celebrate the married!

Love children and take care of them.

7. BE SINGLE .

Singleness means being able to stand on your own without attaching your life to any brother or sister in a relationship.

You can be single and PURPOSEFUL!

You can be single and not STUPID!

You can be single and not CURSED!

8. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Endeavor to take financial, spiritual, academical responsibilities when you are single.

Stop blaming people for your failure, lack of money and inadequacies.

Lead your life successfully before thinking of leading someone else in marriage.

Prov.4.7 - Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

Prov.4.8 - Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her.

I asked an aspiring couple how they were preparing for marriage and I was told they have have planned all the food, drink and venue for the wedding day

People prepare for school, job, health and other spheres of life but do not prepare for marriage. The saying "Proper Preparation Prevent Poor Performance" also applies to marriage. A marriage you don't prepare for, you cannot enjoy. May you your marriage be beautiful than your wedding in Jesus Name. Amen

Rev Iwunze O

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ADVICE TO MEN ABOUT THEIR PREGNANT WIVES

I am a man,but today I want us to discuss

about PREGNANCY.

Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to state of health of the mother and unborn child?

Listen, it bothers me a lot when I see men showing no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes!!!

It's just 9 months, not like it's forever. Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It's a seed planted by us men and is germinating. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it.

Pregnancy is preparation to welcome

a new member into the family.

Pregnancy is a

journey fun filled, amazing etc.

Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common.

■Once in a while she would nag

■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat okro and bread

■Once in a while she would get so lazy to make you your meals

■Once in a while she would want to stretch her legs on your laps. Please pardon her... carrying the baby ain't easy.

Her needs may be unsatisfiable at times.

The first Tri_mester of the journey can be so annoying. Like I say women differ from each other during pregnancy.

●While most women are busy vomiting.

●Most of them sleep like water leaf, they sleep off anywhere with the slightest chance even in the kitchen.

●While most women have fever.

●Most women be looking cranky and dry like Dustin powder.

●While most women add up weight.

●Most women appear like burnt offerings.

●Some even go round with White handkerchief spitting in it. ALL THESE ARE STILL OUR WORK.....

Please tolerate this, it's beautiful afterwards.

Her attitude becomes annoying, most times you cant stand her. But I get annoyed when I see men like me neglect their pregnant wife. She's not an abomination, neither is she a curse. I must say, it's not an easy journey for all.

The last Tri_mester is when we need to be extra patient, loving, enduring and understanding.

NOTE...

1) Always observe your wife's feet while pregnant, it swells often. Please give her a basin of water to soak her leg once in a while, it's one of the best treat women enjoy during pregnancy.

2) Ask her regularly how she feels and how the baby is. She's the carrier so she feels him/her move.

3) Tell her how beautiful she looks during pregnancy e.g " Honey see as the pregnancy make you fine, I will be impregnating you every month ooo" or even "is it my child that makes you fresh like this pass normal" Even if she has grown bigger in size cause of the pregnancy, celebrate her.

4) Don't be upset if she ever wakes you up by 2am to help massage her feet. We need to feel little of her discomfort and pain. She shouldn't carry it alone, it's our baby,we need to carry it together. (I don't mean physical carriage though).

5) No rule book stopped sex during pregnancy, in short it's the best sef.... do it. It's not like the vagina stopped working during pregnancy. o boy continue the work that brings the pregnancy.

6) Don't be ashamed to take her out. Take her out once in a while to those lovie dovie places you used to go together.

# They_love_it ...

Most times I wonder what crosses the heart of men when they see their pregnant wives. Carrying a child for 9 months isn't easy.

I urge all men to get closer to their spouses during pregnancy because that's one of the times she needs you most.

A big shout out to all men who fully stand

by their wives during pregnancy.

God bless you all. women after delivery ask forgiveness from your husband for been with you at the time of need because is not easy .

THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO AS A PASTOR'S WIFE

MANY SEEKING TO BE A PASTOR'S WIFE

- Being a pastor's wife is not easy, you don't just marry pastor because you want to be addressed as mummy, first lady, or spiritual mother. Marrying a pastor is a calling with brutal responsibilities. All eyes are on you, people want you to fail, some want to take your place, even when you are right they will condemn you. You are always afraid of losing your husband to the church especially NOWADAYS that ladies are fighting to be pastor's favorites. To avoid all these, mummy follow my advice below!

1. DON'T BORROW MONEY FROM YOUR CHURCH MEMBERS

2. DON'T GOSSIP YOUR MEMBERS OR WITH YOUR MEMBERS

3. DON'T DISCUSS YOUR HUSBAND'S SECRETS WITH MEMBERS

4. DON'T BE EXTRAVAGANT IN SPENDING

5. DON'T BE JEALOUS WHEN LADIES COMES AROUND YOUR HUSBAND

6. DON'T BE A DIRTY MOTHER IN THE LORD

7. DON'T COMMAND RESPECT, BECAUSE IT'S EARNED

8. DON'T ATTACK OR RAISE YOUR VOICE AT YOUR HUSBAND PUBLICLY

9. DON'T SPEND CHURCH MONEY WITHOUT ASKING QUESTIONS

10. DON'T QUARREL OR FIGHT WITH CHURCH MEMBERS

11. DON'T HAVE FAVORITES IN YOUR CHURCH, EVEN IF YOU DO, PLEASE DON'T SHOW IT

12. DON'T ALLOW TRIBALISM AROUND YOU, BECAUSE IT WILL KILL YOUR HUSBAND'S MINISTRY

13. DON'T LET LADIES DO YOUR DOMESTIC JOB, EXCEPT YOU ARE TIRED OF MARRIAGE

14. DON'T BE TOO CLOSE TO BROTHERS IN YOUR CHURCH, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN MUMMY.

15. YOUR HUSBAND'S FRIENDS SHOULD NOT BE YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS, BECAUSE THEY MAY USE YOU AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND

16. PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND MORE THAN YOU GOSSIP HIM

17. LOOK FOR SOMETHING TO DO MUMMY, BECAUSE TITHE AND OFFERING IS NOT FOR SHAWARMA AND ICE CREAM

18. DEFEND YOUR HUSBAND NO MATTER THE SCANDAL, MISTAKES AND WEAKNESS BUT REBUKE HIM AT HOME

19. PACKAGE YOUR HUSBAND, OR DO YOU LIKE THE WAY YOUR HUSBAND DRESSES LIKE AREA BOYS? HELP HIM TO LOOK LIKE A SPIRITUAL LEADER AND NOT A YAHOO BOY

20. DEVELOP YOURSELF, A PASTOR'S WIFE MUST LEARN HOW TO LEAD PRAYER, PREACH/TEACH, SEE SMALL VISIONS, LEAD SERVICE, BLESS THE OFFERING AND TITHES, BECAUSE MEMBERS ARE WATCHING YOU MUMMY.

These are few tips for pastor's wives, Please accept it as my contribution to the body of christ and not a criticism, because to be a pastor's wife is not easy.

GOD BLESS ALL PASTOR'S WIVES IN JESUS NAME.

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REASONS WHY PEOPLE EXPERIENCE DELAYED MARRIAGE

It's good to marry early, the Bible is full of scriptures referring to "the wife of thy youth", "the children of thy youth".

Marrying early (EARLY here simply meaning marrying in thy Youth age) in Life is advantageous over Marrying Late,

Even at that, it may not be our fault that we end up marrying later than we envisaged, sometimes it's beyond our control, but not in all cases,

sometimes we are the ones who by our own actions prolong our single hood.

So I've complied Ten reasons why this is so.

1) YOU DECIDED NOT TO GET MARRIED.

I decided to start with this one because there are People who have decided not to get Married for personal decisions, and you don't force Marriage on everyone.

So if you've taken this decision, you'd definitely be single at 40 and beyond that as well.

Have Fun

2) VILLAGE PEOPLE

Except you don't believe in the supernatural, my brethren, things are happening.

It's the reason I feel for People who are not Prayerful,

some persons feel that there's no need to pray when it comes to Marriage, after all Jeffrey that was a chronic womanizer back then in school got married early and has 3 kids already, forgetting that we all come from different families and face different backgrounds and battles.

(3) BEING TOO CHOOSY

Some ladies are too choosy and that's their problem, all the Men God has sent their way, they have had issues with each one,

What do they now want?

He must be Tall, Dark and Handsome, romantic, have six packs, drive a Mercedes Benz, be able to spend N500k in one sitting,

Naira loaded and tongue speaking godly yahoo boy.

Where will you see that combination in one Man?

When as a bachelor, you say the lady must have the combined body of Mercy Johnson, Ini Edo and Genevieve, must be smart like chimamanda, must be....

No wonder you are still single at 42.

Any one that God shows them, they don't want

Jane? she talks too much,

What of Ruth? she's too quiet

What of Oziegbe? she's too local

What of Esther, she's too black,

And you are now 39, we hail you Sir,

Grand Bachelor of the Order of the Niger (GBON)

Keep searching for the Perfect Spouse.

(4) YOUR CULTURE

The younger one can not marry before the elder one and elder one is kuku having problems getting a partner

The Man must be ready to buy 500 tuber of yams, 3 sewing machines, 30 bags of rice, one suzuki motorcycle,...................

....... List goes on

It was that list that drove Segun, Paul, John away,

SOME ADVICE TO PARENTS WHO BY ESSENCE ARE THE FIRST TEACHERS.,AS SCHOOL RESUMES SOON

1- YOU DO NOT WAKE UP THE CHILD WITH BRUTALITY. DO THIS BY GENTLY ROBBING THE SOLES OF THE CHILD'S FEET OR CARESSING THE NECK. NOTE THAT TO SLEEP IS TO TAKE A LITTLE TRIP AND RETURNING CAN GIVE A CHILD A MIGRAINE.

2- WHEN THE CHILD IS AWAKE, LET HIM SLEEP A LITTLE, GIVING HIM SOME TIME TO STRETCH. THIS ACTION ALLOWS HIS SENSES TO COME BACK TO LIFE.

3- ASK HIM A FEW QUESTIONS FOR EXAMPLE: DID YOU SLEEP WELL? DID YOU DREAM? ... AND REMIND HIM THAT IT'S TIME TO GO TO SCHOOL.

4- LET HE/SHE GO TO THE SHOWER!

5- BREAKFAST, EVEN IF IT'S BOILED YAMS, NOTE THAT THE CHILD MUST EAT SOMETHING BEFORE LEAVING HOME.

6- AT THE TIME OF SEPARATION, TELL HIM THAT HE/SHE IS THE BEST.

7- WHEN HE/SHE RETURNS IN THE EVENING, THEY SHOULD TAKE A SIESTA AFTER WHICH BEGINS YOUR SERIES OF QUESTIONS: e.g *WHAT DID YOU LEARN TODAY OR WHAT DID THE TEACHER SAY? ...

8- THEY SHOULD BATH FOLLOWED BY A MEAL.

9- STUDY WITH HIM/HER, AND REVISE HIS LESSONS WITH HIM WITH SOME GROUND TO EARTH EXPLORATIONS TO EASE HIS UNDERSTANDING OF THE LESSON LEARNT IN CLASS. ASK HIM QUESTIONS TO SEE IF HE HAS ASSIMILATED THE LESSONS.

*10- AROUND 9:00 PM, SEND THEM TO BED AND PRAY WITH THEM*

PARENTS IF YOU DO THIS ALMOST EVERY DAY, YOUR CHILDREN WILL NOT ONLY BE HEALTHY THROUGHOUT THE YEAR BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS BE AMONG THE BEST.

*Note THAT GOD HAS GIVEN US THE WISDOM TO MAKE OUR CHILDREN GREAT MEN AND GREAT WOMEN FOR TOMORROW, AMEN

*Reasons Why Should Close Your Mouth:*

*1* It won't harm you in the first place, if you close your mouth and keep your plans to yourself.

*2* Sometimes, when you plan and it fails, its because, your enemy is already armed with your plan.

*3* Not all people who smile and have white exterior mind, do have same inside their hearts. *Close your mouth*

*4* There is no need sharing a testimony before it comes to reality. In fact, in someu cases, *keep your testimony to yourself and live longer*

My brother and sister, *KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED AT ALL TIMES*

*Do you know:*

*1* there are destiny destroyers near and far from you?

*2* that some are not just destiny destroyers, but killers?

*3* that there are jealous-minded people around you?

*4* that there are pit-diggers around you. Looking for victims like you to halt fulfilment of their destiny.